My Journal To Beat AA and Achieve other goals

The main purpose of this forum; tell us what goals you're working on.
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D4vidDG
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Name: David
Goal: Get Laid 10 times(2/10)
Age: 22

Mon Oct 25, 2021 1:50 am

- AA Program: I did 3 sets again. I'll move on with day 8.

- Tinder: I'll be taking the photos next weekend. This weekend I'll buy some Tinder boosts and read the 2 parts of the Tinder guide.

- Videogame: We'll start prototyping the idea tomorrow to see if the idea is fun enough..

- Lose Fat Day Streak : 0
-Not picking skin Day Streak : 0
-Sleep Routine Day Streak : 0
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D4vidDG
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Name: David
Goal: Get Laid 10 times(2/10)
Age: 22

Tue Oct 26, 2021 2:44 am

This is an entry for the last two days.

- AA Program: I did 3 more sets on Sunday. I decided to go on with day 8. Today I did one unfinished set and it started raining. I went back and focused on working on my tinder profile.

- Tinder: I'll be taking photos with the help of my cousin on the weekend. Meanwhile, I'll be looking for a borrowed DSLR camera before that day. I've already asked on a Facebook group. I'll also try to get some money out of an online course I made a while ago into my bank account. I'll use it to buy some Tinder boosts

- Videogame: We are going to create a prototype this week to test if the idea is fun enough. I've worked a bit on that today

- Lose Fat Day Streak : 1
-Not picking skin Day Streak : 0
-Sleep Routine Day Streak : 1
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D4vidDG
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Joined: Tue Sep 28, 2021 6:51 pm
Name: David
Goal: Get Laid 10 times(2/10)
Age: 22

Wed Oct 27, 2021 2:54 am

This is an entry for the last two days.

- AA Program:
I did two unfinished sets. I'm struggling with doing the last rep with the 4 questions. Anyway, I'll repeat tomorrow.

- Tinder: Not that much.

- Videogame: Didn't work on it.

- Lose Fat Day Streak : 2
-Not picking skin Day Streak : 0
-Sleep Routine Day Streak : 3
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CainGettingLaid
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Joined: Sun May 02, 2021 8:32 am
Name: Cain
Goal: sexual mastery
Age: 27
Location: Europe

Wed Oct 27, 2021 8:42 pm

Hey David, welcome to the forums, just stumbled across your post. I'm glad to have you along with us on our self improvement journey. Big congratulations on losing your virginity!

I can somewhat relate to your whole situation because I just recently finished the AA program up to day 46 and because I also have sleep and skin issues. What kind of skin issue do you have?
D4vidDG wrote:
Sat Oct 16, 2021 2:12 am
Here comes my first question: Should I keep trying to get numbers? Or should I focus only on completing the drills?
ABSOLUTELY NOT. You mention later that you stopped doing so because it is distracting. That is true but there is plenty more reasons. I encourage you to stick to every rule in the AA program.
D4vidDG wrote:
Sat Oct 16, 2021 2:12 am
Also, something that has me thinking is that: I didn't feel any pleasure. Idk why man. I mean she was hot indeed. I thought that I'd cum in the first 30 seconds. But I didn't. Even though I lasted longer because of this, I didn't enjoy it. It felt like it was nothing. I hope you guys can give me some direction on this. I masturbated twice this week, on Tuesday and Wednesday, Maybe that's the reason. Are my expectations too high?. I'm not a porn addict btw, but from time to time I'll masturbate for one or two days.
Don't worry about it that much. It feeling surreal/overwhelming is not super surprising because you applied many moves that you previously only read about so you were mentally somewhat detached from the experience. I do not think its related to masturbation. I consider masturbating without porn as natural and healthy as long as its not excessive.

D4vidDG wrote:
Sat Oct 16, 2021 2:12 am
Some mistakes I noticed:
- Regular post-sex conversation. I suddenly became shy. Maybe I was worried about my performance. I tried to ask her what she liked the most. She didn't want to answer, she said "everything". However, she showed me some phone pictures later, I noticed some confidence there.
It is natural to some degree to be vulnerable about ones performance on your first time. No need to be the big man always, not sure whether I would consider this a mistake. You especially shouldn't play the big strong man towards yourself, accept your vulnerabilities, don't ignore them.
D4vidDG wrote:
Tue Oct 19, 2021 12:57 am
I'll highly appreciate if you could give me some tips on how to be a good fuckbuddy.
Not sure if this is what you want to know, but this article details how you can keep a girl your fuckbuddy succesfully
https://www.goodlookingloser.com/entry/ ... ck-buddies
D4vidDG wrote:
Wed Oct 20, 2021 1:30 am
Do I have to "get in there" in every rep or just the first rep?
Just the first one. It is crucial to prevent the AA to build up in the beginning and get you stuck. Of course you are encouraged to get in with every girl, but if you don't with every single one that is not a failure. After all, you have AA and are chipping at it so it's just natural that fear will get the better of you every once in a while.

