Day 103: 22/01/2022
Spider's 'Podcast Roundup' and Hand Care
Thought I'd do a 'Podcast Roundup' - Yee-Haw, Howdy Partners etc.
I've listened to quite a few podcasts this week to keep my mind off things and distract myself after a rough coupl'a days. Like a dumbass, I didn't post about these on my log, so I'm going to do a quick recap now as well as a few lines on what I got out of each
I've also decided to take care of a bit of a longstanding skin issue. Not very pleasant, but I've got a wart on my thumb. Popped into a pharmacy today and bought some salicylic acid - prescription strength. I've always picked at it due to anxiety ad bitten it but it's not very pleasant when meeting girls and I'm a bit self-conscious to be honest
So, I've now decided I'm going to try and obliterate it
I'll put the acid on morning and then cover it with a plaster to stop me picking at it. I'll do the same at night although I'll take the plaster off for a bit first and put a fresh one on. Thank God plasters are cheap!
Gonna have to be persistent with this as it's a persistent skin problem. I've had enough of it and now I'm working an office job, I can actually start to look after my hands a lot more. Need to get a skincare routine going - 10 minutes a day will probably work wonders long-term
Here's my Podcast Roundup:
Day 149: How to Avoid STDs (Are They as Scary as People Make Out?)
Agree with this a lot. I stress massively over pregnancy, but not so much STD's. I did stress one time where this girl I dated briefly told me she had chlamydia - upon reflection, I think she was making this up out of spite. She was a bit of a crazy pink-haired feminist. I only stressed because I was worried I'd passed it on to someone else if I had it and wasn't sure how long I'd potentially had it. I was negative in the end and she'd made it all up as a little petty pathetic 'Fuck You'. What a bitch. I always wear a condom now and this eliminates the stress. In fact if a girl doesn't want me to wear one, that's a red flag and I now don't sleep with them as it's a bit of a risk. Common sense really.
Day 150: How to Take the Lead Without Being Controlling
Solid advice. Too many men think being controlling is 'dominant' when in reality, it's being a creep. Anyway, with something like that, you'd have to keep the control up all the time which is pretty impossible for guys who aren't used to it, so eventually the girl sees through your little charade, loses respect for you and Fucks off. I've never wanted to control girls outside of bedroom roleplay, so I appreciate this good advice.
Day 151: How You Can Encourage Others (Even If You’re a Total Newbie)
Just because you're new doesn't mean you can't help others along. I've recently been helping people a lot older than me through breakups and to quit smoking. I also try post on a few logs on here as and when I can to encourage others. If I think I can give some good advice, then I will. Been through quite a bit of bullshit in my time, so on some things I can relate and advise e.g. depression, bad dates etc.
Day 152: When Should I Lower or Raise My Standards? (The Ebb & Flow of Standards)
I'm now a little bit more picky with my standards, although I wasn't when I was younger and first getting started. I am hopeful as my looks improve, I can be pickier and get away with more as well as dictating the terms: Andy's advice is bang on when he says that the guys who have got their looks and body in order can dictate their terms and write their own ticket eg. FWB no relationships.
Day 153: Radical Ideas: Go Outside More
I have been taking this advice this week. Instead of taking an hour's lunch, I get up from my desk and walk outside for 10 minutes even when it's cold. Stretch my back off and give my eyes a break from the computer screen. Fresh air works wonders.
Day 154: Winner’s Mindset vs Loser’s Mindset (Female Listener)
Fantastic episode. One of my favourites most definitely. I've had a Loser's mindset as a result of listening to other people's negative normie NPC opinions. I now try adopt the winner's mindset. Getting drama and criticism from people for doing things like waking up at 04:10, going to the gym, reading books over playing Xbox etc. is something I just shut out now and write the criticisers off. They can do their own thing.
Day 155: 3 Ways to Live with a Woman and Still Be Productive
Good advice. I don't plan on ever living with a woman as I also like my own space but I agree about sleep being paramount. There is an old saying that 'separate beds make for a happier marriage'. If a girl can't respect my boundaries and doesn't have her own stuff to work on, then I'm not interested.
Day 156: Radical Ideas: My Top 5 Flaws
Good to admit your own flaws publicly - respect for this. I definitely have my flaws which I try to regularly acknowledge and confront so I can try to address them.
Day 157: Does “Building Comfort” Matter? (Patreon Question)
I think this excuse gets used for a lot of procrastination e.g. 'I'll go to the gym when I feel comfortable...' as well as with dating.
Day 158: My Top 5 Strengths
This is something I need to do more of. I'm my own worst enemy and constantly criticise and focus on my own faults.
Day 159: Sharing Resentment/Anger/Frustration, Whilst Still Being on the Same Team
I've been in 2 relationships in 11 years. They didn't last very long because of reasons like this one. I now endure to be honest in the future with girls I date.
Day 160: Don’t Make Excuses (Stick to the Fucking Plan)
Jocko has similar advice. There's a section in his book I can remember that addresses excuses - I hear excuses every day and I try and avoid doing this to myself now. I'm always amazed at how the mind can try talk you out of doing stuff and the bullshit excuses that it can auto-generate!
And here's today's update:
- Woke up at 04:10 Hrs
- Had Coffee and Contemplation at my Battle Station
- Did 15 Push Ups and Sit Ups. Almost Fucking killed me as I took a break from this! Least I'm back on it now
- Went out and bought my brother another birthday present. Wanted to get outta the damn house anyway
- Bought myself another birthday present - this one wasn't cheap, but it'll help with self-improvement. It's an investment. I'll post about it on my Birthday as I want a couple of other things too and I'll just do the one post in one go
That's it for today's update
Photos have been posted for accountability purposes
Thanks for Reading
Spider 🕷
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