Brandon’s 365 Days of Masculine, Self-affirming Action: Days 278-283

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Bman
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Thu Feb 16, 2023 12:11 pm

Day 72

Actions taken:
  • Affirmations
  • 2nd meditation in the afternoon
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So a shortcoming yesterday. I went up north to the pre-event munch that happens before the BDSM club party on Sunday. When I got there OF Girl was already there, so I hugged her and led her over to a table. We chatted for a bit before the rest of the friend group showed up. I was telling them about the munches I have been running and we would periodically have someone from my munch come up to the group to say hi to me, including one of the attractive subs from this Monday who was giving me something I accidently left. The event organizers also came to chat with me asking how my munch was going.

OF Girl's friend: "Wow, you're like one of the big guys now."

Me: "Of course"

Friend from my munch: "Oh yeah, Brandon's great!"

I'd chat with the group and occasionally focus my attention solely on OF Girl. Eventually I asked her if her partner, the guy who was also there and helps run the event, and her were monogamous. She said no. Later on her friend and her were telling a story about the time they kissed and how they could never do it again because her friend crashed and totaled her car afterwards.

OF Girl's friend: "So be careful if you kiss OF Girl, you might die."

OF Girl: "Oh my gawd! Bitch, don't tell him that!"

Eventually the friends left to go to another bar, leaving OF Girl and I alone. Perfect chance to escalate things, but this is where I had my shortcomings. After they left, we got closer. The conversation was platonic sometimes, more sexual others. People would come interject our convo and we make little secret jokes together. But I bitched out and did not make it explicitly known I was into her. I was not going to try to kiss her with her other partner there at the event, but I wanted to and would have liked to make it known. I know this is not a big deal, as obviously the sexual undertone was still set, but I'm flagging it because I was still nervous/ unconfident in the moment about expressing my interest when I had no reason to be. With it being a social circle lead, I just had a bit of anxiety about "messing up the friendships". Baloney. That's old nice guy behavior.

At the end of the night I was catching a Lyft home. She jokingly told me not to get murdered by the driver. Woke up this morning from a message from her.

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Anyways, going to grab her number and move this shit forward properly.
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Manly Cockfellow
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Thu Feb 16, 2023 11:24 pm

Bman wrote:
Thu Feb 16, 2023 12:11 pm
Wow, you're like one of the big guys now
We really need a GIF of Rollo Tomassi screaming "hypergamy" for moments like this 😁


And great work lately @Bman

Feels like you're really pushing yourself and going places 🫡
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Fri Feb 17, 2023 1:11 am

Day 73

Actions taken:
  • Affirmations
  • 2nd meditation in the afternoon
  • Took a swing, missed, not phased by it
Got OF Girl's number this morning, then texted her after work. This is the middle of our convo after mentioning she was headed out on a roadtrip for couple days to get some zen. She's also a very anxious person.

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No biggie. I did catch her at a semi inconvenient time because she's on that trip with her boyfriend and probably sitting right next to him. It was funny because I was in the middle of texting to setup dates with my other girls at the same time, including possibly a new one I just matched with today.

Also, the BDSM event is this weekend and she'll be there. I'm supposed to be taking Spiritual Girl with me, so she'll see me with another girl. Then OF Girl's friends want to come down to my munch, which Ad Girl will be joining me at the next one. So OF Girl might see me with another girl. And I'm betting that Psychedelic girl will want to go to the event in March. So good chance she'll see me with yet another girl.

I'll invite her out in the next couple weeks for us to spend some time together just us two, continue to escalate, and make sure to keep it clear I don't want to be just friends.

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Manly Cockfellow wrote:
Thu Feb 16, 2023 11:24 pm
And great work lately @Bman

Feels like you're really pushing yourself and going places
Thanks, brother. I'm sure the hell trying.
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Sat Feb 18, 2023 1:17 am

Day 74

Actions taken:
  • Affirmations
  • 2nd meditation in the afternoon
  • Scouted venue for sex party
So earlier this week I messaged a couple venues here in ATX basically explaining I want to do an event there where people will be naked, engaging in sex or kink scenes, and playing loud music. One got back to me and I went and checked out the space which is like a mix of a nightclub and yoga studio put together. Owner was super cool and in the kink, tantra, and conscious collective communities here. Pretty much gave me the ok to do whatever. It is a little smaller than I'd like and does not have a stage. So it's a maybe, but I want to keep looking.

We also talked rates. Now I'm typically someone who wants to have an understanding of all the factors, devise a plan, and then talk shop. This is also the first time I have ever started organizing an event this big. So I wanted to know rates so I could figure out how many hours we could rent for and what ticket price I'd need to charge to cover the rental. This guy was trying to pull all that out of me before giving me a number. Eventually he spit out a number and I was like "ok that's fine", because now I can at least work backwards and figure out the rest. I didn't think about it till I left and was running numbers that I could have negotiated the price. But I told him I was just scouting right now and not agreeing to anything yet.

