Daygame
Sunday 11/21:
2#/15~20
mileage highlight: First 15+ approaches were just clean rejections. No aggressive or instant deflections, just normal ones. Then some latina with a nice body agrees on the approach to meet me up for drinks later that night since she happened to be going to 6th street anyway (but she ghosted when I contacted her later, through text and a call).
The next approach was probably the diciest approach interaction I've ever had so far. It looked like a normal trio, but then I saw them join a larger group of like 8+ people. In addition, I accidentally bumped into one of the other girls in the group when they suddenly stopped in front of me. Decided to persist and open the girl I originally was targeting. She awkwardly inches away at each thing I say. Some friend from the 8+ group interjects with "how old are you?" I say 25. "well she's [!@)@!(&%@*(!]"
Approach after that was where
@lacroix saw some cute asian girl, ultra my type, working inside an ice cream shop and dared me to open her.
Didn't buy any ice cream. Had to wait 2-3 minutes for some guy to order ice cream before I approached. Then both employees went inside. I went up to the counter and a male employee came out. Told him I wanted to speak to the girl. He brings her out and she says she's actually the manager. We have a short chat and then I ask her out for drinks. She says she's 19 and asks how old I am. I say 25. She's like uhhhhhh.......I say yeah, we can grab a coffee that's fine. Exchanged and told me "we can hang out some time" (which I attach zero meaning to). Post I wrote last night is extremely relevant to this approach (that experience happened after this one chronologically). Just need to make sure I avoid singularly investing in girls, even though deep down I still want to.
Monday 11/22:
7#/25 + 1 instadate
I did this session on zero sleep. First time I've ever done that. Just channeled whatever crazy tired energy I had into the approaches and straight up told like 3-4 girls I was so tired during the interaction.
Every girl whom I exchanged with said they were going home for Thanksgiving, but I decided just to exchange anyway and maybe text them next week. I'm already approaching so no point in not exchanging I guess.
Instadate was a total accident. I approached some Chinese girl sitting at a table playing with her phone with a finished tea.
"hey I saw you sitting here and I thought you were cute"
"...?? you can sit here yes"
"huh? I said you were cute"
"????"
"I came up to you to tell you were cute"
"I don't give my telephone number to strangers"
"whoa, you're like 10 steps ahead of me!!! alright, let me grab a tea and sit with you"
Order my tea, go sit with her and chat. At first we chat in dumbass English for 5 or so minutes but she gets used to the flow. It's basically just question->answer->question->answer the entire time. Said she's a graduate student studying electrical engineering. My tea takes like 10 minutes but finally it arrives. I come back and sip it for a bit. Ask what she's doing for the rest of the day. She tells me she's free for the rest of the day, so I just ask her "you wanna just walk around outside?" and we bounce.
My intention now is to just walk her 8 blocks to my car and see what happens. On the way I tell her we can go chill at my place and listen to some music. She's like "oh, I have class at 4pm and then I have to meet my supervisor at 5pm." Solid, she was free until I put the idea in her head that we're going to my place. I tell her "look it's 3:15 right now, my place is a 5 minute drive from here and I can have you back by 3:50 so you're not late for class". She declines so I'm like alright. Here, I basically just had the intention of continuing to walk to my car and trying to see if she'll come with me.
I also asked her if she's in town this week and if she wants to meet up for drinks. She at first tells me she doesn't drink alcohol, and then I say we can just go get coffee instead. Later, I bring the idea up again and she's like "I only drink alcohol with female friends". Interesting lol.
But about 3 blocks away from my car, she's like "let's go that way to this other building and hang out" I tell her that we should go to my place and listen to music instead. She says let's go to that building instead. <- I think in retrospect at this point I should have just ended the date and exchanged here, but I just wanted to see where we would go next. But I think I'm using "what will happen next" as an excuse to not "burn the bridge", especially since deep down, I'm fantasizing that classroom makeout I had nearly 2 months ago back in Nashville where the
girl pulled me into the classroom. I need to accept that something like that is a once in a lifetime experience and I was extremely lucky that it somehow happened within ~250 lifetime approaches. I need to do what I want to do now, push when I can, and then burn the bridge just before I'm entering the girl's "frame".
I end up going to that building and there's a lot of people so after probably <5 minutes I'm like yeah okay that was a waste of time. She tells me maybe 1 or 2 times if I'm bored I can leave. So we end up exchanging and I leave.
This "accidental" instadate made me realize that in my current situation, instadates are actually basically the same as regular dates. I was making excuses that I wouldn't be able to pull, and regular dates are somehow better. For some people that might be the case, but after going on 4-5 dates last week and then having this instadate, I realized that regardless of when I met the girl, she's going to see me in the same way. Her interaction with me has wholly been my approach up until the date (insta or regular), so there's no difference for me right now. This is something Mike Mehlman talks about here:
https://mikemehlman.net/2021/11/08/focu ... nstadates/ but I didn't realize it myself until I actually had some regular dates where I have A+ pull logistics. Whether my place is literally 1 block away or a 5 minute drive, the girl's resistance to my pull attempts doesn't change.
I also have a couple options of pulling on campus. It can be my place, my car, or even her place on campus. I can just wing it depending on the interaction. Also, I can screen a girl's logistics for the day before proposing the instadate during the approach to make sure we would have enough time before deferring to a regular date and exchanging.
I'm excited to approach now with this renewed focus on instadates. Unfortunately, the school session is going to end within 1 or 2 weeks so I have little time. But I can still get a decent amount of sessions to get mileage and meet new girls.
Another thing I need to keep in mind is that my focus is
sleeping with the girl. Not kissing her, not cuddling her,
sleeping with her. As you can often see in my log, I get too excited and satiated with "sub-milestones" that don't actually achieve my end goal.
Just to note, I stopped trying to arrange concrete future date plans on the approach, and now the need to do that has dissolved. The ghost/cancel rate isn't somehow better with making plans in advance. But I still ask what they're doing that week just to get a general idea of their logistics and when a good time to text them to make plans would be.
Later that day,
@lacroix is eating at a restaurant again where I opened a waitress and she (obviously) ghosted:
viewtopic.php?p=24002#p24002. I've never deliberately re-approached a girl so I just wanted to do it. I go up to her and start chatting for 30 seconds, and her white knight beta cuck manager shows up and tells her "hey can you help me with something" to save her from me eventually pulling her to my place someday. Alright, alright. Well deliberate re-approach is off of my bucket list.