New here, trying to get into shape before putting myself out there for dating and such ! Help is greatly appreciated

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Sat May 15, 2021 4:46 pm

Ditch the idea of eating healthy. Your goal is losing weight, not eating healthy foods. There is a lot of healthy foods that are terrible for weight loss. Eg. nuts.

That said tho.. there are few problems with most unhealthy snacks. They have little volume and a lot of calories, so you may easily reach your daily limit and still be hungry.
And when you eat them you will want more and more, especially as you get leaner.

It's fine eating those once in a while tho. But I suggest going for low calory alternatives. Eg. snacking on popcorn instead of chips or making low calory greek joghurt ice cream at home instead of store bought milk and sugar based ice cream.
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Sun May 16, 2021 1:06 pm

Adam wrote:
Sat May 15, 2021 3:40 am
2 neck circles each direction
8 shoulder rolls each direction
8 big arm circles each direction
8 hip circles each direction
8 toe-touches
That thing kids do when they're bored where you swung your arms from side to side while turning your torso in each direction. 10 of those.
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found all the exercises to do except the last one lol, don't know what that is ( feel free to post a video if you can )

as for toe-touches, someone on youtube was saying it can cause back problems ( herniated discs ) but i chose to ignore that, let me know if that is a legit concern

oh and its raining today, so ihave to do all exercises inside the dorm room, which means i can't do the negative pull ups (bummer !)

going to post a log soon as i'm done with the workout !
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Sun May 16, 2021 7:02 pm

It is NOT advisable to get into the habit of "I will date girls after X part of my life is handled."

This is a very common mistake made in the dating success world, because it builds neural pathways in your brain that builds a habit of delaying action until a certain criteria is met. That criteria tends to shift over time, so if losing weight is your current "X" value, you may pick up making money as the next delay strategy.
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Sun May 16, 2021 8:51 pm

Vice wrote:
Sun May 16, 2021 7:02 pm
It is NOT advisable to get into the habit of "I will date girls after X part of my life is handled."

This is a very common mistake made in the dating success world, because it builds neural pathways in your brain that builds a habit of delaying action until a certain criteria is met. That criteria tends to shift over time, so if losing weight is your current "X" value, you may pick up making money as the next delay strategy.
Bro, i am open to advice

i am open to suggestion

if i can have some of your time, i can give you a concise overview of my current situation ( logistics, economy etc ) preferably in a chat

i actually want a healthy dating life, but everyone here has told me to first work on myself

unless i display some value to the girls i want to get with ( i am aiming for mostly girls from Tinder and Bumble, wouldn't mind women from OKCupid either seeing as how many women use that app in this country )

no one will pretty much swipe right on me

i admit, i haven't read Andy's Tinder guide in full ( just the first introductory page so far )

but i have other problems too ( conservative upbringing & social condition, a proverbial 'virgin' at approaching women etc ) that have to be dealt with once and for all

i hope i don't come across as someone making excuses but i really want to get something right this time, get some results that benefit me in the long run of life

i reckon you have a bit more life experience than me, so i'd love to hear your feedback

and ofc, i look forward to if we can have a brief chat in the forums ( assuming there's a chat option here )

i appreciate your participation in helping me out

thanks much !
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Sun May 16, 2021 9:20 pm

Just post it on here so everyone can chip in advice.

Step one would be to finish reading that Tinder guide. You'll have to read it multiple times; I refer to it frequently myself. It's the cutting edge in online dating for 2021.

But think of ways that you can incorporate building a better social life while you work on your goals. Why not do group exercise or join some kind of active club?
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Just a quick link on how to effectively calculate and adjust your TDEE over time

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Sun Jun 06, 2021 12:33 pm

Adam wrote:
Fri May 14, 2021 4:21 pm
Plank (20-60 seconds)
quick question - i am back to doing planks with the crossed palms fashion and it seems to work better for me

i am holding 60 seconds in 3 reps of 20 seconds - is that the right way to do it ? or should i go for 60 seconds in one whole rep ?

