Drama's progress log - Becoming masculine

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Squilliam
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Fri Aug 19, 2022 3:24 am

Drama wrote:
Thu Aug 18, 2022 11:49 pm
If you're looking for an LTR, don't look at the external factors that you have in common, ie. gym, music taste, opinions, etc. Look for the fundamental qualities, like honesty/integrity, virtues, ACTUAL character, like if she's feminine, giving, open, good values...
I mostly agree but I actually think whether they have certain opinions does matter for an LTR.

Core values that would matter for an LTR are ultimately just opinions.

Of course, if the opinions are regarding more superficial matters, then they're not relevant.
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- Learn game and stop being a social autist
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Drama
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Sat Aug 20, 2022 5:36 am

Squilliam wrote:
Fri Aug 19, 2022 3:24 am
Drama wrote:
Thu Aug 18, 2022 11:49 pm
If you're looking for an LTR, don't look at the external factors that you have in common, ie. gym, music taste, opinions, etc. Look for the fundamental qualities, like honesty/integrity, virtues, ACTUAL character, like if she's feminine, giving, open, good values...
I mostly agree but I actually think whether they have certain opinions does matter for an LTR.

Core values that would matter for an LTR are ultimately just opinions.

Of course, if the opinions are regarding more superficial matters, then they're not relevant.
Are opinions and values the same thing?

To me, opinions are subjective statements that need not be true, ie. You think metal is the best kind of music. OR Your political beliefs.

Values are things like honesty, kindness, openness, community.

I'd go with values over opinions for an LTR. If you're in an LTR and you're doing everything together going for hikes, going to gigs, whatever... You'd probably grow sick of them. I value my autonomy. Strong values are also good signs of a stable woman.
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90kg BW @ 10% BF - 87/90 @ 12%/10%
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Sat Aug 20, 2022 6:47 am

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Drama
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Mon Aug 22, 2022 4:43 am

Finally got my ass around to approaching again after the hot girl trap.

Did 6 today.
1 - bf
2 - bf
3 - number close, cute, young girl who had never been approached before
4 - about to walk into work lol
5 - bf. She seemed like she didn't and just didn't want to say no. I can rephrase my questioning next time instead of "are you single?" just say "let's grab a drink"
6 - no response/foreign

Feels good to get back on it and get over this previous girl.

Have a few irons in the fire right now too, one girl coming round tonight, another potentially tomorrow and wednesday.
Goals 2022:

90kg BW @ 10% BF - 87/90 @ 12%/10%
Fuck a 9
Earn 500K- 66/500
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Tue Aug 23, 2022 5:18 am

Got laid last night with a girl from Feeld. I'd seen her before so was straight over to my house. Feels good man.

Went out today aiming to do 5 approaches. Did 1 and got her number. Then I got diarrhoea, so I went home :)
Goals 2022:

90kg BW @ 10% BF - 87/90 @ 12%/10%
Fuck a 9
Earn 500K- 66/500
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Thu Aug 25, 2022 11:03 pm

Went out yesterday to do at least 5 approaches but only got 3 done and it took me over an hour. Weird. I wasn't in a bad mood, was well rested, everything was fine. I guess sometimes you just have off days.

I also need to learn how to approach groups of girls confidently. I often see the hottest girls in a group, but won't approach because of the group. Any advice appreciated if some more experienced guys have overcome this.

Finally, got laid last night with the second of a pair of girls I matched with on Feeld. They're kinky as fuck and totally down for a threesome. Seeing the first of the two again on Sunday, but I convinced the other one last night to join in. Hopefully they both pull through.

She also gave me some massive ego boosts last night, affirming that I'm on the right path in terms of attraction. Feels good man.
Goals 2022:

90kg BW @ 10% BF - 87/90 @ 12%/10%
Fuck a 9
Earn 500K- 66/500
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Tue Aug 30, 2022 2:29 am

Haven't posted in half a week cause I went away for the weekend and also got goddamn facial herpes a.k.a. cold sores. Not the worst thing in the world, but definitely not approaching with that shit on my face.

The threesome didn't happen due to above (made up some excuse), but they're both still keen to see me individually and together. Might happen this weekend.

Back at the gym properly this week after about a month's hiatus due to a back injury. Fuck it feels good. I've decided I'm going to compete in a powerlifting comp next year too.

Also picked up a few more clients for my business, which has been super tough to do the past few months. Very close to securing two deals with one client, totalling 30K.

Other than that, I'm doing alright with my weed habit, though I did promise not to smoke yesterday and ended up smoking. Will knock this one on the head this week, I know it's a key to becoming better in every aspect.

Also quit caffeine last week and noticing a difference in sleep and energy. Will stick to this, only drinking caffeine when I absolutely need it to get me going (if I'm sleep deprived or whatever).
Goals 2022:

90kg BW @ 10% BF - 87/90 @ 12%/10%
Fuck a 9
Earn 500K- 66/500
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Drama
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Wed Aug 31, 2022 12:47 am

Went on a date with a girl from CA last night - Aiming for the magnum date model - https://magnumlivelarge.wordpress.com/2019/01/10/94/
Realised I didn't do enough kino, enough fractionation of conversation, or enough sexual talk, or push/pull.
Gonna text her tonight to set up date two early next week.

After that had a girl from Feeld come to mine for the second time. She's on bipolar meds but the sex is pretty wild. Also had half a viagra and holy shit that stuff makes me hard as steel. Definitely utilising this for days I don't feel quite up to it.

Will approach more girls today, my cold sore scab is finally gone, thank fuck. Those fuckers can die and go to the 9th level of hell.

Apart from that, business is going really well, picked up another few deals but haven't closed any in a few months. Time is ticking to hit my goal here.

