I reflected on it and I think I moved too fast with her and I needed to give her a little more time to get comfortable. In retrospect the 3 girls who stopped me were all a little uncomfortable. If a girl isn’t into making out with me next time I’m going to take that as a sign to stop and try and build more comfort/sexual tension. It’s not even like I was enjoying it lol.Squilliam wrote: ↑Wed Mar 29, 2023 7:07 pmI'm having the same issue. I've had a lot of pulls that resulted in making out but she usually doesn't let me go further.Yggdrasil13 wrote: ↑Wed Mar 29, 2023 12:19 amSo what’s the game plan to bang a girl who comes back to your place? Now I’m getting make outs that go nowhere.
Edit: had a thought that maybe I am pushing things too fast? There’s a lot more sexual tension on the dates now, but it’s mostly talk with a little bit of touch thrown in, I move to making out pretty quickly when we get back to my place and I’m not getting that much passion back…
I also noticed the same thing with regards to passion. But honestly, this isn't necessarily a sign of disinterest. I don't think it's reasonable to expect a girl to be crazy horny & obsessed with you at the end of a first date. Or maybe that's just the case at my SMV level. In my experience, that has only happened with mentally unstable girls, or girls that were very desperate and/or far below me in SMV.
I think women generally tend to display less visible signs of arousal, and they generally aren't as turned on by visual stimuli as we are. Just because a girl isn't moaning super loud, or showing lots of physical arousal signs, does not necessarily indicate that she isn't into you. I know what you mean though. I know how it feels to kiss and feel each other up when you're actually both into each other, and to feel that tightness and aggressiveness is just so hot. But I've accepted that not all women are like this. Some women are loud and aggressive, others are quiet and passive in bed. Some are in between.
The 1 cute girl I banged first date off OLD was actually my first date ever off the apps and I moved really slowly back at my place bc I was so nervous, like 1/2 hour to kiss her, maybe more. That might actually have worked in my favor.
It’s just a theory, but it kind of makes sense the more of a nice guy you seem like on dates the slower you have to move back at your place. I will report back with results for posterity.