The IronWill Project: Year 3 of MAC DADDY: Realising My Greatness (Passion Trumps EVERYTHING)

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Wed Dec 01, 2021 4:30 pm

Just had dinner. Will chill for an hour and watch stuff online. Then, will do bodyweight training, order new jeans (I’ve lost more weight and need new ones, go me!), will then watch a stimulating lecture on ancient civilisations and feed my brain. Will then spend an hour stretching and doing structural work. And I will finish off work 45mins of breathwork and light therapy.

Will do affirmations and visualisation before bed.

I have dates tomorrow and friday :D

Really hope the girl tomorrow, who sent me her num on Hinge, is a decent and nice person. She seems so lovely and I enjoyed her profile, she also geeks out on Lord of the Rings and likes 60s soul music (which I am into quite a lot). Will be very happy if we have a good time :-D

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Wed Dec 01, 2021 7:14 pm

MakingAComeback wrote:
Wed Dec 01, 2021 3:39 pm
(1) Cold Approach: 15 Girls (FAIL, went 0/6 in 1hr40 mins, began to rain and I went home)

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Approaches were all instant rejections, couldn't get past hi, apart from one girl who let me speak but was very unreceptive and pissed.
Looking forward to hearing your audio of these approaches, even if it's just the opener. Recording, listening to myself, and sending to wings and mentors to feedback was key to getting better at daygame for me.
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Wed Dec 01, 2021 7:35 pm

For sure man! I will record this and upload it tomorrow :D
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Wed Dec 01, 2021 7:42 pm

The hardest part of cold approach is negative emotions. Man its always the roughest. But persistent is better than just getting what you want and never developing that skill. Keep it up
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Wed Dec 01, 2021 8:50 pm

Thanks Jacob man, will keep grinding as always lol. I am really looking forward to the day when we've turned this around.

So the landlord will be meeting me and Timmy on Friday, we hope they like us, if they do, we are getting this apartment and life will get SO much better man. I will be back in the gym, on a comprehensive wellness regime with my nutritional approach laid out clearly. And I'll approach a tonne! Will do photos every month with Timmy and our boy Carl. Things will improve a lot man.

I am leaner, still need to lose more weight to get properly shredded, think it'll be a case of shredding another 20lbs tbh! But from there, we build up muscle and this will be a different type of story.

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Thu Dec 02, 2021 11:58 am

The Phoenix Project Week 4 / Day 14
02/11/2021

(1) OLD: 1hr Process
(2) Go on Date #7: Texted her now, she confirmed, and will before I leave. Really excited to meet her :)
(3) Other: Work, Core, BW Training, Cold Shower, Light Therapy, and DIVERSIONS

Hey gents.

Woke up today and noticed my mood was a bit lower. I have been stressing lately with The Phoenix Project, so in order to build myself back up today, I am going to be spending several hours doing psychologically diverting activity. Things like studying Spanish, reading books, stuff like that. This recentres the mind and totally brings stillness. This is important today, as I was working with a lot of adrenaline yesterday and did have panic attacks - not good! Slept well, dusted off, but must really engage my brain now.

No cold approach today. I'll go approach tomorrow. Today is about re-balancing the psyche and taking this lovely lady for a drink tonight which I am stoked for :-)

Tomorrow, Timmy and I meet the landlord, FINALLY - the landlord is so busy that I think if me and Timmy come across well, we should get a shot at getting this rental. She doesn't have much time to see people, so I THINK we'll be good.

Also, I will be going on a date tomorrow, so that'll be date #8 all things said man.

At that point, I will have accomplished my goal for my first year at KYIL. I lost a tonne of weight to not be obese anymore, and I would have gone from 0 dates to fucking 8! MAJOR ACHIVEMENT. FUCK.

I was so stressed lately my mood dipped, so today I will hammer my pyshce with stimulating mental input and bring myself back up.

I'm heading back to my hometown for the weekend, will check out the AirBNB and if all is well, I will have secured a rental for a year in Central London.

Thereafter, we really hammer it. I will put together an overall process / day diary for how I will deliver The Phoenix Project.


6 Core & Red Light Therapy (Say Affirmations)
630 Gym (The gym is a 7 minute walk from the rental we're looking at) & Audibook
745 Breakfast
815 Head Massage
830-12 Work
12 Cold Approach (4hrs)
4 Dinner / Head Massage
5 Diversion: Spanish / Light Therapy
6 Diversion: Guitar
7 OLD: 1hr Swiping, Boosts, Messaging, Liking, Etc (300-500 Profiles Liked on each app: Tinder, Bumble, Hinge) / Listen to Music
8 Diversion: Creative Writing
9 Diversion: Daily Vlogs of The Phoenix Project - Shoot & Upload (Unlisted Videos)
10 Read: Self Dev
1030 BED: Visualisations

That will be the basic process I will be executing 4 x a week.

