How to stop watching P?

ziva · Thu Mar 30, 2023 9:19 pm

Hey y'all.

Is there anyone here who stopped watching porn or didn't even really watch it to begin with who has tips?
I'm currently on a small streak of a week+ I think, but I want to cut out porn for ever. I've had 2 streaks, both lasting about 2 months, of being porn free in the last 4 years.
The last 2 month streak was summer 2022, and I felt pretty good during it. P fucks with my subconscious mind in nasty ways which I don't like at all (desensitization/PIED/anxiety).

I've tried blockers (worked on streak 1, but I found ways around it), daily affirmations, seeing girls (probably helped the most with the least amount of urges).
Any tips are welcome.

Thanks!

Brother_Tucker · Thu Mar 30, 2023 10:29 pm

What else are you doing in your life?

If you don't have any hobbies or passions, your mind will start to get that itch. I'm personally a giant card game nerd. Once I had a focus on a hobby I enjoyed, Porn just wasn't something I was excited to boot up. I'm also having sex on the regular and it's not something I have to work for. If you can strike a balance of entertainment and sex, porn becomes something like beer, something you consume maybe once a week or less.

ziva · Thu Mar 30, 2023 11:06 pm

Brother_Tucker wrote: ↑
Thu Mar 30, 2023 10:29 pm
What else are you doing in your life?

If you don't have any hobbies or passions, your mind will start to get that itch. I'm personally a giant card game nerd. Once I had a focus on a hobby I enjoyed, Porn just wasn't something I was excited to boot up. I'm also having sex on the regular and it's not something I have to work for. If you can strike a balance of entertainment and sex, porn becomes something like beer, something you consume maybe once a week or less.

I have a part-time job to fund my expenses and business investments, I go to the gym 4 times a week, I make music ( which I should do more again), and I hang out with friends like once a week (sometimes less). I think the sex aspect, or even dating aspect of my life is what can use a big boost. I've been on only 1 date (2 months ago) since October 2022. I don't even have an actual sex life yet haha. I kissed/fingered a couple of girls last year, but that's it.

Brother_Tucker · Fri Mar 31, 2023 5:14 pm

Sounds like your doing the right things, but what are you doing for just fun?

I had to force myself to find a hobby that wasn't just constantly moving my life forward because I kept feeling guilty anytime I wasn't working in a project. If there's a geeky hobby that you like or a sport that won't take over your focus, this will help a lot with that porn itch. You mentioned making music, do you feel the urge to find porn while you're working on tracks? Try putting some time into it and see if that reduces your urge to look up big booty Latinas.

bonzo34 · Fri Mar 31, 2023 5:25 pm

Man without using kratom it's hard not to watch porn or fap.

One thing that does is help is peeing. Often you don't really need to fap that bad you just have to pee.

Yeah blockers like freedom, self control, cold turkey

jakeD · Sat Apr 01, 2023 5:36 am

I've never beaten it fully before except when I was with someone like a girlfriend or a fuckbuddy for long periods. In that case I've gone like 10+ months with zero porn / masterbation at all, but unlimited sex and orgasms during sex.

It's pretty easy for me now if I'm with someone and have consistent sex but once that goes out the window I still struggle with it.

ziva · Sat Apr 01, 2023 1:27 pm

Brother_Tucker wrote: ↑
Fri Mar 31, 2023 5:14 pm
Sounds like your doing the right things, but what are you doing for just fun?

I had to force myself to find a hobby that wasn't just constantly moving my life forward because I kept feeling guilty anytime I wasn't working in a project. If there's a geeky hobby that you like or a sport that won't take over your focus, this will help a lot with that porn itch. You mentioned making music, do you feel the urge to find porn while you're working on tracks? Try putting some time into it and see if that reduces your urge to look up big booty Latinas.

I do music for fun, but I haven't recorded any song in like 2 weeks. I can actually get urges while making music, but when I continue to make music during the urge I feel like it gives me more energy. I'm gonna record after my visit on the forums today. Music is not something I do daily though. Whenever I don't workout, work, or hang with friends, I just watch YouTube.

ziva · Sat Apr 01, 2023 1:32 pm

jakeD wrote: ↑
Sat Apr 01, 2023 5:36 am
I've never beaten it fully before except when I was with someone like a girlfriend or a fuckbuddy for long periods. In that case I've gone like 10+ months with zero porn / masterbation at all, but unlimited sex and orgasms during sex.

It's pretty easy for me now if I'm with someone and have consistent sex but once that goes out the window I still struggle with it.

I hear thisss. I haven't made it past 2 months yet, but at times when I hit 2 months, I was also seeing someone. But now I see it like this: I either see girls all the time and make it easy to not watch porn. Or I have a difficult time laying off the porn whenever I don't see anyone. I don't want to watch porn, so I probably have to see girls all the time? That's a conclusion I came to. What do you think?

ziva · Sat Apr 01, 2023 1:35 pm

bonzo34 wrote: ↑
Fri Mar 31, 2023 5:25 pm
Man without using kratom it's hard not to watch porn or fap.

One thing that does is help is peeing. Often you don't really need to fap that bad you just have to pee.

Yeah blockers like freedom, self control, cold turkey

I've actually had a bad experience with kratom before. Never doing that again

But most of the time it's the thoughts of porn entering my mind out of nowhere. When they linger there, there's a very high chance I give in at some point of the day.

hush · Sat Apr 01, 2023 4:45 pm

ziva wrote: ↑
Thu Mar 30, 2023 11:06 pm
I've been on only 1 date (2 months ago) since October 2022

Why?

Sparkles · Sun Apr 02, 2023 12:54 am

You need to break the habit, which can take a long time. I tend to watch porn at night, so having a consistent bedtime routine helps me to avoid it.

If you want a watertight method of blocking it on your devices, you can set up your phone, etc as a "managed device", and set your DNS servers to something like CleanBrowsing or OpenDNS which block porn websites. See
https://www.manageengine.com/mobile-device-management/

jakeD · Sun Apr 02, 2023 2:00 am

@ziva

I don't think you should be reliant on sex to avoid porn and masterbation. This is a bad habit on my part actually and has fucked me a bunch of times. Cause if i break up with a girl, i typically go back into my porn addiction. Or if i'm not getting laid or having a dry spell the temptation is also always there.

if I had just stayed disciplined and not fallen back in, my dick would be fucking killing it right now and i could easily hit up a bunch of chicks and go fuck them instead of needing to recover for a bit again.

I was just speaking from my personal exp though. I've never actually beaten porn / masterbation without consistent sex. I think the longest i've made it was around 3 months.

hush · Sun Apr 02, 2023 6:38 am

Sparkles wrote: ↑
Sun Apr 02, 2023 12:54 am
You need to break the habit

Is it really a habit or rather an addiction?

Brother_Tucker · Sun Apr 02, 2023 3:24 pm

If it helps, consider watching porn like having a drink. One every now and again won't hurt you. If your drinking 3 pints a night every day of the week, then you clearly have a problem.

Paid Renegade · Sun Apr 02, 2023 3:38 pm

Have sex 3-4 times a week (with different girls each time)

Watching porn/jerking off will start to feel like a chore