Crimson wrote: ↑
Fri Sep 23, 2022 9:59 am
I already had Baksteball Girl naked in my bed but couldn't get that lay #1 because of ED.
kratjeuh wrote: ↑
Fri Sep 23, 2022 11:06 am
She might flake, but she seemed into me. If she doesn't, same thing with her, I NEED that lay (ethically).
I'm worried you're focusing way too much on the negatives (didn't get the lay) and not enough on the positives: you had an attractive young woman naked in your bed who you did tons of fun sexual stuff with!
Give yourself some credit man!
Even non-penatrative sex is a beautiful, beautiful thing and with the right perspective it should be a cherished memory (especially if it was your first organic sexual experience like I believe it was) instead of some failure that you're beating yourself up about.
Do you see what I'm saying?
Also, quit treating your dick like a voluntary muscle that you should be able to control
. It's way more like your heart, and if you ever heard someone complain about how they couldn't get their heart to beat faster or slower you'd probably think they were a little nuts.
Just set yourself up for success by laying off the porn, doing some LISS cardio every other day (google it), doing PE or whatever else works for you instead of masturbating yourself to numbness, and try to enjoy your partner's body and beauty and pleasure more than you worry about whether your damn dick is working.
Because I guarantee however nervous you are about performing, she's gonna be ten times more nervous
, and worried about whether she looks fat and whether what she's doing is sexy and making you feel good and turning you on, so try to have fun and don't be afraid to show your enjoyment and tell her how hot she is and how good what she's doing feels, because she'll have a way better time if you do!
Last thing is stop focusing so much on your number of lays!
I know number one is a big deal for everyone, but if you can I really hope you'll just focus on having as many beautiful, mutually awesome sexual experiences as you can with women who are excited to sleep with you, and not on some completely arbitrary number
(I know some guys list number of lays as a way of quickly establishing credibility or quickly saying where they are in terms of experience, and fair enough, but it's far better to aim for quality sex, because once you get to the point where you have great sex almost every time you'll honestly be getting more sex than you can handle, because women will be almost desperate to sleep with you!).