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by ziva
Mon Aug 07, 2023 7:55 pm
Forum: Relationships & Retention
Topic: Relationships shouldn't be like this... Right?
Replies: 12
Views: 10943

Relationships shouldn't be like this... Right?

You immediately checked your girl when she started becoming disrespectful, with real consequences (ending the relationship). My mom and her bf treat each other quite poorly, but they stay together. There is no real motivation to change, because they won't leave each other anyways 10000% Love is com...
by ziva
Thu Aug 03, 2023 8:05 am
Forum: Relationships & Retention
Topic: Relationships shouldn't be like this... Right?
Replies: 12
Views: 10943

Relationships shouldn't be like this... Right?

You answered your own question. No, this isn't normal or healthy. Hard to say what's actually going on between them without knowing more, but definitely sounds like an abusive relationship. As you said, no relationship is perfect, but constant fighting is not normal. In a healthy relationship, ther...
by ziva
Thu Aug 03, 2023 8:01 am
Forum: Relationships & Retention
Topic: Relationships shouldn't be like this... Right?
Replies: 12
Views: 10943

Relationships shouldn't be like this... Right?

Red wrote:
Tue Aug 01, 2023 10:08 pm
ziva wrote:
Tue Aug 01, 2023 7:16 pm
this not how a relationship should be?
Yep this is not ok.

The way the relationship works.
Is the guys responsibility.
So you have all the power in your hands.
To not follow their path.
And do it better.
I agree brother. Even bad examples hold lessons.
by ziva
Thu Aug 03, 2023 8:00 am
Forum: Relationships & Retention
Topic: Relationships shouldn't be like this... Right?
Replies: 12
Views: 10943

Relationships shouldn't be like this... Right?

No, it shouldn't. Any relationship where the girl doesn't admire you is in a downward spiral. She needs to be able to think you're worthy of praise. You need to be able to think you're actually praise worthy. That guy isn't living up to his own standards, so how is she going to respect him? The mos...
by ziva
Thu Aug 03, 2023 7:55 am
Forum: Relationships & Retention
Topic: Relationships shouldn't be like this... Right?
Replies: 12
Views: 10943

Relationships shouldn't be like this... Right?

I think you know the answer to this by now. But I would say - it's most probable your mum won't listen to advice like "break up with him". I found relationship counselling really useful in LTR's previously - worth the suggestion. I feel like when you're with someone long term, there's a lot of valu...
by ziva
Thu Aug 03, 2023 7:48 am
Forum: Relationships & Retention
Topic: Relationships shouldn't be like this... Right?
Replies: 12
Views: 10943

Relationships shouldn't be like this... Right?

My girl is very respectful, reminds me how much she likes me very often, and respects my boundaries very well. At first she wasn't 100% like this. She admired me and would say it often, but from time to time out of anger she'd be disrespectful or passive aggressive. When she did that I'd immediatel...
by ziva
Tue Aug 01, 2023 7:16 pm
Forum: Relationships & Retention
Topic: Relationships shouldn't be like this... Right?
Replies: 12
Views: 10943

Relationships shouldn't be like this... Right?

I would like to hear some different opinions on relationships. I haven't been in one as of yet, but my mother has been in one for nearly 10 years now. Long story short, I don't like her relationship at all. I'm taking dating more serious right now, so who knows, I might be moving to a relationship s...
by ziva
Tue Aug 01, 2023 6:48 pm
Forum: Progress Logs
Topic: Skelly92 Log
Replies: 58
Views: 14033

Skelly92 Log - Lost my virginity to an escort!

I felt a lot more calmer and confident after I had been. I feel I did a great job of calming myself down and stopping any negative thoughts before I met her, as the day before I was getting anxious about meeting up with an escort and letting negative thoughts get to me and was at one point not goin...
by ziva
Thu Jul 20, 2023 6:23 pm
Forum: Cold Approach
Topic: COLDEST APPROACH | Ziva Log
Replies: 17
Views: 3726

COLDEST APPROACH | AA Log

natedawg wrote:
Thu Jul 20, 2023 6:02 pm
ziva wrote:
Thu Jul 20, 2023 5:47 pm
PPS: Is there a way to change the title of my log?
Yessir - Just update the title from your very first post.
Ay thanks b
by ziva
Thu Jul 20, 2023 5:47 pm
Forum: Cold Approach
Topic: COLDEST APPROACH | Ziva Log
Replies: 17
Views: 3726

COLDEST APPROACH | Ziva Log

I've been thinking about continuing to cold approach. As of now online dating isn't really netting me any dates, and I do still have to take and upload DSLR quality photo's. So in the meantime I want to cold approach. I've also read some nice stories about cold approaching on this forum, so it got m...
by ziva
Tue Jul 18, 2023 4:37 am
Forum: General Self-Improvement
Topic: How to stop watching P?
Replies: 47
Views: 9057

How to stop watching P?

Going back to @ziva 's original question, focusing on the positive sex benefits from no-fap has helped me more than any other method. Instead of the usual negative motivation (I shouldn't fap this, it's bad), I've moved to a positive motivation (I want to have the best sex possible with this next g...
by ziva
Tue Jul 18, 2023 4:28 am
Forum: General Self-Improvement
Topic: How to stop watching P?
Replies: 47
Views: 9057

How to stop watching P?

Skelly92 wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 7:48 pm
@ziva Glad to hear that it has been of use to you and you have been able to quit porn.
Well done!
:)
by ziva
Tue Jul 18, 2023 4:27 am
Forum: General Self-Improvement
Topic: How to stop watching P?
Replies: 47
Views: 9057

How to stop watching P?

hush wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 3:43 pm
ziva wrote:
Mon Jul 17, 2023 1:50 pm
I even found a pdf of someone who added important points to the book, which I'm still reading right now.
Can you share?

Congrats on the progress and thanks for your openness :)
No problem, here you go!
by ziva
Mon Jul 17, 2023 1:50 pm
Forum: General Self-Improvement
Topic: How to stop watching P?
Replies: 47
Views: 9057

How to stop watching P?

Haven't posted on here for a while now. I want to start off by giving a huge shoutout to Skelly92 . You mentioned the free online hackbook https://read.easypeasymethod.org/ to me. This pretty short but insightful book goes into detail on what porn is, and how to overcome the addiction. Yes, it's an ...
by ziva
Sun Jul 16, 2023 5:05 pm
Forum: Tinder/Online Dating
Topic: I need some profile feedback and dating help
Replies: 6
Views: 775

I need some profile feedback and dating help

MILFandCookies wrote:
Sun Jul 16, 2023 4:56 pm
ziva wrote:
Sun Jul 16, 2023 4:51 pm


Alright. It will take me a couple of weeks to get some high quality pics, but I'll be back
Once you do, ask us what we think of them! We'll give you guidance.
Will do!