The IronWill Project: Year 3 of MAC DADDY: Realising My Greatness [90 Day Sprint: 3/90]

[Svadhishthana]

I was about to write a post about how it might be good sense to pursue your business goals for a bit, and listen to your friend. And I don't think it's a bad idea from a purely objective perspective. But your latest post supercedes it - good sense is nonsense if your heart isn't in it. If you have the vision, you must follow it.

[Dewm]

I say make the move! Better to be broke in an awesome city than having to commute for social freedom. I moved to New York this last year and make almost less than half what I made last year in California. There's no turning back now that I live here. Do I need a better job? Yes. Do I regret any decision? No. I love it here. Also hate it here, but you can't love a city without hating it a little lol.

Good luck!

[Manganiello]

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Hey @MakingAComeback what does it take to get your attention?



Why are you not answering this??

So is there a plan to go ALL IN with women in the future? If so when?

Coming from a place of love dude. But for the love of God don't dodge the question.

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[MakingAComeback]

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Hey @MakingAComeback what does it take to get your attention?



Why are you not answering this??

So is there a plan to go ALL IN with women in the future? If so when?

Coming from a place of love dude. But for the love of God don't dodge the question.

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Hey man. Great question.

I actually considered myself having gone ALL in for a few months...,that is, I reduced my hours by half, went very hard on OLD, approached at night etc - I did try very, very hard and like for several months. I approached daily, did OLD daily (to clarify it was not 1 photoshoot I did do 3 and posted all the pics etc lol), you know what happened.

I did make it a priority above all else for quite some time and this has been a big motivator with regards to fat loss etc.

Having said that, there are things I can do to basically burn the boats, so I am going to do that because I can't give myself any way out, it must happen.

I have made the commitment to going to a high volume area, I have made the commitment to approach daily, and I have made the commitment to maintain a 3hr a day remote work contract and build a biz on the side. I will figure out a location that enables me to just go approach, has decent logistics, etc. I will book another round of photoshoots and I will basically do everything I can.

I will post a range of outfits, I will get advice on what I can do to improve, etc.

And I will absolutely maximise what I can do here in my city in terms of cold approach, and that is, approach every day Mon-Fri. That's all I can do. Then, when I move, it's truly crunch time: there will be no option but to suceed.

That's the best answer I can give you brother.

MAC

[MakingAComeback]

Great points and I do agree.

I am not sure why I felt so frustrated in the last 48hrs, given I have been making concrete progress, and in fact, in many ways life has been pretty fucking awesome lately. Sometimes when we'e been feeling good and doing good for a while, we can have cleansing reactions and this can include the psyche. Jung said that for true change, the unconscious must become conscious, and sometimes the process of working through that isn't pretty.

These things are organisee at a higher level and play out in this domain.

I am quite surprised because like I say, have been kicking ass, I weighed in at the lowest I've been since in my early 20s today. Weird, but it's OK.

Today isn't too intense, a few tasks to do and tick over with, easy stuff really.

SUN 18/09/2021

ACTION POINTS
(1) Writing: 2x
(2) Crypto: Unblock bank and move funds to Crypto wallet. My bank attempting to cuck me. Middlemen suck.
(3) FB Group: Work on this.

Work on brand, study quantum health. Review materials.

MAC

[Toast]

After having read your log for a while now i've always thought that getting girls was never really your main focus.

@Crisis_Overcomer Shared this link from GLL about organizing goals and how people might think they are focusing on one thing but in reality they are only dedicating like 10% of their attention to it.
https://www.goodlookingloser.com/forums ... -for-goals

You do exactly the same thing. approach for 1 hour and talk to one girl and then go home and do crypto, breathing, marketing, remote work, etc for 8+ hours. How is that going all in on meeting women?

I actually considered myself having gone ALL in for a few months...,that is, I reduced my hours by half, went very hard on OLD, approached at night etc - I did try very, very hard and like for several months. I approached daily, did OLD daily (to clarify it was not 1 photoshoot I did do 3 and posted all the pics etc lol), you know what happened.

