I posted here for advice about a year ago. I dipped from the forums, so I assume those of you who remember me figured I gave up, but I didn't, I just didn't feel like posting my progress if nothing significant happened in that one month. Some of your advice was to point out that I had no edge, that I came off like a "nice guy" so I changed that, started wearing form fitting black shirts, leather accessories with chains, and ripped jeans, got a tattoo and piercings, also got lasik and grew out my beard and hair.
That's July 2022 versus January 2023. I've only made more progress since. I'm going for a metalhead look, and, aside from putting on more lean muscle mass (I've gone from 125 to 140 lbs at around 20% body fat, and I'm aiming for 160 with 12%, this is still something I'm working on) I think I've hit the look I'm going for. I know 90s hasbeen rocker isn't everyone's style but I figure this is my way to express myself while also being divisive, edgy, masculine, etc, and not so much of an awkward CS nerd pushover that I used to be. Now the next part is transforming my personality to actually fit the vibe I'm going for. I already got the guitar and am learning how to play it.
I'm done with undergrad, and did get into a master's program which was important to me (I have life goals outside of fucking women, which may come as a shock to you), but, until I have to start studying again, I'm going to hang out in DC for the summer and work on my cold approach skills until I'm officially a player. If anyone in DC wants to hit me up, feel free to. But I basically want to view the summer as an experiment to work on my game full time. Go out a few times a week, figure out what works and what doesn't, learn to read signs she's interested, and don't let my ego get bruised if something I try doesn't work, because, after all, it's an experiment, and I'll be out of here by August.
During my last semester I did get a girlfriend. Although no one here would be impressed with her (average body, very below average face) but at least I have proof to myself that I can pull *someone* and can officially say I'm not a virgin without lying about it or paying an escort. Andy mentioned this somewhere on the main blog that after his first success, he had nagging doubts that this was a fluke that he couldn't replicate, and that this feeling went away as he got more successes and his game became consistently good. That's where I'm at.
6/2 I went to Black Cat, which is a punk-rock, metal themed bar. There, I started talking to a very attractive alt-girl, who was by herself. It took up some courage to even say anything to her, but when I did, it went well at first, she seemed interested in what I was saying, we were asking basic 'getting to know you' small talk, except she was engaged, asking me follow up questions, doing her part to carry the conversation. I called her cute. She said I was also cute, we were dancing to the music a bit, we were both a bit touchy with each other, making eye contact, her hand was on my leg, I tried to lean in for a kiss but it wasn't reciprocated, it made things awkward and I had to quietly excuse myself out of embarrassment. I went to a different venue. Keep in mind this was all within 30 minutes. I think I could have pulled if I just let the sexual tension stew for a couple hours instead of rushing it, but I've missed chances in the past by not moving too soon, so I guess I'm overcorrecting. Overall good experience for a first night out, even though I didn't pull.
6/9 So I went to a happy hour meetup group at a place called Whitlows that has rooftop music, entered around 6, chatted up the bartender and a couple other people sitting next to me, at 7 I decided to go up to the rooftop. Met the meetup group, we seemed to get along okay. I didn't feel comfortable flirting with anyone per se, just basic small talk. I would mostly just go up to random groups, introduce my name, chat for a minute or two, and then leave. It started getting dark around 8 or 9, that's when more people started coming, music got so loud you couldn't hear anyone, and I was noticably drunk, and I was badly dancing to the music, which I suppose is better than awkwardly standing in a corner. A cute Asian girl commented on it, said I was "12/10 wasted". She asked me what my astrology sign was, I told her "aquarium" which made her laugh, I tried to chat with her a little more, but she was hanging out with her friend group, then after a while I couldn't find her so I figured she left. As more people arrived I found it harder to introduce myself to groups so I was bouncing around between different people more. I thought I saw one girl giving me a double take so I went up to her, she said I had nice hair, I gave her a compliment back, and that was the end of our interaction before she went off with her friend. Another girl I had kinda bumped into a few times told me that some guy was looking for me, so I went up to him and he seemed confused, so I figured the girl just lied to get me to go away, which is weird because I wasn't exactly going up to her specifically. But I figured that meant I was being weird to people and that was my cue to leave. Although I did introduce myself to one girl as I was paying the tab downstairs. She seemed happy to greet me, she said she was heading upstairs and I said bye. Looking back I realize that might have been an invitation to hang out upstairs with her, but it was after midnight, I was tired, and had too many experiences that night of "talk to a girl for a couple minutes, never see her again" for me to get my hopes up with her.
6/10 Went to an Indie Rock concert. Found it extremely difficult to approach anyone, even when drunk. Saw one girl who was by herself reading before the concert so I went up to her. She looked uncomfortable talking to me, so I decided to get out of there. Another couple of girls I approached immediately scorned me as soon as I opened my mouth. I said "hi, my name is _____" and got back "She's not interested. Also I'm her cousin so you better back off" So I did. I figure women could probably tell what I wanted when I approached, which made me not want to approach. Also a lot of the women here were either in their 30s with their families or could have been in high school. Neither group I want to flirt with. So I decided to give up and just enjoy the music until I got bored and left.
