Spider’s Progress Log 🕷 Day 355: Quitting Online Dating (Temporarily) 📵 365 10 Day Countdown ⏰

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Spider Jerusalem
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Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Sun Sep 18, 2022 7:06 pm

Day 343: 18/09/2022 ✅

Despair Over my Brother 🤦‍♂️ Gym 17 👟

Despairing Over my Brother 🤦‍♂️

Don't really talk about my family much, but I have a twin brother.

We are totally different and he's not into self-improvement at all, despite my many efforts to help him.

- He's overweight
- He dresses sloppy
- He goes to McDonald's 4 times a week
- He doesn't go to the Gym
- He drinks lots of beer
- He will Fuck literally ANYTHING

This weekend, he paid for a hotel room for 3 nights for himself and a girl from Tinder.

All in all this cost him £200 (228$ USD).

One problem: He'd Never met this girl before.

So he turns up and... he gets catfished.

This girl is absolutely Rough as Fuck.

From what he told me: Blotchy puffy skin, no neck, looks like a potato, huge, crooked yellow teeth, the list could go on.

I've tried to assist him numerous times - sorting out his dress sense, Tinder photos, style etc. but he just doesn't want to be helped.

Think it's a low self-esteem and confidence thing with him. He doesn't want to change either as he's 'happy' as he is.

He pretty much gets pissed on the weekend, eats junk food, plays Xbox and then gets laid every now and again with a couple of these 40-50 year old 'hang-arounds' he knows.

I'll be here when he wants the help and he's ready to get serious, but Fuck me, I can't help him because he don't want the actual help.

Just wanted to get this off my chest.

Gym 17 👟

Hit the Gym this morning for session 17 - Legs so just 4 Quick exercises


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Tough to do after a day off yesterday but I did it anyway

Thanks for reading 📖

Spider 🕷
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365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 355/365 🗓

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Jiu Jitsu Sessions Attended: 24

Gym Sessions Attended: 21

Lay Count: 15

No-Fap: 01/90

Weight:

24/08/2022: 68.6 kg / 10.8 St.
24/09/2022: 74.2 kg / 11.7 St.

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save £50,000
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AskTheDom
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Joined: Sat Jun 04, 2022 7:16 am
Goal: retire early
Age: 37
Motto: Alea iacta est

Mon Sep 19, 2022 8:03 am

Spider Jerusalem wrote:
Sun Sep 18, 2022 7:06 pm
Just wanted to get this off my chest.
"You can't save everyone" I think the scene from Matrix where Morpheus explain to Neo why they aren't unplugging everyone from the matrix is probably the best description for this situation in life, valid for friends, family, close ones.
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Spider Jerusalem
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Name: Spider
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Mon Sep 19, 2022 9:01 am

AskTheDom wrote:
Mon Sep 19, 2022 8:03 am
"You can't save everyone" I think the scene from Matrix where Morpheus explain to Neo why they aren't unplugging everyone from the matrix is probably the best description for this situation in life, valid for friends, family, close ones.
@AskTheDom

Yeah man just hurts me to see him get himself in these kinda situations and not want more for himself. Mind you I was like that myself a few years ago, so I can understand it to a degree.

Hopefully one day he'll want to 'unplug' and I'll be there to help him along
365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 355/365 🗓

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Jiu Jitsu Sessions Attended: 24

Gym Sessions Attended: 21

Lay Count: 15

No-Fap: 01/90

Weight:

24/08/2022: 68.6 kg / 10.8 St.
24/09/2022: 74.2 kg / 11.7 St.

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save £50,000
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AskTheDom
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Goal: retire early
Age: 37
Motto: Alea iacta est

Mon Sep 19, 2022 11:29 am

Best way to do so?

Be so damn good that people will be blown away and will ask you "what happened to you?!"
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Spider Jerusalem
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Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Mon Sep 19, 2022 7:07 pm

Day 344: 19/09/2022 ✅

Gym 18 👟 New Diet

It's the Queen's Funeral today. The whole country is off for a day to mourn.

This isn't something I really vibe with or am interested in, so I decided to take the day to get shit done instead of watch the T.V all day and get all depressed.

I woke up with a sore throat and congestion this morning as well as upset stomach. Think I've got a mild cold which has affected things today.

Gym 18 👟

Hit the Gym this morning which takes us up to Gym Session 18, but I had to come home after a few sets.


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I've got an upset stomach, sore throat and cough which made me feel like utter crap after lifting a few of the weights.

