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[Serhio]

I aim to eliminate any anxiety I have regarding women, get 25 lays, and later become a successful entrepreneur.

I, Serhio , commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

[TheAscendentOne]

Hello

I, TheAscendentOne, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I am a 19yr old student in the United States.
My goals are:
-to bulk up in the gym, get to 175-180lbs lean (currently at 161 at around 15% body fat)
-get good grades,
-get a paid business internship at a firm that will look good on my resume for the summer or even the upcoming winter break,
-work on my music projects and writing music with my band
-Get laid a lot (I want to fuck at least 2 girls by the end of the academic year or find a healthy LTR)

I am currently in an approximately 1.5 year dry spell. I was desperate for a while but have put getting laid on the side for a while and want to make it less of a focus but still pursue it a bit (I've come to the conclusion I'm trying too hard). I figure that coming here will be great for working on this and also on my other goals.

[tdan187]

What's up fellas?

I, Dan, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm 36 years old.

My goal and purpose for now for joining this fascinating community is to work on and address sexual dysfunction I'm experiencing. That's what I'm focused on for now. Can go from there.

[mountmitchell]

I, mountmitchell, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm looking to improve my looks in order to improve my quality of life from the Halo Effect.

[MikeStyles]

Hi all,

I, Mike, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm here to connect with a like-minded tribe.

Cheers

[LordWilmore]

Hey y'all, I’m Lord Wilmore from Texas. I'm here to help others but to also discuss with other members the finer points of non-monogamy. If you read some of the posts I will post here, you'll see why I'm being secretive with my identity. My avatar is me, but it's been highly edited with a filter to achieve a comic look.

I, Lord Wilmore, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

My long term goals:
-Have more non-monogamous sex.
-Get down to 12% body fat.
-Improve my income
-Improve confidence

Right now:
-Regular sex with 1 other couple
-At around 23% body fat.
-Finances are tight
-Confidence is high but I still have issues

Overall, I am here to talk about my experiences and to help others, but would definitely love to improve my game and confidence.

[OnTheComeUp]

Hi everyone, I’m Jack from DC.

I, Jack, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

My long term goals:
-Move to a different city (NYC, LA, or MIA)
-Have a sick body,

Short term goals:
-Get from 128lb to 150lb
-Get laid 3x
-Catch up to speed with my new team at work

[Radical]

Welcome @OnTheComeUp

[Scourne]

Sup yall. Scourne here. Coming from San Diego, California. Quick background: software engineer, music festival goer, and typical gym bro.

To put things simply, I'm annoyed at myself for procrastinating on online dating apps, going on dates, and getting laid. I keep making bullshit excuses saying that I still live with family, that I'll wait till I move to San Francisco, that I'll wait until I dress better and get leaner. Pure nonsense. Deep down, I know this is just some way to cope and avoid failure. I need to remind myself to give myself permission to suck. Maybe glue that quote somewhere, perhaps my door.

Incremental Goals:
- Get a girl's phone number from online apps
- Go on a date
- Get laid from apps for the first time
- Get a FWB
- Have fun with all of this

I, Scourne, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Looking forward to talking to all of you.

[bravenewsoul]

Hey I'm Dan I'm from Northern Ireland I'm 36, I found this forum after watching Andy and Imogen on PWF live stream. After watching Andy's content, I realized I aligned with kill your inner lose more than other content creators.

My goal is improve my finances, I'm currently working on bulking to 80kg, I'm 74kg at the minute.

My life shifted recently after a toxic relationship which resulted in a break up. Glad that is over lol.

My philosophy in life is that shit happens, you can either sit and cry about it or face the pain and do the hard work to improve yourself.

Thank you for reading.
Dan

[MakingAComeback]

Welcome all new recruits!

MAC

[Gringo]

What up brother,

I Bo commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm 42 and most interested in girls 18-25 for hookups.

Also interested in settling down if I find the right woman, probably in her late 20s to early 30s.

[kavz67]

"I, Kavin, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously."

Hey, hope everyone is doing well. I'm grateful these forums were created.

Goals right now:

-Change my attitude and think more positively i.e change my self image (it's something I've always struggled with)
-Improve my dating life(try and get my first date)
-increase my YouTube channel's growth

[Myelinated]

How's it going everyone. I, Josh, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously. Nice to meet everyone!