And have another date with another chick from Feeld tonight. She wants some "novelty" so I'm gonna take her to a back alley and get her to blow me/finger her. What can I say, I'm a degenerate dirtbag.
Goals 2022:

90kg BW @ 10% BF - 87/90 @ 12%/10%
Fuck a 9
Earn 500K- 66/500
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Drama
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Sun Sep 11, 2022 10:58 pm

Been silent on here the last few weeks - Had a big weekend after my last post.

Can't be fucked updating on everything that's happened but I've been seeing a few girls that are now FWBs/plates, but I haven't approached since yesterday.

Went well, did three and got one number. I was actually quite nervous, could tell she was too, but got her IG anyway.

Business is going okay, landed a deal last week for 10K, but there's a long way to go before that goal... Have a few other things in the pipeline, but I need to hustle way more on this.

Back at the gym, but my body isn't fully healed from this injury. Need to stretch more, use the foam roller more and keep an eye on it. Going to get remedial massage tonight.

My biggest problem/bad habit right now is weed - I've been abusing it the past week and I know I need to stop. From today, I'm only going to smoke with other people. I'm writing this down and going to post it in the Telegram group so I'm held accountable.
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Drama
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Tue Sep 13, 2022 11:18 pm

Did 5 approaches yesterday - Got one number. I'm glad I'm keeping this consistent.

Been going well back in the gym, strength is almost fully back.

Sex life is good, have a few good plates on rotation, but could always be better.

Business is still lacking, need to fire up some shit here and really grind it out before the end of the year.

Most important thing I've realised is dopamine addiction - weed, masturbation (no porn though), vaping, dating/social apps. I need to severely limit these and get rid of this shit, cause it has gone unchecked for a long time.

If anyone has some good resources on dopamine addiction/how to quit I'd be really grateful.
Goals 2022:

90kg BW @ 10% BF - 87/90 @ 12%/10%
Fuck a 9
Earn 500K- 66/500
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Squilliam
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Wed Sep 14, 2022 1:11 am

Yep, I think I have a dopamine addiction too. The one thing I will say in my experience is, moderation isn't really possible if you're addicted. I find that to be very true for substance based addictions, but I've noticed the same applies to a lesser extent for the masturbation addiction in my experience.
check out my blog: https://squilzpursuit.wordpress.com/

- Do 1000 approaches by end of 2024 (~350/1000)
- Get laid from daygame
- Learn game and stop being a social autist
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Drama
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Thu Sep 15, 2022 12:00 am

Yesterday:

5 approaches - 1 number. She said to me "I was just thinking I haven't been hit on in a while" and was all giddy. Sometimes you just get lucky and strike them at the right time.

Business motivation is sorely lacking, but I did this masterclass yesterday and will probably hire a coach. It's a big investment, probably 10-20K for a long term engagement, but I think it'll be worth it. I can't continue the way I am, so much input with not enough results.

And I think the dopamine addiction thing I realise I need to be a hardass on myself. I'm just not stopping myself often enough when I feel cravings.
Goals 2022:

90kg BW @ 10% BF - 87/90 @ 12%/10%
Fuck a 9
Earn 500K- 66/500
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Thu Sep 15, 2022 12:51 am

Drama wrote:
Thu Sep 15, 2022 12:00 am
And I think the dopamine addiction thing I realise I need to be a hardass on myself. I'm just not stopping myself often enough when I feel cravings.
My advice to you would be to not try to quit them all at once, that can be a lot to handle. Obviously that's the healthiest way of going about things, but you might find it easier to break it up into steps. I would say that you should rank all of your addictions from most damaging to least damaging. Then start with your most damaging addiction and work your way from there.

For example, I quit alcohol 1 year ago today, but I still struggle with smoking weed. Alcohol was more damaging to me however, so that one was my main priority to quit. However, weed is now pretty much the main one on my list.
check out my blog: https://squilzpursuit.wordpress.com/

- Do 1000 approaches by end of 2024 (~350/1000)
- Get laid from daygame
- Learn game and stop being a social autist
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Drama
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Fri Sep 16, 2022 4:52 am

Skipped approaches yesterday, did 8 today (aimed for 5 but was on a roll)

4 blowouts, 3 bfs, 1 number - Vibe was off for some, others I just didn't have conversation to go with. I need to look at what my game plan is, I don't really have a solid formula.

Business hasn't progressed any since last post, but working on some good things right now, feel confident I can make my goal this year.

Lifting is going well too, almost back to full strength after the injury.

One of my plates is coming round tonight and might have a few more dates over the weekend.
Goals 2022:

90kg BW @ 10% BF - 87/90 @ 12%/10%
Fuck a 9
Earn 500K- 66/500
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Drama
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Sat Sep 17, 2022 11:49 pm

Didn't approach yesterday, did a deep clean of my place which it needed, did a shoulder workout then had a date.

It was raining and we went to the park with my dog, lol. Long story but she was still cool. Tried to pull but she didn't bite, seeded the dinner date next time. Looking back I think I could've been more aloof and did a few things that didn't particularly help me, but whatever. Will see where that leads me.

I think I need to really look at some inner game stuff. Just read this while writing this post, good resource - http://bitly.ws/uoFG

Realised I need to do more shit that's fun and challenging. I have a few options - muay thai, mountain biking, motorbikes. Gonna have more of a think about this and just pick one for now.

I do challenge myself with my business, but it's not the same thing.

Also realising that stoicism and acceptance of certain things would help me a lot. I'm going to properly read Meditations. I should also keep reading my other book.

Anyway I'm rambling, gonna put some things into action.
Goals 2022:

90kg BW @ 10% BF - 87/90 @ 12%/10%
Fuck a 9
Earn 500K- 66/500
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