3some2024 log

[3some2024]

My #1 overall goal is to feel happy most of the time.
The most over-arching subgoals to accomplish my #1 goal are:
1. Feel satisfied with my work.
2. Get married and have kids.

I'd like to have a 3some (and join the mile high club before settling down).
I'm going to log ~daily (at least weekly) for self-accountability.

This week I'm making my #1 goal quitting porn before bed. I didn't sleep enough last night (and this happens a lot) because I stayed up watching porn. So today my goal is just to get ready for tomorrow for work and not watch porn. So far so good.

[3some2024]

No porn streak: 1 day so far!

Felt good and was a pretty good day today.
Pretty happy with my work day today - largely on top of my grading, assignments, and emails.
Hit 190 beats per minute (+5 PR) on #1,#3 paradiddles (drum practice) and learned fill #1 up to 80 bpm
Looked at part-time online teaching jobs a bit as a side hustle and identified one to apply to. I want to see if I can stack enough of those in one semester to achieve my financial goals.

This week my #1 goal is quitting porn before bed. I KNOW I have the ability to not watch porn tonight - onwards to that 2 day streak soon.

[3some2024]

No porn streak: 2 days so far!

Today is a good day (no work). Woke up, went to the gym, practiced drums. Got pretty frustrated at 175-185 bpm though, I'd like to not get frustrated even if I have trouble while practicing in the future. Not just for drums but life in general.

Going to work on my code a bit and then read while I fly.

This week my #1 goal is quitting porn before bed. I KNOW I have the ability to not watch porn tonight - onwards to that 3 day streak soon.

[3some2024]

No porn streak: 3 days so far!

Already worked on my code a bit today. Read a decent bit. Going to work on my code a bit more and prep rest of this semester + maybe next semester.

This week my #1 goal is quitting porn before bed. I KNOW that I have the ability to not watch porn tonight - onwards to that 4 day streak soon.

[ThePermanentFix]

You coding for anything particular man or just small problems for practice? Good job so far with the no porn

[3some2024]

No porn streak: 4 days so far!

Finished reading a book today and worked on my code a bit more.

This week my #1 goal is quitting porn before bed. I KNOW that I have the ability to not watch porn tonight. Onwards to that 5 day streak soon.

You coding for anything particular man or just small problems for practice? Good job so far with the no porn

Cheers mate. The idea is if I build my own code I can apply for grants, do consulting, maybe even license/sell it

[ThePermanentFix]

Yeah sweet, I was thinking of tackling coding/development after I get my CCNA and find some work. Networks (which is what I seem to enjoy so far) is heading quickly into automation and coding is just useful for basically all IT jobs.

[3some2024]

No porn streak: 5 days so far!

Did more reading than coding today. Pretty useful since I learned my code had two fundamental mistakes.

Been getting decent Tinder matches in Chicago the last few days but no replies and a few unmatched me after a day of inactivity. OLD is pretty boring ngl. I’ll keep grinding it tho.

This week my #1 goal is quitting porn before bed. I KNOW that I have the ability to not watch porn tonight. Onwards to the 6 day streak.

coding is just useful for basically all IT jobs.

Yeah anywhere there can be software. I founded a cybersecurity company last year. Network security is rapidly growing field and I’m bullish on quantum computing / PQC.

[3some2024]

No porn streak: 6 days so far!

Was flying basically all day. Extra three hours from a delay which blew. Only three hour timechange but feel super jetlagged.
Still worked on my code a bit - mostly read.
Also google'd about having a 3some - and came up largely blank.
Andy's coaching page looked pretty gold. Will look at the vids later.

After tonight I'll have accomplished my no porn goal. For this upcoming week my goal is to spend 15+ minutes per day reflecting on concretely how to have a 3some in 2024. Ideally come up with what I should prep in the following weeks and also decide on the prioritization and how exactly I want to go about finding two girls.

This week my #1 goal is quitting porn before bed. I KNOW that I have the ability to not watch porn tonight. Onwards to mission success.

[ThePermanentFix]

Preemptive grats on the 1 week streak and hitting the goal. You gonna try and continue it indefinitely?

[3some2024]

No porn streak: 7 days so mission ACCOMPLISHED!
How-to-have-a-3some reflection: 1 day streak achieved.

Summary of my 3some reflection:
There are five ways that I can think of to have a 3some:
1. Have a gf/partner use Tinder etc to find a 3rd (Andy's method)
2. Have a gf/partner and we find a 3rd at a bar/club/beach/cruise/comic-con/etc
3. Have two casual partners and introduce them to each other
4. Take two girls home from a bar/club/beach/cruise/comic-con/etc
5. Become a porn producer / cameraman / etc.

#5 should be the easiest to find girls that are down. Would probably have to move to Vegas and figure out a lot logistically on the legal side. I'm considering this as my safety net. If I don't manage a 3some by #1-#4 by Nov 1st 2024 (or some deadline), I might switch to this method.