This really is such a small effort in the grand scheme of things. Both myself and @Manganiello spent a few months with weight loss, and the AA program alone. Then spent a few months cold approaching. Only after 3/4ths of a year are we both showing results, and were both just at the beginning of our journey.

Change takes time, especially in the self improvement category where you are trying to literally rewire your brain to unfuck itself from 20+years of social norms and self inflected boundaries.

[MakingAComeback]

After having read your log for a while now i've always thought that getting girls was never really your main focus.

@Crisis_Overcomer Shared this link from GLL about organizing goals and how people might think they are focusing on one thing but in reality they are only dedicating like 10% of their attention to it.
https://www.goodlookingloser.com/forums ... -for-goals

You do exactly the same thing. approach for 1 hour and talk to one girl and then go home and do crypto, breathing, marketing, remote work, etc for 8+ hours. How is that going all in on meeting women?

I actually considered myself having gone ALL in for a few months...,that is, I reduced my hours by half, went very hard on OLD, approached at night etc - I did try very, very hard and like for several months. I approached daily, did OLD daily (to clarify it was not 1 photoshoot I did do 3 and posted all the pics etc lol), you know what happened.

This really is such a small effort in the grand scheme of things. Both myself and @Manganiello spent a few months with weight loss, and the AA program alone. Then spent a few months cold approaching. Only after 3/4ths of a year are we both showing results, and were both just at the beginning of our journey.

Change takes time, especially in the self improvement category where you are trying to literally rewire your brain to unfuck itself from 20+years of social norms and self inflected boundaries.

Thank you for this Toast!

Again, for everyone who posted, I am very very grateful you took the time. You gentlemen know how much this means to me, you know I am grateful beyond words that you help me like this. It means the world to me.

Man, this post kind of hit me pretty hard. I have printed this article out. I must be honest, looking at this, Manga's post, and Andy's, there is a theme which is emerging that can't be denied. I can't even argue with it.

It's time to admit that there are a few more gears, and I haven't even touched them yet. That's the truth. I can go way harder than this.

I am gong to read this a few times....you make some really important points in this post, I will process this and will post later.

Re. chanes and taking time: Dude, TELL ME ABOUT IT! Like, bro you don't see many victories that happen, man I was under 214 today that is the lowest I have been since my early 20s, even when I randomly went through a pain body experience the last 36hrs, never at any point did I think there was something wrong with me, I know I am actually quite solid as a dude, I still do not understand why the emotion of frustration took hold like that I will speak to some of my friends in the healing space on Monday. My pal Krista is good with this stuff. However, this was different from when low self esteem was ever present, that truly did begin to melt away. There are some shitty patterns running at times, had a great PM from one of the dudes who posted above who kind of nailed it on that one.

So the bit on truly going all in which you have all communicated here is interesting as fuck and has truly got my attention in a big way. So again I will process this and will get back to you gentleman on this tonight.

But equally, the bit about changes taking time, man this is soooo true and Manganeillo's case study is quite an inspiration to me as he spent 2 years losing his weight, we're the same age, and he has spent many months approaching, basically this dude TRULY put in the grind to be a better man and I am inspired a lot by him to put it freakin mildly. I also admire how stoic and calm he has been throughout it. You don't see the occasional volcanic eruptions I have in his journey. But maybe he's hiding it better? Who knows. The problem here is that there are so many victories that do occur along the way, new friendships forming, new doors opening, being able to have greater impact, shit I did go on a date and I previously thought that would never happen, etc. When we obscure the victories by expressing frustration it is very counter productive and I must stop that.

I once read that when the personality is stabilising at higher and higher levels there is a lot of chaos that eventually gives in to order. It is why Andy has done VERY well in his coaching with me and has basically ingrained that I am on the path. I cannot thank Andy enough I have to give him his credit he has done a lot for me.

I am satisfied that a lot of excellent insights were formed in the past 36hrs and frankly I am feeling quite good, as I have been for like 2 months, some days of the past 2 months were the highest I've been in a decade.

Self-improvement is a funny game. I kind of know in the back of my mind that I will make it in life. I know it may sound a bit silly to some people, but it is how I feel. The scales have tipped, despite what it may seem, and success is inevitable..........

