Long time lurker finally gets rid of V card by seeing an escort

[G-Man]

Long-time lurker finally gets rid of V card by seeing an escort
(and I should have done it earlier).

Hi guys, my name is G-man, coming at you all the way from East Africa and I've been following Andy’s blog for a while though the taking action part is what I've been failing on. I was a bit hesitant to join because I'm just shy like that.

But I recently pulled the trigger on losing my virginity, and I did it by seeing an escort like Andy recommended. It was great and I just had to share it with someone.

I had no one close to me I could open up to like that so I thought it would be better here with guys on the same journey facing the same struggles.

So on Monday, June 12th, 2023, I finally did what I should have done a few years ago. I realized I was no closer to beating my social anxiety so I decided to follow Caleb Jones and Andy’s advice to see an escort at least twice.

It wasn't planned and that was for the better because had I planned it I would have psyched myself out. I woke up extra horny for some reason and fapping just wasn't going to do it today.
I had that great interview between Andy and Ravy still fresh in my head, the one about seeing an escort and how beneficial it was for him.

So on a whim, I looked up a local escort site, saw some pics I liked that had phone numbers attached and I just started dialing. Naturally, I was shaking in my seat. I was anxious about many things, but the idea of being vulnerable (naked) was particularly a point of insecurity for me.

I only dialed two girls and settled on the second, the first one only worked nights,(it was like 2:30 pm in the afternoon). But the second one was immediately available and also she had pictures posted that looked more real and she lived fairly close by.

In person when I met her, she turned out to be great and was super friendly which was far more important for me as a novice than pure sexiness. (She was I believe in her early 30s and had a small kid) so just a bit plump but still sexy.

First of all, I can't describe the rush I felt when she came out of the bathroom naked, seeing a lady naked for the first time for real was awesome. Far better than pixels on a screen. I couldn't help but start feeling her up all over.

I had paid for the full service that came with the massage, so we started with that.

The first epiphany I had was that I was really touch-deprived. I heard that term described on Dr. K’s youtube channel (Healthy Gamer gg).
My god did it feel amazing to feel her skin on mine, she massaged my back while on top of me, and I in turn stroked her thighs with my hand.
It was so calming and made me lower my guard down completely. We talked about everything under the sun, politics, inflation, her job, etc

Then came the main event she slipped a condom on me and slid down on top of me. Within the first few strokes and I had another epiphany. (I live in my head a lot, really stops me from enjoying life).

I thought to myself “Really, is this it ?”. Don't get me wrong, The sensation was awesome but I could not help but realize how much I had overhyped this moment in my imagination.

All the things I had worried about; my dick size, how long I could last, whether I could get an erection after all those years of fapping and watching porn, how my naked physique looked, which she complemented me on during the massage
( I’m really skinny now but I used to be much bigger when I worked out more, but I guess some definition is visible?)

For a brief moment, I wondered to myself, what else in my life had I overblown and overestimated and backed down from because of unnecessary and imagined fears?

Also, it turned out I performed better than I thought I would, I had no problem getting an erection, and lasted quite a while, part of it was that I was more in my head and not focused on the moment, and also I think I was slightly desensitized from all the porn and fapping so much. She even asked if I was enjoying myself.
I finally came after focusing my full attention on the act.

Overall it was a positive experience that I should have gotten over and done with a long time ago. If only to get rid of the V-card.
I had obsessed about sex for so long it was almost its own mental illness. Not getting laid really does mess with your head and makes you unhappy. This turned out to be more therapy than just plain sex

Aftermath…

The next day I noticed I was so relaxed, my resting heart rate wasn't as high as it usually is and I had no rushing thoughts and no anxiety from worrying about the future.

But it is also bitter-sweet, you see aside from my imagined fears holding me back from having sex, there is the very real fear of my medical condition Sickle cell anemia being triggered after sex.
Which is exactly what happened and I did have a crisis.
I've been in pain and semi-bedridden for a week so it's really given me something to think about. I don't know if spontaneous sex is something my body can handle. But that's a battle for another encounter, I plan to see her one last time and that will be enough practice before launching into the real journey.

By the way, I had previously tried to cold approach girls, but that was the hard road to losing my virginity and there were too many psychological barriers to overcome.
I'm eager to see how round 2 of meeting girls will go now that I don't have that cloud of taboo and the feeling that I’m doing something wrong hanging around my head.

I’m really grateful for that article Andy wrote, the “Do you really want to lose your virginity” post. I read it on my phone on repeat at every stage from calling the girls, to buying condoms, to walking to the place. It really stopped me from backing down.

And I'm also grateful to Ravy for the interview he did that made me realize seeing an escort could be a positive experience and that I wouldn't be a lame simp if I did rather it would be an investment in my own well-being. Thanks a lot you guys and I hope to learn more from you.

G-man.

[MakingAComeback]

Damn

This is why you have my undying appreciation Andy @kyil_andy

You have saved many men. I believe in you so much I am willing to invest in this movement. I will back KYIL until the end, I'll go all the way with you bro.

To read posts like this, from this wonderful young man, who was moved to take action and make something of himself, on the basis of the interview you did with me, and your mentoring me to become more successful in life, brings tears to my eyes

@G-Man can be whoever he wants in life and achieve whatever objective he sets his mind to

You just have to show up, do the work, and never give in

Success is inevitable for us all

Thank you for sharing on the forum

This is why we do this

To save other men from the disease of loneliness that broke me into a million peices

I am beyond proud of you for taking action Gman

And grateful to my first mentor Andy for impacting lives

-Ravi

[Crimson]

W. You’ve showed yourself that you’re willing to take action to achieve your goals. That’s something to fall back on when going for future ones. Congrats

Nice to see some Africans here, I’m from Cameroon, but born and raised in Germany.

[bonzo34]

Awesome work. Takes balls to do that!

[Sewerdog]

Long-time lurker finally gets rid of V card by seeing an escort
(and I should have done it earlier).


All the things I had worried about; my dick size, how long I could last, whether I could get an erection after all those years of fapping and watching porn, how my naked physique looked, which she complemented me on during the massage
( I’m really skinny now but I used to be much bigger when I worked out more, but I guess some definition is visible?)

Amazing to hear, I did the same thing at 27 after watching the same podcast with Mac and Andy.
These insecurities seem huge but go away pretty quick with just a bit of experience.
Good luck dude this is the start of an amazing journey and you'll get to outgrow your fears which is a lot of fun.