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Myelinated
Posts: 26 | Thanks: 1
Joined: Fri Nov 11, 2022 1:58 pm
Name: Julius
Goal: Enjoy Life
Age: 30
Motto: Audentis Fortuna Iuvat

Fri Nov 11, 2022 9:29 pm

How's it going everyone. I, Josh, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously. Nice to meet everyone!

I'll give a quick spiel about my pros, cons, and what I want to work towards. I overall have got an amazing amount of potential but no direction for how to harness it. The potential is what's kept me alive to this point despite not really ever being happy or content with the state of things (Since middle school, really never). I'm living right outside of Boston, 30, very intelligent, have a master's in pharma research from a top tier school and with my current career path as well as being born into wealth I don't have to worry about expenses when I'm living modestly. I'm in between jobs right now, will probably stay in the pharma sector but am having some serious considerations if I should either tweak my career path or go back to school entirely as work has never really made me happy and I feel like I'm not utilizing everything I could be by just doing science work. I'm a great writer/editor, for example. It's sobering working in a lab with a PhD who sends you documents riddled with his grammatical errors...

I have a good, young face (I often get mistaken for being in my mid 20s when cleanshaven) and plenty of hair. I've shed about 30 lbs in the last year after cutting off junk food and eating out often and have been working with a trainer as a motivator since August. Not going to lie, having a gym in my apartment was also the catalyst to get fit since it removed as much resistance as possible. I look better now than I ever did before in my life and there's more to come. I'll post a progress pic in the appropriate forum but I've been putting flexing pics on social media and certain dating apps and I think I'm getting positive responses. My biggest goal out of this is to try and lose more bodyfat; I can lift plenty but want to get more vascular and have the muscles I know I have be able to be shown even though it's really, REALLY not aligned with my body type. It's all for aesthetics really.

Cons: I have a really bad headspace. Social anxiety has always, always been in my way. My head is the worst place to be in. When pot got legalized here I experimented with it and basically with sativa heavy strains I found that the anxiety melted away and I inverted the shell of a personality I had, showing an interest in meeting people, being funny and confident, and wanting to try new things instead of spending another night playing a video game i've logged thousands of hours into already. The obvious issue is I can't keep that mindset on a consistent basis and I'm being very careful not to become to acclimated to it.

Physicality wise, I'm also 5'5 which has always been an extremely sore topic for me. I used to be overweight (no more than 200lbs) which combined with the height made me have zero confidence and zero game. Very rarely have I talked to a girl in my life and had her not be looking somewhere else instead of looking at my eyes. I used to think I was hideous for the longest time.

My biggest issue is depression/anxiety right now, I think. It saps my energy if I skip a day without my prescribed meds and most of what I attempt to do is done without any immediate positive feedback, except for superficial dopamine hits (gaming, porn, etc) which makes those behaviors hard to stay consistent with. I have no life goals, nothing really brings me pleasure or contentment besides those superficial dopamine hits, and successes are either waved away as "not enough" or if not possible, they're waved away to immediately go to the next checkmark. I recognize my irrational behavior, even why I do it, but I have many automatic thoughts and a really bad memory and I am taking a long time to learn from my mistakes. This bled into my career as well; I'm lucky enough to really have the intelligence to do whatever I wanted to, but I never wanted anything and just kind of adopted goals from other people throughout my life; obviously, that wasn't sustainable.

This is a start of something good, though. I've always hated to ask for help and make myself vulnerable and this post is doing exactly that.


tl;dr, goals:
-have a phase for a couple of months with hookups (after that, settle down with a nice girl and buy a house, start a family)
-have some more platonic female friends (I have one very, very close one right now)
-have a younger friend group in boston who would be into the pickup/bar/club scene
-find happiness and contentment in my life instead of stressing on what i've "missed out on"
-find a career that maximizes my skills and challenges me, while also being financially rewarding if possible
-continue the fat cut to have visible muscles and vascularity

Let me know if you're around the Boston area and want a friend!
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MisterPips23
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Joined: Sat Nov 12, 2022 11:32 pm
Goal: Daygame-find a wing
Age: 59
Motto: Never Stop Learning

Sun Nov 13, 2022 12:13 am

I, Richard, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm 59 and in NYC.

I've been married and divorced, have a great son, and am in a job I love. Life is pretty good for the most part. I had a long relationship (seven years) end in 2020.