Gotta work now boys. Printing off aforementioned article, also, the screen grab Crisis did I printed that out (the one that galvanised Andy) and I am combing through this shit again and again and again until the fire engulfs me once more. I have my own methods boys and right now I must do things in this intense way. In 5 years I may be different just let me go beastmode right now..........

MAC

[MakingAComeback]

Looking at places to live in London.

Fuck me your rent doesn't go far, you can live in a damn crack den in a central area for a hefty sum.

But when I looked @ other major UK cities, damn dude the rent for city centre apartments is fucking way less, and I can approach er' damn day for 3-4hrs, really not kill myself financially, like the remote contract I can get by the end of this week WILL cover rent, and I have good savings, so I will be cool for food, bills, other expenses like my car (which in London I won't be able to bring).

Any UK bros, feel free to weigh in.

So the other major UK cities have TWICE the population of where I am currently staying, and frankly are WAY nicer.

So look, we're moving, and I can literally just hop around for a bit, month here, a month there. We'll see. This will truly be a new chapter for MAC.

I will review the goals article above but it looks like the message is clear, approaching will need to be done way more, and this will have many positive downstream effects on my life and allow me to meet the kind of gal I want to be with forever.

I am going to be truly honest and say I am understanding I didn't go hard enough and didn't really go all in. Yes it hurts to admit that because I thought I was truly trying but some of the posts of others have made it clear, yeah you are trying, but your location is shit, your image isn't maximised, your OLD is obv shit, and your weight is coming down yes (dude I am 212 now I started this forum at 250lbs please understand I am working my dick off here) but there is SO much more I can be doing. I can't really argue with that. I must admit, it is true.... :-/

If I had 2 goals and that was THAT, they would be: (1) Romantic Abundance, and (2) Build Biz & Finances.

That would be that.

As such, this could be a useful weekly template..........

MON-FRI
6 Core Training & Listen to self dev (Andy, Radical, David Goggins, etc)
640 Sungazing
7 Breakfast
730 Movement & Stretching & Post 2 TikToks
815 Head massage
845 Breathwork
930 Work (Remote contract - 4hrs daily)
1030 Work
1130 Work
1230 Work
130 Cold Approach
230 Cold Approach
330 Cold Approach
430 Gym
530 Dinner & Online Dating Swiping / Messaging
630 Cold Approach
730 Biz: Brand building actions
830 Biz: Brand building actions
930 Biz: Brand building actions
1030 Bed

SAT & SUN
Restoration (Walks, Meditation, Healing conversations, etc)
OLD: Swiping, Messaging, Etc (2-3hrs)
Biz (3hrs)
Reading (2-4hrs)

Andy keeps telling me to stop asking for permission, so I must begin to dive right in without a parachute. As such, my instinct is:

1. Move to a major UK city and live in a city centre apartment (not London because money will go WAY further elsewhere). Hop around, try different cities for a month or two each.
2. Make women a total, total priority. It is THE mission. It comes first and I make myself totally accountable to myself.

I could do this for a year and become good with women, maybe once the plane has started to take off, I can reduce it if I want and do more work on biz / finance stuff for year 2, but in year 3 I do want to be in a serious relationship that could go forwards marriage, children etc.

I am sure I can do this.

The above plan will mean 20hrs of approaches a week, that's a fair bit more than now let's be honest, and fuck me I am doing my current approaches mostly in a dead zone of low volume, that won't be the case moving forward at all.

Hmmmmmmm.........

MAC

[MakingAComeback]

Also, body progress pic coming in a few days.

Guys, chime in and let me know what you think, because frankly I think it's time for booking a few photoshoots.

The body has come a long way from where it was.

Outfits and fashion are improving and will do more consults with the main man Radical.

Will revisit the Tinder guide and note down what I need to do when booking the next shoots.

Of course, if I am still too fat and not looking decent enough, please just be honest, I'd rather not waste time and money getting more shots done and continue doing poorly w/ OLD.....blunt truth will be appreciated, nothing else helps.

