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3/2/2021
Here's the photo dump of all the pics I took today, Shot on burst so hella of the same pic with tiny variations. messed around with f/stop, lighting from the window, and different poses. I think maybe 4 total are ones that I like. I feel like I wanted the light to hit my iris better so that the color of my eye could be seen better but it looks like I wasn't able to catch it. Phone app is kind of hard to use, and it doesn't really show the same color as what is caputred on the camera. Really need to tether it to a laptop or something for better viewing. May need to get a remote, but ill try with that I got so far.

https://photos.app.goo.gl/oi7jqBK63uiEpk9b6 <- all 170ish raw unedited pics

4885, 4892,4893,4881 are my top pics right now
4864 - Only the pose is nice, not looking in the right direction.

https://photos.app.goo.gl/X4hgiyK5ehumkJCX7
^ these are my top pics

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I've been doing the GLL AA program for about 2 weeks now with some breaks in days because of life. Going to record my log here as well. Manganiello Suggested this to me because everyone here seems chill and active on the forums.

Day 7

Time, Leave
Time, Directions, Leave
Time, Directions, Have you been there?, Leave
Repeat this 5 times today, you will speak to 15 girls in total.

Today surprisingly wasn't particularly that difficult. Got in there and asked the first girl for the time. Had to walk around for a little bit because the mall is pretty barren because of covid. But I saw 2 cute Asian girls and went right up to them and asked for the time and then left like instructed. After that the other approaches were not difficult either. Asking for time is relatively easy now since I've had only 1 bad reaction out of the like 30 or so girls I've approached in the past week or so. Not sure if because of masks but when I approach and ask for the time some girls will respond with an odd answer like "I don't work here." Maybe its just a deflecting question because I'm a stranger? This has probably happened like 3 or 4 times so far. After I clarify that I just want the time and some directions the girls don't mind to give me a response.

Best interaction with no anxiety today was the hottest girl I approached. Saw her come in the shop, thought to myself I'm gunna approach, and then got in there. She did the same thing where she answered with an odd response other then what the time is. But after I clarified I'm pretty sure her body language was suggesting she was into me. But since I'm a noob at this I'm not familiar with what to do next. All of the other interactions were pretty straight forward and nothing else interesting to report really. Might have to go a little farther away to the higher class mall where more chicks are shopping so i don't waste a bunch of time in an almost empty mall.


day 8


I only had about 20 minutes before work to do the drill. I tried to get out of the house before work but on my 30min walk there were literally no girls that i ran into.
Girl 1: First girl I saw I walked right up to her, asked the time, left.
Girl 2: Had headphones in. Still got her attention and asked the time. Then asked where I could get a coffee. She responded nicely. I maybe was feeling rushed or confident, but i asked the next question of if she's been there, and then i also asked if she liked it. Interaction went well with no problems. She genuinely seemed like she was trying to help me out.
Girl 3: Was walking away. Got her attention asked for the time. She kept walking but pulled out her phone and gave me the time. She was like 15 ft away so i didn't keep following to continue the questions.
Girl 4: Not sure if this counts but there's an acute girl I work with. I felt extremely more comfortable talking to her. Normally I'm timid around her but today I was a lot more chatty. Also gave her a compliment on her nails. She seemed to like the compliment and was also a little more talkative with me as well.

Overall the 3 interactions went well and I really felt little to no anxiety. It's nice to see success from something so little. Not even a week ago would I have thought I could approach a hot girl and ask anything without feeling weird.

Going to continue tomorrow


I definitely see the increase in confidence from just this small amount of exposure. Also I'm excited to continue with the program. Each day is like a challenge and I'm starting to enjoy approaching, Its fun just throwing urself out there and talking to hot girls who I never would have in the past.

Day 8b

Girl 1: Approached the first girl I saw and got in there. Asked the time and left no problem
Girl 2: Asked time, she was talking on the phone so she gave it to ne and continued walking. couldn't ask for directions
Had some anxiety walking around looking for the next girl
Girl 3: Asked time, asked for a coffee shop near by, asked if she had been there. No real issues. But she responded that she hadn't been there, so i didn't continue the convo.
girl 4: Asked time, Girl was on the phone but still gave me the time and continued walking. Didnt really wanna interrupt her phone conversation
girl 5: asked the time, asked for directions for a coffee shop. Said she didn't know

There was one girl who I let pass by. I think I need new glasses/contacts because sometimes its hard for me to judge from a distance if a chick is one who I would like to approach.