Two days will be 'off' and will be composed of socialising with friends and just regenrating.

VICTORY MUST COME.

MAC
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Thu Dec 02, 2021 11:20 pm

Date 7 done.

She was sweet, nice gal, lovely person. But, she catfished. She was a bigger girl on her pics. IRL, she was a total fatty.

Saw her and my heart sank.

Had a great time on the date because she was a wicked person and I liked her personality. She was a great gal for sure. She did offer to buy me a drink, which was sweet, but I got the bill in the end. I tried to hold her hand at the end, which she shrugged off. Went for a kiss, she rebuffed and kissed my cheek.

Will text her thanking her for a great evening, because it was a great evening with a lovely lady. But she was very overweight and I was not attracted to her.

Wish her all the best, she will no doubt find a great dude, but it won't be me. I also am not sure she is interested, I did tell her I'd be up to see her again, and she said she would too. But yeah, I'm sure this will be a case of receiving a text in a few days saying 'i DiDnT fEeL aNy cOnNecTion?1!"

Is it likely this chick would have sex with me? No. Would I even want to? No.

So annoying going to lovely bars where there's guys sat there with lovely looking women and I am dating totally obese chicks every fucking time. Ugh.

Tomorrow, if the girl doesn't flake, it's date 8. She is a fatty and has a horrible personality. I am just doing this to get to date 8.

Thereafter, I will figure something out.

Not loving it really. But it's progress. If I keep levelling up, I have a chance at better women.

I still suck fucking shit. And that's alright. I will do what it takes to be better.

MAC
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Thu Dec 02, 2021 11:42 pm

MakingAComeback wrote:
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Tomorrow, if the girl doesn't flake, it's date 8. She is a fatty and has a horrible personality. I am just doing this to get to date 8.

Thereafter, I will figure something out.

Not loving it really. But it's progress. If I keep levelling up, I have a chance at better women.
I'm still going to push back on this.

What is the POINT of using these dates to achieve an arbitrary goal if it brings you nothing other than wasting your time and putting you in a bad mood?

Goals are supposed to progress you towards something. What is this accomplishing?

P. S. spotting secret internet fatties is a skill developed over many years of analysis. I'm very good at it. You can run photos past me next time if you want.
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Fri Dec 03, 2021 8:42 am

Yooo!

Gents, I am confronting some deep fears and insecurities and clearly stuff deep inside is resurfacing, stuff that I don't even remember clearly, but it all churns in the subconscious and can make us unhappy.

This stuff will heal in time.

When I make a commitment, I must follow through. We said 8 dates by the end of 2021, and I am SO close. I MUST BE HAPPY ABOUT THAT.

I will make it one day gents, will keep pushing and will keep healing.

I understand your points. Yes, I am probably at some level making myself miserable. I will push back on one thing tho: I am working on getting another shoot done, because hammering online dating every day just gives me a spattering of a handful of very overweight and undesirable women. That is kinda where I am at, and what I'm working with right now, if I don't accept that I have to lower my standards and perhaps be a bit sad for a while, I will not make progress. Approaching girls in clubs, instant rejections all night. Approaching in the day, instant rejections all day. Just understand that is where I am at and because of that, I am going to have to drop my standards for as long as it takes....

This is the reality guys. More time passing and more levelling up will have to occur to be better. That's life.

Not making incremetal progress is NOT an option and I don't care how I feel, if I feel like hell and am damn near about to lose it, it's FAR better than not moving forward and letting life pass me by. That is the greatest fear of them all, going to my grave like this.

Plus, about 15-20lbs ago, I was a fatty myself, so I was stoked I could get any date. Now, my body does not look too bad. It's not shredded yet, but it'll get there. ~200lbs from 246.8lbs is good man, being a super tall fellow, I don't look awful anymore. Not that I look good, but we only need t be above average, and I can get there with work.

You'll just have to bear with me.

The Phoenix Project Week 4 / Day 15

(1) Cold Approach 15 Girls In 3hrs
(2) OLD: 1hr Process
(3) Go On Date #8
(4) Other: Work, Light Therapy, Cold Shower, Landlord Meeting

Fingers crossed the landlord likes us, we pass the credit checks, and we get this place...........

Running Totals:
Cold Approaches: 51
Numbers: 0
Dates: 4 (+1)
Sexual Encounters: 0

(Overall dates: 7.
Goal for 2021: 8)

MAC
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Fri Dec 03, 2021 4:08 pm

(1) Cold Approach 15 Girls In 3hrs (Fail, said hi to 5 girls in 3hrs)

Very extreme panic attacks all the time, horrific trauma responses, felt like I was being tortured to be honest.