MAC

[Radical]

@Toast that GLL thread damn

How have I never seen this, thats pretty fucking great

[Manganiello]

@Toast that GLL thread damn

How have I never seen this, thats pretty fucking great

Thata funny that was one of the first posts I ever saw on GLL.

You do exactly the same thing. approach for 1 hour and talk to one girl and then go home and do crypto, breathing, marketing, remote work, etc for 8+ hours. How is that going all in on meeting women?

This seems pretty accurate. And more or less how I felt about your effort @MakingAComeback . Like you definitely have the ability to grind. Grind a lot.

But at the end of the day. How much or that effort is directly linked for getting laid?

Like look at your habits and what you do each day and ask this question:

If I only (insert habit) 8 hours a day for the next 3 years would I eventually get laid?


... Meditation (no)
... Losing weight (yes if combined with something else)
... Digital marketing (no)
... Approaching (probably)
... Eating healthy (no)
... Reading content (no)
... Self help books (no)
... Watching porn (definitely no)
... Online dating (yes if combined with maxing looks).

You get the idea.
As valuable as some of those habits are, you need to realize the importance of each of them varies

I've had the impression that only a small portion of your effort goes into stuff that directly results in getting laid. But you'd have to tell me.


You might be doing more targetted efforts now.

But you also need to appreciate that no matter how patient you are most goals you undertake will take longer than you want them to.

It's time to admit that there are a few more gears, and I haven't even touched them yet. That's the truth. I can go way harder than this.

I'd say it's not necessarily about a higher gear.
But focus. Meaning just dropping most of your projects to a baseline maintenance and then throwing everything into one goal and following it til it's done.

My process basically looked like this.
1. Weight loss
2. AA program.
3. Getting more $ so I can have my own place
4. Approaching
5. Now doing online

At each step: the vast majority of my focus and time went into that goal. When I approached on a Saturday I would be out for 4-6 hours. Every week. wed-Friday 3-4 hours each day. That was the only way I was getting 100+ approach counts in a week.

And @Toast makes a good point. We were both already losing weight in 2020 bwfore we got active on here. We've only been seeing results after most of the year was over.

I also admire how stoic and calm he has been throughout it. You don't see the occasional volcanic eruptions I have in his journey. But maybe he's hiding it better? Who knows.

I can get pretty frustrated. Yesterday was a good example when I felt like I fucked up pulling a girl who seemed like she couldve been dtf.

I just process stuff well I guess. I think it's just a strength I have. I usually don't end up being frustrated for more than an 3 hours. So by the time I post I'm pretty level headed again.

I think the frustrations, anger, doubt, jealousy even can be the most valuable resources on the journey.

Cuz honestly if you're not feeling pain, you're comfortable. It's the unsavoury realization that your life sucks that pushes you to start demanding results instead of wanting results.

[Radical]

Chris used to say overweight guys should expect nothing in the first 6 months and up to a year

I think i posted the redshirt article here before

You read hard cases like @Thebastard as well and realise that its possible the process can be long even for dudes that have their body dialled in to start with

The hard truth is the runway phase of this can be brutal and lengthy but success snowballs as things come into place

The beauty is though that @KillYourInnerLoser and the rest of us are trying to build a fasttrack so few others have to go through drawn out pain like many did back in the day. Andy is significantly more willing to help hardcase guys too, my feel from Chris was that he didnt really want anyone below a certain level - his niche was naturally good looking dudes who had average sex lives and wanted more. Andy wants to help everyone that is willing to do the work

[MakingAComeback]

@Manganiello you are on a roll and your post has made the OP of this journal, this really is an exceptional insight and it has been incredibly useful, has helped process things a lot, and has helped really take away a lot of emotional anguish.

The Red Shirt Year article also really helped btw Radical.

I am getting it, big time.

Note, the last few times I went approaching, I actually really enjoyed it. Having no expectations was great. I am happy just to be in the process. There is not that much lack nowadays.

Harcases aren't fun, my case is clearly a hardcase situation, but really, nowadays I am very chill and also I get on with people well, make friends easily, and tend to be quite well liked IRL (for whatever reason).

