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AGF
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Mon Jun 29, 2020 10:35 am

I am currently trying to build a habit of writing. I try to write every day, so I thought I'd start a new thread on here, whenever I feel like writing about something that can contribute to this forum. Over the last couple years of reading and applying self-improvement, I have realized that I used certain tools and methods that helped me tremendously.

I thought it would be cool to have a collection of different tools the members of KYIL Forum use to come closer to their coals. Here's a list of the most powerful tools I use:

Habit Tracking sheet
This is a simple Excel sheet with 32 columns. The first column includes the habits you would like to establish. The other 31 columns represent the days of the month. The idea is to color each cell in either green or red, depending on whether you have done the habit that day or not. At the end of the month you can see exactly how well you've done. I open the habit tracking sheet every morning and fill it out every evening.
Here's how the sheet might look like:

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How it helps: it reminds you to do your habits and keep track of how well you execute the habits. Also helps with developing discipline.

Morning Routine
A lot of people talk about the importance of a morning routine. That's because it's true. I have been sticking to a morning routine on and off for the last 3 years and I noticed one thing: every time I neglected my morning routine for a few weeks, two things happened:

1) my productivity went to shit
2) my happiness went to shit because I spent too much time doing nothing

If procrastination or lack of discipline is a problem for you, try to develop a morning routine that makes it easy for you to start a productive day. Morning routine in combination with the habit tracking sheet is also the best way to establish new habits. I make use of something called habit stacking, where doing one habit acts as the trigger for the next habit. After I am done with my morning routine, I automatically ticked off 3-4 of the habits I want to do everyday. Here's my morning routine:

- wake up before 8am
- drink 500ml of water, brush teeth, wash face
- stretch or do Yoga for 15min
- get a cup of hot coffee
- read for 30min
- start reading my yearly goals, monthly goals and my to-do list for today (this gets me pumped for work)
- do the first three sets of Pomodoro working on the most important task of the day

By the end of this, it is impossible for me to not have a good day. By 11am, I am already certain that it wasn't a wasted day and that I did things that get me closer to my goals.

How it helps: more productivity, makes it easier to establish habits, more happiness

Finance Tracking
This is a habit I established as student when I was broke as fuck but I am still doing it to this day because it became a habit. The idea is pretty simple: every time you spend money on something, you write it down in an Evernote file. At the end of the day, you look at your Evernote and write down your expenses in an Excel Sheet. Add to your sheet your fixed monthly costs (rent, phone bills, etc.) and then every day the money you spend on food, transportation, shopping, etc. (my financial tracking file basically looks like a calendar). At the end of the month you will have a clear overview of your finances. This sounds like a lot of work but effectively takes less than 5 minutes every day.

How it helps: keep your finances in check, learn how to create a budget, be mindful about what you spend your money on


Time Log
This is a productivity hack I use whenever I want to be ultra-productive for longer periods of time (e.g. when I want to have an ultra-productive week). Keeping a time log is more inconvenient than the other tools I talked about so far, but it's also more powerful. I don't recommend doing this all the time but I do recommend anyone to try it for at least a week. It's the ultimate accountability sheet. You simply create an Excel sheet where each cell represents a 30min time block. Then you fill out each cell with the activity you spent doing during that time and fill it with green or red background color. Green is for a productive activity, red is for unproductive activity. If you want, you can also count the number of productive hours per day or week. In order to know exactly at what time you have done what activity, you need to have your sheet open for the whole day.

Here's how my sheets looks like:

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Important: this is not a calendar to plan activities. it is to track what you have done. You must be brutally honest with yourself, otherwise it doesn't work

How it helps: higher productivity because you'll get a bad conscience every time you have to color a cell red. You'll know how productive you actually are


Anti-Comfort Zone List
The fastest way to grow as a man is to leave your comfort zones from time to time. What I do is this:

1) write out all the things you feel uncomfortable doing. Those are basically your anti-comfort zones, the opposite of your comfort zones. This list can easily have 20-50 items for everyone. It doesn't even have to do anything with your goals,
2) find the underlying fear for each of those things
3) decide that you will leave at least 6 comfort zones per year (I make it a yearly goal to leave at least 6 comfort zones and I read those yearly goals every day)

Here's an example for one of my anti-comfort zones that I am going to enter next week:

1) I feel uncomfortable doing an extensive health check. My comfort zone in this regard is to just ignore that topic as long as I feel healthy.
2) the reason I feel that is that I am afraid of dying or health problems messing with my future
3) I scheduled a health check for next week to leave that comfort zone and face my fear

How it helps: you become less fearful and more comfortable doing new things. It also helps a lot with your confidence if you keep doing things you feel uncomfortable with.

