Spider’s Progress Log 🕷 Day 305: New Quest 🧭 Dangerous, but Disciplined 🥷 (Jiu-Jitsu)

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Dewm
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Name: Brady
Goal: Love Myself
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Motto: Fuck Bitches Get Money
Location: New York, NY

Sat Oct 23, 2021 4:50 am

Good luck brother digging the log
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Love Myself
  • Finish my screenplay and make that movie.
  • Girlfriend
    • 3some... low priority
  • Produce a comedy show that makes me money
  • Lose weight and gain muscle
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Spider Jerusalem
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Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Sat Oct 23, 2021 7:47 am

KillYourInnerLoser wrote:
Sat Oct 23, 2021 4:39 am
Spider Jerusalem wrote:
Fri Oct 22, 2021 6:03 pm
kissing on first dates rule
It's not a rule - you can kiss in public on the first date. I just personally don't; it's not necessary. You can easily invite her back to your place and fuck her, without having kissed her first.
@KillYourInnerLoser

Ah I’m with you. I think it’s one of those where I have to judge the situation and go with what feels best in the moment. Plus, there’s the fact that every girl is different!

I’m still in the process of perfecting my game, so this’ll probably come with time and experience: The more dates I go on, the easier it’ll get. Just gotta give myself permission to suck in the early days.

Got a few dates I’m working on setting up at the minute, so I’ll see how they play out 📅

Thanks for the advice, Andy - really appreciated 🙏🏻

Spider
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365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 305/365 🗓

Completed Quests 🧭

- Toxic Waste! ☢️
- Wang Dang Atomic No-Fap Fandango! (3/90) 🗓
- Sunshine Boogie ☀️
- Dangerous, but Disciplined 🥷
- A Fistful of Dollars 💵
- Project Purity 💧

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save 50 Grand

Lay Count: 14
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Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 564 | Thanks: 467
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Sat Oct 23, 2021 7:51 am

Dewm wrote:
Sat Oct 23, 2021 4:50 am
Good luck brother digging the log
@Dewm

Thank you Dewm - appreciate the continued support and encouragement!

Regards,

Spider
365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 305/365 🗓

Completed Quests 🧭

- Toxic Waste! ☢️
- Wang Dang Atomic No-Fap Fandango! (3/90) 🗓
- Sunshine Boogie ☀️
- Dangerous, but Disciplined 🥷
- A Fistful of Dollars 💵
- Project Purity 💧

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save 50 Grand

Lay Count: 14
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Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 564 | Thanks: 467
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Sat Oct 23, 2021 6:34 pm

Day 13: 23/10/2021 ✅

Some of you may be thinking 'What?' when you see 'walking away' on my progress log. I am not quitting the self-improvement, rather I quit something else recently which I wanted to discuss on here for my own clarity.

Today I travelled up north to collect my stuff from University. I dropped out of my Postgraduate Master's course several weeks ago and a week before the actual course started.

This was for a number of reasons:

- My father had a heart attack in the weeks leading up to my course starting.

- Despite assurances being made that it would not be, the Universities here are still implementing online learning yet charging full price.

- My course was put to mostly online despite me moving halfway across the country. Could've done a distance course and saved money.

- Upon reflection, I didn't really want to do the subject and could see myself quitting further down the line.

I soon found myself staring at 4 walls in student housing constantly asking myself the same question over and over:

'What the Fuck am I doing here?'

I decided there and then before my course started that I was going to leave and move back home before I got into something I didn't want to do and would be even harder to get out of the longer it went on.

At the same time, I became sick with the cold from hell which didn't help things at all. I am now almost recovered and am about 90% there despite it being 3 weeks now. These things do linger.

On top of this, the process for withdrawing from both University accommodation and a course is a complete and utter bureaucratic circle-jerk which required many phone calls, paperwork, forms and the sorting out of finances: The university tried to charge me unnecessary fees which I had to ring up and sort out.

I am now 100% convinced that University/college is a business first and educational institute second. In other words, it's a SCAM..

So originally, I did feel quite down about dropping out and the whole process. Was pretty pissed off with myself too.

