Man, I can totally relate. I recently just started approaching myself and it is fucking terrifying. My advice to you is to stop worrying about being confident or smooth at the stage that you're at. I did some approaches today and I stuttered like an awkward idiot during all of them.Hawkins wrote: ↑Wed Feb 08, 2023 4:13 amI gravitated towards this community because the emphasis on complete honesty and openness seemed much more in line with who I wanted to be than the standard pick-up artist fare, which seems to me to be generally manipulative, deceitful, and unpleasant.
Please don't think I'm accusing you guys of that. It's not my intent. I just struggle to know what else exactly to do. I'm not confident or smooth, and I don't have the first idea how to be flirty. Approaching at all makes me so nervous I feel like my legs are going to buckle. I guess just being blunt and straightforward felt like it was something I could handle and feel at peace with.
How would you guys recommend I approach things differently then? I want to be honest and open and kind, and If you guys have suggestions to make that work I'd love to hear them.
You are going to suck at this at first, everybody does. Andy, GLL, etc all sucked at first too. Focus on just getting over your AA and building the habit, and then you can focus on the substance of the conversation and learning how to be smooth.
I also think it's a lot less stressful approaching in public places where you know they won't see you again.
I don't think direct approaches are necessarily a bad idea, I just think it's better to do direct approaches in environments where they almost certainly won't see you again.
Also, consider checking this out, I basically did this today, it might help you:
https://www.goodlookingloser.com/laid/p ... s-guy-game