Goal setting
This should be a no-brainer and I believe everyone here is doing that already. I still consider it a tool though, because most people do not set goals.

I set yearly and monthly goals. I don't set quarterly, weekly or daily goals, but I do have a list of daily tasks I want to complete.

The key is to set high goals with a strong "Why", read them every day and visualize how your life will look like after you achieved those goals.

War map calendar
This is a tool I learned from Sam Ovens. It's like any other calendar, but you keep it in Excel (more flexible). But here's the difference: you don't write down any appointments but rather things that you know you need to do in order to grow. And you do that months in advance. If you plan out every important task that you need to do for the next 3 months and then execute on it, you can be 100% certain that you will be successful. Most people just write to-do lists on the fly, maybe a few days in advance. That's a mistake because you then you won't plan your days with the big picture in mind.

I recommend writing no more than 3 tasks for each day. That way you have enough space for tasks and appointments that come up after planning your war map. Also black out all the days you know you can't do anything because you already got other things planned. Here's how it looks like:



You can also watch this video to see how Sam is using the War Map:



And here you can download a template for the War Map.

How it helps: every morning when you open your War map calendar, you'll know exactly the 3 tasks that you must do to grow as a person or grow your business. You know exactly that as long as you keep doing these tasks, you will succeed.

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Feel free to share your tools. I believe @GravyTrain once mentioned a tool or exercise that involves a whiteboard or something. Would be cool if you can post that here again.
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Tue Jun 30, 2020 12:13 am

AGF wrote:
Mon Jun 29, 2020 10:35 am
Feel free to share your tools. I believe @GravyTrain once mentioned a tool or exercise that involves a whiteboard or something. Would be cool if you can post that here again.
We just bought two more massive whiteboards for our new hustle house.

The nightly meetings with whiteboard system has resulted in SERIOUS progress, might be the most beneficial thing I've seen or realized, maybe second only to intermittant fasting.

This is the format:

Go buy a whiteboard and write down everyone's column.

Write down your main big goal. Everything else should somehow align with the big goal, otherwise it's mental masturbation or action faking, and needs to be called out.

We go around in a circle every night and say this:

1: What was your "One Thing" for the day?
2: Was your "One Thing" done? If not, why not?
3: Rate your day out of 10. 1-10. If it wasn't a 10, why not?
4: What's your "One Thing" for tomorrow?

This forces you to make progress because everyone in the house can see your "one thing." If you're not working on it, you need to be called out.

This system forces you to take steps every day to get shit done. I love doing it with roommates on similar missions to my own but if you're alone you can do that too. It's a nightly reminder to stay on track. If you take this seriously, it's damn near impossible to get strayed off the path for more than a few days.

I also write down the 6 Pillars of life, which are *Physical, Mental, Emotional, Spiritual, Financial and Relational"

I then rate myself in each category every week. You could even do every month. Just to get a guage of where you're at and make sure you're progressing.

Here's a pic of my current whiteboard:
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I strongly urge everyone to do this.

It's very simple as you can see but makes a HUGE difference. You can't get lost if shit's staring you in the face every second.

The whiteboard replaces the TV as the centerpiece of the living room.