Pissed off I couldn't finish my workout, but no point in making myself sick.

Came home and hopped into bed.

New Diet



My Diet lately has gone a bit crappy I must admit. It's due to working 6 Days a week, hitting the Gym 6 Days a week and doing Jiu-Jitsu 5/6 Days a week. I just haven't had the time to go shopping and to cook.

This guy on YouTube who works for Bodybuilding.com did a good Meal Prep Guide:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hAmSbK81_MA

Healthy, tasty and calorie dense, so I'm going to steal one or 2 of the meal ideas he's suggested and eat these in addition to the gainer shakes I've also been drinking which I get cheaper from work.

It's going to look something like this:

Breakfast

- YFood Bottle: 500
- Blueberry Muffin: 361

Post-Workout

- YFood Bottle: 500
- Protein Bar: 203
- Protein Yoghurt: 140

Lunch

- Fajita Bowl: 782

Pre-Training

- Turkey + Sweet Potato: 560

Dinner

- Dinner: 750
- YFood Bottle: 500

Total: 4296 Calories

Target goal is 3500-4000 Calories per day due to all the exercise I've been doing.

I've allocated time in my schedule to both shop and cook for this new meal plan too.

Thanks for reading 📖


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365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 355/365 🗓

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Jiu Jitsu Sessions Attended: 24

Gym Sessions Attended: 21

Lay Count: 15

No-Fap: 01/90

Weight:

24/08/2022: 68.6 kg / 10.8 St.
24/09/2022: 74.2 kg / 11.7 St.

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save £50,000
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Matias
Posts: 73 | Thanks: 23
Joined: Fri Dec 31, 2021 6:33 pm
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 20
Motto: excuses dissapear the moment you take action
Location: Argentina

Tue Sep 20, 2022 2:15 am

Hi man, sorry to bother you. I have a question, how do you change the title of your log? Is it by changing the subject? Can you see if mine appears as I put it "Day 37 📅 - Day 7 AAP🏮 - University Dude 😎👩🏻🎓" or just "Mighty - Daily Log".
Thank you in advance
Mighty.
Current goals:
  • Get Laid
  • Improve Style
  • Add muscle at the gym
  • Have more friends.
Mighty - Daily Log
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Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 630 | Thanks: 509
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Tue Sep 20, 2022 5:23 am

Matias wrote:
Tue Sep 20, 2022 2:15 am
Hi man, sorry to bother you. I have a question, how do you change the title of your log? Is it by changing the subject? Can you see if mine appears as I put it "Day 37 📅 - Day 7 AAP🏮 - University Dude 😎👩🏻🎓" or just "Mighty - Daily Log".
Thank you in advance
Mighty.
@Matias

Hello mate

Change the title of the very first post in your log - that should change it

Give it a try and let me know
365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 355/365 🗓

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Jiu Jitsu Sessions Attended: 24

Gym Sessions Attended: 21

Lay Count: 15

No-Fap: 01/90

Weight:

24/08/2022: 68.6 kg / 10.8 St.
24/09/2022: 74.2 kg / 11.7 St.

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save £50,000
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Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 630 | Thanks: 509
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Tue Sep 20, 2022 2:00 pm

Day 345: 20/09/2022 ✅

Off Sick 🤧 No Gym, No Training 👎 20 Day Countdown ⏰

Well, shit.

Woke up this morning feeling like crap 👎

Didn't go to the Gym today as I've come down with a fever, sore throat, cough and upset stomach 😷

Don't think I'm going to go training later either 😒

Kinda knew this was coming as I went home from the Gym early yesterday as I was sick 🤧

Pretty Fucked off as I had a good streak going, but there's nothing I can do if I've come down with something. Wouldn't be fair on the guys at training if I'm rolling with them and coughing all over everybody 👎

Think I'm gonna have to give it a few days and then see how I feel. It's one of them, but I'm still pissed off about it 🤬

I'm still going into work today, but I'll probably get an early night when I come home later and just take the opportunity to catch up on my sleep and rest 💤

20 Day Countdown ⏰

On a more positive note, today marks Day 345 of my 365 Day Project 💯

This means we're now onto a 20 Day Countdown until this project is completed ✅

I'll drop the next countdown in 10 days' time and then at a week 📅

Felt this was worth mentioning as I've come quite a long way 🏞

Thanks for reading 📖

Spider 🕷
365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 355/365 🗓

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Jiu Jitsu Sessions Attended: 24

Gym Sessions Attended: 21

Lay Count: 15

No-Fap: 01/90

Weight:

24/08/2022: 68.6 kg / 10.8 St.
24/09/2022: 74.2 kg / 11.7 St.

