Taking a chance at becoming a bartender

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Thu Aug 04, 2022 5:31 am

Hey guys,

I'm writing this to keep myself accountable. I am (soon to be) 27 and I just moved to a new city with the purpose of working on my social/dating life and re-inventing myself (feels cringe just typing that lol).

I've lurked GLL forums in the past and I know Chris talks about getting a bartending job to supercharge your social skills and to meet people. Well, I decided that I am going to do just that! I've been applying to barback positions with the intention of being able to move up to bartender in a year.

There is a part of me that worries maybe I am too old to be doing this. And that maybe I should get a job in my degree, business, where I will make lots more money. But... I told myself I would commit 100% to my ultimate goal of knowing that I can get laid. Bartending brings me closer to achieving that goal.

So, my short-term goal right now is to find a job as a barback. I will update this post every day with the action I took to achieve this.
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Thu Aug 04, 2022 5:49 am

Go for it! When I was 28 I had to move back to my parents place because life.. Lived there for a year while working part-time in a kindergarten, doing bartender work and some other part-time stuff.

If you end up in a place with decent colleagues, working at a bar is a fun and social job, in my experience. At the same time, be prepared to have to deal with people at their worst: black out drunk and miserable at everyone, at worst.
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Thu Aug 04, 2022 6:43 am

very interested in this.

will be good to see
- how you become a barback
- daily life as a barback and how that's affecting your social/dating ability
- transition to becoming a real bartender and continued social benefits
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Fri Aug 05, 2022 3:35 am

Hard2Focus wrote:
Thu Aug 04, 2022 5:49 am
If you end up in a place with decent colleagues, working at a bar is a fun and social job
Yeah that's basically what I'm looking for! Glad to hear someone else went through something similar
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Fri Aug 05, 2022 3:45 am

Daily update: aug 4

Today I made a list of 10 bars in my area that I would want to work at. Basically, anything from sports bars to fancier cocktail places... if it looked like a place i'd go to myself, i wrote it down. I also created a template for my cover letter that i can just copy/paste when applying to jobs online.

So far I've had 4 interviews for barback positions. 2 places never got back to me, the 3rd should be letting me know this weekend, and my 4th interview is tomorrow.

Tomorrow

- I will apply to any new positions on indeed
- Reach out to all 10 bars via their website/email/phone
- join some social media groups to find bar jobs
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Fri Aug 05, 2022 9:37 pm

Well... yuh boy got a job as a barback!

I ended up having two interviews today. It's funny cus they both hired me on the spot. Basically, they asked me when I could start, I told them next week and they said "great, we'll see you then!" So technically I've got two jobs. I'll sleep on it tonight and decide which one I drop tomorrow:

Sports bar: Probably the one I'm gonna keep. The staff seem pretty chill, and they are my age. The bar plays good rock music, they do live shows, and it's basically right next to all the sport stadiums in Toronto! So i'll always know how our teams are doing. Only downside is i might not hit 40 hours a week. I guess that gives me more time to focus on making friends and doing the AA program.

Italian restaurant: It's a well known resto, fancy, and they guarantee 40 hours a week. Sure i like pasta and whatnot but sports and beer is more my style haha. From what i saw, it seemed to be an older crowd too.

Anyways, project "get setup in Toronto" is going well.
My next focus will be on making some friends here.

Edit: I guess i'll keep posting in this topic to show the life of a barback and if it helps my dating/social life, as i know @colgate was interested in that.

So here's my commitment, I will give an update once a week (for now), every Tuesday. And let's see how long it takes for me to graduate to bartender
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Wed Aug 10, 2022 1:33 am

Quick update

I had my orientation day today, actual job starts Thursday. I'm pretty stoked about this place! They literally just want me to wear some band graphic tees w/ jeans. And I get to watch some bands rock out on weekends \m/

Going shopping for these clothes tomorrow cause i admittedly currently dress like a dork
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Wed Aug 10, 2022 3:24 am

This dude has the right idea. Keep us updated bro
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