He did tell me about another private owner who renovated a space into a nightclub type space with a stage and upstairs lounge. Said they've had strippers there, so it would probably work too. So went home and messaged them as well. This place seems better. And this time I'll be ready to negotiate.

I'm thinking the event will be similar to a fetish night at nightclubs with dance, an area for sex, and demo performances, rather than a full on play party. Reason being is that the other big event here does the dungeon part well and I don't want to deal with all the kink furniture. But I'll see what my community wants.

This time last year I was discussing divorce with my ex wife. Today I'm scouting venues and nightclubs to throw big sex parties. Life is fucking wild.
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Sun Feb 19, 2023 3:23 am

Day 75

Actions taken:
  • Affirmations
  • 2nd meditation in the afternoon
  • New Lay
Very tight, fake titted, pole dancing, psychologist. Was a beautiful sight. Lay report.
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Mon Feb 20, 2023 12:43 pm

Day 76

Actions taken:
  • Affirmations
  • 2nd meditation in the afternoon
  • Top guy behavior
Yesterday evening was Shrine, the monthly BDSM event at the nightclub here in ATX. Went dressed in red pants with red suspenders, black shirt, and black wide brim fedora. Got there for my setup shift and the other volunteer girls were commenting on how good I looked. No doubt I was also walking around with a smile on my face and big dick energy. After setup I worked the front door for the first hour which was a blast because there were five scantily clad women working it with me and I was the only guy for that shift. We were also changing procedures from normal and the organizers were a little worried about people being annoyed/aggressive about it, so I was essentially the loud voice and muscle to control the line. Didn't have to be because I was friendly, greeted everyone, and got them taken care of.

Now the girl tornado begins. OF Girl shows up to work the door after me (damn volunteer coordinator didn't put us on the same shift). We chat in between me working the line but don't get to interact much. My shift is coming to an end and Spiritual Girl meets me at the door dressed in a short, tight leather dress and red lingerie underneath. She has not seen me in a couple weeks because she's been in Puerto Rico so she is dying to kiss me and telling me how she's been daydreaming of my cock. I get her moved to the front of the line for checkin. One of the girl's that I work the door with, let's call her Door Girl, asked if my shift was over and if I was playing tonight. I pointed to Spiritual Girl and Door Girl's eyes light up, "Oooh, I'm so excited for you!" They do the female pleasantries of "I like your dress." "I like your outfit." Spiritual Girl and I chat inside while waiting to get her ticket about my munch and letting her know whats inside the club.

We get inside, I show her around, and head over to my bag to take my shirt off so I just have the suspenders on top. She's like a little kid in a candy shop and putty in my hands. As we move around she can't help but make out with me, moaning, and grinding into me. We run into a few friends here and there that I chat with. Took her upstairs to one of the spanking benches, hiked up her dress, and gave a few good wails before we attracted too large of a crowd for her comfort. So we head down to mingle so more. By this point, we are moving around, making out, and I'm sliding my hand under her dress to rub her pussy almost constantly.

After an hour or so we move to the upper stage in the front of the club where there are couches along the wall to watch the scenes and the crowd of 150-200 people at this point. I continue to let me hand peruse. She is ravenous now and starts rubbing my cock through my pants. She tells me how hot it would be if the whole place was filled with just other women and I was the only guy there. I have her climb on my lap, hike her dress up, and let he give me a lap dance and dry hump in front of the dozen other people on the couch, the people on stage, and anyone else in the crowd on the main floor who cared to look up. She was not quite ready to have sex there at the club, so she's begging me to go back to my place. It's getting late and I'm horny as a mother fucker after her perfromance on my lap, so I'm ready to roll too. I adjust the hardon in my pants and start to head for the exit.

On the way out I see OF Girl from behind with the rest of our normal friend group, including a few that I've brought into it. I walk over, tap her on the shoulder, and she turns around to give me a big hug. Now I'd been hugging and kissing on Spiritual Girl all night and I was high on sexual energy from the lap dance I just received, so I forgot for a moment who I was now hugging. As a result I gave OF Girl a very sensual hug and had to stop myself short of kissing on her shoulder. Introduced her to Spiritual Girl and again the did the female pleasantries. Told her we were heading out and went for the first exit door.

Make through exit door one, through main lobby, headed for exit door two, and I see November Girl (girl I mentioned in my lay report yesterday that texted earlier that morning). Have not seen her since our four hour date in November that had great sexual chemistry but her life was too chaotic at the time to take things forward. She's another hot professional, classy in the streets type, so she's dressed in fun, flowy sun dress. Little thicker, but beautiful face. She used to do a lot of Broadway theater performances. Anyways, I stop in the door, we immediately give each other a big hug. I'm still shirtless, so she gives me some sultry eyes. I meet the Dom she came with and then chat with her a bit. She was sad I was on my way out. Told her we had our scenes and now it was time to take it back to mine for the after party. She gave me the coy head tuck and Marilyn Monroe eyes telling me she hopes it's an amazing night.

