Reconnecting with an old FWB.

[Sin Silver]

About two years ago I started my second long term FWB. She was already a good friend of mine, and is a lynchpin in my friendship group. I had her over one night to play Smash Bros and I just spontaneously felt like lying down beside her and putting my head in her lap(See 'Kino' on most seduction websites), One thing led to another, and we became FWB. Even after I moved town, and had to travel and hour and a half to see her, we still kept it up for 9 months.

Just as Covid started to put the UK on lock down, I got a call saying she was seeing someone, and she wanted us to end it. I was a little disappointed, but I told her it was cool and I respect that.

Two weeks ago I decide to catch up with her to see how she was. Turns out she has broken up with her boyfriend. I didn't ask for details, but he lives 200 miles away, and I doubt they saw each other much, if at all during lock down. I didn't really comment on that other than 'I'm sorry to hear that.'

Any how, lock down in England is lifting, and I've made plans to go see her, and go shopping in the large city she lives in(it's the closest to my small town).

As Andy said, it's 'Me and Her' not 'Me and Her', she is a good friend, and I want to support her. I am not ashamed to admit that I want to have sex with her next weekend, but she said sleeping with someone isn't going to be good for her right now. I don't plan on making any moves unless I feel she is ready.

Any advice on what to do?

[SIGMA_1234]

I got a call saying she was seeing someone, and she wanted us to end it.

Lmao something very similar to this happened to me on a potential FWB for me. And we didn't even meet because of lockdown. Still, so far I have 2 other potential ones so far. Let's hope they maintain their interest in me until lockdown lifts.

[Sin Silver]

Lmao something very similar to this happened to me on a potential FWB for me. And we didn't even meet because of lockdown. Still, so far I have 2 other potential ones so far. Let's hope they maintain their interest in me until lockdown lifts.

Mate, if they've been as dry as the rest of us. They are going to be well into it.

[SIGMA_1234]

As much as I want to be optimistic, I'm still pretty salty. For these past 3 months, I'm still pretty salty that 2 potential leads fell off. But, these are baby numbers. I just can't bring myself to go all in on girls while they are still scared of leaving their houses.

[Sin Silver]

Mate, you only 24, I didn't loose my virginity until I was 23. Patience, persistence, and learning is key. If you keep working hard and improving every day, you could make even Andy's numbers look look like Rookie numbers when your his age.

[SIGMA_1234]

I didn't loose my virginity until I was 23

Lol lost mine at 22. In some ways, I see myself in you, too. School nerds looking to get better with girls and life in general. What I'm not proud of is that I was so hardcore with self-improvement at 22, at 23 I lost the will to do anything because I was so damn lost. Now looking to get back at it stronger than ever.

If you keep working hard and improving every day, you could make even Andy's numbers look look like Rookie numbers when your his age

That's the plan. At least an accountability thread here will no longer give me the excuse for inaction.

[GravyTrain]

As much as I want to be optimistic, I'm still pretty salty. For these past 3 months, I'm still pretty salty that 2 potential leads fell off. But, these are baby numbers. I just can't bring myself to go all in on girls while they are still scared of leaving their houses.

Where is this negative type of thinking getting you?

This is straight detrimental thinking. I would rid yourself of any of these thoughts and keep tabs on how you think every hour, every minute.

If any of these self defeating thoughts enter your head, immediately stop what you're doing/watching/consuming/talking about and go do something else.

After a month of this, you will realize this negativity has held you back SO much. It's like newbie gains at the gym. Once you see progress, you become addicted, and you'll make DAMN sure you don't get consumed by external issues out of your control ever again.

[SIGMA_1234]

It's like newbie gains at the gym. Once you see progress, you become addicted, and you'll make DAMN sure you don't get consumed by external issues out of your control ever again.

Yeesh here I go again with negative thinking. I'll be better; aiming to get to that point in my goals.

[GravyTrain]

Any advice on what to do?

Well it seems like you're attached to this chick at some level. Is it coming from because she's a genuinely cool girl, or is it coming from a place of lack of options / insecurity?

If she's cool, go hang out with her, go shopping, do your thing. Have FUN above all. Don't put sexual pressure on the situation (easier said than done).

If you can honestly say you have options and really like the chick, go for it.

If you CANNOT say that, looking in the mirror to yourself, you need to go hit on 10 more girls each day, be it on apps, daygame, whatever, and go have sex with a few more you find attractive (even more attractive than the first chick). THEN reassess the situation.

[GravyTrain]

Yeesh here I go again with negative thinking. I'll be better; aiming to get to that point in my goals.

Sorry to derail OP's thread but this deserves a post, for ANYONE dealing with this.

You need to become FULLY self aware of what you're putting into your mind. Are you watching TV? Are you on Facebook? IG? What percentage of stuff you put INTO your brain each day is POSITIVE and GOAL ORIENTED, and what percentage is NEGATIVE and holding you back?

The times I realize I'm ingesting too much bullshit are the times I literally throw my TV out the door onto the sidewalk for someone to take away for free. The times I delete all social. The times I BLOCK people's numbers.

You need to take drastic measures to cut this shit away from your life, or it will consume you.

The thoughts you are having aren't 100% your fault. There are BILLIONS of dollars behind these companies literally PROGRAMMING you to think this way.

Ever wondered why "television" is called "scheduled programming?"

When I realized that, it made me VERY angry that I had had the wool pulled over my eyes for so long, and I vowed never to let it happen again.

You should be extremely pissed off that you've allowed yourself to become programmed, and take INSANE action to stop it. Otherwise you are a sheep. You are in the Matrix, not controlling it.

Action sometimes comes from a place of anger. That's 100% okay when dealing with these thoughts. They are NOT your thoughts, they are PROGRAMMING.