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Thanks Dom!
Still got a ways to go, but I think I'm getting there!
Appreciate your help my man
Spider
ok lol this isn't about a lack of "love and respect" or whatever and isn't inconsistent with that valueSpider Jerusalem wrote: ↑Thu Sep 08, 2022 2:03 pmThere are a few things I don't like about this BJJ club and particularly the head trainer
Seems if he's having a bad day or someone's pissed him off, he gives us a killer session with heavy sprints etc.
The other day I saw him scream at some guy who's unfit and was exhausted for sitting down during the aforementioned killer session:
'YOU GET THE FUCK UP AND RUN NOW! THIS IS THE ONLY WAY YOU IMPROVE!'
I got mixed feelings about this. I feel there was better ways this could've been said e.g. 'Come on buddy you can do this! Just 2 more minutes' or whatever
He preaches love and respect then goes off on people like that?
@colgatecolgate wrote: ↑Thu Sep 08, 2022 3:15 pmok lol this isn't about a lack of "love and respect" or whatever and isn't inconsistent with that value
there's something primal that happens when you're pushed in a very aggressive way. it's supposed to piss you off so you work harder in the moment. and i dont think some guy who's "unfit" and "exhausted" gets a free pass either
i have a private boxing trainer and he doesn't let me get away with shit either, he just commands me if i'm fucking up.
maybe i'm misunderstanding the situation, and the trainer could by all means actually be an insecure dickhead, but the alternative you suggested would not be conducive to the type of environment that's needed for a fighting gym, so i am writing this short reply
Different gyms will have different vibes. There are some gyms where the coach will scream at people or specifically call individuals out in front of the group. But those tend to be very competition-focused gyms where that's the experience that the members want.Spider Jerusalem wrote: ↑Fri Sep 09, 2022 3:07 pm@Adam
I know you also train Jiu-Jitsu just wondering if you or any of the other guys had any thoughts on this? Be very interested to hear your opinion
Yeah man I think this place is quite competition focused whereas I have absolutely no desire to compete at all. I don't even really want to go for the whole stripes thing and go up the belts.Adam wrote: ↑Fri Sep 09, 2022 9:35 pmNone of the gyms I have trained at have been like that. There's gentle pushing, but if someone wants to sit out from rolling at the end of practice or needs adjustments due to injuries or being out of shape it isn't a problem. There's a recognition that not everyone is there for the same reason. Some people are training to fight professionally but others are there to get in better shape or want a fun social hobby and don't intend to ever compete.
I've heard he used to be big in MMA and transitioned to training purely BJJ, so this could be a big part of it as I know MMA training and how fighters are motivated is likely a lot different from purely BJJ.Adam wrote: ↑Fri Sep 09, 2022 9:35 pmI won't speculate on your coach's motives. Maybe it's insecurity but it could also be that he thinks that's the most effective way to train or that's the flavor of training he wants to give. But if you don't like it and want a more chill gym, you can find one. There are plenty.
Thanks for giving me your thoughts on this. There's another 2 places in my town which offer training but the schedules are difficult with how they clash with my shift pattern. I'm tied into the contract at this place for 3 months, then I can cancel, so I'll stick it out and see. It's likely if this trainer spoke to me like that, I'd just get up and walk out.Adam wrote: ↑Fri Sep 09, 2022 9:35 pmPersonally I don't care for the style of coaching you've described. I think of jiujitsu as similar to dieting or working out. The best diet is the one you stick to, even if there's some other diet that's theoretically more effective. Same thing with training - the best gym I can attend is one where I enjoy training, because that will get me the most time on the mat which will make me improve faster. (Assuming a base level of quality instruction - if you are learning sloppy techniques then yes that's a problem.)