This was all the time I had before work, but I still tried my best. I feel like the limited time makes me more motivated to approach. The pressure is good cuz I don't have time to bitch out.
Last edited by Toast on Wed Apr 14, 2021 10:39 pm, edited 12 times in total.
Small Goals :
180 by the end of April - Current weight 185 :)
Take better pictures for tinder/hinge
Eat ~1700 calories per day - Going well so far

Big Goals:
[ ]Weigh in at 175 or Get abs to show
[ ]Get laid 5 times by the end of 2021

[ ]Update style - Going well so far

Completed:
185 by the end of March
Beat AA by March 30
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Location: SF/ Bay Area

Sun Feb 07, 2021 12:12 am

Day 8c

Girl 1: Older Asian Lady. Walked straight up to her asked the time. no hesitation because she wasn't really that attractive at all.
Girl 2: Cute chick outside of Trader joes. Asked time, asked if she knew where to get a coffee. she pointed to trader joes which was right next door. Asked if she had been, but kind of felt silly because she had grocery bags from trader joes. Then left feeling a little silly
Girl 3: Cute Indian chick. Asked time, asked for a nearby coffee shop. She said Petes. Asked if she had been there. then asked if she like it. She responded nicely throughout the whole interaction.

I think ima call it here for day 8. May not have hit the 15 girl total but this type of interaction isn't really anxiety inducing anymore. Knowing that responses generally go the same without a problem really removes the anxiety from approaching girls for this drill.
Small Goals :
180 by the end of April - Current weight 185 :)
Take better pictures for tinder/hinge
Eat ~1700 calories per day - Going well so far

Big Goals:
[ ]Weigh in at 175 or Get abs to show
[ ]Get laid 5 times by the end of 2021

[ ]Update style - Going well so far

Completed:
185 by the end of March
Beat AA by March 30
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Name: George
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 26
Motto: Consistency is key
Location: Boston

Sun Feb 07, 2021 1:13 am

This is great man keep it up and keep us posted
Goals:
Continue working on posing and taking pictures
Take a gym photo with a legit camera
Take some social photos
Smile more for some photos
Get a dog picture
See if I can get a better version of any current pictures
Ramp up on the apps - 100-200 messages per weekend on hinge preferred and more boosts on tinder

Still make wardrobe additions, keep working on physique, etc.
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Name: Brandon
Goal: $100/week more
Age: 30
Motto: Embrace your dark side.
Location: Calgary

Sun Feb 07, 2021 2:17 am

Nice work Toast, keep it up man
Current Goals
1a. Get a place under 8min walk to multiple cafes/bars and make $80 post-tax surplus each week.
1b. Secure stable $100/week extra income without going over 45hrs of work each week.
2a. Eat 1400 to 1600cal each week.

Completed Goals: AA program
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Location: SF/ Bay Area

Tue Feb 09, 2021 1:57 am

Day 9a

Today seemed easier then the previous day, even though the drills were basically the same. I dressed nicely when I went out so maybe that had something to do with my confidence. Only had 30 or so minuets before work so I made the best of the time I had. Also wore contacts today, just to try and get used to wearing them again. I also got the risers for my boots, so I was walking around at 6ft tall 8-)

