Recording girls during AA program / cold approach

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Sat Apr 03, 2021 6:17 pm

So I might even just start doing some minor AA drills for now, but not sure I am ready to commit to full program yet and have some other goals to work on first as well.

I think I might want to record it though and post it, as I do it, for both the benefit of other guys, and also to get much better feedback and possibly improve more quickly.

How would i do this though? Any thoughts? Like the camera setup?

And also is this illegal? I know GLL said something in the past like you need to blur out the faces. I don't see how it is illegal to film people in public though. I probably would just blur the faces out, just to not be an asshole, but. Don't see how it is actually illegal to do it.

Any thoughts?
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Sun Apr 04, 2021 6:05 am

Do NOT take legal advice from anyone on here, or GLL. Pay a lawyer $100 to get a definitive answer.

Definitely blur the faces - that's ME telling you to do that. As in, I don't want people's faces being shown on my forums without permission (same goes with nudes).
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Sun Apr 04, 2021 10:39 am

Why do you need to do this?
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Sun Apr 04, 2021 6:42 pm

KillYourInnerLoser wrote:
Sun Apr 04, 2021 6:05 am
Do NOT take legal advice from anyone on here, or GLL. Pay a lawyer $100 to get a definitive answer.

Definitely blur the faces - that's ME telling you to do that. As in, I don't want people's faces being shown on my forums without permission (same goes with nudes).
Yea that's a good idea. I have already talked to lawyers before, like when I wanted to start my OF company. Still might try to do that, but obviously just consulting online is not going to work I realized. I have to get good again with girls in person.

And definitely man, if you don't want me doing that I won't do it, just let me know. I will follow your rules 100% on here.
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Why do you need to do this?
I don't know just thought it might be interesting. Or help to get easier feedback.

I think on this forum alot can even be hard to describe or share or get a sense of, cause it's just words on a screen. When you can actually see the person or watch them, and then talk to them about it, it seems so much easier.

I am also starting from the bottom and I possibly wanted other guys to see what the process was like for me, if I end up being alot more successful in the future which I plan to be.
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The Beast wrote:
Sun Apr 04, 2021 10:39 am
Why do you need to do this?

Don't know if I'm misreading that as you questioning if this is necessary. It isn't. But getting laid with more than 1 girl isn't necessary either.

You should do it @Dustin.

Do the program all the way. If you select and pick a few of the drills you will not experience the transformative experience of the program.


The AA program will alter your life. It will nudge your life a few degrees in a different direction. It will be something you remember doing and credit for a lot of successes years later. @KillYourInnerLoser and I talked about that on a podcast we recorded a few days ago. (So its not just me hyping it up). Andy has more good things to say about it then I do. And he did it 5 years ago.

I'm going to hardline on this.

Do ALL of the program. Go from day 0 to day 46. Otherwise leave it alone.

If you're not going to do all the drills don't bother with it at all. Honestly.

It sets a bad precedent to dabble. Dabbling is NOT good.

I'd do the whole program and record it. People on this forum will want to see that. My most viewed post during the program was a short audio on one of the days (I just had headphones in my ear and had it recording).

Every place has their own laws just look it up. You can buy small hidden cameras and stuff like that. My brother bought some stuff for undercover investigations. They're pretty cheap I think.

There's probably like a 30% chance that will resonate with you. But I feel pretty convinced about the importance of the program right now. So I feel like I need to come out and say it.

As Andy says, if you're thinking about doing the program. You should do it. Its "mandatory".
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Sun Apr 04, 2021 8:38 pm

Manganiello wrote:
Sun Apr 04, 2021 8:07 pm
The Beast wrote:
Sun Apr 04, 2021 10:39 am
Why do you need to do this?

Don't know if I'm misreading that as you questioning if this is necessary. It isn't. But getting laid with more than 1 girl isn't necessary either.

You should do it @Dustin.

Do the program all the way. If you select and pick a few of the drills you will not experience the transformative experience of the program.


The AA program will alter your life. It will nudge your life a few degrees in a different direction. It will be something you remember doing and credit for a lot of successes years later. @KillYourInnerLoser and I talked about that on a podcast we recorded a few days ago. (So its not just me hyping it up). Andy has more good things to say about it then I do. And he did it 5 years ago.

I'm going to hardline on this.

Do ALL of the program. Go from day 0 to day 46. Otherwise leave it alone.

If you're not going to do all the drills don't bother with it at all. Honestly.

It sets a bad precedent to dabble. Dabbling is NOT good.

I'd do the whole program and record it. People on this forum will want to see that. My most viewed post during the program was a short audio on one of the days (I just had headphones in my ear and had it recording).

