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Slay · Tue Jul 07, 2020 4:00 am

Hello everyone
I, Josh, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Discovered GLL about this time last year which was an absolute godsend. Accomplished my number one goal back in February which was to move into my own apartment. Now, on to better things.

Long Term Goals:
52 girls in one year
100 + girls lifetime
7 girls/7 days

Lithium · Tue Jul 07, 2020 1:58 pm

Hey everyone,

I, Lithium, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm 24, live in Germany and had a moment of clarity.
I found this site in June through some posts of Andy on TRP. I can say that I do not fully share the negativity Andy has towards that subreddit, but I do agree that 90% of the content there is horseshit and just unproductive hate. This site looks much, much better.

chado · Tue Jul 07, 2020 2:27 pm

@Lithium Welcome to the forums man. Reading your post you've been through a lot of shit, but just know that we all have our stories and we have your back. I can tell through your writing that you're a likable, intelligent guy.

As you've said, biggest thing for you right now is losing weight, but also to find mental stability. Just know that your old self will continue to rear it's ugly head for some time. Feelings for your ex will be something that will also take a long time to completely heal.

I would suggest starting a daily log on here to hold yourself accountable. Make a small post everyday, incremental gains.

Also, you should know that once you lose the weight you're going to be a very good looking dude. You have a nice face shape, great smile and teeth. Just keep on track!

Tue Jul 07, 2020 3:04 pm

Lithium wrote: ↑
Tue Jul 07, 2020 1:58 pm
the negativity Andy has towards that subreddit

I have a love-hate relationship with TRP. I love TRP because it saved me from misery, and was the catalyst for a lot of my changes. And I dislike TRP because there's a lot of negativity - I've talked a bit about it here. And lately TRP/reddit in general has been pretty fucked-up towards me (which is kind of what you expect when you start sharing content and being vulnerable). You haven't been the target of hate - called a rapist, told the girls you bang are 4's at best, told you deserved to be in the abusive relationships you were in, etc (yeah, the TRP/seduction subreddits have thrown all of that at me). It's much different when it's directed AT you - there's a weird natural human response where you feel like you're being directly "attacked" when a bunch of people criticize you. Doubly-so when their intention is to actually hurt you.

I plan on writing an article "My Love-Hate Relationship with TRP" at some point. I love TRP as much as I hate it. TRP saved my life, but jesus christ, they've also been absolute evil cunts at times.

Welcome to the forums though! Sounds like you're already massively successful - 20kg is fucking insane, man. I lost 35kg in total, so I know how insane 20kg is.

Coding - you'll find there's a bunch of hobbiest and professional coders here (including myself - a hobbiest).

I recommend making girls the main priority, and then handle career second. I talk a bit about goals in my "the slight edge" article:
https://kyil-extra.com/slight-edge/

-Andy

AGF · Tue Jul 07, 2020 3:10 pm

chado wrote: ↑
Tue Jul 07, 2020 2:27 pm
Also, you should know that once you lose the weight you're going to be a very good looking dude. You have a nice face shape, great smile and teeth. Just keep on track!

I totally agree. Lots of potential there lookswise and he does seem to be a smart guy. @Lithium if you just keep going after your goals, you life will completely change in the next year. But I think you already realized that. Going from 105kg to 85kg is already quite an accomplishment.

SIGMA_1234 · Wed Jul 08, 2020 12:14 am

@Lithium

Hey man, just wanted to quickly drop by and say welcome! I'm also a young guy like you who is facing similar to what you're going through.

Lithium wrote: ↑
Tue Jul 07, 2020 1:58 pm
After 4 years of hardcore video game addiction I stopped completely. In those 4 years, I had gained 30kg of fat and lost any hunger for life as well as any semblance of personality.

Similar, used to game heavily but significantly dropped my playtime now. Who knew gaming can be a bitch.

Lithium wrote: ↑
Tue Jul 07, 2020 1:58 pm
After the breakup I was super depressed.

Ngl I also stopped 6 months after breaking up with my ex. Didn't expect to be depressed for quite a while back then, too. We're similar in our weight loss and getting laid goals. Frustratingly, I am also skinny fat; it just doesn't show in my profile pic. But like they said, I can also see you'll look fine once you start losing body fat

I'd like to see you make progress in your goals, and let's crush our goals together!

skankhunt42 · Wed Jul 08, 2020 5:00 am

Hi guys, 35 y/o newbie here from Australia. Short story is I was married for around 10 years, supported my wife to reach her goals (finishing uni, big wedding, buy a house etc) and now that she has a sweet job and I left my job to study at uni I'm suddenly not good enough for her (familiar story right). I know now its totally my own fault for not picking the right woman and spending my life putting others needs before my own.

So I've been single for a few months now, living in my own apartment close to uni. As you can imagine, the dating world is completely alien to me compared to how it was when I met my ex-wife (you had to actually go out and get plastered enough for the Dutch courage to work its magic xD ) I've been focusing on bettering myself for the last few months (don't plan to stop), studying hard, hitting the gym 6 days a week, being consistent with my diet etc and reaching out to friends to increase my social circle. I've managed to shred a fair bit of fat from the "dad bod" that I had acquired, and starting to tone up a fair bit. Getting more stylish clothes (skinny denim, bomber jackets etc, white sneakers or brown chukka boots is my kinda style).

Played with Tinder very briefly, got discouraged by the lack of interest I got on there and deleted it after a couple of days (I know now that my profile just really really sucked).
I found the link to the tinder guide via the red pill reddit and basically said "HALLELUJAH" while I was reading it word for word because it was exactly the kind of help that I need right now.

