Thrice log. How to deal with a bad date

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kratjeuh
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Sat Feb 11, 2023 10:38 am

Thrice wrote:
Sat Feb 11, 2023 10:03 am
I was talking about the female friends i grew up with, i used to have a lot of friends back in my teens
From my personal experience: my hottest friends have a very low bodycount. They’ve gone very long without a boyfriend or hookups and wait until they find someone they really like. This isn’t per se the hottest guy out their. Most of the time it’s a cool decent looking guy with who they share a lot of interests.

My more average looking friends have way more lays, some are straight up sluts. They fucked the hottest chads on multiple occasions. I always had the feeling they felt insecure being less attractive than their hotter friends and searched validation by fucking hotter guys than their friends.

I don’t think girls with high lay counts are super happy with their dating life. There’s for sure a part of that group that’s just very sexually by nature, but I’m pretty sure 90% does this for feeling like they’re good enough
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Sat Feb 11, 2023 10:58 am

SpongeBob wrote:
Sat Feb 11, 2023 10:24 am
Yeah I understood, but still, how do you know ? I don't know how many cocks my friends from high school had in their life.
Well what i know is just the visible part, this means that they're actual lay count is higher, what i was able to see is the guys they fucked and made it public or talked about, or other girls gossiped about "x this summer fucked one guy and kissed another one". I'm sure the actual number is higher, i was slowly getting redpilled back then so i was noticing this stuff and i have a collection of memories
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Sat Feb 11, 2023 4:15 pm

kratjeuh wrote:
Sat Feb 11, 2023 10:38 am
I don’t think girls with high lay counts are super happy with their dating life. There’s for sure a part of that group that’s just very sexually by nature, but I’m pretty sure 90% does this for feeling like they’re good enough
Yeah, I agree tbh. I think when you're struggling as a man its very easy to fall into the trap that women have it really easy. I'm guilty of this myself.

But in reality, you take a look at how most women are nowadays, and most of them are as unsatisfied with the modern dating market as a lot of men are. You don't have to look far to see how bitter and jaded many of them have become.

I'll admit that I feel pretty shitty about the fact that average looking girls can have sex with hot chads. But at the end of the day, those guys only see her as an object and will kick her out the next morning anyways.

I am actually starting to feel like being a man is better. Having the ability to build up your SMV as opposed to having little control is a massive advantage. Meanwhile once a woman's looks fade there's very little she can do to become ultra desirable.
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Sat Feb 11, 2023 4:44 pm

didn't take pictures today because of bad weather, starting to sing to learn to express myself

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Sat Feb 11, 2023 5:16 pm

@SpongeBob
@kratjeuh
@Squilliam

All these guys bring up good points.

Studies show that most people (men & women) simply don't get around that much sexually. Studies also show that most people (men & women) are also in relationships. Studies also show that attractive women sleep around less (probably because they want boyfriends & have no problem getting them to settle).

Overall, I think it's easy to project male sexuality onto women. Human beings have an incredibly powerful, creative mind. It's incredibly easy to contemplate & assume how other people live their lives. Especially if they're women or men you perceive to be more attractive than yourself. It's easy to assume women happily enjoy that much play, or that men you perceive to be good-looking must be having the time of their lives. The problem with this is that you never know for sure what's going on, so it turns into a mental drain.

Are there men & women having sex with a ton of attractive people and living it up? Absolutely. However, the same situations don't apply for everyone. When you try to label everyone with the same agenda, and think they're enjoying stuff you never will... It leads to a path of misery.

Comparison is normal, but you can't let it consume you. It's important to get out of your head and stay in touch with the real things happening around you right now. Keep investing in things that grow your potential, and take action on them. The only thing you can control is building as good of a life for yourself as possible. This is a race that's only being run by you and you only.

Keep moving forward, brother.
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Sat Feb 11, 2023 5:52 pm

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ok! the reason i lowered is because some youtubers keep saying that it's better to shoot man below eye level so they appear bigger
That's the video I always send people to when looking for posing.