Also because you struggle with sleep, I recommend these two articles:
https://web.archive.org/web/20140209170 ... -schedule/
https://web.archive.org/web/20140209171 ... -and-lose/

One last thing to think about: It seems you have a lot of goals, you might want to prioritize them and push some of them back for later. Otherwise you will be faced with failing at some of the goals constantly which is discouraging. Set goals that are attainable.
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D4vidDG
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Name: David
Goal: Get Laid 10 times(2/10)
Age: 22

Thu Oct 28, 2021 1:03 am

Hey Cain. It really means a lot that you took the time to read my entire log and respond to my questions. Thanks, man. I'll take all your tips into account.

CainGettingLaid wrote:
Wed Oct 27, 2021 8:42 pm
What kind of skin issue do you have?
My skin constantly itches and it's super dry. I have some skin wounds because I used to scratch until my skin bled. Now I scratch less but the problem is still there. I try to take bird showers every day and moisturize shortly after. However, that hasn't solved the problem. I've been dealing with this for three months.
CainGettingLaid wrote:
Wed Oct 27, 2021 8:42 pm
One last thing to think about: It seems you have a lot of goals, you might want to prioritize them and push some of them back for later. Otherwise, you will be faced with failing at some of the goals constantly which is discouraging. Set goals that are attainable.

Yeah man, maybe you are right. But as I see it, I think I need to work in every one of them.

Losing fat and having a better sleep routine it's something that doesn't take too much effort or time, it's just following a plan every day.

My most important goal is to beat AA. So, of course, I won't quit the AA program.

Both Andy and Chris encourage you to be active in online dating, so that's why I have a Tinder goal. Maybe I should not put too much effort into improving my looks or taking better photos. Maybe I should focus on completing the AA program first. Would love to know your opinion on that.

My skin goal is something I feel I can't put off because it'll just become worse with time.

And about my videogame, I believe it's my passion and I really want to pursue a career in this field. Every day counts for me in this matter. I will graduate soon from university, so I feel I need to hurry up and decide what I'm going to do (I'm studying mechatronics)

Anyway, sorry if I bore you with my drama hahaha
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D4vidDG
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Name: David
Goal: Get Laid 10 times(2/10)
Age: 22

Thu Oct 28, 2021 1:08 am

- AA Program: I did one unfinished set. I'm still struggling with doing the last rep with the 4 questions. I don't know why but it's frustrating. Makes me feel I'm not making any progress and I'm going back.
The problem is that I do nothing to increase my momentum again when I'm stuck in a rep, I just walk around feeling bad about myself. Tomorrow, if I see I'm not doing anything, I'll just start again to increase that momentum and make the last rep a lot easier.

- Tinder: Not that much.

- Videogame: I work on it 2 hours.

- Lose Fat Day Streak: 3
-Not picking skin Day Streak : 0
-Sleep Routine Day Streak : 4
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CainGettingLaid
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Name: Cain
Goal: sexual mastery
Age: 27
Location: Europe

Thu Oct 28, 2021 11:36 am

D4vidDG wrote:
Thu Oct 28, 2021 1:03 am
CainGettingLaid wrote:
Wed Oct 27, 2021 8:42 pm
What kind of skin issue do you have?
My skin constantly itches and it's super dry. I have some skin wounds because I used to scratch until my skin bled. Now I scratch less but the problem is still there. I try to take bird showers every day and moisturize shortly after. However, that hasn't solved the problem. I've been dealing with this for three months.
Not sure what you mean by "bird shower", probably a typo :D

You should go see a dermatologist about this if you haven't already. I recently visited one and most of my acute symptoms were gone within two days of applying the prescription lotion. I should have done it way sooner, struggled with an outbreak for like 10 months.

My condition is very similar. Dry skin, constant itching so severe that one itches til it bleeds. It was diagnosed as neurodermatitis as a child, I still have scars from back then. It was not acute during my teens but resurfaced during my university time due to stress. ​Have you had more stress than usual in the past months?

As for dryness, frequent washing is not the best thing to do. Showering on a daily basis might feel good but is actually counterproductive. It irritates your skin, especially if you shower with hot water. If you do sports every second day and it is not summer so you are not sweating much I would encourage you to usually shower after sport and skip the days in between. Of course you can shower before certain important occasions additionally, like going on a date.

Showering with soap or shampoo is especially bad for dry skin because that takes the protective oil layer of your skin away. Some advice I read frequently is the following: Only use soap for your armpits, your feet and your ass (the smelly places). The rest of the body does not need soap. Most soaps and shampoos consist of aggressive chemicals that overall do more harm than good to your body. I have abandoned soap/shampoo altogether half a year ago and it works. I was inspired by this article:
https://web.archive.org/web/20150512051 ... p-shampoo/

Of course you should still use soap when washing your hands, that is crucial for general hygiene.