It is a tough road but it can be like this in life for even truly great men. I have read David Goggins' book many times and for god's sake he would be so broken sometimes he would sit on his Mom's couch and bawl his eyes out. This man went on to do what many believe is actually impossible and has inspired MILLIONS, people weep in his presence, they are totally in awe of him, he transcended this world.

Pain, as @Manganiello does hint at there in this important post above, can be one of the biggest drivers in the world and can make you move mountains. I firmly believe it can be a gift when utilised correctly, because it allows the individual to feel a level of motivation that is perhaps one only evoked by the survival instinct - do or die level shit. I have moments like that when I am bitching out in my mind. "If you don't do this, you will stay here forever, you know you won't allow that, so gut up and get it done". My self talk often is nastier than that btw lol....

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Smashing it today. Wrote a solid ass article, 1600 words, and posted on my free FB group which has 6 members since starting it yesterday. I have a domain and will install Wordpress and start uploading videos and articles etc.

I am currently researching iodine therapy for cognitive enhancement, this looks interesting as fuck.

MAC

[Svadhishthana]

MAC, if you really want results, here is something to ponder -

http://danjohn.net/2017/02/2651/

What would you do if you found yourself in some odd kind of situation, prison, that you could only focus on your goal for three 15-minute sessions a week?

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First, honestly ask yourself what you would do in those 45 minutes. Then, look at what you are doing. Is there a disconnect?

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Everything else you do is fluff. Everything else you do is glitter (and glitter has its place). But, if the bulk of what you do is fluff and glitter, reevaluate.

[MakingAComeback]

@Svadhishthana excellent, excellent post - it is SUPER clear with that I would do with that 45mins, I would go talk to girls!!!

MON 20/09/21

ACTION POINTS
(1) Crypto: Get funds onto exchange (DONEish, after some nonsense with my bank, they did approach the transaction to send funds to my wallet, but they still haven’t arrived, so will wait a day or two and then get onto the support if necessary)
(2) Core & Gym (DONE)
(3) Cold Approach: I had literally 45 mins, but it was OK. 0/2. Volume was actually not so bad but I just find the way there's a bit of an audience around quite tricky, London is easier for approach as yes there's people but it's so big it's more sparse. ANYWAY, first gal was just busy and said sorry I'm on my break, and 2nd gal, it was intreresting, this was the most receptive approach I've had yet. She took out her headphones and was super nice, super smilly and giggley, and we just chatted for a bit. Asked for her number, she had a boyfriend, so it's all good I kept moving. Then, my friend arrived, and we hung out for several hours and went for dinner.
(3) Meet friend for dinner (DONE, excellent seafood feast, lots of brain building DHA smashed). We had dinner, then hung out in a lovely park. We went to a quaint little neighbouring village, quite a nice place really, and just watched the sunset and talked political philosphy for a while. Fun, I tend to not like talking about this sort of stuff, but with him it can be interesting.

Posted 2 TikToks, did some further research into iodine therapy, which frankly I am loving. Booked a healing session with my friend, Krista, who does interesting transformative healing and wellness work. I will ask her WTF was up with my random pain body attack given I have, and for example right now am in the midst of, feeling fucking good and super excited just to be alive. Why did those feelings overcome me like they did? I'm still a bit puzzled but I do have a theory of it being bromide detox, which can cause symptoms like this when starting iodine therapy. It would add up. Anyway, now, researching quantum biology for an hour and hitting the hay – great day, enjoyed hanging out, and making arrangement to finalise remote work contract.

Sorry to be that guy and attach a pic of my dinner but it was great and seafood is critical to getting the DHA required to rewire your brain to be better.

OK so will now be chilling out and reading quantum biology. Tomorrow I'll cold approach for 2hrs. I know it will need to be 3-4 hours every day. In my current city I'll just do 2hrs a day. In London this weekend, meeting a dude from the private coaching group, and I'l approach for 4hrs. If he wants to go out at night, I'll hit the clubs with him.

Sunday will recharge, get a quick 2hrs of approach done in London, but I wanna do some reading and deep research so yeah, Sunday will be a geek day mostly.

Keep hammering
MAC.