If we were rational human beings we wouldn't do animalistic things in the first place, but we aren't.Lostcause wrote: ↑Mon Aug 31, 2020 8:20 amWow, what a piece of bullshit.
Ok, lets assume it's a nature's, not cultural thing. Lets skip the part where we are civilised people, with ways to RECOGNIZE, TREAT and AVOID stds. Lets skip the part where we should have RATIONAL CONTROL over the PRIMITIVE INSTINCTS.MattsCrib wrote: ↑Sun Aug 30, 2020 10:33 pmGuys, you have to understand that this feeling isn't just "societal programming" and disturbing - it's biologically NORMAL to be repulsed by women who are/have been promiscuous. It's a natural "flight or fight" reflex of sorts
Rats - "icky" because the possibility of diseases (mainly the plague)
Spiders - "icky" because of the possibility of being venomous
Blood - because it shows obvious damage, danger
Feeling that women are "dirty" when they've had a lot of sex (even if it's with you) - the possibility of them being impregnated by other men (your genes not going to survive), the possibility of diseases, not to mention your "ego" getting in the way (if she has had a lot of partners, she wont love me the same as i'll be just an object etc.)
Our brains aren't evolved for this "free love" society of hook-ups and casual sex (hell, we haven't evolved for a lot of things in the modern society). Yes, on a rational level, it's completely harmless, but you have to understand where it comes from and act accordingly (whether you want to change your views and get over it is up to you)
Just telling people to "get over it" or trying to rationalize a primitive feeling doesn't help much.
All in all, reframing thoughts might help, like in "You Can't afford the luxury of a negative thought"
How are the girls having sex worse then men having sex then? Its not like its only women who can spread dieseases. We can do it aswell. Why should we hold women to a standard where they are worse for possibly spreading dieseases, when we possibly do the exact same thing - having sex with plenty of diffrent partners. Are we, men somehow lower value because of that? Stop rationalizing your ideas with nature.
We'd only have sex in order to have children and raise a family, we wouldn't cheat, we would like girls with bad personalities, girls wouldn't find literal criminals attractive just because of appearance etc.
Sex = pleasurable BECAUSE nature had to make us somehow breed.
I can post countless studies on how partner count affects women.
People always keep telling that "we are rational human beings, therefore we should act rationally" - I completely agree! Then why is everybody wanting sex with multiple partners because "it make peepee/vagennah feel gut" and not have proper monogamous relationships where it's not based on lust? Because we are NOT humans
It's completely fine if it wouldn't be hypocritical, as in "let's act like humans according to one parameter and animals according to the other"
Also, show me an average guy who has a lot of sex and spreads std-s. It's often the argument of "but men do it too!".
No. No they don't. I know a HANDFUL of guys who have more than 10 partners.
Seeing a girl have many partners is like seeing Jeff Bezos eating burgers while the majority of people are starving.
One more thought: if it's only cultural, why have I felt it being gross for the majority of my life while living with pretty liberal friends?
Why is it worse when women have a lot of sex? It isn't worse and she is in no way evil or bad - it's just gross. Just is. Like a really short guy is unattractive to a girl for example.
(then again, I've had a lot of phobias throughout my life, so it really could just be me)
Edit : not trying to throw shade on anyone - I'm here to become an overall better person, so I'd love if my views were changed. Hell, I want my views to be changed - I don't want to feel like that.