P.S : i might pm you a snapshot of me doing planks so you can judge me posture during the exercise , later on
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Sun Jun 06, 2021 3:42 pm

Yaxir wrote:
Sun Jun 06, 2021 12:33 pm
Adam wrote:
Fri May 14, 2021 4:21 pm
Plank (20-60 seconds)
quick question - i am back to doing planks with the crossed palms fashion and it seems to work better for me

i am holding 60 seconds in 3 reps of 20 seconds - is that the right way to do it ? or should i go for 60 seconds in one whole rep ?

P.S : i might pm you a snapshot of me doing planks so you can judge me posture during the exercise , later on
Try to work up to a 60-second hold in one rep. If you can only do 20 seconds now, try to add 5 more seconds to your hold each workout. If that's too much, just add 1 extra second each workout. You'll get there.
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Mon Jul 12, 2021 9:17 pm

Hey, @Adam and @Master

quick question(s) for you guys - should i buy a Resistance Band for upper body exercises ? Are there any useful Resistance Band Exercises for my upper body ? Especially those that don't involve any type of pressure on the knee

I am thinking of getting one of these :

https://www.decathlon.com.tr/direnc-ban ... 52664.html

https://www.decathlon.com.tr/training-b ... 84819.html

Also , i have another question regarding the Dumbell sets i am ordering - should i order one with or without Barbell

I believe right now i can't do any barbell exercises to protect my left knee from any extra weight, so i am thinking of skipping the barbell purchase

One VITAL fact to keep in mind - i will PROBABLY move countries in ~ 2 years , so transporting heavy things will also be a challenge i have to consider

https://www.hepsiburada.com/serspor-20- ... 00000YF2TV ( this is JUST dumbells , without barbells )

https://www.hepsiburada.com/fitset-25-k ... 000007M2PO ( this is the one with barbell included )

without barbell is the total weight is 20 kg, with barbell is a total set of 25 kg

so , what would you advise ?

While answering, please assume i have close to ZERO understanding of weightlifting and weightlifting exercises
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Mon Jul 12, 2021 9:45 pm

I will make it simple:

losing fat:
- high protein 1.5g per kg bodyweight
- track your bodyweight everyday with a scale, every week you calculate you weekly avg.
- track calories from everything you eat, the first two to four weeks you need weigh everything to get a feeling how much calorie something contains.
- try intermittent fasting eg 16h hours fasting including sleep.

building muscles:
- search for some beginnger calisthenics routine and try to switch to a real gym as soon as possible imo.
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Mon Jul 12, 2021 10:07 pm

Hopeless wrote:
Mon Jul 12, 2021 9:45 pm
I will make it simple:

losing fat:
- high protein 1.5g per kg bodyweight
- track your bodyweight everyday with a scale, every week you calculate you weekly avg.
- track calories from everything you eat, the first two to four weeks you need weigh everything to get a feeling how much calorie something contains.
- try intermittent fasting eg 16h hours fasting including sleep.

building muscles:
- search for some beginnger calisthenics routine and try to switch to a real gym as soon as possible imo.
Hey mate ! thanks for chipping in and helping me out !

Actually most of these things the guys here have already told me and i was following them strictly

i hurt my knee about a month ago ( a bone bruise ) for which the doctor advised rest and no running / exercise that involve actively using the knee or putting pressure on it

as for the gym, well it's closed due to covid restrictions - as soon as it opens, i will literally run to the gym lol

which is why i am asking the questions

P. S : i realize i should have asked the dumbell / barbell this in my the other post -> viewtopic.php?f=40&t=673&start=45 ( check out the last page or the latest 5-6 replies , you'll know what i am talking about )
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Tue Jul 13, 2021 2:01 pm

Yaxir wrote:
Mon Jul 12, 2021 9:17 pm
quick question(s) for you guys - should i buy a Resistance Band for upper body exercises ? Are there any useful Resistance Band Exercises for my upper body ? Especially those that don't involve any type of pressure on the knee
I haven't used resistance bands very much. I've always done body weight or dumbbell/barbell exercises.
Yaxir wrote:
Mon Jul 12, 2021 9:17 pm
Also , i have another question regarding the Dumbell sets i am ordering - should i order one with or without Barbell

I believe right now i can't do any barbell exercises to protect my left knee from any extra weight, so i am thinking of skipping the barbell purchase
I think that the set with dumbbells-only is fine. It looks similar to the set of dumbbells that I have at home.
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Tue Jul 20, 2021 11:51 pm

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@Master , @Lostcause , @Adam and @Ashsrt - you guys wanted to know my Weight and body fat levels

I weighed several times on Honor Scale 2 - wearing just a piece of underwear on my waist and the aforementioned result is what i got

Also my dumbells should arrive this week

I know Adam suggested some exercises - but i am going to need help deciding the actual routine ?

how many reps ? how many circuits or sets i can do ? or rather how many should i do ?