I've done some online dating since then and had some success, but also a good amount of pretty unfulfilling experiences.

I've always been fascinated by cold-approaching women during the day, in no small measure because it was something (seemingly) completely outside my ability.

I have been able to start doing it, but I've struggled with getting the kind of quantity I've wanted.

One time, I was able to go out with a coach as a wingman and it was a revelatory experience. As @KillYourInnerLoser has said, you can do cold approaching on your own and that's great, but it's doing it a bit on "hard" mode. Going out with a wing is in "easy" mode. (Though I don't think it will ever be truly easy.)

My number one goal is to continue with my cold-approaching journey, never give up and find a wing in the NYC area.
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Gringo
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Joined: Fri Nov 11, 2022 12:34 am
Goal: Get ladies
Age: 42
Motto: Mind your business

Sun Nov 13, 2022 7:24 pm

I, Gringo, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm 42. I'd like to attract hot girls ages 18-25 for hookups.

I'm also open to settling down in a monogamous relationship with a woman age 28-33.
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Aurelius
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Joined: Tue Nov 15, 2022 7:23 pm
Goal: Get laid
Age: 35
Motto: Do or do not, there is no try
Location: UK

Tue Nov 15, 2022 9:02 pm

I Aurelius, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm a 35 year old dude living in the UK.
Always been a very socially anxious guy (hell, I was a virgin until I was 28) due to a combination of low self esteem, major anxiety and depression during most of my 20s, and a weight problem.
Been on a 5 year dry spell and am at a currently lay count of 2, which is really not good at all. I aim to change that.

I have gone to the gym on and off over the years with varying levels of commitment, I was around 300lbs at 21 years old, I did eventually manage to get that down to 240lbs, although over the years I've kind of yo-yo'd around between 240lbs and 270lbs.
I did dabble with PUA stuff in my mid to late 20s (i.e Mystery Method), but never really had much success with it as I realise now I was trying to be someone I wasn't, memorising daft 'routines' and such.

I think over the last 5-6 years I'd just kind of given up on myself, thrown myself into a job at the time that I didn't particularly like, partially to try make money, hoping that would make me happy, and I think partially as a distraction so I wouldn't have to face up and deal with the fact I was entering my 30s and was still a 'loser'.
The pandemic kind of put things into perspective for me, I was working throughout the entire thing and started thinking to myself that I'm wasting my life, and life's too short to waste, what the hell have I been doing these last few years etc.

I've always been interested in coding, but never really pursued a career in that sector.
During 2021 I started teaching myself full stack development from online resources during my spare time (rather than wasting my time playing video games like I'd been the previous few years), with the aim of buidling a portfolio and eventually landing a job as a junior dev.

During a holiday away this summer with friends, to cut a long story short, a bunch of things, both positive and negative happened that made me think "Dude, you could be slaying if you put some effort in and bettered yourself, why the fuck aren't you? Get off your arse".
Actually discovered this site and Andy's writings the next day got myself back on Tinder and actually managed to arrange a date over Tinder with a girl back in the UK using the advice in the Tinder guide, although unfortunately she ended up meeting someone else and entering a relationship before we could meet. Still, I made more progress in that one day than I have the last 5 years, so you gotta take the good with the bad.

Even did a few cold approaches in the bars (after a bunch of drinks though, I won't lie), and while they didn't lead anywhere, it did give my self-esteem a boost and make me realise "Hey, that went nowhere nearly as badly as you thought it was gonna be"

I decided I needed to make a change.

When I got back to the UK, I ended up handing in my notice at my job as it was draining the life out me literally and figuratively, and enrolling on a software development course which I'm currently in the process of completing.

I also got myself back in the gym earlier last month after a long lay off, and while I admit my dedication has been hit-and-miss, I'm working on making sure I go 4x a week, and make sure I'm sticking to my diet even when I do miss workouts. Although I am being stricter with myself about sticking to the workouts.
Currently down to 268lbs from starting at 276lbs.

Got myself into the habit of replying to my Tinder/Bumble/Hinge matches daily, no excuses, even signed up for Tinder Gold.
Started re-reading Andy's Tinder guide in more depth, as well as watching some of Playing With Fire's stuff.

