Im terrible at tinder, help me be better

[Sonofagun]

These photos are really not up to scratch I'm afraid. Particularly in the UK - these are the sorts of guys you are competing with: https://looksmax.org/threads/tindercels ... 22.452520/

Keep working at getting better pics though. I would also make building muscle and creating the appearance of a bigger physical frame a priority. Good luck.

Those are not the guys he’s competing with. What you post are some blackpill incels who think only famous people and tiktokkers can get laid on tinder.

You can check my tinder log. I’m an average dude and I got over 600 likes in 3 months using tinder in Belgium (one of the smallest European countries) with worse pics than I’m using right now.

His profile needs work but everything is already mentioned. Telling someone he has to look perfect is not only disencouraging but also untrue.

In a Uni city like Leeds (which I'm guessing is where he is) there will be plenty of guys who look like that, actually. I'm from the UK so I know more about this than you.

Secondly, in the image in your profile pic (which I assume you use on apps), you look way above average. I looked at your log and in real life you are in the average range, for sure, but your pic makes you look far better.

He doesn't need to look 'perfect' by any means. I'm not perfect, far from it, and I had 23 lays from apps the last 2 years in a row, plus lots from daygame. However you need to be aware just how stiff the competition can be and really make sure you're maximising your attractiveness in photos. His current photo setup just does not do that. My post should be a wakeup call.

[Sonofagun]

these are the sorts of guys you are competing with: https://looksmax.org/threads/tindercels ... 22.452520/

That's a blackpill forum hahahah

I dislike blackpill forums, but it's the only example I could find quickly which demonstrates just how tough the competition can be.

[jeagle63]

I got 2 photos taken of me making cocktails at a bar. I can't choose what I wear here but I was making drinks for customers so didn't look at the camera and was actually focusing on what I was doing.

These are my favourite ones, I like throwing the limes in. I should have put the sugar in before ice but was getting flustered cuz I knew someone was taking photos.

Are these getting closer to being good tinder photos for me?

Throwing limes

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Adding sugar to a cocktail, would have been better if the photo showed me holding the cachaca rum bottle and making a better stream

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[pancakemouse]

Adding sugar to a cocktail, would have been better if the photo showed me holding the cachaca rum bottle and making a better stream
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This is usable.

[Rags2Bitches]

Adding sugar to a cocktail, would have been better if the photo showed me holding the cachaca rum bottle and making a better stream
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This is usable.

barely.

a couple of ways to improve this photo
1) pay attention to your facial expression and body language. the intense focus with your mouth slightly open + fully buttoned up shirt + boyish looks make you look like a student afraid to make a mistake. should be more of a smirk/half smile + a bit of a head tilt. look at how sexy bartenders are portrayed in female targeted movies

2) part of a person visible sitting at the bar and looking up at you. this isn’t as critical as getting (1) right

[AskTheDom]

That's a blackpill forum hahahah

I dislike blackpill forums, but it's the only example I could find quickly which demonstrates just how tough the competition can be.

I couldn’t find that post so I had a look around and oh boy, what a shit show lol

[jeagle63]

I went with one of my friends today to take a photoshoot with 2 of my ideas.

One - A travel/backpacking photo that doesn't take its self seriously, instead of me being in front of land marks, I'm just wearing clothes that make it look like I'm pretending its summer, wearing a travel bag and a camera around my neck.

Out of the ~50 or so photos we got I narrowed it down to these 3 with a little editing on each. There are a couple where I'm a bit further from the camera but the quality isn't as good. These were all taken during the golden hour, on a high bridge that gets an amazing hit from the sun that I hoped would not be too overpowering.

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Two - A chill photo in the park wearing casual wear, just a hoodie and jeans. I was thinking gym shorts, but I wanted to get a gym photo with those instead.

The light on these is really good, and I was trying hard to not really focus that a camera was there, I was too busy asking my friend for £30 for a hostel for the night, making each other both laugh and forgetting that the photos were being done.

I narrowed it to these 4, no editing required except removing a phone from the grass.

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Any feedback on which I should / not use I would really appreciate. I feel really good about the photos at the moment but still was looking through them all thinking there was slight adjustments each one could have.

[jeagle63]

This is usable.

barely.

a couple of ways to improve this photo
1) pay attention to your facial expression and body language. the intense focus with your mouth slightly open + fully buttoned up shirt + boyish looks make you look like a student afraid to make a mistake. should be more of a smirk/half smile + a bit of a head tilt. look at how sexy bartenders are portrayed in female targeted movies

2) part of a person visible sitting at the bar and looking up at you. this isn’t as critical as getting (1) right

Thanks for the feedback on this. I have been practicing how to pose whilst bartending to correct these mistakes / make better photos. The focus is genuinely just because its sugar syrup I'm pouring, so you kinda have to watch it the whole time as its not a natural pour like spirits are. Hopefully in a couple weeks time I can get another photo and send it here.