Thanks, man. Great new pic in the leather jacket!
THIS WEEK'S REFLECTION
Apps: Huge shoutout to @Olafsmash for pointing me to Playing with Fire. Andy's BDSM lines work really well for Hinge because you can just message the girls without matching, so it creates a sense of intrigue when you say you're "looking for something specific. But for me, it was just not getting much results on Tinder. So after going through Playing with Fire's content, I updated my bio based on his format, which is much more sexual, and started opening with "Hey trouble, you're sexy." Girls usually reply with something about them being trouble or I look like trouble, and then I would say I'm looking for something specific. It's been working decently. Still testing. Bio below:
I also started using Playing with Fire's line "If you're to shy or nervous, I understand" if we were messaging back and forth and then they stop responding for a long time. It was successful this week when I got to asking for a number, got no reply back for a day, and messaged that the next day. She said she doesn't normally meet people from the apps, but then sent her number over.
Dates: No new dates this week. I had one setup, however she got alcohol poisoning and texted me a few days later apologizing. I told her to text me after she got better. Another girl I was supposed to meet today, but she just moved here to ATX and had to reschedule for later in the week. But this one is super responsive and she suggested a new time/day after saying she had to cancel so I feel good that she won't flake.
Cold Approach: Another big shout out to @Ed_ and @bonzo34. Last Sunday I met up with them at one of the farmer's markets here in ATX. I mentioned to Ed that I wanted to just get to actual approaches because I was not allocating enough time to be moving through the AA program as quickly as I would like, and felt the anxiety wasn't enough to keep me from doing actual approaches. So he helped me a lot by just pointing out a woman to approach and I would just approach her without thinking about it at all like a pavlovian dog. By outsourcing to him which girls to approach, I didn't start down the thought patterns of seeing a girl I want to approach, then getting nervous, then making up some excuse. After doing about 3 or 4, I started noticing a girl I wanted to approach and did it on my own before Ed pointing her out to me. Total that day I made 7 approaches. It was also more fun because I got to chat with those guys in between approaches.
Later in the week I went out by myself to do actual approaches. It took me a little while to get up the nerves to approach, so I ended up only doing one. I'm trying to get myself to the point that I'm not thinking about it and just approaching like I was when I had someone pointing girls out to me. I know once I get some momentum from the first few, I'll start doing it without so much hesitation. So for now I'm going to keep trying actual approaches rather than continuing with the AA program.
ASK FOR HELP
Couple questions this week:
1. My app profiles are sexual and I'm a somewhat "dangerous" looking guy. My current FWB said she was a little scared to meet the first time. I've had others I look dangerous in a flirty/sexual manner. This works to my advantage because the sense of danger is a turn on for women. But it can also cause some hesitation for some girls for actually meeting, especially if they are 18/19. Any advice on lines for building some comfort for meeting? When I ask for the number after running the BDSM lines I usually say "It's a good mix of trust and pleasure. So let's grab a coffee and see if we vibe. What's your number?" which has helped out a bit.
2. I know it is a crutch that I won't need as I get more approaches under my belt, but anything you guys did when starting out to warm up for the first one or two approaches before you got momentum?
Also thank you to the guys who have answered my questions in the past. Really appreciate the help.