Stop Being a Cunt to Yourself.

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Sun Jun 07, 2020 2:16 pm

Hey you.

Yes, *you*.

This is a friendly reminder to stop being such a fucking cunt to yourself.

If you’re anything like me (if you’re on my site, you probably are), you have extremely high standards for yourself. You have big dreams, lofty goals, high hopes – and you’re furiously working towards them (or, you’re in the process of working up the courage to start working towards them). You’re a man on a mission.

And boy have you dedicated yourself to this mission. You spend hours a day working towards your gym goals, reading self-improvement sites, working on your Tinder/Hinge/etc, improving your fashion, learning to be more honest with girls, making progress on your goals, a little at a time. You’re acutely aware of everything you have to do to get to where you want to be, and by Christ, you’re going to hustle like mad until it’s done.

But every now and then, or maybe every single day, you have missteps. You make mistakes, you get something wrong, you do something silly. Sometimes you have a lazy day/week where you make no progress towards your goal, instead choosing to self-medicate with video games/TV/porn/alcohol. And it crushes you, because you know you have a million things you should be working on… Yet here you are, wasting precious time.

That inevitably leads to you beating yourself up, often with horrible self-talk that borders on the self-abusive. You yell at yourself, telling yourself not to be such a pussy, not to be such a lazy bastard, not to be such a fucking failure. “Other guys aren’t fucking up this badly, it’s only me that’s a loser”.

It’s an easy trap to fall into. A tonne of us are assholes to ourselves because we’re not where we want to be and haven’t achieved the goals we want to achieve. We beat ourselves over the head and berate ourselves for not being good enough, flagellating ourselves for our perceived failures, wondering if we’ll ever manage to get our shit together. We act like totalitarian dictators, refusing to accept anything but 100% perfection… a standard that isn’t even remotely possible.

In short, we’re total cunts to ourselves.

The question to ask yourself is: would you treat your best friend like this?


Why is it not ok to treat others like shit, but somehow it’s ok to treat yourself like shit? Are you somehow so special – more special than anybody else – that you deserve special punishment you wouldn’t dole out to even your worst enemy?

Drop your fucking ego – you are not special. The arrogance you must have to think you deserve special punishment nobody else deserves… You’re not any more important than anyone else, so don’t treat yourself like shit if you wouldn’t treat others like that. Sure, have high standards for yourself (lord knows I do); but don’t be a toxic asshole to yourself when you have moments of imperfection.

Self-improvement is supposed to be something you enjoy; a fun journey you spend the rest of your life going after. It’s not supposed to be an excuse for you to berate yourself or indulge in hateful self-talk. Self-improvement is not a stick you hit yourself over the head with.

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Stop Being a Cunt to Yourself

Andy / Australia
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Sun Jun 07, 2020 10:16 pm

Well timed article.
I had one of those days not long ago.
My main goals right now :
- 12 % bf - Deadline: September 31 - currently @ 17%
- Sleep with 3 new girls - Deadline: December 31 - currently @1

Actions to get there:
- Work on charisma / voice (Toastmasters and exercises)
- Get better Tinder pics
- Approach girls

- Exercise 5 days a week
- Eat 130 g protein a day
- Go grocery shopping and cook my own food
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