Please keep in mind i cannot exert any pressure on my left knee at all - and the bad news is i am feeling other kind of pain on my knee after i tried casual practicing football ( soccer in US ) and tried to play stationary basketball

at this point i am kind of desperate - because the campus can open any time in the next few months - girls are coming and they're going to find me absolutely unattractive with my belly , skinny arms and brown colored skin ( can't change the last one - but girls might be picky af lol )

shit , this feels awkward to type but i feel needy and desperate af - this is exactly what i wanted to avoid , but it seems like these shitty feelings come up every time a pretty girl comes into sight - i sometimes hate this , because it's a huge distraction ..

maybe with bigger arms i can at least save face or something ..

P.S : Maxime, i have tried walking, currently walking just 2.5 kms to save my knee from pain but .. it kinda sucks to walk and expect pain , this is the last thing i imagined would happen to me - but if i have to rest my knee , please suggest any alternatives. I just don't want any trouble with my knee
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Wed Jul 21, 2021 12:16 am

Looking at your original photos, and with your current weight at 60kg (135lb), I think you can make a huge amount of progress in about 12 weeks. Sucks to hear about your knee, I’ve been there with a torn meniscus, it’s terrible. Stick to upper body weights, and light cardio if you can. Do not aggravate your injury, I’ve been doing mma with a fractured rib for 6 weeks and it hasn’t gotten better.

Coming back to your original photos, I think you can get pretty far in just 12 weeks. You don’t have a lot of muscle on your frame, putting some on will make a huge difference in your appearance. Lucky for you newbie gains are a thing. Aim to lose a half kg a week.

My suggestion, count every single calorie that enters your body. Be in a deficit to lose weight. You said you can walk 2.5km, wrap your knee with an ace bandage and do that 2x a day. Get your weights and lift with intensity. As you get stronger your joints takes less pressure and your knee will heal. When that happens add more low impact cardio in (swimming/biking)

If I’m way darker then you and get lays, you can do it too. So don’t focus on that.

And lastly, find a push/pull/legs workout routine. I wouldn’t worry too much about the exact details, you’re new to the gym. Literally any stimulus will make you grow. For the legs part only workout your right leg, but I’d still do some sort of exercise for your left leg just to keep off muscle wasting.

Good luck man
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Wed Jul 21, 2021 8:02 am

Knee rehab is totally possible, if you have these issues, you will need to get to the core or it will return. Building strong knee over toe ability may be a good idea. I restate this because it doesn't seem like you have put together a rehab program, rather, you are just asking these guys for lifting advice? Not smart. I shared a resource above, consider consulting it if you wish to attain a structure that can be durable and reliably perform with minimal injury risk.

Brown dudes do tend to have a weird time dating, but I have known one in my life who did very well. I know you're not complaining, neither am I (I don't give a fuck what colour a human is). So I had a friend in University who was a total slayer, but I think he was an actual psychopath without feelings, he was ruthless and simply didn't care lol. Fucked endless bitches, he would bring multiple back home for him and my other flatmates. He is now smashing life in corporate law. His confidence levels are insane but although he was a close friend, he was not what I could call a decent human. Some guys are wired differently and it's not what I want to be around. Point being, if you become one of the best men out there, you can overcome any disadvantages. You don't have the luxury of being able to slip on a damn thing, so don't, build the total package and be able to compete with the best.

People have a problem with admitting things like that. I don't. You won't convince anybody either. I wouldn't choose to be anything other than what I am, and I'm guessing you wouldn't either. If I came back to this world, I would choose the life of the warrior again.

Keep working man.

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