Manga 🇰🇷: October Update

[Manganiello]

How I measured up against todays plan:
- Get to work at 6:45am (Miss - 7am)
- Consume 1400 calories (Done - 1385)
- Talk to 10-15 girls (Done - 16 girls)
- Leave work at 4:30 (Done - left at 4pm)

Now for the approaches
I did 3.5 days today... but it should be noted, these are all days I've completed earlier and I'm just trying to gauge where I'm at in the program (anxiety-wise) so I know where to resume.
So you'll notice me skip ahead on 3 of the days but that's because they were mind-numbingly easy.

Day 8, did one rep it was hard to start, but easy to do once I did it.
Day 9, Easy, Jumped right to the last rep of the day, had 0 problem with it.
Day 10, Harder - partly because I felt like the question I was asking was 'dumb'. But I did a full set of it, and it was kind of stupidly easy again. Talked to a girl who was actually super cool, and attractive too.

Day 11 - Decided to slow down here and do the whole thing:
Set 1
- Girl 1: Talked to 2 cute girls, was easy and simple.
- Girl 2: Talked to another attractive girl, easy, great response (wanted to continue the conversation, but I moved on)
- Girl 3: Talked to 2 girls in a store again, this was easy, response was great.
- Girl 4: Super nice, I was taken back on how nice she was, sometimes you can just feel how nice someone is. felt this way with here. She was cool.

Set 2:
- Girl 1: Easy
- Girl 2: Nice again, I felt some resistance talking to her because she was walking away from me, but I did it anyway.
- Girl 3: Talked to a girl working at a store, she wasn't attractive and honestly her response sucked too (whatever).
- Girl 4: Hottest girl I talked to all day, I had to follow her for like 10 seconds to finally get in a place where she could see me and I could say hello. She was cool.

Set 3:
- Girl 1: Easy
- Girl 2: I felt my energy waning, talked to her, it was ok. But I didn't ask for the time so I actually went back a 2nd time and asked her for the time.
That;s were I left off.


Overall
That was seriously the most fun I've had in months. That was such a rush. I felt so good after doing it and driving home. Like it was seriously a fucking high.
I loved how attractive the girls I talked to were.
I also loved how well the girls responded.

Last time I did this i was 20 lbs heavier, so I wonder if that's contributing to the good responses. It was for sure noticeable how much better the responses were now vs. 20 lbs ago.

[Manganiello]

How I executed on my plan today:
- Zoom Call w/Tim Grover (Done - it was ok)
- Start work at 7am (7:10)
- Leave work at 4:30 (Done)
- Talk to 6-10 girls (done)
- Eat 1400 calories (done)

Day 12: continued from yesterday
Set 3:
Girl 3 - Holy fucking hell these 2 girls were hot. Did not expect to find hot girls in the part of town I was in.
Girl 4 - meh wasn;t easy, wasn't hard. I think I was just tired.

Set 4:
Girl 1 - Saw me walking up to me and wanted to look away, pretty easy.
Girl 2 - Stores were getting dead around this time, only girl by herself was working.
Girl 3 - Nice lady who i had to say "hey" to 3x to get her attention.

Overall:
I think my schedule was to blame for this day. I had a Zoom call right at 6pm, and that made me start approaches at 7pm, and by that time I was tirreeed.

[Manganiello]

Today's plan
- Start work at 7 (done)
- Talk to 13-17 girls (done - 21)
- Eat 1400 calories (done)

AA - Day 13 - Nice Wine/Job Promotion




Summary:
-- Accidentally talk to 20 girls instead of 16.
-- Got some serious momentum going, talked to 12 girls in 5 minutes or so.
-- Stalled hard on the last 2 girls. Very hard, probably looked like a weirdo n how I did it (but if anything, that's ok)
-- Mostly cute girls today, went to a good spot.
-- Lockdown is still on (but most stores are still open)
-- I'm finding the added time pressure of having only about a 90 minutes of time where people are actually in the mall, makes me do drills quicker.

-- Next up is ABC's...

[Manganiello]

- Get to work at 6:45am (7:00am)
- Eat & log 1400 calories (1500)
- Talk to 4-12 girls today (done - 7)

Day 17 - ABCs

Video:


Summary:
- Good god man, not an easy drill.
- Huge Respect to anybody who's completed this program
- Most awkward I've felt in years
- Sung to 7 girls in 2 hours. (surprised I even got that far tbh)
- Most girls were uncomfortable, 1 girl found it funny. (the cutest one too)
- Going to redo this drill

Does something happen in life where everyone just becomes boring?
- All the older people were freaking weird about me singing.

