kAldown log

[blueman]

How tall are you and where are you from? Eastern Europe?

[kAldown]

6ft, from Russia. Now in London

[kAldown]

Sex goals:
- 15 approaches (1 date)
- 3 approaches of girls in a group from 3 different bars

Walking to one of the bars I was a girl looked straight at me, I torned to the table, approached a guy who was their main, and straight away made a joke "aren't you enough with 1 cute girl, leave this one to me" - they cringed and said "no-no-no". At first I feel nothing, then slowly developed shame, and instantly cought myself with the following thoghts: If she was interrested - she could make any joke, or saying that it was inapropriate in any flirty manner, but she decided to say "no". It literally means "no" - nothing to hesitate. Walk to the next one! I'm here to get pussy, not to sit and talk shil all the evening

Nothing new. Most of the daygame have BF, even though I kiss them, dancing, huging, making photos - nothing. No girls want to "cheat".

Currently the only one struggle I still experience - is the holding a frame. I've had couple really hot girls who told me I'm a sweet boy, and it was wonderful. Yet I have no sex with them. Which confuses me a bit. They for sure can cheat, yet decided not to do this. Which makes me think I radiate not enough sexuality for hot chicks to get with me. Lot's of girls pays me for my honesty, told me I have to talk less, leaving mystery. Trying to follow their advice.

Still struggling visiting pubs and clubs. I think I need someone to hold me, since this environment completely pushing me away. For instance I've beeing on a date with the chick in fabric. Blowed the dancefloor. Same was with my friends - couple chicks hanged on me. But I can't find this mood by my own. Being in kinky parties and other clubs alone - just covered in a corner, and completelly different person when friends are with me. Same goes to the pub.

Have a plan to go with my friends in georgia. Taking flat in a middle of the city, near top bars and clubs, to visit them frequently.
Can't afford abnb in london for my salary (ye, I know, excuses, but just taking a hotel with my lover took me nearly 150 pounds each time).

Pussy is fucking expensive when you have nothing great to offer in return. Fuck I need more practice to be sure inside that I can fuck this girl nicely. I have older ladies, who salut my finger-work, and big dick, but it's hard to maintain the boner for long. More than I can't cum in 30 minutes, and I get fatigue. Just a blueprints of being inexperienced, and this leads me to the lack of confidence when I approach girls.

Who cares. Experience come with work!

[kAldown]

Approached 7 girls. 0 numbers. -2 dates (1 flake, 1 girl won't reply after I told her she has beautiful lips and I cant wait to see her this Friday)
Trying tinder now, bumble, feeld.

Switched tinder from London to Batumi (place where I will go), got couple matches. Took their phones and continued talking in other chat.
The more I talk the more girls saying that my tinder profile and opener is completelly different from "who I am". Don't know yet if this is good. Will see.

I still can't decide what do I want.

I want sweet girl who will treat me well, with warm and love. At least for some time, I want to feel womans genuine warm. Not for my money, or just for sex.

Need to figure it out since lots of my friends smelling dichotomy in my actions. It could frighten potential sex buddy / GF

[kAldown]

Gym goals:
- did quadroset with 14kg:
-- supinated biceps
-- army press
-- biceps on a bench
-- push over

Sex goals:
11 approaches
3 phones (all 3 flaked)
(one of them was black chick, told she had a nice ass, rotated her a bit, said I want to "drink a cocktail with her" agreed - flake. At least my first black chick approach)
11th girl was russian. Approached her sitting on a bench, just sit next. Greet. Instadate with beer. Told she had a problem with husband. Cuddled her a bit. Kissed. She wont go to my place, but want see me again. Will call her in 2 days.

Got +5 phones from tinder to Batumi/Tbilisi, agreed to meet.

[kAldown]

Purposefully missed the gym. Actually going everyday, but what I've found - missing the gym gives me lust and a bit of craziness. So used that for approaches.

12 approaches.
2 phones. Decided to call for a date.