Anyway, my obvious goals are to work on own life goals, study hard, increase my social circle and of course get laid a tonne so that I feel like some kind of human being.

oh yeah

"I, skankhunt42, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously." (hope you guys appreciate south park haha)

Apologies for the crappy selfie avatar, I will fix it at some point.

Lithium · Wed Jul 08, 2020 6:39 am

Thanks for the warm welcome guys.

chado wrote: ↑
Tue Jul 07, 2020 2:27 pm
As you've said, biggest thing for you right now is losing weight, but also to find mental stability. Just know that your old self will continue to rear it's ugly head for some time. Feelings for your ex will be something that will also take a long time to completely heal.

I would suggest starting a daily log on here to hold yourself accountable. Make a small post everyday, incremental gains.

Yeah, my old me has shown its face again and again, but so far I have been able to deal with it pretty well. Meditation and therapy helps I guess. I've actually written a diary since March, but I might just do that daily log on top of that. Sounds good.

KillYourInnerLoser wrote: ↑
Tue Jul 07, 2020 3:04 pm
You haven't been the target of hate - called a rapist, told the girls you bang are 4's at best, told you deserved to be in the abusive relationships you were in, etc (yeah, the TRP/seduction subreddits have thrown all of that at me).

Holy fuck that is disgusting.

SIGMA_1234 wrote: ↑
Wed Jul 08, 2020 12:14 am
I'd like to see you make progress in your goals, and let's crush our goals together!

Hell yes, let's do that!

Also it's kinda reassuring to hear that I have the potential to look good. Usually (without pics) you read online that Indian guys can't do shit. But I've never been discouraged by that. Reality never looked particularly blackpill to me.

SIGMA_1234 · Wed Jul 08, 2020 7:07 am

Lithium wrote: ↑
Wed Jul 08, 2020 6:39 am
Usually (without pics) you read online that Indian guys can't do shit.

Whoever said that can kiss my ass. Don't let that get to you because I have huge respect for Indians. They're very techy, and their tech tutorials have helped me pass my certain engineering subjects with flying colors. Not to mention, you guys are, like, a billion in your home country, and Indians are actually flagged as one of the biggest migrants (at least in the US and Canada). That means there's brutal competition for such spots like local Indian unis, green cards, and international student placements specifically for Indians. AFAIK, if you made it as a migrant/ got to a top university in India, you're cream of the crop already.

Not to mention, I have seen really good looking Indian guys, too. Again, welcome.

benstrong26 · Wed Jul 08, 2020 1:01 pm

skankhunt42 wrote: ↑
Wed Jul 08, 2020 5:00 am
Hi guys, 35 y/o newbie here from Australia. Short story is I was married for around 10 years, supported my wife to reach her goals (finishing uni, big wedding, buy a house etc) and now that she has a sweet job and I left my job to study at uni I'm suddenly not good enough for her (familiar story right). I know now its totally my own fault for not picking the right woman and spending my life putting others needs before my own.

From divorced guy to divorced guy, let’s kick some ass. Having your life upended can be a blessing in disguise as I’m finding out.

chado · Wed Jul 08, 2020 1:37 pm

Psyched to see all these new guys joining. This place is going to be a haven for us kicking it to the next level

skankhunt42 · Wed Jul 08, 2020 10:21 pm

benstrong26 wrote: ↑
Wed Jul 08, 2020 1:01 pm
From divorced guy to divorced guy, let’s kick some ass. Having your life upended can be a blessing in disguise as I’m finding out.

Thanks brother. I know what you mean, at first I was devastated and thought my life was over. Now I realise that us men only get better with age as long as we keep working on ourselves. One day our wives will regret their decision, but we'll be way too successful to even care.

Redtater · Fri Jul 10, 2020 3:08 am

Hi everyone. My name's Phil, I'm a 27 year old from Canada.

I found this forum from TRP and really like the energy - its positive and proactive. First forum account I've made since I was like 14. Looking forward to getting to know the community.

Got laid off from out of town camp work due to corona, and just ended a year long dead end relationship. I'm tired of the way things are. I've done this often, falling in with girls that are just there rather than being proactive and taking initiative to find women that are exciting. I need to take my sex life more seriously.

My main goal for the remainder of 2020 is to get laid; aiming for 6 more by the end of the year.

Additionally I have been looking for a gym that will accept me and once I do I intend to work towards a 2 plate bench and a body weight of 200 lbs (185 currently).

I, Phil, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

coconutwater · Fri Jul 10, 2020 8:07 pm

Hello all

I, coconutwater, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

chado · Sat Jul 11, 2020 5:04 am

Redtater wrote: ↑
Fri Jul 10, 2020 3:08 am
Hi everyone. My name's Phil, I'm a 27 year old from Canada.

I found this forum from TRP and really like the energy - its positive and proactive. First forum account I've made since I was like 14. Looking forward to getting to know the community.

Got laid off from out of town camp work due to corona, and just ended a year long dead end relationship. I'm tired of the way things are. I've done this often, falling in with girls that are just there rather than being proactive and taking initiative to find women that are exciting. I need to take my sex life more seriously.

My main goal for the remainder of 2020 is to get laid; aiming for 6 more by the end of the year.

Additionally I have been looking for a gym that will accept me and once I do I intend to work towards a 2 plate bench and a body weight of 200 lbs (185 currently).

I, Phil, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Welcome to the party bro. You have a good base, let's get to work