Every place has their own laws just look it up. You can buy small hidden cameras and stuff like that. My brother bought some stuff for undercover investigations. They're pretty cheap I think.

There's probably like a 30% chance that will resonate with you. But I feel pretty convinced about the importance of the program right now. So I feel like I need to come out and say it.

As Andy says, if you're thinking about doing the program. You should do it. Its "mandatory".
Thanks for the feedback man.

I will take your words into consideration here.

I wasn't expecting to feel this good so soon or quickly, I'm on my reboot and sometimes it really drops me mentally, and it may still happen but hasn't actually yet.

I can't fuck girls yet but I am realizing that I respond heavily to social momentum and creating it is huge for me.

On the dabbling though, I've also realized that this will be a long term process. Yes I need to push hard, but not too much at the same time.

I actually made this mistake back on GLL forum as jake D. I wasn't always fully comfortable with things or wanted to chart my own path and felt like other posters had different ideas about it, especially the top guys, and this would fuck with me alot and make me want to leave or quit even more honestly, rather than pushing me harder.

I had even much more serious issues back then than now, guys on there definitely did not fully understand it and I don't blame them. I have to work with myself basically, both make progress, but also not just just myself stuck into some rigid pattern to appease other people that doesn't feel right to me. And also be assertive with other people about how I am feeling or thinking. I hope that makes sense.

It is my intention 100% to complete the full AA program from start to finish though. I may dabble some for now though and I think it's actually good for me. I've made a ton of progress doing that already, if you would have seen me 2 - 3 months ago even things were much much worse.

As long as I am improving everyday, I am successful in my mind. For example right now, wheter other posters agree or not, I am making progress everyday on my porn reboot which is huge for me and I consider everyday I do that a success right now, for example.

I don't do well having a too rigid structure or program to follow. I do better more just freestyling day after day as long as the general trend is upwards. Which it is for now.

I hope that makes sense? Just give me whatever your honest thoughts are always, I definitely take it into account, positive or negative.
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Sun Apr 04, 2021 8:43 pm

Once I am fully on the AA program, then I will be very aggressive about doing it day to day. But I am not sure if I am ready to commit to it just yet, but still need to keep my social exposure and momentum going for now. So may just push myself on it for other ways until I feel Im ready to go fully all in on it day to day.

Like I said in the past, this is part of also why I would just not even post. Cause I'd feel like other posters didn't respect me or agree, and it tends to make me want to not post although I am definitely more confident and stronger in myself than I was in the past now. Not posting is also bad cause when you just leave I've realized this tends to cause me to spiral downwards alot more. I need a support structure and connection with other people to be successful. I didn't have that in the past ever and I've finally realized this was a huge part of me not succeding with it.
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Sun Apr 04, 2021 9:22 pm

Yeah. Just chart your own course man.

You have your own goals and your own priorities.

The question should be something like "I personally want X... Whats the best way to get X?"

And listen to people who have gotten X atleast 3+ times.

If that makes sense.

Following other peoples advice blindly is a costly mistake and its probably symptomatic of an even bigger problem which is that you don't trust yourself.

Just remember your a monster when you put your mind do it.



So.keep all of that in mind as I tell you what I think. Because you wanted honest feedback:


I'm not 100% sure why you would want to do the program later. If you're going to do it anyway. Why wait? Later usually means it's not a priority right now. Right? There's other things you're probably prioritizing more than this.

Question is. Will this ever be a priority? Are you ever going to get to that point where you say: "Ok let's do this."

How badly do you want it? Because later has a pretty high probability of never happening. If you're like every other human being there's stuff you said you would do later and never got around to it. And that's happened multiple times.

I get nervous when people say later because 95% of the time later doesn't happen. Other priorities come up and the back burner goal gets taken off the stove and put into oblivion.

You got to check your priorities and double down on what's important. You don't have time to do everything. So if you're going to do one thing. Just do it and do it all the way.

Whether that's rhe AA program or something else.


So I guess all I'm saying is. If you really want to do it. Just do it. And if not. Thata fine too.
It's not for me to tell you what your priorities should be. Just going through the program I think anybody (who is relatively inexperienced) is crazy for not jumping on it right now, today and completing it before summer.

Like really. If you knew how good it is. You wouldn't be debating it. Ask anyone whose done it. And they'll probably all tell you the exact same thing.

So in my mind it's not even a question. You should just do it. Like you're only hesitant because you're either not 100% convinced that it can radically alter your life or you're so advanced you don't even need to complete it to be able to talk to 20+ girls in a day.

But again that's me telling you what your priorities should be. If talking to girls is a priority than I can't see any reason why you wouldn't do it today.
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Sun Apr 04, 2021 9:31 pm

@Manganiello

I am considering it right now.