However, I've recently changed my mindset to a more positive outlook. I think that I learned a valuable lesson from this: Sometimes it's best to know when to walk away..

This could be from a shitty job with a boss who's a dickhead, from an abusive/controlling relationship or from a Tinder match/conversation where the girl seems like an entitlement princess.

This is definitely something I will take forward with me as I move on with my life. At the time of writing this, I now have no regrets about my decision.

Most of my day was taken up by travelling and picking up my stuff, but I also got a few more things done:

- Listened to one of Andy's Podcasts, Episode #11: My lifestyle isn't for forever and why traditional relationships are normal. Really interesting content.

- Organised my Gym clothes for when I go back.

- Bought some Mass Gainer for my bulking diet.

- Bought some protein shakes to form part of my bulking diet.

- Went to sleep at like 03:00 this morning. Forced myself up at 07:00 and decided to a spontaneous hard sleep reset. Due to being ill and stressed, I have been waking up too late. Powered through and I'm planning on getting an early night tonight and waking up early tomorrow.

- Have set various alarms as well as my sleep schedule for tomorrow. Gonna aim for a 05:00 Hrs wake up. I'll see how I get on.

That's it for today - not too much done due to the busy morning, but still a few things on there as well as some reflection.

Photos have been posted for accountability purposes.

Thanks for reading

Spider
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365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 305/365 🗓

Completed Quests 🧭

- Toxic Waste! ☢️
- Wang Dang Atomic No-Fap Fandango! (3/90) 🗓
- Sunshine Boogie ☀️
- Dangerous, but Disciplined 🥷
- A Fistful of Dollars 💵
- Project Purity 💧

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save 50 Grand

Lay Count: 14
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Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 564 | Thanks: 467
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Sun Oct 24, 2021 8:43 pm

Day 14: 24/10/2021 ✅

Happy to say I got my FIRST LAY since starting my progress log/journaling on here. See below for the details:

I got talking to this girl on Tinder and we just hit it off and connected well. Good banter etc. and she seemed like a cool chick. Eventually revealed that she's just gone through a breakup and wants to have some fun.

She was really in the mood, so I did some light sexting where I teased her and explained if she wanted the rest, she'd have to meet me in person. I know that the standing advice is not to sext, so I kept it brief and found a balance: Just enough to keep her interested, but not enough/too much as to get her off 'in the moment' and Fuck up any realistic prospects of meeting.

She was non-committal about meeting for coffee at first: 'I've got a busy week ahead etc. etc. I'll let you know'..., 'I'm a spontaneous girl, I don't plan things...' etc. etc. So I played it cool, totally expected her to ghost, but offered to meet for coffee Sunday (today) and told her to let me know and chased up a few other prospects in the meantime. I've now tried to adopt this abundance mindset with Tinder/Online dating as opposed to the scarcity mindset. I feel a lot better mentally and I don't pin all my hopes on the one girl and come across as a thirsty Simp/desperate beta boy.

This morning I text her and refreshed the offer of a coffee. She said yes and we arranged for 2 as she was going to have a nap due to not sleeping well. Again, kept my expectations low here. After expecting her to flake all day, I text at 1 and asked if she was ready to rock. Turns out she overslept and asked to push back an hour. No big deal as I went down to the shop today instead of tomorrow as I had the extra hour.

Side note here: Wore my height-increasing shoes. I bought some a while back on recommendation from Andy's blog. Tried the insoles, but these were a bit too uncomfortable for me, so I spent a bit of money. These put me at just over 6ft (closer to 6 and a half feet) and I feel this was an excellent investment even if just for the first date. Also rocked my good leather, my magnetic earring and looked pretty decent.

Ended up meeting her at just after 3 and man, she was actually pretty cute. Went and grabbed coffee and had really good conversation. She laughed at my jokes/playful teasing, was really receptive and warm and just an overall sweetheart. I've been quite bitter about women lately, so it was nice to hang out with someone cool who actually put the effort in.