My goals:

- Stick to my gym routine, lifting 4x a week (upper/lower split), stick to my diet and get my weight down from around 270lb (current) to 180lbs (goal) by this time next year.
- Hit 100kg bench/150kg squat/200kg deadlift by this time next year.
- Go on at least 1 date before the year 2022 is over, in November now so it's definitely do-able.
- Get comfortable having conversations with strangers in person.
- Fuck at least 20 girls during 2023 from Tinder/Hinge/Bumble/cold approach.
- Land a software developer job by April 2023.
- Own my own place by the end of 2023.
- Work on my mental health. While I wouldn't say I'm depressed these days, I definitely do have a mind that easily tends to veer down pessimistic thought patterns, which I'm working on changing, though daily meditation and reading some of the books Andy recommends such as 'You Can't Afford The Luxury of a Negative Thought' and 'Meditations' by Marcus Aurelius, which I absolutely love and wish I'd discovered years ago.
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EliJeeli
Posts: 7 | Thanks: 2
Joined: Sun Oct 23, 2022 2:10 pm
Name: Eli
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 24

Wed Nov 16, 2022 3:33 am

I, Eli commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

24 year old in the US.
Socially anxious man looking to get a social life and get laid. Recently graduated from college and make 60k/yr but have high student loan debt. Read the guide, got better Tinder pictures (iPhone) and outfits. Get around 2-3 matches a week and have been on 3 dates since starting in October 2022.

Goals:
1. Get a high-quality camera
2. Get Laid (honestly just want a gf but unsure of whether I should aim for getting laid first instead).
3. Move out on my own to a city with a higher population (living with parents in a town with less than 10,000 people. I do live next to a city with 90,000 people though.)
4. Get lean (currently 162 lbs, 5'7, look skinny-fat)
5. Make friends focused on self-improvement (pretty much have no friends besides the ones I grew up with, don't hang-out with them much though)
6. Get a side-hustle.

Picture of me here: viewtopic.php?f=40&t=1768
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weallgonnamakeit
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Joined: Thu Nov 17, 2022 7:49 am
Name: Jar
Goal: have a 4s
Age: 25
Motto: challenge oneself till death

Thu Nov 17, 2022 9:00 am

Hi I'm insipred by this blog, real stuff here

I'm Jay. I started the journey of using dating app this month

Goals:
- 4 some
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dex
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Joined: Tue Nov 15, 2022 8:16 pm
Goal: Live with abundance
Age: 33
Motto: If you're not fucking her, you're her girlfriend.

Thu Nov 17, 2022 9:14 pm

"I, Dexter, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously."

33 living in the U.S. - want to own a home outside of the U.S. one day.
Long term goals:
I want to find fiscal abundance. I currently have 2 jobs; 1. I run an SEO business as a solopreneur and I also work as a bartender 5 nights a week to keep my social game up to par.
I'd like to scale my business up and make a MM exit one day.

Mid term goals:
Get my business to $12k MRR asap.
Build a twitter following for my business to use for new client acquisition.
I want to grow my social circle to spend time around people who also want to grow, and experience the most exciting things life has to offer. I am an ambivert, I can relate with both introverted and extraverted people, I enjoy socializing when there's value being shared.
I want to make 1-2 really close guy friends in my area who share the same goals as me as well as have a strong social connection with women who are also socially plugged in and can help me network as a man, and as a business person.
I would like to get my weight up to 190lbs, I'm currently hovering around 178-180lbs at 6'1". I'm on a great workout routine, but eating enough calories of clean food when I work so much has been the challenge that needs to be overcome.

Short term goals:
I want to improve my style, maintain my masculine energy and have it work to my advantage.
I typically wear black clothes, black jeans, some form boots, or black athletic shoes, I've always found G-eazy's style excellent (at least what he portrays in his music videos) and I would like to have that classic edgy type of look to myself.

If I can solve the money issue I'm currently having, it will open up more opportunity to have a better life overall.
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Radical
Posts: 1787 | Thanks: 1221
Joined: Sat May 30, 2020 12:02 pm
Name: Cam
Goal: Funnel/Product Building
Age: 29
Motto: Take drastic action
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Thu Nov 17, 2022 10:19 pm

Welcome @dex
My Style & Image Programme (Video Course + Coaching): https://rsg.radicalstylecourse.com/imageprogramme
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Rod
Posts: 2 | Thanks: 2
Joined: Sat Nov 19, 2022 8:08 am
Name: Ras
Goal: Get to 7 figures
Age: 35
Motto: Life is uncertain. Live immediately.