The other walls have whiteboards for business discussion, female goals, fitness stuff, anything.
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Tue Jun 30, 2020 12:32 am

GravyTrain wrote:
Tue Jun 30, 2020 12:13 am
We go around in a circle every night and say this:

1: What was your "One Thing" for the day?
2: Was your "One Thing" done? If not, why not?
3: Rate your day out of 10. 1-10. If it wasn't a 10, why not?
4: What's your "One Thing" for tomorrow?
Nice, my girlfriend and I do something similar every single night. We text each other just before bed with a list of reasons why today was successful, and what we'll do to make sure tomorrow is awesome too. Keeps us both accountable and kicking ass.
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Tue Jun 30, 2020 12:46 am

Good lord I am so happy people like @AGF and @GravyTrain exist in this forum.

You both inspire me to strive to be better while pussy is off the table for the next few months for me.
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Tue Jun 30, 2020 12:58 am

AGF wrote:
Mon Jun 29, 2020 10:35 am
Finance Tracking
This is a habit I established as student when I was broke as fuck but I am still doing it to this day because it became a habit. The idea is pretty simple: every time you spend money on something, you write it down in an Evernote file. At the end of the day, you look at your Evernote and write down your expenses in an Excel Sheet. Add to your sheet your fixed monthly costs (rent, phone bills, etc.) and then every day the money you spend on food, transportation, shopping, etc. (my financial tracking file basically looks like a calendar). At the end of the month you will have a clear overview of your finances. This sounds like a lot of work but effectively takes less than 5 minutes every day.
I'd like to add to the toolbox, too. You do know there's an app that makes doing this simpler, right?

I use this one personally: https://play.google.com/store/apps/deta ... nsemanager

This app lets you input and track your positive cash flow (income, investments) and your expenses (rent, utility, bills). Every week or month, you can also see a visual representation (graph/ chart) of your income and expenses (this can be broken up to how many % you spent your money on).

If you're worried that you'll lose all your progress changing apps, you can export your data in a .csv file. And import it in the same app in your new device.

Also, you can back it up in Google Drive, so you will never lose your income/ expense data.

I stopped using this for the past year (had the habit ever since high school to track everything), but now I am reinstalling it to finally do it again.
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Tue Jun 30, 2020 6:52 am

SIGMA_1234 wrote:
Tue Jun 30, 2020 12:58 am
AGF wrote:
Mon Jun 29, 2020 10:35 am
Finance Tracking
This is a habit I established as student when I was broke as fuck but I am still doing it to this day because it became a habit. The idea is pretty simple: every time you spend money on something, you write it down in an Evernote file. At the end of the day, you look at your Evernote and write down your expenses in an Excel Sheet. Add to your sheet your fixed monthly costs (rent, phone bills, etc.) and then every day the money you spend on food, transportation, shopping, etc. (my financial tracking file basically looks like a calendar). At the end of the month you will have a clear overview of your finances. This sounds like a lot of work but effectively takes less than 5 minutes every day.
I'd like to add to the toolbox, too. You do know there's an app that makes doing this simpler, right?

I use this one personally: https://play.google.com/store/apps/deta ... nsemanager

This app lets you input and track your positive cash flow (income, investments) and your expenses (rent, utility, bills). Every week or month, you can also see a visual representation (graph/ chart) of your income and expenses (this can be broken up to how many % you spent your money on).

If you're worried that you'll lose all your progress changing apps, you can export your data in a .csv file. And import it in the same app in your new device.

Also, you can back it up in Google Drive, so you will never lose your income/ expense data.

I stopped using this for the past year (had the habit ever since high school to track everything), but now I am reinstalling it to finally do it again.
I am aware of those apps but I like to track everything with Evernote + Excel because it gives me much more flexibility in the way I track and a better overview.

@GravyTrain I was actually referring to that Identity Board (not sure if that's how you called it) where you write down everything you stand for.
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Just published my entire method of setting and achieving goals here:

The Slight Edge – How to Achieve Anything (How I’ve Achieved All My Goals)

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Wed Jul 01, 2020 6:36 am

KillYourInnerLoser wrote:
Tue Jun 30, 2020 12:32 am
Nice, my girlfriend and I do something similar every single night. We text each other just before bed with a list of reasons why today was successful, and what we'll do to make sure tomorrow is awesome too. Keeps us both accountable and kicking ass.
That's sick. I text my dad 5 things I'm thankful for every day as well and he does the same. Keeps positivity up. Make sure there's at least one action item for the next day and you will never get off track for more than a few days. You'll always move forward.

