Day 7: 17/10/2021
So I decided to go back on Tinder and
give myself permission to suck after following some of the members advice on here. 'I have my golden rules' and I'm sticking to them e.g. Local only: Don't meet more than 10 miles away, no Psycho Bitches or timewasters etc. and so far I've been sticking to my principles. I have also joined Bumble and Hinge.
I have posted a separate topic on this, but thought I’d also include it here: I have attached my current Tinder photos and any feedback on them would be much appreciated!
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I have also got some kind of idea of what I want from dating and have written this in my guide to remind me:
'Initially, I want to date and hook-up with girls and perfect my game by sticking to my new rules and principles. The ones I date who are cool, I’d like to establish a friends with benefits type situation: Ideally 2-3 I can have in rotation and explore my sexual bucket list with. I do not want to settle down or be monogamous'.
Thanks to the following users who encouraged me to get back out there and do it the right way:
@Brother_Tucker
@MILFandCookies
@Mack
Online Dating Report
Bumble
The Goth Girl. Looked a bit crazy, but thought it could just be her style and I don't judge people for how they look and dress, so wanted to probe a bit before I made my decision. Turns out she was a
Psycho Bitch. 4 kids (she didn't mention on profile), flips from nice and polite to calling you a C***, seemed keen to meet and would send nudes then a sentence later, called me 'desperate' and 'thirsty' for asking to meet for coffee. Definitely mental health issues in play.
Many Rules broken:
Timewaster, Shitty behaviour and a
Psycho Bitch. Respectfully told her I didn't want to meet. Blocked and binned (just to be safe!) as per my new dealbreakers/rules. In hindsight I should've blocked a lot sooner, but it was my first match and at least I stuck to my new principles.
The hookup entitlement princess. Asked what I was looking for, I said casual FWB. She was down for the same. Got shitty when I suggested hotel after an initial coffee as I don't have my own place currently due to losing my job with COVID and moving back in. Gave me attitude and called me a 'loser'. Unmatched her straight away - a lot quicker than Goth Girl. practice makes perfect!
Hinge
The Pole Dancer. Asked for Instagram to message her - she gave it, but didn't reply on there and unmatched then ghosted. Guess she changed her mind. Next.
Redhead. Matched with a Redhead - she's probably a 6/10, but good tits and ass from the photos. Asked her for coffee and she's been conveniently 'pinged' by COVID app and has to self-isolate for 10 days. Told her to hit me up in a week or so. Probably gonna ghost, but I'm not wasting time texting her until she can meet. Time will tell.
The semi-goth. Matched with a dark haired chick who's probably semi-goth. Seems okay. Invited for coffee and asked for number to set up - still waiting for a reply. Not holding out much hope as it's been a couple hours.
Tinder
Bought Tinder Gold. Used my free boost at 22:30 last night and... no matches. No-one seems to have 'liked' me either as you can see that with Tinder Gold. I think my app is buggy/broken as it keeps showing me the same girls over and over without any 'you have run out of girls' message. Will try uninstalling then reinstalling the app and take it from there. Have recently updated it.
That's it really for my online dating exploits. I'm making a point to only check once or twice a day and only for 10-15 minutes so as not to get too distracted from my other goals.
Speaking of which:
- No-Fap: Day 7. Couple urges, but fought them off and still in the game.
- Joined some jobsites and got my C.V out there.
- Put a post on Instagram (assist with social proof - online dating game).
- Applied for a job. This is something I may try and make a goal with e.g. apply for 1 job a day until I get employed. Will consider.
- Read some more Manga instead of playing Xbox.
- Another Manga book arrived today (Berserk, Vol. 4).
- Swiped on Tinder, Bumble and Hinge a little (but didn't go mad).
That's it for today. Tried to have a break today with it being Sunday and took it easy a bit. Hope to do more tomorrow and continue working on my goals.
Photos have been posted below for accountability purposes.
Thanks for Reading!
Spider
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