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save £50,000
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Matias
Posts: 73 | Thanks: 23
Joined: Fri Dec 31, 2021 6:33 pm
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 20
Motto: excuses dissapear the moment you take action
Location: Argentina

Tue Sep 20, 2022 11:44 pm

Spider Jerusalem wrote:
Tue Sep 20, 2022 5:23 am
Matias wrote:
Tue Sep 20, 2022 2:15 am
Hi man, sorry to bother you. I have a question, how do you change the title of your log? Is it by changing the subject? Can you see if mine appears as I put it "Day 37 📅 - Day 7 AAP🏮 - University Dude 😎👩🏻🎓" or just "Mighty - Daily Log".
Thank you in advance
Mighty.
@Matias

Hello mate

Change the title of the very first post in your log - that should change it

Give it a try and let me know
Works perfectly, Thanks!
Current goals:
  • Get Laid
  • Improve Style
  • Add muscle at the gym
  • Have more friends.
Mighty - Daily Log
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Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 630 | Thanks: 509
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Wed Sep 21, 2022 7:09 am

Day 346: 21/09/2022 ✅

Off Sick 🤧 Day 2: Trying to be Productive ✅

Despite being off sick, I'm still trying to be somewhat productive.

- I'm still going into work, so I'm still earning money instead of just lying in bed doing nothing.

- I'm also keeping up with typing these posts on my Progress Log.

- Today I've rang up and got my new quote for my Car Insurance - something you have to legally have in this country, so I have to pay it.

I'm gutted about not being able to go training or to the Gym for a couple of days, but there's nothing I can do about that.

I caught up on T.V last night, but I'd have rather been doing something more physical.

Oh well.

Thanks for reading 📖

Spider 🕷
365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 355/365 🗓

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Jiu Jitsu Sessions Attended: 24

Gym Sessions Attended: 21

Lay Count: 15

No-Fap: 01/90

Weight:

24/08/2022: 68.6 kg / 10.8 St.
24/09/2022: 74.2 kg / 11.7 St.

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save £50,000
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Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 630 | Thanks: 509
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Thu Sep 22, 2022 7:03 pm

Day 347: 22/09/2022 ✅

Off Sick 🤧 Day 3: Payday Plans 💰 Recovery Jobs 📝

Payday Plans 💰

Haven't really done much again today apart from go to work.

I do feel a bit better, so I'm getting there in that respect. It's just one of these horrible lingering coughs/colds which aren't serious, but restrict you from doing anything productive like exercise, dating, going out etc.

Tomorrow is Payday, so thought I'd make a list of things I need to buy. Most of these are for self-improvement purposes:

- New Jiu-Jitsu Gi
- Pay off Car Insurance
- Put £50 worth of Petrol in my Car
- Book dental appointment
- Food Shop
- Pay my folks rent

I will put some cash into my savings, but I'm going to wait until the end of next month before I do this. I Fucked up at the start of last month and put too much money into my savings and I've had to watch what I've been spending these past few weeks.

Better way to save would be to wait until the next payday and see what's left over and put that into my savings instead.

I've also got this car insurance bill to pay off, so I can't really put as much into my savings account as I did last month. Combine that with the cost-of-living crisis and it's a pretty Fucked up time all round.

Recovery Jobs 📝

Got a jobs list for when I'm fully recovered as well:

- Clean and tidy my room - it's piled up again with me being sick
- Do a food shop for my new diet plan
- Start my new diet
- Clean and wash my car
- Go back to the Gym
- Go back to Jiu-Jitsu Training

I've had to have a break, but I'm gonna hit the ground running again soon as I'm better. Determined not to let this send me back to square 1.

I've probably lost weight as well, but Fuck it I'm trying not to think about it. New diet will take care of that anyway.

Thanks for reading 📖

Spider 🕷
365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 355/365 🗓

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Jiu Jitsu Sessions Attended: 24

Gym Sessions Attended: 21

Lay Count: 15

No-Fap: 01/90

Weight:

24/08/2022: 68.6 kg / 10.8 St.
24/09/2022: 74.2 kg / 11.7 St.