I'll give a quick spiel about my pros, cons, and what I want to work towards. I overall have got an amazing amount of potential but no direction for how to harness it. The potential is what's kept me alive to this point despite not really ever being happy or content with the state of things (Since middle school, really never). I'm living right outside of Boston, 30, very intelligent, have a master's in pharma research from a top tier school and with my current career path as well as being born into wealth I don't have to worry about expenses when I'm living modestly. I'm in between jobs right now, will probably stay in the pharma sector but am having some serious considerations if I should either tweak my career path or go back to school entirely as work has never really made me happy and I feel like I'm not utilizing everything I could be by just doing science work. I'm a great writer/editor, for example. It's sobering working in a lab with a PhD who sends you documents riddled with his grammatical errors...

I have a good, young face (I often get mistaken for being in my mid 20s when cleanshaven) and plenty of hair. I've shed about 30 lbs in the last year after cutting off junk food and eating out often and have been working with a trainer as a motivator since August. Not going to lie, having a gym in my apartment was also the catalyst to get fit since it removed as much resistance as possible. I look better now than I ever did before in my life and there's more to come. I'll post a progress pic in the appropriate forum but I've been putting flexing pics on social media and certain dating apps and I think I'm getting positive responses. My biggest goal out of this is to try and lose more bodyfat; I can lift plenty but want to get more vascular and have the muscles I know I have be able to be shown even though it's really, REALLY not aligned with my body type. It's all for aesthetics really.

Cons: I have a really bad headspace. Social anxiety has always, always been in my way. My head is the worst place to be in. When pot got legalized here I experimented with it and basically with sativa heavy strains I found that the anxiety melted away and I inverted the shell of a personality I had, showing an interest in meeting people, being funny and confident, and wanting to try new things instead of spending another night playing a video game i've logged thousands of hours into already. The obvious issue is I can't keep that mindset on a consistent basis and I'm being very careful not to become to acclimated to it.

Physicality wise, I'm also 5'5 which has always been an extremely sore topic for me. I used to be overweight (no more than 200lbs) which combined with the height made me have zero confidence and zero game. Very rarely have I talked to a girl in my life and had her not be looking somewhere else instead of looking at my eyes. I used to think I was hideous for the longest time.

My biggest issue is depression/anxiety right now, I think. It saps my energy if I skip a day without my prescribed meds and most of what I attempt to do is done without any immediate positive feedback, except for superficial dopamine hits (gaming, porn, etc) which makes those behaviors hard to stay consistent with. I have no life goals, nothing really brings me pleasure or contentment besides those superficial dopamine hits, and successes are either waved away as "not enough" or if not possible, they're waved away to immediately go to the next checkmark. I recognize my irrational behavior, even why I do it, but I have many automatic thoughts and a really bad memory and I am taking a long time to learn from my mistakes. This bled into my career as well; I'm lucky enough to really have the intelligence to do whatever I wanted to, but I never wanted anything and just kind of adopted goals from other people throughout my life; obviously, that wasn't sustainable.

This is a start of something good, though. I've always hated to ask for help and make myself vulnerable and this post is doing exactly that.


tl;dr, goals:
-have a phase for a couple of months with hookups (after that, settle down with a nice girl and buy a house, start a family)
-have some more platonic female friends (I have one very, very close one right now)
-have a younger friend group in boston who would be into the pickup/bar/club scene
-find happiness and contentment in my life instead of stressing on what i've "missed out on"
-find a career that maximizes my skills and challenges me, while also being financially rewarding if possible
-continue the fat cut to have visible muscles and vascularity

Let me know if you're around the Boston area and want a friend!

[MisterPips23]

I, Richard, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm 59 and in NYC.

I've been married and divorced, have a great son, and am in a job I love. Life is pretty good for the most part. I had a long relationship (seven years) end in 2020.

I've done some online dating since then and had some success, but also a good amount of pretty unfulfilling experiences.

I've always been fascinated by cold-approaching women during the day, in no small measure because it was something (seemingly) completely outside my ability.

I have been able to start doing it, but I've struggled with getting the kind of quantity I've wanted.

One time, I was able to go out with a coach as a wingman and it was a revelatory experience. As @KillYourInnerLoser has said, you can do cold approaching on your own and that's great, but it's doing it a bit on "hard" mode. Going out with a wing is in "easy" mode. (Though I don't think it will ever be truly easy.)

My number one goal is to continue with my cold-approaching journey, never give up and find a wing in the NYC area.