Turns out she had a free house until later this evening, so I ended up going back to hers and she offered to give me a tour of the house. Got upstairs and into her room and I just grabbed her and kissed her. Things went from there.

She wore really nice underwear, had a perky chest, a good figure with a slim waist and a great ass. I popped a Viagra just before (I couldn't get it up once and I now just take one before sex as insurance whenever I'm with a girl) and we must've Fucked for 4 hours.

For my own peace of mind when I re-read this, would like to state I Kept safe and rubbered up the whole time. This is something non-negotiable for me with dating, even if they claim 'to be on the pill' - condom on or I walk. I've had a few scares and Fuck-Ups in the past I may discuss on here if appropriate.

She was VERY submissive and it was probably up there with the best sex I've had. Definitely in a long time. We did a lotta stuff that ticks my boxes and the pillow talk was good too. She's a sweet girl. She is looking for something casual but semi-regular and to explore, but doesn't have much free time (I genuinely believe her on this one) so will test it and see how it goes.

I left and we've text each other thanks for a good time and goodnight. Left it open for if she wants to meet again - she said she does when she's free, so I'll see what happens.

Had a pretty good time today and just want to say a big thank you to:

@Brother_Tucker,
@MILFandCookies
@Dewm
@KillYourInnerLoser

For commenting, advising and steering me in the right direction. These tips definitely paid off today.

Today I have also:

- Posted a few posts on Instagram (Social proof for online dating).

- Been active on Tinder and explored a few prospects. More to follow on this.

- Got up (05:00 A.M) in line with my sleep schedule.

- Listened to Episode #12 of the Kill Your Inner Loser Show regarding age gaps, mentoring women etc. As an older guy (almost 27) who sometimes matches with 18/19 year olds on Tinder, this I found was a very useful episode which I hope to put into practice if I establish anything regular in the future.

- Made notes on the above podcast.

- Did some gardening/helped out around the house.

Photos have been posted below for accountability purposes.

Thanks for reading!

Regards,

Spider
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365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 305/365 🗓

Completed Quests 🧭

- Toxic Waste! ☢️
- Wang Dang Atomic No-Fap Fandango! (3/90) 🗓
- Sunshine Boogie ☀️
- Dangerous, but Disciplined 🥷
- A Fistful of Dollars 💵
- Project Purity 💧

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save 50 Grand

Lay Count: 14
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Sprezza
Posts: 156 | Thanks: 148
Joined: Thu Jun 18, 2020 12:55 am
Goal: Freedom
Age: 25
Motto: Keep pushing it!
Location: Gothenburg, Sweden

Mon Oct 25, 2021 12:19 am

Spider Jerusalem wrote:
Sun Oct 24, 2021 8:43 pm
Happy to say I got my FIRST LAY since starting my progress log/journaling on here
Awesome man!
Main Goals 2021
A1 BUSINESS
----Have an online independent business netting me 5000$ in total for 2022
A2 RANDOM
----Allow myself to have time for hobbies such as learning a new language, reading/listening to something interesting (0/12 months)
----Get the fuck out of Sweden during bad months (Oct-April)

Sprezza's log
Lay Count: 44
2022: 0
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MILFandCookies
Posts: 594 | Thanks: 218
Joined: Wed Sep 16, 2020 12:29 am
Name: Joe
Goal: Maintain $10k+/month
Age: 29
Motto: Chart. Your. Own. Course.
Location: Austin, TX/World
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Mon Oct 25, 2021 12:21 am

Spider Jerusalem wrote:
Sun Oct 24, 2021 8:43 pm
Day 14: 24/10/2021 ✅

Happy to say I got my FIRST LAY since starting my progress log/journaling on here. See below for the details:

I got talking to this girl on Tinder and we just hit it off and connected well. Good banter etc. and she seemed like a cool chick. Eventually revealed that she's just gone through a breakup and wants to have some fun.

She was really in the mood, so I did some light sexting where I teased her and explained if she wanted the rest, she'd have to meet me in person. I know that the standing advice is not to sext, so I kept it brief and found a balance: Just enough to keep her interested, but not enough/too much as to get her off 'in the moment' and Fuck up any realistic prospects of meeting.

