I'm totally blind, how do I look?

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Tue Sep 20, 2022 9:57 am

Hello,

I'm totally blind, so having an accurate gauge of how I look and how to improve is... difficult, to say the least. Thought some people here might be able to provide feedback. I don't have lots of control over my eye closure, so my eyes probably look closed and/or odd in these photos. A few people have also told me that I look younger than my actual age (I'm 22). Thanks in advance for your thoughts!
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Tue Sep 20, 2022 10:20 am

You look good. I confirm you look younger than you are.

How tall are you?

Is working out to build muscle an option for you?
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Tue Sep 20, 2022 11:01 am

You're a good looking dude.

Could definitely use a lot more edge in your style: stuff like rings, necklace, leather jacket, nice sunglasses would all help.

I feel like you will very much be certain girls type, especially as you seem to be a happy, healthy guy in your photos.

Plus you can use the line "my eyes don't work, so just imagine how good I had to get with my hands", which is definitely a panty soaker. :)
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Tue Sep 20, 2022 1:18 pm

You look like you're somewhere between 15 and 17. Have you had your testosterone levels checked? Taking actions to make yourself look more masculine and older, such as lifting weights, would be a big help.

You mention you don't have lots of control over your eye closure. How much control, exactly? Is there enough where you could do a professional photoshoot with your eyes open, even if they weren't able to be open when you showed up on the date with the girl? If not, what about wearing a pair of stylish sunglasses?

Your haircut contributes to your boyishness. Find a decent men's hairstylist and ask them for a contemporary attractive haircut.

Excited to see your progress. I recommend starting your own log so you can keep us updated. Also, selfishly, because I have many questions about how the world of dating (or even technology use like this forum) might be navigated while blind!
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Tue Sep 20, 2022 3:57 pm

Agree with everything @pancakemouse said, and 1000% find a pair of badass shades
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Tue Sep 20, 2022 10:04 pm

hush wrote:
Tue Sep 20, 2022 10:20 am
How tall are you?
166 cm/5 ft 5 in.
hush wrote:
Tue Sep 20, 2022 10:20 am
Is working out to build muscle an option for you?
Something I can definitely look into as I feel I could definitely use improvement there! I regularly jump on a mini trampoline to de-stress, so my leg strength is fairly good, but I could definitely use work on my upper body (I'm a software guy in big tech so spend a lot of time at a desk, not actively lifting big objects and the like).
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pancakemouse wrote:
Tue Sep 20, 2022 1:18 pm
You mention you don't have lots of control over your eye closure. How much control, exactly?
If my eyes open, it certainly isn't on demand.
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Tue Sep 20, 2022 10:28 pm

Manly Cockfellow wrote:
Tue Sep 20, 2022 11:01 am
nice sunglasses
pancakemouse wrote:
Tue Sep 20, 2022 1:18 pm
If not, what about wearing a pair of stylish sunglasses?
How do I look in something like these?
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cactohelado wrote:
Tue Sep 20, 2022 10:28 pm
Manly Cockfellow wrote:
Tue Sep 20, 2022 11:01 am
nice sunglasses
pancakemouse wrote:
Tue Sep 20, 2022 1:18 pm
If not, what about wearing a pair of stylish sunglasses?
How do I look in something like these?

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What you want are something modern and trendy. Wayfarer style sunglasses never really go out of style. For example.

Implementing any sort of style advice all by yourself online might be tough. Do you have any knowledgeable real life friends that might be able to help you re-invent your style? Either stylish guys or any girl. How about the girl in your graduation photo?
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Wed Sep 21, 2022 1:10 am

Get some aviators I think thats the way to go
Get a tech job
Get 2 lays
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pancakemouse wrote:
Wed Sep 21, 2022 1:05 am
Implementing any sort of style advice all by yourself online might be tough.
It sure is!
pancakemouse wrote:
Wed Sep 21, 2022 1:05 am
Do you have any knowledgeable real life friends that might be able to help you re-invent your style?
It's hard to assess knowledge by myself... if I could, I wouldn't need them!

I often wear Aftershokz when out so that I can hear my phone's VoiceOver reading at ~650 words a minute without the voice blabbing to the outside world if I get a message or something. I like the idea of sunglasses with embedded bone conduction audio so I can drop the headphones and just worry about one piece (unless they all look terrible).

Do you think any of these models might work? (I tried on the Bose Frames a while back, pictured above).
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Wed Sep 21, 2022 2:10 am

Out of curiosity, if you are blind, how are you on the internet? Who took the pictures?
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game those biddys with that stranger things look going
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Wed Sep 21, 2022 3:57 am

cactohelado wrote:
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Do you think any of these models might work? (I tried on the Bose Frames a while back, pictured above).
Of those, I think the Fauna audio glasses look best. Second place goes to either the the Razer Anzu or the Bose Tenor.

In any case, I think you should buy one pair of normal fashionable-glasses that you would wear for photoshoots only. The technology on the smart glasses necessarily makes them look worse.
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cactohelado wrote:
Tue Sep 20, 2022 10:04 pm
Something I can definitely look into as I feel I could definitely use improvement there! I regularly jump on a mini trampoline to de-stress, so my leg strength is fairly good, but I could definitely use work on my upper body (I'm a software guy in big tech so spend a lot of time at a desk, not actively lifting big objects and the like).
I'm also into software development, I highly recommend working out. We tend to spend a lot of time in a slouched position and suffer from forward head and shoulders posture.

A personal trainer could teach you to lift weight or you could maybe go to the gym with someone.

Same advice regarding clothing: a personal shopper or someone who specialize in relooking people could help you.
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