I think having people that hold you accountable is paramount. Be it a roommate, parent, GF, whatever. Someone on a similar wavelength as you. @SIGMA_1234 if you don't have that, start looking. Ask people to be your accountability partner.
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Wed Jul 01, 2020 7:22 am

AGF wrote:
Tue Jun 30, 2020 6:52 am
@GravyTrain I was actually referring to that Identity Board (not sure if that's how you called it) where you write down everything you stand for.
Another tool: Authenticity Board.

I actually got mine stolen during the move, but here's the latest pic I took of it:
IMG_5062_Original.jpg
The reason why I'm so big on self awareness and authenticity is because it makes life easier and better. Doing something that's AUTHENTIC to you is WAY easier and better than doing stuff you hate doing, or that you suck at and don't enjoy.

For me, I used to be an IT guy. Nerdy computer job. That was VERY inauthentic and here's how I could tell: In order to move up in the company, I needed to study for tests and learn alot of programming shit on my own time... I never did that. It wasn't something I wanted to do AT ALL. So I knew that it was inauthentic. The issue was, I didn't understand what authenticity and self awareness were at the time... but what I did know is I needed a major change. So I packed up my shit and quit immediately.

Having a job to me is inauthentic because it doesn't align with my goals (which I found thru becoming self aware).

This took me YEARS to figure out. I didn't quite grasp the concept until last year. How I did it was through tons of time spent thinking. Asking myself questions. Digging DEEP, drilling myself and having others drill me too to truely figure out what I wanted to do with my life.

Now, it's crystal fucking clear as day. There's no question of if I want to do it or not. It's blatantly obvious. I no longer feel lost or aimless.

The reason I'm posting all this is because I truely enjoy helping other people start businesses. It's very authentic to me. I do it for free because I love it. AND it aligns with my goals because I want to mentor young 18 year old guys who dropped out of high school like me and know they want to start a business. So through helping others, I will figure out systems such as this to implement when fulfilling my mission (Hustle Houses).

My main goal in life is to have at least 3 "Hustle Houses" where I take newbies to business and forge them into bosses. It's what I WISH I had when I was younger. It will bring true value to the world.

Also it will allow me to invest in the businesses they start, thus creating a whole VC eco system for myself and other investors.

When I think about it, I get excited. I work on the concept on my own free time, it's something I always think about. So that's when you KNOW something is authentic.

You can see on the board my other authentic passions which include snowboarding, tennis, tattoos, hip hop, drums, telling stories, helping people change their lives, etc.

When someone talks about you, or describes you in a positive way, what do they say? What does your mom say when someone asks her what kind of person you are? Those are likely your authentic things. You need to ask tons of people this question, as well as yourself even more times. Ask what you REALLY want out of life.

Everyone is different so some things on my board might seem like a total waste of time to others. Same with your board. I might look at it and say "damn, I wouldn't do that if someone paid me." It means that thing isn't authentic to me.

Some things that are NOT authentic to me are:

Watching and discussing sports
Watching TV in general
Listening to EDM music
Being angry at people
Having pets
Eating junk food
Having a job

Now, you might LOVE one of those things and that's totally fine. Everyone is different so you godda find your OWN authentic passions. Start today by asking yourself, "who am I and who do I want to be?"
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Wed Jul 01, 2020 8:09 am

KillYourInnerLoser wrote:
Wed Jul 01, 2020 3:05 am
Just published my entire method of setting and achieving goals here:

The Slight Edge – How to Achieve Anything (How I’ve Achieved All My Goals)

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I read the book "The Compound Effect" in one sitting last weekend and he mentioned the Slight Edge as well.

The Compound Effect was pretty good and I was surprised how many things of my "10 lessons" post were in there. The author talks about responsibility mindset, habits, goal-setting, media, mentors, etc. Probably the best general self-improvement book I have read. Only problem is that it is a bit too basic and thus only valuable to absolute newbies.
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  • cut down to 75kg
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