She was non-committal about meeting for coffee at first: 'I've got a busy week ahead etc. etc. I'll let you know'..., 'I'm a spontaneous girl, I don't plan things...' etc. etc. So I played it cool, totally expected her to ghost, but offered to meet for coffee Sunday (today) and told her to let me know and chased up a few other prospects in the meantime. I've now tried to adopt this abundance mindset with Tinder/Online dating as opposed to the scarcity mindset. I feel a lot better mentally and I don't pin all my hopes on the one girl and come across as a thirsty Simp/desperate beta boy.

This morning I text her and refreshed the offer of a coffee. She said yes and we arranged for 2 as she was going to have a nap due to not sleeping well. Again, kept my expectations low here. After expecting her to flake all day, I text at 1 and asked if she was ready to rock. Turns out she overslept and asked to push back an hour. No big deal as I went down to the shop today instead of tomorrow as I had the extra hour.

Side note here: Wore my height-increasing shoes. I bought some a while back on recommendation from Andy's blog. Tried the insoles, but these were a bit too uncomfortable for me, so I spent a bit of money. These put me at just over 6ft (closer to 6 and a half feet) and I feel this was an excellent investment even if just for the first date. Also rocked my good leather, my magnetic earring and looked pretty decent.

Ended up meeting her at just after 3 and man, she was actually pretty cute. Went and grabbed coffee and had really good conversation. She laughed at my jokes/playful teasing, was really receptive and warm and just an overall sweetheart. I've been quite bitter about women lately, so it was nice to hang out with someone cool who actually put the effort in.

Turns out she had a free house until later this evening, so I ended up going back to hers and she offered to give me a tour of the house. Got upstairs and into her room and I just grabbed her and kissed her. Things went from there.

She wore really nice underwear, had a perky chest, a good figure with a slim waist and a great ass. I popped a Viagra just before (I couldn't get it up once and I now just take one before sex as insurance whenever I'm with a girl) and we must've Fucked for 4 hours.

For my own peace of mind when I re-read this, would like to state I Kept safe and rubbered up the whole time. This is something non-negotiable for me with dating, even if they claim 'to be on the pill' - condom on or I walk. I've had a few scares and Fuck-Ups in the past I may discuss on here if appropriate.

She was VERY submissive and it was probably up there with the best sex I've had. Definitely in a long time. We did a lotta stuff that ticks my boxes and the pillow talk was good too. She's a sweet girl. She is looking for something casual but semi-regular and to explore, but doesn't have much free time (I genuinely believe her on this one) so will test it and see how it goes.

I left and we've text each other thanks for a good time and goodnight. Left it open for if she wants to meet again - she said she does when she's free, so I'll see what happens.

Had a pretty good time today and just want to say a big thank you to:

@Brother_Tucker,
@MILFandCookies
@Dewm
@KillYourInnerLoser

For commenting, advising and steering me in the right direction. These tips definitely paid off today.

Today I have also:

- Posted a few posts on Instagram (Social proof for online dating).

- Been active on Tinder and explored a few prospects. More to follow on this.

- Got up (05:00 A.M) in line with my sleep schedule.

- Listened to Episode #12 of the Kill Your Inner Loser Show regarding age gaps, mentoring women etc. As an older guy (almost 27) who sometimes matches with 18/19 year olds on Tinder, this I found was a very useful episode which I hope to put into practice if I establish anything regular in the future.

- Made notes on the above podcast.

- Did some gardening/helped out around the house.

Photos have been posted below for accountability purposes.

Thanks for reading!

Regards,

Spider
YESYESYES!

This is all because you decided to take the leap a week ago! Any time you feel overwhelmed about something and want to call it quits remember how you wanted to wait a year before talking to girls again LAST WEEK, and how in JUST ONE WEEK you got this experience!