Open to recommendations to how to get past these hard(er) days

[lexluther_999]

I am just wondering what you were singing.
Do you think that any of the tasks on the programm can be integrated in a plausible context of communication in order to prevent awkwardness or is the awkwardness the butter and bread of the approach anxiety?

[Adam]

Dude, I just want to say good for you going through that Approach Anxiety program. From what you described, it seems like it hits on every one of my social nightmares. I'm hoping to go through it myself once I complete some higher-priority goals. It's one of those things I'm afraid of, so I should do it if only to overcome the fear of it.

[Thebastard]

From what I recall on GLL, the guys who vlogged their AA program journeys were the ones who killed it.

[Manganiello]

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I am just wondering what you were singing.
Do you think that any of the tasks on the programm can be integrated in a plausible context of communication in order to prevent awkwardness or is the awkwardness the butter and bread of the approach anxiety?

Not really, it's bread and butter. The whole point is to feel the awkwardness just enough to be able to conquer it. I'm not done the whole thing yet, but the awkwardness DOES go away. It's like riding a bike/driving a car for the first time--- the nervousness goes away after awhile.

it seems like it hits on every one of my social nightmares. I'm hoping to go through it myself once I complete some higher-priority goals. It's one of those things I'm afraid of, so I should do it if only to overcome the fear of it.

Yeah do it man. I'm like only 1/3 through the program and I can say my self-confidence is much higher.


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From what I recall on GLL, the guys who vlogged their AA program journeys were the ones who killed it.

Thanks man, that adds fuel to the fire.

[Manganiello]

Eat 1400 Calories (done - 1300)
Talk to 12 girls (Done - 14)

DAY 13 - ABCs (Round Two)

Video:



Summary:
- I felt like THE MAN. Fucking Amazing Day
- Sung ABCs to one girl in front of 30+ people, definitely had the ALL-EYES ON ME feel.
- Most Reactions were quite bad (Few girls walked away on me when I was singing)
- Last 2 girls had really nice reactions.
- Totally worth it.

Lessons:
- Some people will just give bad reactions (That's ok because after a certain point there's not much I can do about it.)
- My job is to enjoy myself FIRST. How people respond is up to them.
- Thought: "Most people live boring lives following other people's rules, where nothing exciting happens."
- Reading predecessors's AA logs was really helpful. For this day.

Thank you to everyone watching/reading/posting on this thread, it gave me extra motivation throughout the drills.

Still lots more to do.

[Giles]

Epic dude! Congrats... I've already read many times this day is quite hard!

[Manganiello]

Epic dude! Congrats... I've already read many times this day is quite hard!

Thanks man. I was legit afraid of this day, but it was actually fun the 2nd try at it.

[Thebastard]

All the memories are coming back reading this. I am proud of you man. I want to see you get to week 8+

[Manganiello]

Today
- Fixed Tire (done)
- Had to figure some stuff out for taxes (mostly done - yay)

Day 18b - Do you like my shirt?

Video:


Summary:
- Short day today (8 done)
- Really easy compared to ABCs
- I'm noticeably not as emotionally affected by bad reactions.
- Mostly good reactions/complements about the shirt

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@Thebastard

I appreciate that dude, thanks. lol I don't want to know what's on week 8

[Manganiello]

Day 18b - Shirt




Summary:
- Easy to do
- Mostly confused reactions from girls (Why are you asking me this?)
- 12 girls in 16 minutes or so.


Day 19a - Justin Bieber




Summary:
- Did 6 out of 16 drills, more of a time thing than difficulty... that being said,
- Opening with "Hey, how's it going?" vs. "Do you have the time?" Makes this drill harder.
- For some not asking for the time is harder... even though most girls responded quite well
- Found myself in my head more, and more situations had resistance
- Still quite doable,
- The Bieber part is easy tho
- I think every girl found the Bieber reference funny.



Lessons:
- Splitting the day up and trying to 1.5 days or just 0.5 of one day, and then 0.5 of another - does not work well.
- I find just having the sole purpose of my day to finish day 17, or day 18, or whatever day MUCH easier.
- Not ending the approaching session after completing 1 completed day doesn't seem to motivate me as much.




Other habits/goals
- Get to work at 6:45am (6:55)
- Eat 1400 calories (1800)
- Follow Skincare and teeth routine (done)
- Talk to CRA (Tax agency) (done).

[nipple-flip]

good shit dude. keep on the path