Thanks for this post bro, I know Aaron Clarey, he is funny as fuck and has had me howling in the past. However, he is too raw for me. I can't watch stuff like that, I avoid all content of that nature because I want to have children, it is so damn hard as it is without Aaron breaking down the economics of it all LOL. But seriously thanks for posting this was useful for me. Appreciate you.Sprezza wrote: ↑Wed Jul 28, 2021 11:55 amThat's true bro! Definitely a numbers game out there. If you want more statistics on this, I read an amusing book on the topic from Aaron Clarey (funny Youtuber) :As in, racking up 10s of thousands of approaches. Of those, maybe a small fraction will be receptive, and of those, an even smaller fraction will be women who are suitable for any form of genuine bond.
To summarize, the chance for average Joe finding a suitable partner is 1 out of 100 girls you DATE and also have in mind that those girls need to want you as a suitable partner as well. So let's say you find 20 of these girls and 1 one of them wants to be with you. To get to that number we assume you do get 10 dates for every 100 girls you approach. To get that 1 suitable partner, you simply have to approach 1000 girls. To increase the chance of finding a suitable partner that wants you, you'll have to approach about 20000 girls throughout your lifetime. If we assume that you look good between 30-40, divide 20000 approaches by 10 years you have to basically approach 5.48 ~6 girls per DAY or 38 girls per WEEK.
These are the numbers you have to play with bro. However, bear in mind this is for average JOE. If you work on yourself in all areas, your rate of success increases but you still got to approach.
BREAKING NEWS: Attractive guy gets treated like a human being.Holden wrote: ↑Wed Jul 28, 2021 12:19 pmArt girls who are into philosophy and literature. The last girl I fucked I had a great conversation with about music.Crisis_Overcomer wrote: ↑Wed Jul 28, 2021 7:47 amBut interesting and cool? Nah. I'd honestly want to hear a couple conversations young guys (less than 30) had with girls, that they considered cool. I bet they're confusing good energy with interesting.
I also love discussing evolutionary psychology with girls and getting their perspective on it.
Just joking of-course Holden, thanks for sharing your thoughts buddy. You do you.
Yeah, there are, to clarify my point, I know they exist, but they are soooooooo fleeting. Many of the good ones are taken, what I have personally seen out there in the dating market is pretty terrible man. But that's me, my own pool, which frankly doesn't have anyone in it LOL!SamJ_ wrote: ↑Wed Jul 28, 2021 12:47 pmWell there definitely are women out there who are decent humans and have interesting personalities. Most of them in fact. Like I said, ranting about your negative opinion of all women ain't gonna help you. Physical attraction is a different thing entirely. I'm honestly not sure why you're so determined to approach tens of thousands of women trying to hit on them if you're barely physically attracted. For me lust is the main driving factor for approaching (the interesting convos come later). If you have very little physical attraction for women and you don't like them as people either, why do you spend practically every waking moment thinking about them and dedicating your life to them? I just don't get it. Also in some of your posts u literally call women goddesses who you're lucky just to speak to. Then next post you call em bitches and say you're better than all of them. You switch back and forth from having an inferiority complex to a superiority complex and neither are healthy. Sorry if this sounds rude, I just woke up and am typing on my phone so I'm prob being more blunt.MakingAComeback wrote: ↑Wed Jul 28, 2021 7:30 am
Good point.
No, I don't anymore. I did when I was working in the office, but at the start of the covid pandemic, I changed jobs and worked purely remotely. The platonic friendships I did have from my previous job just dwindled over time as they tend to.
I understand your point, I will be honest, I need to work on this. It's clearly not a useful attitude and won't serve me.
To be completely honest: I find it very difficult to feel much for women. I don't feel much physical attraction full stop, I remember I used to years ago, but that stopped at around 28/29. I actually remember the month, lol. It was weird. As far as they are as people, many of the women I have known in my life were exceptionally disappointing. It has been a long time since I met one example of a woman who seemed interesting and basically decent as a human. I'm sure they probably feel the same way towards me, and it's fair enough.
I will try not to engage with this attitude and let it burrow any deeper, it's a challenge I face, but I will get over it like I got over other things in life.
MAC
Sure, see, we are at different stages in life. For me, it's very clear why: because I want to start a family. Unless you can have children without a woman, I don't have another choice. Can't adopt, that's not for me. Unless there is a technological breakthrough, will have to mass approach.
It's not rude, it's an excellent point and clearly true. My mind is pretty fucked Sam, have been through a lot of shit. I'm open about it. Never said I was anything other than a guy crawling up from the bottom. BTW, you can be as rude as you want - I respect your opinion and often you are able to offer very useful analysis. I am not offended by anyone Sam, grown ass man out here ;-)
MAC