I love when Andy says this bc it's so true - you'll get there [anywhere you want to go] if you just don't quit.
I've helped dozens of guys get laid on dating apps.
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• Swipe every day
• Approach when easy
• Ask every girl I sleep with if she's into other girls
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Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 564 | Thanks: 467
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Mon Oct 25, 2021 5:30 am

Sprezza wrote:
Mon Oct 25, 2021 12:19 am
Spider Jerusalem wrote:
Sun Oct 24, 2021 8:43 pm
Happy to say I got my FIRST LAY since starting my progress log/journaling on here
Awesome man!
@Sprezza

Thank you, brother
365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 305/365 🗓

Completed Quests 🧭

- Toxic Waste! ☢️
- Wang Dang Atomic No-Fap Fandango! (3/90) 🗓
- Sunshine Boogie ☀️
- Dangerous, but Disciplined 🥷
- A Fistful of Dollars 💵
- Project Purity 💧

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save 50 Grand

Lay Count: 14
User avatar
Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 564 | Thanks: 467
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Mon Oct 25, 2021 5:34 am

MILFandCookies wrote:
Mon Oct 25, 2021 12:21 am
Spider Jerusalem wrote:
Sun Oct 24, 2021 8:43 pm
Day 14: 24/10/2021 ✅

Happy to say I got my FIRST LAY since starting my progress log/journaling on here. See below for the details:

I got talking to this girl on Tinder and we just hit it off and connected well. Good banter etc. and she seemed like a cool chick. Eventually revealed that she's just gone through a breakup and wants to have some fun.

She was really in the mood, so I did some light sexting where I teased her and explained if she wanted the rest, she'd have to meet me in person. I know that the standing advice is not to sext, so I kept it brief and found a balance: Just enough to keep her interested, but not enough/too much as to get her off 'in the moment' and Fuck up any realistic prospects of meeting.

She was non-committal about meeting for coffee at first: 'I've got a busy week ahead etc. etc. I'll let you know'..., 'I'm a spontaneous girl, I don't plan things...' etc. etc. So I played it cool, totally expected her to ghost, but offered to meet for coffee Sunday (today) and told her to let me know and chased up a few other prospects in the meantime. I've now tried to adopt this abundance mindset with Tinder/Online dating as opposed to the scarcity mindset. I feel a lot better mentally and I don't pin all my hopes on the one girl and come across as a thirsty Simp/desperate beta boy.

This morning I text her and refreshed the offer of a coffee. She said yes and we arranged for 2 as she was going to have a nap due to not sleeping well. Again, kept my expectations low here. After expecting her to flake all day, I text at 1 and asked if she was ready to rock. Turns out she overslept and asked to push back an hour. No big deal as I went down to the shop today instead of tomorrow as I had the extra hour.

Side note here: Wore my height-increasing shoes. I bought some a while back on recommendation from Andy's blog. Tried the insoles, but these were a bit too uncomfortable for me, so I spent a bit of money. These put me at just over 6ft (closer to 6 and a half feet) and I feel this was an excellent investment even if just for the first date. Also rocked my good leather, my magnetic earring and looked pretty decent.

Ended up meeting her at just after 3 and man, she was actually pretty cute. Went and grabbed coffee and had really good conversation. She laughed at my jokes/playful teasing, was really receptive and warm and just an overall sweetheart. I've been quite bitter about women lately, so it was nice to hang out with someone cool who actually put the effort in.

Turns out she had a free house until later this evening, so I ended up going back to hers and she offered to give me a tour of the house. Got upstairs and into her room and I just grabbed her and kissed her. Things went from there.

She wore really nice underwear, had a perky chest, a good figure with a slim waist and a great ass. I popped a Viagra just before (I couldn't get it up once and I now just take one before sex as insurance whenever I'm with a girl) and we must've Fucked for 4 hours.

For my own peace of mind when I re-read this, would like to state I Kept safe and rubbered up the whole time. This is something non-negotiable for me with dating, even if they claim 'to be on the pill' - condom on or I walk. I've had a few scares and Fuck-Ups in the past I may discuss on here if appropriate.

