Cold Approach Log: Journey to Abundance

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SpicyBoi
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Wed May 18, 2022 9:27 pm

@AmericanAndy Keep going with cold approach. Whilst I'm using Tinder as well, I do agree that cold approach feels more human and I also definitely prefer it.

When you cold approach, have you got a plan in mind or are you just spamming whichever girl you see? Are you trying to get physical.. kiss them etc or just talking?
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AmericanAndy
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Thu May 19, 2022 10:46 pm

SpicyBoi wrote:
Wed May 18, 2022 9:27 pm
@AmericanAndy Keep going with cold approach. Whilst I'm using Tinder as well, I do agree that cold approach feels more human and I also definitely prefer it.

When you cold approach, have you got a plan in mind or are you just spamming whichever girl you see? Are you trying to get physical.. kiss them etc or just talking?
I approach any woman I'm attracted to. I use the Good Looking Loser screening guide here.
https://www.goodlookingloser.com/laid/s ... g-dialogue
https://www.goodlookingloser.com/laid/screening


After I find out they are free or available I try to get physical to see if they are interested. If you don't get physical they may think of you as just trying to be a friend.
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AmericanAndy
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Sun May 22, 2022 6:30 pm

Went out to the mall then later to the night club. Around 5 at the mall and maybe 10 at the night club. I didn't really count just a rough memory. Did not feel fun doing these. Just got on my nerves hearing the same responses from different women. I'm not sure how to make it more fun I'll try to find a friend on bumble to go with me next time. Overall just feel exhausted and mad at not seeing any kind of result.

Back to grinding at the gym for the week.
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AmericanAndy
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Sun May 29, 2022 4:58 am

Had a tinder date. We talked for about 20 minutes then tried to kiss and failed.
Then she made some excuse about her drunk friend needing help then she left. I tried approaching a group a girls and asked if they are single also nothing. Just in a shit mood now.
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Sun Jun 05, 2022 6:14 am

Went to the mall and approached around 5 women. Later went to the night club and approached maybe 6 women. Nothing came out of it. Have a tinder date for Sunday. Long term I’m going to plan on selling everything and going to another country. Most American women are low quality compared to what I’ve experienced overseas.
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Wed Jun 08, 2022 2:46 am

Had an amazing time with the tinder date. Had sex all night into the morning. More good times ahead.
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Tue Jun 21, 2022 6:02 pm

I ended up going with her on a trip to California. I thought we were going to start a relationship but I guess not. She suddenly put me in the friend zone even though we hooked up. Something about her ex husband abusing her and her not liking intimacy. She was more interested in me doing photo shoots for her. Originally she enticed me by saying she could hook me up with some women to do porn. Overall I couldn't be around her personality it was too much for me because she would criticize or micromanage everything I did. On the plus side I did make a new friend in California when I was leaving.

Time to look for someone new, no big deal. That one trip really pushed me out of a lot of comfort to try new things.
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AmericanAndy
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Fri Jul 22, 2022 1:02 am

Been focused on working out at the gym lately. Only approached one girl at the gym, already has a boyfriend but at least was nice to talk to about the city. Going out this weekend to try to approach at the night club. Also going to try the bookstore and library. Later on going to plan to go to a rave for way more people. I haven't been to a rave before so no idea what to expect.

Overall just feel exhausted with my life just grinding at work and the gym and not seeing enough results is getting tiring. I want to get a business going as well but after work I feel so damn tired it really pisses me off on a deep soul level I want to get shit done not feel like fucking napping after every time I go to work. I feel like I've been conned into this way of life. 9-5 just blows and I get fed up of seeing so many successful people on youtube that I've stopped watching it. They're probably on speed or drugs or a ton of caffeine to be so damn animated no regular person talks that way.
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Fri Jul 22, 2022 1:19 am

You keep mentioning how the dating scene is so much better in South America. Have you ever considered just moving there? I'm currently learning spanish with the eventual goal of having a remote developer job and moving to Chili or maybe Argentina. Not just for the girls, theres lots of reasons I want to leave the USA.
LGTM
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Fri Jul 22, 2022 1:29 am

MFbag wrote:
Fri Jul 22, 2022 1:19 am
You keep mentioning how the dating scene is so much better in South America. Have you ever considered just moving there? I'm currently learning spanish with the eventual goal of having a remote developer job and moving to Chili or maybe Argentina. Not just for the girls, theres lots of reasons I want to leave the USA.
I'm planning to in around 5 years after I pay off a house. Then I could sell the house and get property somewhere else for much cheaper and have a better living doing online-work.
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Fri Jul 22, 2022 1:38 am

I'll chime in as someone who has seen success this year.

First of all, we have no idea as to where OP is in the US before we write the entire country off. If you are in a small town or small city, you have to be choosier about how you approach. If you are in a big city, you can do more high volume without being noticed or worrying much.

Dating apps are for the most part not what they used to be back in the day. I got 100+ matches on Bumble, Tinder, and Hinge. Back in 2012 and onwards, these apps were legit. As of 2018 and onwards, they started to go downhill and ended up being filled with more robots and OnlyFans accounts. Sure, having a good profile helps and you can certainly still meet women from them (I have), but they are starting to become more of a waste of time for the most part unless you are paying for boosts or constantly starting a new profile.