Catch up outside with Spiritual Girl and she keeps lamenting about how amazing it is I know so many people and for showing her such a great time. We jump in her car and head back to my place. When we get back to mine our first round was passionate and rough. We cuddle for a bit, wore out and tired. Then we have very emotional, cuddly sex that turned aggressive with her 100% surrendering and squirting everywhere. I get her into her comfy clothes to drive home and send her on her way.

Check my phone to put it on the charger. Lo and behold, text from OF Girl asking where my munch is held at and asking how my night went.

Fuck, I got keep engineering situations like this. Such a rush.
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Tue Feb 21, 2023 5:58 am

Fuck. YES.

What really sticks out to me here the most is your total enthusiasm and positivity with all of this. Your frame is solid.

After closing a couple clients this week, I feel stoked, but also have lots of inner critique sneaking in.

Really look up to your mindset and this is a great example it.
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Tue Feb 21, 2023 12:02 pm

Day 77

Actions taken:
  • Affirmations
  • 2nd meditation in the afternoon
  • Led my munch
  • Took a nap
I rarely, if ever, take naps. But I was pretty tired from the night before. So I finished up 90% of my work and gave myself the leeway to take 20 minute cat nap in the afternoon.

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jmand wrote:
Tue Feb 21, 2023 5:58 am
total enthusiasm and positivity with all of this
Life is too damn short not to be. Lamenting on the suffering only perpetuates and amplifies the suffering. If you learn to preform mental Jiu Jitsu, the challenges become fun, or at the very least more neutral allowing you to accept the reality of the situation.
jmand wrote:
Tue Feb 21, 2023 5:58 am
After closing a couple clients this week, I feel stoked, but also have lots of inner critique sneaking in.
As I always say, hold two opposing views in your head. Head and acknowledge the words of the inner critique, as it usually holds some ounce of truth, then continue to plow forward despite whatever it thinks. It wants you to be safe. What the hell does it know though about what you're capable of. You have only fed it examples from the past. You're playing at your edge and going to feed it examples its never seen before. With time your mental construct of yourself will update and be a little more quiet as you prove to yourself your capacity. This only happens though if you take action despite what that critique is saying.
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Wed Feb 22, 2023 2:29 am

Day 78

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  • 2nd meditation in the afternoon
  • Men's Group
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Thu Feb 23, 2023 1:00 am

Day 79

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Fri Feb 24, 2023 1:11 am

Day 80

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Got pretty caught up in work and missed the 2nd meditation today. The last few days I've just been cranking out work in the day and relaxing in the evening. Because I missed my usual self care day on Sunday, I just need a bit of down time.

OF Girl and I were actually supposed to have a date this evening. She's a really big fan of animals (fun fact she owns 5 snakes, 2 rats, a cat, and dog) so we were going to take my dog out for a walk along the lake and boardwalk. But her family planned a big get together for this evening so she had to cancel. However she immediately wanted to reschedule and she has consistently been the one wanting to reengage in conversation, with teasing and flirting, throughout the week. Feel pretty confident, in time, this one will be a part of the harem. That will feel pretty cool because it'll be the first social circle lay since I started all this.
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Fri Feb 24, 2023 1:22 am

Bman wrote:
Fri Feb 24, 2023 1:11 am
However she immediately wanted to reschedule and she has consistently been the one wanting to reengage in conversation, with teasing and flirting, throughout the week.
Bring it home champion Dom, you got this.
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Sat Feb 25, 2023 1:45 am

Day 81

Actions taken:
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  • 2nd meditation in the afternoon
  • Bought some new fashion items
Bought a few new items to continue to round out the archetype including some clip in Viking braids/ dreads. They are handmade in the UK so I'm probably not going to see them for a month, but I think they are going to look pretty cool. Also got some rockstar rings and some smart/professional bracelets.

Also had Spiritual Girl over today. Treated her to some wax play and some very dominant sex afterwards. Wax I got for this was perfect. Hot enough to sting right after blowing out the candle, but cools quickly enough you can get veeeeerrrry close to her pussy. The quick dry and peeling also means we could move to... other activities... very quickly. She loved every minute of it.
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Sat Feb 25, 2023 1:56 am

Bman wrote:
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Also got some rockstar rings and some smart/professional bracelets.
Good stuff man. Interested in the sites you bought from. I've been trying to find alternatives to places like Clocks & Colours (as I like those styles of jewelry) but it's a tad bit on the high end of what I'd want to pay at the moment.
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