She was VERY submissive and it was probably up there with the best sex I've had. Definitely in a long time. We did a lotta stuff that ticks my boxes and the pillow talk was good too. She's a sweet girl. She is looking for something casual but semi-regular and to explore, but doesn't have much free time (I genuinely believe her on this one) so will test it and see how it goes.

I left and we've text each other thanks for a good time and goodnight. Left it open for if she wants to meet again - she said she does when she's free, so I'll see what happens.

Had a pretty good time today and just want to say a big thank you to:

@Brother_Tucker,
@MILFandCookies
@Dewm
@KillYourInnerLoser

For commenting, advising and steering me in the right direction. These tips definitely paid off today.

Today I have also:

- Posted a few posts on Instagram (Social proof for online dating).

- Been active on Tinder and explored a few prospects. More to follow on this.

- Got up (05:00 A.M) in line with my sleep schedule.

- Listened to Episode #12 of the Kill Your Inner Loser Show regarding age gaps, mentoring women etc. As an older guy (almost 27) who sometimes matches with 18/19 year olds on Tinder, this I found was a very useful episode which I hope to put into practice if I establish anything regular in the future.

- Made notes on the above podcast.

- Did some gardening/helped out around the house.

Photos have been posted below for accountability purposes.

Thanks for reading!

Regards,

Spider
YESYESYES!

This is all because you decided to take the leap a week ago! Any time you feel overwhelmed about something and want to call it quits remember how you wanted to wait a year before talking to girls again LAST WEEK, and how in JUST ONE WEEK you got this experience!

I love when Andy says this bc it's so true - you'll get there [anywhere you want to go] if you just don't quit.
@MILFandCookies

Thanks Joe! Really appreciate your ongoing support.

When I feel pissed off, I’m now going back and re-reading my log 📖 as you suggested to see that if I keep going, I get the results.

It’s really motivating and puts things into proper perspective.

Thanks again, man

Spider
365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 305/365 🗓

Completed Quests 🧭

- Toxic Waste! ☢️
- Wang Dang Atomic No-Fap Fandango! (3/90) 🗓
- Sunshine Boogie ☀️
- Dangerous, but Disciplined 🥷
- A Fistful of Dollars 💵
- Project Purity 💧

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save 50 Grand

Lay Count: 14
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Holden
Posts: 704 | Thanks: 242
Joined: Sun Apr 18, 2021 1:36 pm
Goal: Rotation
Age: 26

Mon Oct 25, 2021 5:55 am

Awesome man
Laycount: 81

My Log

Primary goal:
- Rotation of three girls (DONE)
- Regular threesomes (DONE)
- A foursome
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Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 564 | Thanks: 467
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Mon Oct 25, 2021 6:08 am

Holden wrote:
Mon Oct 25, 2021 5:55 am
Awesome man
@Holden

Picked up a lot from your progress log which definitely helped me out here

thank you brother
365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 305/365 🗓

Completed Quests 🧭

- Toxic Waste! ☢️
- Wang Dang Atomic No-Fap Fandango! (3/90) 🗓
- Sunshine Boogie ☀️
- Dangerous, but Disciplined 🥷
- A Fistful of Dollars 💵
- Project Purity 💧

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save 50 Grand

Lay Count: 14
User avatar
Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 564 | Thanks: 467
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Mon Oct 25, 2021 5:33 pm

Day 15: 25/10/2021 ✅

Just a quick one for today as I've mostly been doing interview prep for this job interview I have tomorrow:

- Woke up early again this morning (05:00 Hrs)

- Listened to 3 Podcasts:

- Episode #13: Overcoming porn addiction - Working my way through NoFap, so this was helpful.

- Episode #14: The Red Pill is a bit crazy - Definitely agree here. Has some useful concepts, but RedPill can be retarded sometimes.

- Episode #15: Dealing with a lack of motivation - Helpful as some days I can't be Fucking bothered! Reward is the key.

- Another Berserk Manga came (Volume 6.). I now have Volumes 6 and 7 of the Deluxe edition.

- Read some more Berserk - Hooked!

- Did some interview prep.

- Cleaned and tidied my room.

- Got my car road-ready for when I start driving soon.

