Hey bro,
Good. I have seen growth in you, seriously, from the time our paths met and now.
Would you believe, asking for help, expressing yourself, from a place of seeking change, is indicative of actual change, healing, and progression as a man.
Anyone who is under the change process goes through what I call a period of "exorcism". All the skeletons WILL be pulled out of the closet, and until you've thoroughly deal with your internal weak points (beliefs, insecurtieis, limiting factors, etc), the self improvement spirit will keep working with you until you're ready to integrate, process, and move on.
Patience and compassionate inquiry is how we work with hardcases, IMO, as such, some points:
-A man's prime is 37. My friend, The Dom (
@AskTheDom kTheDom) is a fucking pussy magnet and slayer - he's 37, and his sex life is actually elite, legendary even. He's likely to just kee getting better. What I've learned from him, is that women are just attracted to winners. Regardless of anything else, age, skin tone, height, level of social skills, if you get yourself to becoming a winner, you will be in the secret society and the flood gates WILL open. Anyone with success and status has abundance, Einstien fucked a tonne of chicks, novelist and painters, basically any dude who actually stood out and became something in effect became 'the tribal leader' and this trips an evolutionary switch that allowed them reproductive and sexual SUCCESS regardless of anything else.
-You'll inevitably feel some type of way about this, maybe your unconscious will respond to me with anger, or you may wish to attack me - all is fine, I know how to work with people, learned a lot about psychology the past 12 years let me tell you. But Mo - you're actually a handsome guy. You are attractive. I say this to you as your friend and brother, you're beautiful, and you actually deserve to be loved. You are actually entitled to it.
-You are actually doing the right things. So be assured. Keep doing the following:
-Baby steps of action: keep going out, putting yourself on the front lines
-Keep working, making money, and being financially prudent
-Keep training, developing your physique
-Keep making mindset shifts: watch Andys content, read his articles, and just consume this over time, with regularity, consider this your medicine. GLL is also perfect for this. Both Andy and GLL had what I call "the winners mindset" and this is actually the ultimate level of self improvement. But you will only be able to go from negative to positive so fast, and us guys who are doing it know, your ego and subconscious will fight you, and all your demons will come out, so these expressions, negative posts, and so on - these tell me YOU ARE GROWING. Because if you weren't, they would remain bottled inside you, which was what got you there in the first place.
All of this shit is a head game, dude.
I can be told by the last girl I fucked "Ravi, you have a beautiful face"
And then just one month later I can look in the mirror and be so disappointed and feel so unworthy, unattractive, "god's lonely man" or nature's "mistake". None of that shit is true, it can't possibly be, but that was my "level of consciousness" - your best thinking got you where you were.
So that is where I have to trust my boys, my advisors, my coaches, mentors, my peers, basically I put my own life in the hands of my tribe which is the KYIL tribe and I just trusted them.
None of us will ever lead you astray. Believe it or not, here, you actually found the thing that will save you.
You're just going to have to take it one step at a time and understand that every time there is negativity and pain that floats to the conscious, that is just part of the ice berg, the unconscious contains a fucking MOUNTAIN of that shit and the conscious is just a small aspect. But this is an iceberg, and how you begin to melt that down is you bright these things to light and keep taking action.
Through sheer forward motion, the ego begins to stop guarding, and it allows integration to happen.
So, for now, understand that I hear you, all of your fears are valid and normal, I have them too about my age and my attractiveness levels, but Mo, the thing is, what we are doing will actually allow us to get the life we want. Whilst it can be tough as a man at the start, the thing that will save us is that a man can raise his value over time and actually our attractiveness level is not just our looks, but IMO the most valuable and powerful part of us in inside, and that is what we work on through inner work.
So all is well man.
All is going to be ok.
You are going to be ok. And so will I.
Keep working. Keep working. I also think, Ravi man, how the FUCK are you going to turn your shit around? It'll happen through ongoing dedication, body improvements, elite photos that show sex appeal and EDGE, and ongoing improvements in my vibe through working on it.
I have an atypical brain. And yet I am able to get laid
If I can, basically anyone can lol.
R