Sat Nov 19, 2022 8:36 am

Hi everyone,

Long time member of GLL, came back to the GLL Forum recently but was saddened by how dead it was, now I'm happy to see it lives on here.

Chris changed the game for me, taking me from good to great, from 7s to 10s. I've slept with enough women that it's no longer a goal but just a part of my life and I can focus on everything else.

I'm here because I want to give back to the community and contribute to keeping it alive. I admire the transparency of the Forum but will stay anonymous for security reasons.

I, Ras, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously. As Always.
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PillowDrifter
Posts: 9 | Thanks: 3
Joined: Sun Nov 20, 2022 11:02 pm
Name: Damien
Goal: Have a threesome
Age: 26
Motto: Dont be sorry, be better

Mon Nov 21, 2022 5:06 pm

I, PillowDrifter, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

What's up, I'm PillowDrifter, I just turned 26 and currently living in the French part of Switzerland.

I have freshly graduated from studies I didn't like which ended up with a break-up with a long relationship and a short depression (1 year) :ugeek:
But it got better through therapy, medications, and betterer through some really good youtube channels and books ("You Can't Afford the Luxury of a Negative Thought", thanks Andy !).

Now I'm eager to experience what life has to offer!

Since the breakup with my long-term girlfriend, I went into 2 serious relationships and now I'm dating casually for one year ( Went on about 60 dates, had 6 one-night-stand and 2 matches that ended as cool friends with benefits).

Longterm goals (1-2 years):

- Financial independence from my family
- Have my place to live
- Have a threesome with two girls
- Backpack travel around the world

Current short-term goals (1-2 months):

- go to the gym 3x per week
- take back the AA program from Day 6 and go on
- apply for jobs (get your shits together)
- take better dating app pictures

It's super cool to find people here being so motivated and doing epic stuff

Let's do this!
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konrad524
Posts: 1 | Thanks: 1
Joined: Sun Nov 20, 2022 10:05 pm
Name: Konrad
Goal: Get Laid a lot
Age: 26
Motto: Never give up

Mon Nov 21, 2022 9:18 pm

Hi everybody,
I'm Konrad from Poland.
I came across Andy's website about a year ago and It helped me to get laid from Tiner for the first time. I had girlfriends before but never thougt it was possible to do it on the first date :D. Through that year I had 3 lays 1 of which beacame a friend with benefits for longer period. I want to gain more experience.
Also I switched to remote job and I noticed that my social skils decreased so I want to work on this too. I love traveling, already visited lot of countries with my friends and I plan to do more.

I have been hiting the gym and street workout for 2+ years now, but I feel that I could work harder and put more effort into this.
Probably half-assed the whole process in favour of building my online business, whitch sadly didn't work out. But I'll try it again for sure.

My long term goals ~3years:
-Build a 1M online business
-Meet an awsome girlfriend and build long-term relationship
My goals for a year:
-Get laid with 12 girls
-Gain 3 kg of muscle mass
-Make couple of new friends thst would share my passions

I, Konrad, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Let the ride begin!
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purplecat1
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Joined: Sat Nov 05, 2022 2:20 pm
Name: Avi
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 32

Thu Nov 24, 2022 5:16 pm

Hi all,
I'm Avi, 32 years old.

I know this blog for a long time, but only a few days ago I decided to join the forum an actually do something with myself. And it took me a few more days to send this comment.

I had a few girlfriends over the years, but the last time I got laid was 2 years ago.

I can only hit on a girl if I drink something, and I hardly get any matches on Tinder.

My goals are -

Fuck at least 10 girls until the end of 2023.
Cold approach at least 200 girls till the end off 2023.

So... I commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Good luck :)
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Sosobuster
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Joined: Fri Nov 25, 2022 1:57 am
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 24

Fri Nov 25, 2022 2:04 am

I, Soso, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
Just want to get laid :)
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pop18
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Joined: Fri Nov 25, 2022 1:49 pm
Name: Peter
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 30

Fri Nov 25, 2022 1:55 pm

I, Peter, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Looking forward to working on myself with all the great content and people on here.
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Unchained
Posts: 1 | Thanks: 1
Joined: Fri Nov 25, 2022 6:20 pm
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 20

Fri Nov 25, 2022 6:36 pm

I, Unchained, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

My goals are to have more success with women and to gain more experience dating.

Learned a lot from this website and I'm looking forward to being apart of this community.
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