Welcome. I'm Andy. Here's where I started, here's where I'm at now, here's how you can do it too.
First, before you do anything else, you MUST go post a hello in here:
New members - you MUST post in here before anywhere else.
Done that? Cool, on with the rules. #
The Entire Point of This Site:
I set my site up - and these forums - to help dudes who want to help themselves. If you're serious about your goals, if you're serious about making yourself into the most fucking kickass version of yourself you can be, then you'll love it here.
Rules are pretty damn simple, and they all boil down to one tenet:
If you want others to take you seriously, take yourself seriously.
That's it. Just take yourself - and your goals - seriously. #
Take Action (Don't Sit Around Theorising):
On that note, this forum is all about commitment, taking action and actually getting shit done. Nobody expects you to be perfect (I'm certainly not) - but no sitting around wasting time on "theories" and "hypotheticals" and "long discussions that are really just you procrastinating and avoiding doing the hard work."
Sitting around theorising about what the answer to your question "might" be will only get you so far. At some point you have to take the plunge, throw yourself into the deep end and actually try a bunch of stuff and find out for yourself. The answer to almost everything is take action first, and then you can do a bit of post-action discussion, if you need to. #
Post a Photo of Yourself:
It's hard for anyone to give you self-improvement and getting-laid advice if we don't know what you look like. If you're not getting results, your looks/style/bodyfat/etc is probably holding you back - but we can't know that without seeing what you look like. (Plus even more reasons listed here).
You will receive 100 times more help and support if you actually post a photo of yourself as your avatar.
Go even deeper and do what a tonne of guys have done - post some vlogs detailing your progress. Just talk into your camera or phone, upload them on YouTube (upload them as private/unlisted so nobody else sees them) and post the links here. You'll get far more help that way - vlogs get the most responses. #
Focus on the Positive; Not the Negative
No politics. No discussions about feminists and how they all suck (we know they suck). No long rants about why women are evil - they aren't (they're just people). Focus on what YOU can change - not what's happening with the government or external forces. None of it matters. Your mission is all that matters.
If you struggle to stop getting dragged down by negative thoughts, go read You Can’t Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought.
Like I said, our rules aren't complicated. Take yourself seriously, and you'll be rewarded with support from the most dedicated, hard-working and fiercely-loyal people you'll ever meet. The guys here are fucking good guys.