I could definitely even go right now and just do the first few days even right now I'm pretty sure. I don't know how I will respond to it this time, but definitely last time though I was having issues.

If I'm going to do it I would honestly even appreciate feedback from the guys that have already done it, like you, etc.

My biggest fear is actually just over doing it and getting into literal trouble. Or being really fucking weird.

I don't know how I'd be now but definitely when I start working on my social issues I can tend to get strange at times. Sometimes I will be really doing good but I can experience dramatic swings. I guess that is like my biggest fear with it. Is just being really fucking weird one day and something bad happening.
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Sun Apr 04, 2021 9:37 pm

I also really need to start doing something, cause honestly I am doing some insanely ballsy stuff already right now like with my driving. It is highly illegal though and if I keep it up, I will literally be dead or in prison soon. I was going to make a post about it but it got deleted. The fact that I am not already is a total miracle cause I've done it for years. I have really good luck in life for some reason, most of the time.

The funny thing is even though I can do that, approaching right now scares me much more, even though objectively it's much less dangerous.
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Sun Apr 04, 2021 9:52 pm

Dustin wrote:
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I also really need to start doing something, cause honestly I am doing some insanely ballsy stuff already right now like with my driving.
Haha that sounds a bit like me. I should've died some of the shit I would do on mountain highways...

And some of the stuff I was doing a few weeks ago tbh. Anyway...

But yeah social fear is still a fear.



This might help...

First of all I never got talked to by security or anything like that. Ever. Nevwr ever ever. Despite my fear that I would. I literally thought I would get stopped by security. Banned from places or fined for ignoring physical distancing or creeping people out. And it never once happened. What started to warp my brain is that some people would give.me a handshake when I wouldn't ask for it... so that fear slowly went away.

There were some malls & stores i would go to (and continue to go to) where I'd start to get familiar with security. I'd talk to them time to time. Actually.

For the really major ballsy stuff. I would go to a different town and do the drills there. That way if I did get kicked out. It wouldn't matter because I'd never go back to that mall in that city anyway.

The mask helps you feel more comfortable too. You feel more anonymous with a mask on.

Also @Toast finished the program last week. And he literally works in security.

So that should say something too.

I know you know it's all in your head. But yes I had that fear. And no it wasn't a big deal.
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Sun Apr 04, 2021 9:55 pm

Also that fear of getting in trouble is code for "AA". Not to diminish the very real fear you're feeling. But that's what I gradually learnt. The program scared me half to death when I started. And I think everyone else felt that way too. It was never a feeling of "this will be easy". It was more of a feeling of "this will be worth it". So I ended up doing it despite all the other stuff I was scared about.
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Completed Goals: AA program
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Sun Apr 04, 2021 10:00 pm

@Manganiello

Yea I mean actually the reason I'd want you to guys help me would just be to actually make sure I wasn't being too fucking weird or anything and if I was like how to handle it.

When I did it before I was actually getting confronted and stuff.

Also some other questions, like do you think it's good to go somewhere else where people don't know you? I'd probably do that at first. I wouldn't want to do it in my like immediate area. I live near a major city though and there is plenty of separate areas for me to go to.

And do you ever tell girls if it's weird, like hey I am doing this for some social anxiety or something? Don't get freaked out? Or do you just let them get weirded out if they do and feel that's important part of the process?

In the past I would use that as sort of a crutch cause some girls did get confused or upset and I would just calm them down and be like hey my psychologist told me to do this. Or whatever bullshit.

I also did it with another guy when i did it too so that helped alot. He was really cool although I haven't talked to him in awhile he was on GLL forum. He didn't finish it either that I know of.

That's my biggest fear I think is just being really weird.
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Sun Apr 04, 2021 10:05 pm

No like physical fights but definitely people coming up to me and confronting me or threatening security and stuff.

Like for example one time a girl went and got her huge dad and they both came over and confronted me after I did a drill on her in a lingerie store. They tried to shame me and intimidate me but I didn't back down. But just stuff like that.

And yea I know it's definitely partly AA too.
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Sun Apr 04, 2021 10:08 pm

The one time I almost got charged with sexual harassment was even way back though when I was into RSD stuff, a old pickup company.

One time I got this shirt that said "I enjoy vagina" and went to a mall and literally went up and asked like 30 girls if they wanted to have sex right to their face. And I was super nervous at the time so it was incredibly awkward as fuck. This was like when I was like 21 or something. 3 mall cops finally came up to me and made me sit there for a long time while they went and asked every girl if they wanted to press sexual harassment charges against me over it. Luckily none did and they just banned from the mall for 24 hours and walked me out. Obv never did that again lol.

This time I would obviously try to be alot more socially intelligent about it. That was a long time ago.
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