Went on date yesterday with chick who I almost forgot. Suddenly she was too "closed". Over all after an hour I realized that I'm not attracted and lead her to her place.

My approach are starightforward and easy:
- going with high energy, smiling, looking straight to the eyes
- "hey girl, you look great". Trying to touch them, hug, and kiss in a chick, sometimes in lips
- mostly I'm on a bicycle, so have no time, telling that:
- "look I really have no time but want to know you better, what are you up to today? We should drink a cocktail"
- then if she said not today, "ok, when do you have time, let's go saturday". If she at least thinking - them I'm relaxing and give her a chance to pick time. If she rejects straight away - it's a signal she is not interrested. "ok, have a great day, bye"

90% of my approaches like that. I do not talk with them since it will kill the mood if you will invest and then get rejection. If she is up to for the meet - you will feel that by the spark in eyes, or laugh, or an kind of invitation. Happens she could have all that positive signals and tell you she had BF.

Sometimes I play, like yesterday for instance.
Two girls walked, one of them was with the camera. I asked her if she had a chance to make photos of me and send them to my email. She accepted that request enthusiastically. Had a bunch of photos. Subscribed her instagram to mine. No reply. No photos.

Week not end but I've got like 7 numbers. No one replied. Called them. Wrote through whatsup. Nothing

[kAldown]

Yesterday:

5 approaches.
0 phones
1 flake from prev date
missed gym

Today:
7 approaches
0 phones
missed gym

Meet my gay friend, he told me he will help me get the style cloth.

Thoughs that are killing me:
Still trying to figure out, should I stay in London or should I move to Georgia \ Turkey.
Fuck I can't decide. Do I want to move out because I'm scared to stay in an regret. Or do I want to stay because I'm scared something new.

This morning I figured out that takin a british passport (living 5more years) could be really benificial. And with this I can move around the globe, meeting girls everywhere (since It's really hard for me to get some in London)

Fuck I can't find the reality. Is this emotions, is this my ego. I need to figureout fast and stick with it.
And I want girl by my side so desipare, looks like I'm ruining my life and jumping into the fire each time some pussy calls me.

Do anyone of you know if there is the chance to stay in london after work visa expiration?

[colgate]

Week not end but I've got like 7 numbers. No one replied. Called them. Wrote through whatsup. Nothing

haha based on the one text convo you sent, it seems overbearing for what was probably a simple cold approach

many guys on the forum have been using tips from this guide to get started with decent texting skills, i suggest you check it out http://web.archive.org/web/202008091802 ... -dq16ldatn

[kAldown]

Week not end but I've got like 7 numbers. No one replied. Called them. Wrote through whatsup. Nothing

haha based on the one text convo you sent, it seems overbearing for what was probably a simple cold approach

many guys on the forum have been using tips from this guide to get started with decent texting skills, i suggest you check it out http://web.archive.org/web/202008091802 ... -dq16ldatn

Yeap, read that too. Thanks

This is the most polite questions I ever asked
Trying to frame it from the prespective "if you are interrested - let's go".

Switching tinder to Russian, Ukrainian, Georgina girls I've noticed that I got 7+ numbers like that:
- hey, (something about her profile)
- hahaha (continuation)
- look you're really sweet girl, I want to meet you when I will come to the place, whats your number?

got it, straight away. 0 rejections. Idk why it doesn't work in London. As the matter of fact, 90% of girls who replying to me are russians in UK. Looks like I should learn how to take a conversation with non-russian speaking.

[kAldown]

- Approached a girl at the gym. Heated up, and then she had another set so I waited to catch her isolated. Yet missed the opportunity, talking with my friend.
- After gym sessoin went to the pool, and thought it wa her. Started conversatoin and the girl was recepricate. But the most interresting part in the following:

She asked me couple questions, like what I do for living, what m age, and where I'm from. After that she concluded:
- so you are a nerd, who recently opened up to secuality, figured out that he needs to gain muscles, socially awkward, yet very energetic, approaching girls everywhere.
The fuck she knews that from after a minute of a discussion.