Clearly, when it comes to women, I am traumatised to the bone.

But even through 3 hours of very hellish approach anxiety, my mind breaking me into a million pieces, I did somehow find the strength to say hi to 5 girls. "Hi, I just wanted to say hi, it's something I'm working on" - then got the fuck out of there as I was incandescent with emotion, rage, hatred, bitterness, resentment, the ugliness shit you can imagine.

Again, such is dealing with a huge amount of wounding from women. I didn't as for it, but I am a man, and I will bear it. It is a coward who does not confront his dragon. Face the dragon, get the gold.

If I am in AA hell for the next 10 years, so be it. I will be out on the streets as much as I possibly can be just breaking this down and healing myself. I cannot allow this situation to continue without attacking it as viciously as I possibly can.

The women were VERY cunty and rude today. Totally fine btw, they do not have to talk to anyone they do not want to. No problem.

That's all I can share. I will just keep working. Will stay the course,

Off on a date with a right fatty tonight. That will be date 8.

I'll have achieved my goal then.

I will then set my goals for 2022.

As you can appreciate, for the most part, I just want to fix myself and be at peace with myself. I am going through a lot of hatred for women right now. It is not how I feel, I love many very much, I'm just a dude with a very, very fucked head. It does not mean I act on it. I am very warm and friendly to people, my AirBNB hosts for example have all been women during this time and they have left me positive feedback describing me as "very sweet, friendly and more than a host, he was like a flatmate" <3

I am not a terrible human and I do not hate women, I am just dealing with extreme emotions and they are related to the shitty experiences I have had with women consistently for damn near my whole life.

But I will GRIND it out until the bitter end. It is a coward who puts his own negative shit onto other people. Yes, I am in pain doing this right now. I did not ask for all my subconscious to come to the fore and haunt like, believe me, I didn't think this would happen. But it did.

If I can somehow make it, I will be proud of myself until the end of my days.

I am 100% for the under dog in this world. People who are fucked 500 ways from Sunday and have absolutely nothing to help them succeed apart from a dream and determination.

The guys who continue to inspire me are@Thebastard and Andy.

They are the hardest man to ever enter this space, and are 10 x the man I am. I have the upmost of respect for Thebastard and Andy and what they achieved in truly hellacious circumstances and with levels of trauma that match mine. What they did in their life will always transcend everyone else in this space by orders of magnitude. To me, these two are the greatest of all time in self development.

On a personal level, because Thebastard went through damn near the same shit I did, like the whole experience was so similar, he will always have a special place in my heart.

Both him and Andy brute fucking forced it. And I will too.

My log will feature some ugly shit but know that I am not a mean person. I have nothing but respect for women, a lady needed help taking her child and pram up the stairs in the train station and I was the first one to help.

When facing the dragon, it gets fucking ugly and life is hellacious, but in facing the dragon, we get the gold.

My battle with AA is going to be brutal, I already know this, and it'll be a very long one, 9 months to a year I suspect. If you can't handle seeing serious pain, stop reading my log right now and go back to your happy, normal life. :)

Otherwise, gear in for some downright medieval brutality....the AA goes or I do, we can't co-exist.

MAC
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Fri Dec 03, 2021 4:16 pm

Running Totals:
Cold Approaches: 56 (+5)
Numbers: 0
Dates: 4 (+1)
Sexual Encounters: 0
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Fri Dec 03, 2021 9:18 pm

Hey brother.

Seems like you are in a very dark place.

You know you’d be amazed at the myriad of attempted systems of controls I’ve tried to integrated into my life in order to not become periodically crushed by feelings of rage and neuroticism.

Even though I’ve made great progress in this regard by working out an optimised screening routine that I found by analysing the data google ads style AND travelling multiple times around the globe for places where girls are more partial to my ‘package…’ ultimately yielding results of a consistency and quality I am JUST about satisfied with…

Those dark moments still come. Similar to some herpes virus outbreak. Or like how Frodo still struggled with his cursed knife wound the black rider gave him. They are unavoidable. You can remedy it however you can but it will ALWAYS exist in the depths of your soul and unconscious mind to some level.

But as long as you are able to get to a point where the damage from childhood as well as a young adulthood marked by excruciatingly traumatic experiences with women doesn’t repress your quality of life too much. Then it can be tolerated. And you will get through those dark times.

Plain and simple the ONLY way you can get to this point is to succeed. Succeed enough to get the results you want.

It helps if you can quantify those results. As specifically as you can. For me it is very specific indeed: the proven ability to get ONE girl who is AT LEAST a 7 within 14 working days with a degree of effort/money not breaking the threshold of what would derail my quality of life. That means no night clubs, binge drinking, spending more than 100 bucks a week on online apps – you get the idea. THEN I must be able to REPEAT THIS such that I always have 3 such girls in my rotation at all times.