Also, the bit you refer to, it's about a study on how gender take photos
https://qz.com/1067290/how-you-take-sel ... l-see-them
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Sun Feb 12, 2023 4:47 pm

natedawg wrote:
Sat Feb 11, 2023 5:16 pm
Comparison is normal, but you can't let it consume you.
this is so true, sometimes it's just hard to shut the brain off, i will work on that, thank you brother
AskTheDom wrote:
Sat Feb 11, 2023 5:52 pm
Also, the bit you refer to, it's about a study on how gender take photos
https://qz.com/1067290/how-you-take-sel ... l-see-them
great video, didn't know there was a study about that!
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Sat Feb 11, 2023 1:11 am
You may not have the body you really want yet, but your face is lean and you have defined features. You can easily just make a tinder profile and skip shirtless pics for the time being.
thank you for your advice brother, i feel i need to practice a bit more, my tecnique is bad, the texture of my skin in the pictures i take i worst compared to what i see in the mirror, the lighting always sucks and i'm still not comfortable, i will have to do it a bit more, the good thing is that i'm learning and becoming more confortable everyday

practiced taking pictures and editing with lightroom today
ps.: on my computer raw files appear as cr3, is this normal?
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Sun Feb 12, 2023 7:03 pm

Your body language is frequently "squished", demonstrating small, inward-facing energy.

Be big. Extend your arms, let your shoulders fly. Show the world you own it, not the other way around.
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Mon Feb 13, 2023 11:30 am

pancakemouse wrote:
Sun Feb 12, 2023 7:03 pm
Your body language is frequently "squished", demonstrating small, inward-facing energy.

Be big. Extend your arms, let your shoulders fly. Show the world you own it, not the other way around.
Do you think that even in this "practice" phase i should fix hair style grooming posture etc?
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Mon Feb 13, 2023 11:35 am

Mo really showing up and being consistent.

I am proud of you brother.

You make me happy when you just keep going.

We're in this together. Every day, I am with you.

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Mon Feb 13, 2023 5:01 pm

MakingAComeback wrote:
Mon Feb 13, 2023 11:35 am
Mo really showing up and being consistent.

I am proud of you brother.

You make me happy when you just keep going.

We're in this together. Every day, I am with you.

Ravi
thank you brother
i feel i could do better, do you watch youtube or the news? i watch youtube while eating, look on reddit for combat videos from ukraine to watch gore stuff, and i stalk girls on ig with fake profile, i feel those are time wasting activities, i don't know if other people do that, they're like vices to be honest, i'm lucky enough to not have real vices, i'm not into any thing execpt two coffe per day (one normal one latte macchiato, mandatory) but i feel like this internet habits are like trying to stop weed for people like @Squilliam maybe i'm exagerating because it's not that internet is a substance you eat but i always have this fear of missing out and i have to check and see what attractive girls are doing or something like the news. i guess it happens when you don't have a life
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Mon Feb 13, 2023 5:08 pm

I don't watch anything, no.

Don't browse. Don't read Reddit or anything.

Hustle all day pretty much.

Trying to live my dream.

Totally obsessed pretty much.

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Mon Feb 13, 2023 7:49 pm

Thrice wrote:
Mon Feb 13, 2023 5:01 pm
i feel like this internet habits are like trying to stop weed for people like @Squilliam maybe i'm exagerating because it's not that internet is a substance you eat but i always have this fear of missing out and i have to check and see what attractive girls are doing or something like the news. i guess it happens when you don't have a life
Addictions don't have to be substance related. You can become addicted to almost anything. There's plenty of behavioral addictions. Sex, gambling, porn, etc. Even if these are not literal substances you are consuming, they still screw with your brain chemistry in a similar way to substances.

Technology is a very common addiction nowadays, especially social media.
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Mon Feb 13, 2023 8:25 pm

Thrice wrote:
Mon Feb 13, 2023 5:01 pm
it's not that internet is a substance you eat
Mindless scrolling triggers the reward system in the same way that recreational drug use does, so while you're not consuming anything with your mouth, in essence you're reinforcing the same system that gets people addicted to drugs.
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Mon Feb 13, 2023 8:50 pm

So I'm fucked 😢 i need to take care of this and take it more seriously
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