Girl 1: Just a passing by girl, but the first one I saw. Asked for the time, then left.
Girl 2: Just from a glance when I approached her I could tell it wouldn't go well. She just had this look in her eyes. Asked if she the time. She said no. I moved on. no need to push the conversation if she was not receptive.
Girl 3: Blue hair chick, not really attractive but on a Monday at 2pm not as much to pick and choose from before work in my area. Asked time, she seemed surprised that I approached. Had to clarify I needed the time, then asked if she had eaten somewhere near by. Said she hadn't.
Girl 4: Glasses blondie, kind of cute. Got her attention because she was wearing headphones. Asked the time, asked if she had eaten at the Mexican place near by. She said she had like a year ago. Asked if she liked it, said its been so long she couldn't remember. She seemed happy to converse and answer my questions.
Girl 5: Older blond with a lazy eye I noticed after approaching. Had to walk walk out of my way to approach. She seemed a little off but that I like went out of my way to approach. Asked the time. She gave it to me and then I left.
Girl 6: Cute Asian chick that was leaving the bank. Got her attention because she had headphones. Asked the time. She told me and as she was was turning away, i asked if she had eaten at a nearby restaurant, she said no. Then I left.
Girl 7: This was the best interaction of all of them. Really cute girl with pink hair, pink eyeshadow and sparkly eye makeup. She was lookin pretty bored on her phone sitting at a table. I walked up and got her attention because she had headphones in. Asked the time. She told me. Then I decided to compliment her on her makeup just because I felt like it. She received the compliment really well and looked really happy afterwards. continued with the drill, no problems with the rest of the interaction. She definitely seemed like someone I could have kept talking to. Was definitely my type as well.

I can feel the anxiety of approaching girls for these drills going away. This drill was fun and I felt like I was literally on the hunt looking for any girl in the area to run the drill. Most girls I've approached in a few days in the shortest amount of time. The bad interaction in the beginning didn't even phase me in the slightest. And the last interaction was awesome as well.
Small Goals :
180 by the end of April - Current weight 185 :)
Take better pictures for tinder/hinge
Eat ~1700 calories per day - Going well so far

Big Goals:
[ ]Weigh in at 175 or Get abs to show
[ ]Get laid 5 times by the end of 2021

[ ]Update style - Going well so far

Completed:
185 by the end of March
Beat AA by March 30
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Joined: Fri Jun 05, 2020 2:25 am
Name: Brandon
Goal: $100/week more
Age: 30
Motto: Embrace your dark side.
Location: Calgary

Tue Feb 09, 2021 2:10 am

You're making good progress man. The compliments aren't til Week 5. Good stuff. Best part about these drills are talking to the hot girls.
Current Goals
1a. Get a place under 8min walk to multiple cafes/bars and make $80 post-tax surplus each week.
1b. Secure stable $100/week extra income without going over 45hrs of work each week.
2a. Eat 1400 to 1600cal each week.

Completed Goals: AA program
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Toast
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Joined: Thu Feb 04, 2021 12:31 am
Name: Devin
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 28
Motto: It's all a Mindset!
Location: SF/ Bay Area

Tue Feb 09, 2021 2:39 am

Manganiello wrote:
Tue Feb 09, 2021 2:10 am
Best part about these drills are talking to the hot girls.
Thanks man. I definitely agree with this. Hot girls are great!
Small Goals :
180 by the end of April - Current weight 185 :)
Take better pictures for tinder/hinge
Eat ~1700 calories per day - Going well so far

Big Goals:
[ ]Weigh in at 175 or Get abs to show
[ ]Get laid 5 times by the end of 2021

[ ]Update style - Going well so far

Completed:
185 by the end of March
Beat AA by March 30
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Toast
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Joined: Thu Feb 04, 2021 12:31 am
Name: Devin
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 28
Motto: It's all a Mindset!
Location: SF/ Bay Area

Thu Feb 11, 2021 8:05 am

Been a couple days since I posted cuz I went snowboarding. Tons of fun. Definitely can see the effects of the AA program. I really had no hesitation talking to anyone or just saying hi to people.
One interesting interaction with a cute girl was when a cute blonde was snowboarding by. She kind of got stuck near my group and I just casually said hi and talked with her for a bit as she passed. My friends girlfriend even noticed that I had no hesitation saying hi and making the Blonde smile with whatever I said. Its cool that other people are noticing that my confidence has gone up. Feels good.