And that's it for today - Got the job interview tomorrow, so just gonna see how I get on. Fucking dreading it like, but we'll see.

Photos have been posted for accountability purposes.

Thanks for reading

Spider
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365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 305/365 🗓

Completed Quests 🧭

- Toxic Waste! ☢️
- Wang Dang Atomic No-Fap Fandango! (3/90) 🗓
- Sunshine Boogie ☀️
- Dangerous, but Disciplined 🥷
- A Fistful of Dollars 💵
- Project Purity 💧

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save 50 Grand

Lay Count: 14
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Spider Jerusalem
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Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Tue Oct 26, 2021 6:03 pm

Day 16: 26/10/2021 ✅

Bit of a downer today - went for a job interview, but won't be taking it due the toxic work environment. Read on if you're interested :arrow_up:

So I went for this job interview today as I have mentioned in my project log previously. The interview itself went really well, but ultimately I have decided to turn down the job.

During the interview, a couple of things one of the managers said to me who was interviewing totally put me off:

- Informed me that it was a heavily target-driven role which I was cool with. Stated that if he felt I wasn't working hard enough and meeting these targets, he would be, and I quote, 'sat on my shoulder breathing down my neck'. He used these words EXACTLY. Was he presuming that I was gonna be a lazy Fucker or something?

- Informed me that I would be required to travel with the job and made no mention of reimbursement of expenses. This isn't just gas: In my country, you are legally required to have business insurance if using your vehicle for work purposes which is more expensive than the standard insurance. This was not mentioned at all on the initial job advert on the job site. Very misleading.

- Informed me that if the phone rang late at night or early morning, there is the expectation that it gets answered and dealt with to retain clients. Work/life balance practically non-existent leaving pretty much zero time to work on my self-improvement goal of sleep optimisation as well as the other things on my list e.g my main bulking goal.

- Despite him saying he does not micromanage, everything he said during the interview hinted to me that he sure as shit WOULD micromanage.

- Finally, when asked if I was happy to take the job if offered on the spot, I politely requested that I'd need a day or two to consider as I never make big decisions on the spot - which is the truth. I was however pretty much 90% decided that I wasn't taking the job, but wanted to think it over anyway.

This guy then said 'Oh is that because you've got other job offers then? What are they?' With a smug tone.

That 90% very quickly became 100%. I had to bite my tongue to stop myself from saying 'Yeah actually, I got a job offer from a company called 'How about mind your own Fucking business?.'

Despite fantasising extensively about uttering the aforementioned expletive, I stayed polite, shook hands and delta'd outta there quick as I could.

I could tell that this was a very toxic work environment and for the workload, bullshit and likely bullying behaviour from middle management, this job was not on par with the pay.

I am looking forward to ringing up and telling this guy that I won't be taking his shit job tomorrow a hell of a lot more than I probably should be.

I don't need his attitude or his job at the minute. Not that I'm picky about work - I've done cleaning jobs on toilets when I needed the money. I just know when someone is taking the piss.

The one positive I can take from this is that I got some interview experience from it I suppose. I guess I could kinda throw in here that it's made me realise that I know when a shitty deal is on the table and that I have the self-respect to say 'no'' and walk.

It can be your biggest power.

Felt a bit down about the whole thing today. Broke my No-Fap streak which Fucking sucks, but it's one of them.

I'm chalking up today as experience and I'll carry on tomorrow with the self-improvement :arrow:

I did however get a few things done:

- Got halfway through one of Andy's podcasts - will update tomorrow.

- Applied for 5 jobs - gotta keep trying even after a knock-back.

No photos today, but will get back on it tomorrow.