#4 I'd expect to be the hardest. However, it would be the most badass way to accomplish it. I think it'd require me to really max myself out along one or more dimension so great impetus for improvement. However, it might be hard to accomplish within a year. I'm doing physical therapy on my ankle/hip so I don't know if I'll get a chad body in time. I'll think more about this tomorrow probably.

#1 is second easiest and a bit more legit than #5. Any of #1-#3 sound possibly do-able but I'd have to revamp my Tinder etc. and I don't know if I'll really find any girls to date even until I move. I've been here for four months now and had 3 dates, none of them above my hotness threshold.

This week my #1 goal is reflecting on how to have a 3some. I KNOW that I have the ability to spend 15 minutes reflecting on paper tomorrow. Onwards to that two day streak.

Preemptive grats on the 1 week streak and hitting the goal. You gonna try and continue it indefinitely?

Definitely not indefinitely. But there has to be a positive reason (such as related to #5 above) for me to pick it up again. Or at least I need to do so in a way that doesn't hurt my sleep or goals.

[Holden]

You're talking about a threesome but how's your sex life in general?

The only way I've found to do it consistently is to bring two girls together that I've been seeing individually for a while. But for that, you need success with women in general first

"I don't know if I'll really find any girls to date even until I move. I've been here for four months now and had 3 dates, none of them above my hotness threshold."

Sounds like your time would be better spent building up a sex life first. If you have a consistent flow of women into your life threesomes come almost by themselves, but if you have less than 1 date per month it's not going to happen unless you're extremely lucky.

[3some2024]

How-to-have-a-3some reflection: 2 day streak achieved.

Summary of my 3some reflection:
I realized a lot of things today even before the dedicated reflection time.
1. Taking two girls from an anime convention sounds like the most fun. I'd need to have one badass outfit - or even better a ton of them. The plus side is that I'd be set for Halloween too. It'd be fun to go all out dressing up for St Patrick's day, Cinco de Mayo etc too. To test what's a top outfit I could use feedback from IG/Tiktok etc. Then I'd also learn how to build elite socials. The downside is all this would take a while to get elite at.

2. Taking two girls home after drumming would be ideal to work towards, because I'm learning drums anyway, so I might as well add fuel to the flame. It'd be a fun excuse to travel on the weekend for gigs too. Might make some money as well. Downside is it will take a while to get elite at it.

3. If I really make it a top priority, I bet I can find a way to heal up and build an ideal body.

4. I can work on being non-stop witty/funny/eloquent/flirty during my lectures - since I have to give them anyway. And students prefer a funny/witty lecture to a dry one.

5. I probably can build up a sex life in this small town if I really prioritize it. I just need to become a regular with a server/bartender and ask them out by the third or fifth appearance or something. If they bf then switch venues, rinse, wash, repeat.

The LEAST procrastination possible is via #5 above (basically what @Holden was saying, which is also Andy's method).

So the remainder of my reflection I started to try to picture how success would happen / what it would look like. I haven't fleshed that out much. But my challenge for myself tomorrow is to go to Birdie's and flirt with one of the hostesses. They're complete bitches and that bar is a dud but they're attractive and if I somehow get banned it really doesn't matter, so it'll be a good practice round.

My #1 goal for this week is to reflecting on how to have a 3some. I KNOW that I have the ability to spend 15 minutes reflecting on paper tomorrow. Onwards to that 3 day streak.

My challenge for tomorrow is to walk up to one of the hostesses at Birdie's when I'm first walking in and say "What's cooking good lookin?" with a goofy smile or better a smirk and WINK at her. My heart is already pounding so if I even just deliver the line without ideal body-language execution I'll still count it as a win - for tomorrow at least. Basically no matter what she says I'll ideally follow up with "really?! I'm shocked. I thought for sure you'd rattle off the full menu from memory for me." As for what follows that I'll have to keep thinking. I KNOW that I have the ability to say that line to the hostess. And if it's a male hostess I still have to fuckin say it for practice - I guess I'd pretend to be gay. And if the hostess isn't there I'll say it to the bartender. And if that bar is closed for a private event tomorrow...I'll go to connor's and say it to one of the bartenders I guess. Even though none of them are attractive. We're all friendly so it'd probably be easier anyways. I KNOW that I have the ability to accomplish this challenge tomorrow. Wish me luck gents.

[pancakemouse]

There is a meme around here of guys that join the forum with the goal of a "threesome." Generally it means that they read Andy's content, picked the flashiest/coolest-sounding thing and decided to run with it. As far as I know not a single one of these guys has actually achieved this goal.

I'll echo the question again, hoping for an actual answer this time: how is your sex life, and what is your history with women?

Your latest post shows that you have a questionable understanding of what is required to even have sex with one woman, let alone make it happen with two.

My suggestion would be to rename your account and log, ditch the threesome idea, and focus on an achievable goal.

[Olafsmash]

My challenge for tomorrow is to walk up to one of the hostesses at Birdie's when I'm first walking in and say "What's cooking good lookin?" with a goofy smile or better a smirk and WINK at her.

This has to be a troll lmao but i like it. Goodluck.