Gunna start back up with the drills tomorrow, and also gunna get my photographer friend to help with some nice profile
Small Goals :
180 by the end of April - Current weight 185 :)
Take better pictures for tinder/hinge
Eat ~1700 calories per day - Going well so far

Big Goals:
[ ]Weigh in at 175 or Get abs to show
[ ]Get laid 5 times by the end of 2021

[ ]Update style - Going well so far

Completed:
185 by the end of March
Beat AA by March 30
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Name: Bill
Goal: Social freedom
Age: 25
Motto: The key to life is progressive overload:

Thu Feb 11, 2021 9:33 am

Hey Toast, I'm going to comment on your older stuff that I'm caught up with because I'm choosing not to look at the drills ahead of time. Makes it a bit more fun/manageable.
Toast wrote:
Sat Feb 06, 2021 1:03 am
There was one girl who I let pass by. I think I need new glasses/contacts because sometimes its hard for me to judge from a distance if a chick is one who I would like to approach.
Seems like it'd be a lot easier to just ask the first girl you see, no matter what. No thought/judgment required. Get in there! Let's do this
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Thu Feb 11, 2021 7:31 pm

sundleboro wrote:
Thu Feb 11, 2021 9:33 am
Seems like it'd be a lot easier to just ask the first girl you see, no matter what. No thought/judgment required. Get in there! Let's do this
I definitely agree with this, but I tend to try and gravitate towards girls who I find more attractive because personally asking a grandma that passes by doesn't cause the same type of anxiety as a approaching a hot girl.
Small Goals :
180 by the end of April - Current weight 185 :)
Take better pictures for tinder/hinge
Eat ~1700 calories per day - Going well so far

Big Goals:
[ ]Weigh in at 175 or Get abs to show
[ ]Get laid 5 times by the end of 2021

[ ]Update style - Going well so far

Completed:
185 by the end of March
Beat AA by March 30
User avatar
Toast
Posts: 261 | Thanks: 162
Joined: Thu Feb 04, 2021 12:31 am
Name: Devin
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 28
Motto: It's all a Mindset!
Location: SF/ Bay Area

Fri Feb 12, 2021 11:40 pm

Day 9b

Today was pretty chill. Mild anxiety when approaching the first girl but after that it was easy. Not much to really report for today as I was just finishing the tail end of day 9. One interaction I was happy with was a girl who was crossing the street. I stopped her in the middle of the crosswalk and did the drill. Generally I feel like approaching in the middle of the street is going to be received poorly but this woman was kind and answered my questions no problem. We didn't stand in the middle of the street I approached and then we walked and talked for a bit.
Small Goals :
180 by the end of April - Current weight 185 :)
Take better pictures for tinder/hinge
Eat ~1700 calories per day - Going well so far

Big Goals:
[ ]Weigh in at 175 or Get abs to show
[ ]Get laid 5 times by the end of 2021

[ ]Update style - Going well so far

Completed:
185 by the end of March
Beat AA by March 30
User avatar
Toast
Posts: 261 | Thanks: 162
Joined: Thu Feb 04, 2021 12:31 am
Name: Devin
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 28
Motto: It's all a Mindset!
Location: SF/ Bay Area

Sun Feb 14, 2021 12:17 am

Day 10
Time, Leave (talk to very first girl you see; DONT let her slip by)
Time, Do you know if there is a movie theater near here?, Leave
Time, Do you know if there is a movie theater near here?, Have you seen any good movies lately?, Leave

Finally completed a day in one go!
One of the girls at work even said I looked nice today. (Even though I was dressed in my "Dad" outfit lol) Nice confidence booster right before doing the drills.

Today was relatively easy. Gave myself some extra time before work to walk around. Just about an 45 min. No real hesitation approaching the first girl I saw, and infact it was a group of 3 girls that I had to approach. The interactions were pretty standard. Asking the time, no problem. Asking the time and about the theater, pretty chill.

3rd part of the drill was a little more challenging. One girl I stopped as she was walking by and was startled that I even said hello to get her attention. Pretty funny reaction. I don't think I was being aggressive, probably just caught her off guard. Light hearted apology and then asked if she knew where a theater was, She said no. Then asked if she said she had seen a movie lately. She again said no. She was not being standoffish at all, I think she was probably just a shy girl whos never really been approached before.

Another girl I approached I kind of went off script a little bit. asked if she had seen a movie recently and she had to think a bit, but gave a response. Then I asked if she liked it, and she was happy to respond. IDK why i asked that, maybe just natural flow of the conversation. Overall it was a good reaction.

A common response to "is there a theater nearby" was either i dont know. Or yah but its closed. Which kind of threw me off. Sticking to the drill helped me continue the conversation and not get thrown off script.

One girl I asked the time for said she didn't have it. just brushed it off and on to the next one.