Other topic: How are you tracking your daily weight loss goal? By whether you stick to your eating plan? I hope so! Just mentioning this to make sure you aren't measuring your weight on a daily basis. That would be absolutely useless because weight fluctuates based on so many more factors than fat loss (eating, shitting, water storage...). I recommend not weighing more often than once a month. Also, you mention somewhere that you weigh 61.5 kg. I have no clue how tall you are but there is not very much weight you can probably lose. From your profile pic your facial features also look good so you probably aren't overweight. Best idea is to hit us with some belly pics and ask for feedback.

I won't talk you out of your goals :D. They all seem to make very good sense. Just don't be too hard on yourself. Finishing the AA program by the end of the year is possible but very ambitious.
D4vidDG wrote:
Thu Oct 28, 2021 1:03 am
Both Andy and Chris encourage you to be active in online dating, so that's why I have a Tinder goal. Maybe I should not put too much effort into improving my looks or taking better photos. Maybe I should focus on completing the AA program first. Would love to know your opinion on that.
I think it is important to have some outside female source of confirmation while doing the AA program. Like some sort of "success" or dating interaction. If you can get a few dates of of Tinder, that is perfect. I gotta admit I wasn't actively using Tinder while doing the AA program. I started reusing it on day 3 but did not improve my pics enough for it to give me any usable results. I was lucky because I had other "outside female confirmation" from a former fuckbuddy and also from a girl I met randomly in the midst of the program. I went into the program with good confidence.

Seeing that you got a lay from Tinder I think you should keep using Tinder. After the first few days the matches plummet though, so the success might not be easily repeatable. So improving pics might be necessary to get more dates.

I encourage improving your looks/style during the AA program either way. It gives you extra confidence and the better you look the more fun the interactions will be on average.
D4vidDG wrote:
Thu Oct 28, 2021 1:08 am
I'm still struggling with doing the last rep with the 4 questions. I don't know why but it's frustrating. Makes me feel I'm not making any progress and I'm going back.
The problem is that I do nothing to increase my momentum again when I'm stuck in a rep, I just walk around feeling bad about myself. Tomorrow, if I see I'm not doing anything, I'll just start again to increase that momentum and make the last rep a lot easier.
If you can't do the fourth rep, you can keep doing rep number 3 a few times to build the momentum, then move on to rep 4. Another thing you can try for the first time you achieve the number for rep: You can try to trick yourself by telling yourself that you are going in for a number 3 rep and then once you are inside the interaction you just hit them with the fourth question anyways.

If you mention in your log which day you are on in the AA program, then giving feedback is much simpler for me and others. For example I had to go back in your log and search to see which day your are on and figure out its day 8.

Bonus tip: You can change the title of your log by editing the title of the very first post. That way you can highlight certain topics that might be of interest to readers/feedbackers. For example the title could read "Davids AA journal and other goals: AA program day 8" or "Davids AA journal and other goals: Pic feedback, should I cut or bulk?". That way, more people will pitch in than if you have the same title all the time.
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D4vidDG
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Name: David
Goal: Get Laid 10 times(2/10)
Age: 22

Mon Nov 01, 2021 12:34 am

Hey Cain, thanks for reading me again.
CainGettingLaid wrote:
Thu Oct 28, 2021 11:36 am
Not sure what you mean by "bird shower", probably a typo
I meant a really quick shower, like 1 minute, and the water is a bit warm. I do this just to wet my skin before moisturizing. When the shower is longer, I always use cold water.
CainGettingLaid wrote:
Thu Oct 28, 2021 11:36 am
Have you had more stress than usual in the past months?
Yeah, kind of. But life isn't stressful. I tend to put too much pressure on myself sometimes.
CainGettingLaid wrote:
Thu Oct 28, 2021 11:36 am
Only use soap for your armpits, your feet and your ass (the smelly places).
Great advice, I'll give it a try.
CainGettingLaid wrote:
Thu Oct 28, 2021 11:36 am
Other topic: How are you tracking your daily weight loss goal? By whether you stick to your eating plan? I hope so!
Actually, I haven't weighed myself since I started losing fat. I'm taking a photo every week on Monday mornings.

CainGettingLaid wrote:
Thu Oct 28, 2021 11:36 am
Also, you mention somewhere that you weigh 61.5 kg. I have no clue how tall you are but there is not very much weight you can probably lose. From your profile pic your facial features also look good so you probably aren't overweight. Best idea is to hit us with some belly pics and ask for feedback.
I made a post in these forums looking for feedback: https://killyourinnerloser.com/forums/ ... 736#p22736 Some say I should be bulking instead of losing fat. I took a photo recently. I'm 170 cm.
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