One girl ghosted, which is not a big deal - she probably wasn't interested. The other one said something likeYou seem cool - let's grab a drink and see if we click. Not looking for anything super serious, but let's see what happens. Got WhatsApp? I’ll send you a text.
and unmatched me a few seconds later.I'll pass. Not looking for a quick fuck.
To be honest, I am open to anything. I want to escalate to sex quickly, but if the sex is good and I like the person, I see no reason why a relationship wouldn't be on the table. I also see no reason to get to know someone and be FWBs, rather than a purely physical connection.
My question here is whether my message comes across as "I just want a quick fuck and disappear", or whether the girl was just dumb/uninterested. I would like to convey that I am interested in getting sexual quickly, but that I am also interested in a connection and open to a possible relationship. Should I stick to something a little bit less sexually charged and more vague like:
Or will that backfire and result in dates with women not interested in sex?You seem cool - let's get to know each other over a drink and see if we click. Got WhatsApp? I’ll send you a text.
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Note that I met my last 3 years LTR on Tinder with a single message, where I basically said:
She obliged and then we hit it off. We fucked on second date, were FWB for almost a year, then became exclusive. Basically zero communication prior to the date, and no sexually-charged banter like saying "you're sexy" or "not looking for anything serious".Empty bio, huh? Nice, it's more fun to know each other in person. Let's grab a drink sometime next week - what's your number?
Other lays I've had from dating apps have been similar - just one or two texts, or literally just open with:
I don't know. On one hand, I can see the KYIL template as better for building some basic rapport. On the other hand, it might scare off girls who might receptive but afraid of "just being a quick fuck". Any thoughts or experiences on the matter?Hey, I like your vibe. Let's get to know each other over a drink sometime next week - you in?