All that said, here is my advice for daygame cold approach as someone who has gotten laid multiple times from it:

1. Lower your standard of what a "approach" is if you get approach anxiety. Todd V mentions this but if you get it, something as simple as breaking rapport and making small talk to start out is an approach.

2. Keep a log as you approach, use Notes App on your phone and just write it down. When you get back home, evaluate what you could have done better.

3. Find a good template or program, I highly recommend Austen Summers and what he does, his has made the biggest difference for me.

4. Go to high volume areas in whatever city you are in. Typically these are the happening areas with the most shops and malls.
7/20/22

Weight = 183 somewhat regularly

Number of lays in 2022 = 22
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Fri Jul 22, 2022 2:00 am

Pluto wrote:
Fri Jul 22, 2022 1:38 am
I'll chime in as someone who has seen success this year.

First of all, we have no idea as to where OP is in the US before we write the entire country off. If you are in a small town or small city, you have to be choosier about how you approach. If you are in a big city, you can do more high volume without being noticed or worrying much.

Dating apps are for the most part not what they used to be back in the day. I got 100+ matches on Bumble, Tinder, and Hinge. Back in 2012 and onwards, these apps were legit. As of 2018 and onwards, they started to go downhill and ended up being filled with more robots and OnlyFans accounts. Sure, having a good profile helps and you can certainly still meet women from them (I have), but they are starting to become more of a waste of time for the most part unless you are paying for boosts or constantly starting a new profile.

All that said, here is my advice for daygame cold approach as someone who has gotten laid multiple times from it:

1. Lower your standard of what a "approach" is if you get approach anxiety. Todd V mentions this but if you get it, something as simple as breaking rapport and making small talk to start out is an approach.

2. Keep a log as you approach, use Notes App on your phone and just write it down. When you get back home, evaluate what you could have done better.

3. Find a good template or program, I highly recommend Austen Summers and what he does, his has made the biggest difference for me.

4. Go to high volume areas in whatever city you are in. Typically these are the happening areas with the most shops and malls.
I'm about two hours away from Atlanta. The city I'm in only has around 200k people. I'm planning to find more interesting things like festivals and events where there's more people. I'd rather pay off and own some property before just getting up and leaving to another city. I've done that before and money gets blown really fast from rent and other expenses. I used to live in Tucson and that had a good party scene wish I hadn't moved for work.
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Fri Jul 22, 2022 2:05 am

AmericanAndy wrote:
Fri Jul 22, 2022 2:00 am
Pluto wrote:
Fri Jul 22, 2022 1:38 am
I'll chime in as someone who has seen success this year.

First of all, we have no idea as to where OP is in the US before we write the entire country off. If you are in a small town or small city, you have to be choosier about how you approach. If you are in a big city, you can do more high volume without being noticed or worrying much.

Dating apps are for the most part not what they used to be back in the day. I got 100+ matches on Bumble, Tinder, and Hinge. Back in 2012 and onwards, these apps were legit. As of 2018 and onwards, they started to go downhill and ended up being filled with more robots and OnlyFans accounts. Sure, having a good profile helps and you can certainly still meet women from them (I have), but they are starting to become more of a waste of time for the most part unless you are paying for boosts or constantly starting a new profile.

All that said, here is my advice for daygame cold approach as someone who has gotten laid multiple times from it:

1. Lower your standard of what a "approach" is if you get approach anxiety. Todd V mentions this but if you get it, something as simple as breaking rapport and making small talk to start out is an approach.

2. Keep a log as you approach, use Notes App on your phone and just write it down. When you get back home, evaluate what you could have done better.

3. Find a good template or program, I highly recommend Austen Summers and what he does, his has made the biggest difference for me.

4. Go to high volume areas in whatever city you are in. Typically these are the happening areas with the most shops and malls.
I'm about two hours away from Atlanta. The city I'm in only has around 200k people. I'm planning to find more interesting things like festivals and events where there's more people. I'd rather pay off and own some property before just getting up and leaving to another city. I've done that before and money gets blown really fast from rent and other expenses. I used to live in Tucson and that had a good party scene wish I hadn't moved for work.
I am from Atlanta, just DM'd you, am familiar with the state so might be able to give you some pointers. However, do note that the state of Georgia gets all too wonky about religion and it can be easy to stick out when cold approaching if you are not calibrated. Keep doing what you are doing but just practice social calibration. I highly recommend looking into Austen Summers and his videos on Youtube, he helps tone it down a bit.

However when I was last in GA, dating apps were blowing up for me and your pics are good so it seems like dating apps in general have died down. I would focus more on quality in your approaches than quantity though, that way you don't come off as a spammy cold approacher.

Too many nosy nancies and Karens in Georgia, stay brave in there man, it is one miserable fucking state to live in if you are trying to game.
7/20/22

Weight = 183 somewhat regularly

Number of lays in 2022 = 22
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Wed Aug 03, 2022 4:54 am

Had one date but she wouldnt kiss me at the end. Tried using 2 6-hour tinder boosts in atlanta with no luck. One tinder 6-hour boost with tinder at my home city. Losing my fucking mind trying to find someone. Looks like I absolutely need to leave America. Im not going to tolerate swiping for an entire year straight just to get laid once. So fucking fed up with my life.
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AmericanAndy
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Sun Aug 07, 2022 2:03 am

Think Im just overreacting to a lack of results. I did get a date with a latina on Thursday. Have a new haircut and thinking about doing new photos since I look different from last year.
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