After that I gave her a slight massage, and invited to my place. She told she have a boyfriend, but she doesn't like him because he too nice to her. I told her to drop that beta and again come to my place. She told "okay, next sunday call me".

Now interresting things - I become beta, and told her I recently stoped being virgin, and only dating girls wit boyfriends.
After that she replied that it's a scary situation, and she won't go to my place anymore.

Yet she gave me valuable suggestoin:
- talk less
- read room

After couple more cold approaches I went for a walk at the evening and approached one russian girl, we went on an instadate for 8 hours. Talked a lot about. Again I told her my story of growing up. Idea of me being honest in any direction and do not hesitate about my failures. Dealed with most shit test like "why do you ask this" - instead buttherting. Yet she saw me being nervous, but I didn't butthert. The most pleasurable part was where I again told her that I was a virgin - and she didn't pushed me back wit hnegative energy. Ye, I know, sounds too beta. Still craving for openin my "true self", rather that holding frame. But I see each time I play better and hold it stronger.

After that evening I finnaly calmed down, and became really soft. All this chaotic energy went away and I started to realize what the fuck I did for the last couple monthes with my life

It was fun. But now I need to fix some things.

[kAldown]

Yesterday was a day of meeting friends. Yet did 7 approaches.

One of my friends figured out something.
While we talk, I called a girl walking the same direction, we spoke for about a minute, then our ways split. I called her to meet and drink cocktails. She instantly answered "I'm seeing someone". Normally I would push more, but for some reason I said "okay". Even my friend told me "why won't you push, it was a clear invitation sign". Again frame weakened.

At the eveinng went to the bar, meet a barista from another pub, we decided to grab keys and open the whole pub just for ourselves (3 dudes). While we walk I approached a girl who just being from the date. Called her to join us - refused. Yet told we may meet next sunday.

The rest approaches weren't interresting.

I see that I do more involved approaches, rather than fast "I like you, let's drink a coctail". Which is a good sign

[kAldown]

1 approach. 0 results

talked with my friends a lot. Called some friends for an evening walk. No response.
Framing meeting with couple male friends to smoke cigars. Have to get some energy from successfull guys.

Thinking about reframing my approach. Need to set more clear boundaries.
I do see that I can NOT fall in love with a pretty girl after 10 hours of knowing her. And if I catch feelings - I only being "lazy" for couple hours.
Which is great results. Some time ago I was falling in love with every second girl, and being completelly shut down for days. Looks like I get more confident in understanding that girls are just girls, and I won't sell my relationship for free, especially after ultimatum.

[kAldown]

Sex goals:
Flaked date that I was 99% sure.

Have another plate which could go at friday. Got viagra. Told her that, will arrange.

Another goals:
Called my long-time-ago-lost-psechoteraphist. Shared with her about my thoughts right now - got some energy to go.
Started to write stuff for my interview preparation.
Tomorrow will be one. Then will do my job stuff. Then walk with friends.

Fuck I feel calm after the flake. She is so fucking hot, yet I feel okaish. Don't want to runaway, break items or jerkoff. Which means I'm getting sane little by litte.

[kAldown]

Sex goals:
2 girls called me.
Invited one of them to my place - she refused. Then I told her I'm gonna be busy till the night. Not hesitating to drop her.
With the second one I've talked a lot. She's ukrainian, we spoke about everything. Yet she told she's not into just sex and want relationship. Okay, I told her, then I will fuck another girls, and will speak with you, since I do like this connection. The most embarrasing thing I heard - she wants a mon to work hard and pay all the bills. Which is okay. But I'm not into this, better look for a FWB

Approached a girl who speak no english, working as a cleaner, and use tinder for fucking beast guys to fuck her. She gave me the whatsapp - no reply.

[kAldown]

Listened Andy's podcast about not lying to girls.
Wrote some thoughts about it.

After that told a girls that she's really sexy. She smiled, yet have BF.
Same next 5 approaches.
Got number, talked about the date. She not erplying in whatsapp. But I don't think it's a ghost yet