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save £50,000
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Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 630 | Thanks: 509
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Fri Sep 23, 2022 7:28 pm

Day 348: 23/09/2022 ✅

Payday 💰

Not much of an update unfortunately as I'm still recovering from this illness.

Hoping to get back into working out from Sunday onwards after a bit of a rest.

Got paid today so went out and did some shopping:

- Bought food for my new diet
- Got my hair cut
- Put petrol in my car

Also managed to get my room cleaned and it's looking much better now.

Thanks for reading 📖

Spider 🕷
365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 355/365 🗓

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Jiu Jitsu Sessions Attended: 24

Gym Sessions Attended: 21

Lay Count: 15

No-Fap: 01/90

Weight:

24/08/2022: 68.6 kg / 10.8 St.
24/09/2022: 74.2 kg / 11.7 St.

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save £50,000
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Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 630 | Thanks: 509
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Sat Sep 24, 2022 3:30 pm

Day 349: 24/09/2022 ✅

Car Work 🛠 Back to Training Prep 📝

Car Work 🛠

Did a lot of work on the car today. Mostly focused around getting it ready for winter:

- Replaced the window wipers
- Checked the oil, lights etc.
- Coated the glass with anti-fog
- Sorted the insurance - Saved £130
- Cleaned it
- Washed it

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Job done ✅

Back to Training Prep 📝

I've decided I'm well enough to go back to training etc. now, so did the prep work for this week:

- Batch Cooked
- Prepped my Gym Clothes
- Packed my Gym Bag

I'll start back at the Gym tomorrow morning and take it from there
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Thanks for reading 📖

Spider 🕷
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365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 355/365 🗓

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Jiu Jitsu Sessions Attended: 24

Gym Sessions Attended: 21

Lay Count: 15

No-Fap: 01/90

Weight:

24/08/2022: 68.6 kg / 10.8 St.
24/09/2022: 74.2 kg / 11.7 St.

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save £50,000
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Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 630 | Thanks: 509
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Sun Sep 25, 2022 4:43 pm

Day 350: 25/09/2022 ✅

Back on it: Gym 19 👟 + I'VE GAINED WEIGHT 💯

Gym 19

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Had to battle with myself this morning after a week off from the Gym Sick ⚔️

I really didn't want to get out of bed, but I did it. That's pretty much the hard part over, so I'm happy. Didn't add any weight today to my workout, but I didn't drop any either ⬆️

I'll be back in tomorrow morning and then I'll be in on the night for Jiu-Jitsu 🥋

I'VE GAINED WEIGHT 💯

I'm very pleased to state that I have actually gained weight 💯

This is something I've been tracking and keeping an eye on for the past month. I've also dropped this in my signature, but here's the break down:

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So I've gone from:

24/08/2022: 68.6 kg / 10.8 St. / 151.2 lbs

to

24/08/2022: 74.2kg / 11.7 St. /163.5 lbs

That's just under a whole Stone in 1 Month.

My main goal when I set out almost a year ago was to bulk up, so good to see I'm actually making progress on this 💯👏

Thanks for reading 📖

Spider 🕷
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365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 355/365 🗓

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Jiu Jitsu Sessions Attended: 24

Gym Sessions Attended: 21

Lay Count: 15

No-Fap: 01/90

Weight:

24/08/2022: 68.6 kg / 10.8 St.
24/09/2022: 74.2 kg / 11.7 St.

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save £50,000
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Spider Jerusalem
Posts: 630 | Thanks: 509
Joined: Mon Oct 11, 2021 9:51 am
Name: Spider
Goal: Bulk Up
Age: 27
Motto: 'Fuck around and find out'

Mon Sep 26, 2022 8:52 pm

Day 351: 26/09/2022 ✅

Gym 20 👟 Jiu-Jitsu 24 🥋

Gym 20 👟
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Session 20 today - another milestone hit 💯

Jiu-Jitsu 24 🥋

Back to training tonight - it was was a bit of killer as I’ve been off sick for the week, but glad I did it 👏

Thanks for reading 📖

Spider 🕷
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365 Project

1 Post a day in my progress log: 355/365 🗓

--------------------------------------------------------------------

Jiu Jitsu Sessions Attended: 24

Gym Sessions Attended: 21

Lay Count: 15

No-Fap: 01/90

Weight:

24/08/2022: 68.6 kg / 10.8 St.
24/09/2022: 74.2 kg / 11.7 St.

Long-Term Goals:

- Manage Mental Health ✅
- Get Laid
- Gain Muscle
- Save £50,000
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