Lessons from today
Responses are pretty predictable after the first drill
Stick to the script, and I wont become flustered by an irregular response.
Small Goals :
180 by the end of April - Current weight 185 :)
Take better pictures for tinder/hinge
Eat ~1700 calories per day - Going well so far

Big Goals:
[ ]Weigh in at 175 or Get abs to show
[ ]Get laid 5 times by the end of 2021

[ ]Update style - Going well so far

Completed:
185 by the end of March
Beat AA by March 30
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Location: SF/ Bay Area

Mon Feb 15, 2021 1:13 am

Day 11



Time, Leave (talk to very first girl you see; DONT let her slip by)
Time, Is there a place that sells cell phones around here?, Leave
Time, Is there a place that sells cell phones around here?, What phone do you have?, Leave
Time, Is there a place that sells cell phones around here?, What phone do you have?, Do you like it? Leave
Repeat this 5 times today, you will speak to 20 girls in total.

Listened to the Audio clip on the drive over to the mall, and instead of getting hyped I got some anxiety. Idk y but I got over it and started the drills.

Today was a bit tougher then the last. Went to a different mall, lots of couples so it was harder to find girls on their own.

Still approached the first girl I saw now problem, but as the time went by it was getting a bit tougher. Still finished the drill but over all I'm not entirely impressed with the day today.
Asking the time is no problem as usual. Little bit of hesitation asking for a cellphone store. The dialogue kind of seems old to ask for a cellphone store lol.
One approach that I thought was notable was a girl I asked the time for and since we were standing next to the apple store I didn't proceed with the 2nd part of the drill.
I can definitely tell right off the bat when someone isn't really into the approach. Stopped a chick for the time, and then asked if somewhere sold a phone. She was very curt and didn't really make eye contact at all. Brushed it off and moved along.
Another notable interaction was a girl who at first didn't hear what I said. Then once I started asking the questions she was very happy to respond. What Chris said in the audio clip makes sense. If the girl thinks you look good she's just happy that an attractive guy is talking to her.
Also I noticed that at this mall there were a lot of Asian girls/Chinese girls who seem like they're either first born in America or straight from China. These girls are not nearly as receptive to approaches as Asian girls who grew up in America.
Today I was definitely in my own head more then the other days. Maybe because it was on my own time I felt like I could let girls pass because there was no time limit like when I do drills before work.

Lessons
Stick to the drills!
Don't take the bad reactions poorly.
Stop thinking so much and just focus on the drill.

Other Notable Things
Weighed in at 193.5 today. Going to try and eat as much as I did yesterday and not eat late as well
Work out went well. Tried to push my self more in the gym
Small Goals :
180 by the end of April - Current weight 185 :)
Take better pictures for tinder/hinge
Eat ~1700 calories per day - Going well so far

Big Goals:
[ ]Weigh in at 175 or Get abs to show
[ ]Get laid 5 times by the end of 2021

[ ]Update style - Going well so far

Completed:
185 by the end of March
Beat AA by March 30
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Manganiello
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Joined: Fri Jun 05, 2020 2:25 am
Name: Brandon
Goal: $100/week more
Age: 30
Motto: Embrace your dark side.
Location: Calgary

Mon Feb 15, 2021 6:06 am

Yeah man!
Glad your doing vlogs.

I had the same issue with valentines day, after about 30 minutes, I only saw 1 attractive girl (without a boyfriend) that I called cute.
You handled that "No" really well too sounds like.
Current Goals
1a. Get a place under 8min walk to multiple cafes/bars and make $80 post-tax surplus each week.
1b. Secure stable $100/week extra income without going over 45hrs of work each week.
2a. Eat 1400 to 1600cal each week.

Completed Goals: AA program
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Mon Feb 15, 2021 12:17 pm

Toast wrote:
Mon Feb 15, 2021 1:13 am
Listened to the Audio clip on the drive over to the mall, and instead of getting hyped I got some anxiety. Idk y but I got over it and started the drills.
I don't know why but I was feeling this too with this audio. Chris was going into some advanced stuff later on in the clip, thought it was kind of too early, kinda discouraging, and not great for an audio meant to hype you. Idk

Great job on the vlog and Day 11, my man
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