Now the odds of any one of those girls being special and compatible with me for more than just ‘fun’ is small. But the ‘heart of darkness’ moments will be FAR Less severe. Because my abundance mindset will be very strong, keeping the worst of my neuroticism in check. Its as close as you can get to some powerful antiviral drugs for HIV or something.

Now I will tell you something you already know.

It doesn’t matter how often you are told to man up or to stop being a pussy. That shit certainly never worked for me.

You need to suffer.

This is the only way. You need to want to achieve your goals more than anything in this universe. It is not negotiable. Its not optional. It is a fire in your heart that either exists or it doesn’t. Only you know if you have it.

If you do then you will accept that you CAN NEVER GIVE UP. No matter how much suffering it causes you.

Because its either suffer tremendously now and enjoy a future with FAR less suffering. Or give up and suffer as you have been for the rest of your days.

Will you be COMPLETELY healed?

Well put it this way.

Sometimes I feel like my journey has emotionally circumcised me. Pardon my French but all those experiences of being on the receiving end of cunty behaviour from girls who you so desperately want the love and approval of – they take their toll.

For example: my capacity to pair bond with and enjoy intense emotional intimacy with a woman is now severely impaired.

As such you will notice that you will have a very primal preference for what you know works. You won’t ever see me go on 3+ dates without sex because the data has deeply ingrained into my subconsciousness what the results of such foolhardy endeavours bring.

And in fact you will never see me approaching girls on the streets because I know what 2000+ approaches has yielded me in terms of effort/reward. Hint hint: not fuck all enough to justify it. The rejections, rudeness, flaking and time wasted have been set against the historical results and there is no force one earth that could compel me to go back to that. Especially when my number 1 priority is making money which requires copious amounts of effort. Perhaps even if my bread-basket tinder suddenly permanently bans me.

This is not to say you should NOT keep doing what you are doing. ESPECIALLY when you have not come close to reaching your full physical potential. In fact as long as you are NOT looking as your full physical attention would allow, the results you are getting from cold approach aren’t really worth much beyond keeping AA in check.

You will find out what works for you. But until you do, giving up is not optional.

Hopefully I made that clear.

And that these ‘market dips’ are to be expected regularly and WILL not last.

Keep at it man.
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Fri Dec 03, 2021 11:23 pm

SUP GUYS!

Thanks for your post bro I will read in detail but I perked back up massively. Following the cold approach session, I did feel a massive buzzing in my head and then my whole anxiety just simmered down. I felt looser and more expressive.

I went on DATE NUMBER 8!!!!!!!!!!!

I HAVE MET MY GOALS FOR 2021!!!!!!!!!!!

And she was FUCKIN AWESOME.

We went to the Xmas markets and chatted for 2hrs, we vibed so well, it was like we knew each other for years. She was so different on the phone, in person, once I met her and I was so loose and confident, and am so massive compared to her being a tiny 5 ft 2 girl, her whole energy was totally different. She was the cutest, most sweet girl. Really, she was absolutely lovely.

So, she was a bit bigger yes, but she had a nice fat ass, great eyes, pretty face, and the most chill, lovely energy to her. She was OK with my touching her and getting close to her. She is down to chill again. She isn't looking for a relationship, in our messages she says she wants a FWB. So yeah, I am all the way down to explore that with her.

Today was tough during the cold approach but this date has made me feel on top of the world.

What a fucking way to get my 8 dates goal achieved.

I feel like the gods of self improvement blessed me tonight.

And to those gods of self improvement, really, thank you - this win could not have come at a better time, really, it couldn't. This has elevated me so much I feel like a totally different person. This also happened last time I had a great date. There will be a future where I have an awesome gal around who makes me feel like this all the time.

I will definitely achieve all my goals in life gentlemen, because I am one of life's true grinders and I never give up, always push on until the bitter end. That is why I will ultimately be successful in life. But I know I have a fucked up mind and subconscious, which I will heal over time guys.

We will get there. There will be dark moments but we will keep grinding.

I honestly didn't think I could get 8 dates this year, I thought it was impossible, but somehow through sheer hustle I actually did it,

Must get back in the gym and body maxx hardcore and I really hope the landlord lets us get this place, should hear over the weekend.

I ACTUALLY ACCOMPLISHED MY FIRST YEAR GOALS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MAC
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Dude so happy for you Congrats!!! You're gonna slay 2022.
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Fri Dec 03, 2021 11:23 pm
She isn't looking for a relationship, in our messages she says she wants a FWB. So yeah, I am all the way down to explore that with her.
Awesome man, looking forward to how this goes.
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