Thanks for reading

Spider
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Completed Quests 🧭

- Toxic Waste! ☢️
- Wang Dang Atomic No-Fap Fandango! (3/90) 🗓
- Sunshine Boogie ☀️
- Dangerous, but Disciplined 🥷
- A Fistful of Dollars 💵
- Project Purity 💧

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save 50 Grand

Lay Count: 14
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Spider Jerusalem
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Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
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Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Wed Oct 27, 2021 5:38 pm

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365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 305/365 🗓

Completed Quests 🧭

- Toxic Waste! ☢️
- Wang Dang Atomic No-Fap Fandango! (3/90) 🗓
- Sunshine Boogie ☀️
- Dangerous, but Disciplined 🥷
- A Fistful of Dollars 💵
- Project Purity 💧

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save 50 Grand

Lay Count: 14
User avatar
Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 564 | Thanks: 467
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Wed Oct 27, 2021 5:38 pm

Day 17: 27/10/2021 ✅

Think I've recovered quite well from yesterday's downer after that bullshit job interview. I didn't get up early like I have been doing and slept in until 07:00 Hrs. Mind kept replaying things, so didn't sleep great last night. Not ideal, but it was still earlier than I have been getting up recently so I'm not too down about that. Will try again tomorrow to get up early :arrow_up:

Had a few good opportunities come my way today and was determined not to let yesterday get me down. Here's my progress update:

- Rang the interviewer from yesterday and told him I wouldn't be taking his bullshit job. The second interviewer answered who was the one who was more amicable than the other guy, so I didn't mention any of the reasons why or get my point across - no need to give flak to a guy who don't deserve it. I did ask for feedback and he said I did really well: Trying to see the positive side and I think there are definitely a few positives to take away from this including the good feedback as well as the experience as a whole.

- Read some more Berserk Manga to keep my mind occupied.

- Went for a walk for 30 minutes to get some sun and fresh air. Helped clear my head.

- Listened to Andy's podcast - episode #16: First guest John - Getting Laid, Making Friends. Interesting to listen to and got some good tips.

- I have re-joined the gym. This is something I've been Fucking around with and putting off. Been coming up with lots of excuses for not joining sooner, but I've finally decided to Give myself permission to suck and have a go at it.

I've got a workout app on my phone which is a P.T app where the trainer goes through the exercises and you input your reps etc.. As I'm out of work at the minute (but should be in work very soon) this only costs me 15 bucks a month, so is much better for me than paying an actual P.T. I think it's a good workaround and now I have no excuses for getting started. This is my main goal so it's about time I stopped Fucking around and got on with it. 'It's not the right time' but when is it ever? Updates to follow on this and I will use this log to keep myself accountable.

- I am going to head to the gym later tonight (as it's 24 hours) to get my bearings and check the place out for 10-15 minutes. It's been a while since I've been in and want to check out the layout and see if anything has changed. Good preparation for my first workout. Will post a photo on here later for accountability to show that I have done this.

- Got another job interview today which has helped me bounce back from yesterday. The interview is Friday and I'm not expecting to get it, but I'll still have a go. It's a good experience if nothing else like the shit interview yesterday. Plus the pay is okay and it would be a good starting job for my first employment after graduating with my Undergraduate degree. Updates on this tomorrow and I'll start prepping for it tomorrow too.

- Have been swiping on and off on Tinder and the other sites. Not much prospects at the minute. Kinky Daddy's girl has left me on read, so I'll probably pass on that. My tolerance for ghosts is quite low at the minute and if they can't be bothered to put the effort in, then I'm not playing chase no more. The girl I saw last Sunday and had fun with has been in contact and we've been texting on and off. Said she got a busy week, so haven't been bombarding. Don't wanna come across as desperate either. Hoping to see her again, but keeping my expectations low. Sure now that another chick will come along if this one doesn't play out. This abundance over scarcity mindset is working out well for me.

Think I've bounced back after yesterday. Got quite a bit done today which I'm quite happy with.

Gonna try and keep it going tomorrow and maintain the momentum.

Photos have been posted for accountability purposes.

Thanks for reading

Spider
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365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 305/365 🗓

Completed Quests 🧭

- Toxic Waste! ☢️
- Wang Dang Atomic No-Fap Fandango! (3/90) 🗓
- Sunshine Boogie ☀️
- Dangerous, but Disciplined 🥷
- A Fistful of Dollars 💵
- Project Purity 💧

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save 50 Grand

Lay Count: 14
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