I agree. In the end, it is a personal choice which route you go. A wide range of women, or a specific niche, but fewer options. I'm sure that men with a much worse "portfolio" than me can attract hippie/leftwing/metal/whatsoever women, but I wouldn't stand a chance, while those guys would struggle with "normal" girls.AskTheDom wrote: ↑Fri Oct 07, 2022 7:56 amI agree on the sentence but disagree with the message.Vamos wrote: ↑Fri Oct 07, 2022 7:42 amTo be honest , i don't like any of them 1a and 1b are okeyish. Your looks are fine, but the pictures will certainly not work very well with women. You might be able to appeal to a few hippie women with the pictures where you went to this Goa Rave, but that creeps most other women out tbh.
Book a photographer for 200$€, take some basic outfits with you, tell the photographer you want to look masculine in the pics, edit them a bit -> win
I'm not the best looking guy on the apps (and doing market research there are guys better looking, fit, tall than me) but what I nailed down is my archetype-look.
On the dating apps, like mostly things digital, attention and curiosity are what get people in the door.+
Will he appeal to a lot of women? probably not, you are right
Will he get laid with chicks that matches him? probably yes.
I have a Biker/Bdsm/rocker archetype..the kind of guy that will try to fuck her in the toilet of a seedy bar
I would also advise creating "vibes" that appeal to many women and not just one niche. But as I said, in the end it's a personal decision. If I'm a metalhead and also want a woman from this scene, I have to sell myself like that.Sincerious wrote: ↑Mon Oct 10, 2022 3:32 amThat being said, these comments have helped me realise that even if I have good rave pics, with my current physique, it's just not worth it for me to mix in that archetype/vibe, and I'll probably put off a lot of girls as @Vamos said. It's difficult because I got positive comments on #5, but it seems like it will hinder my profile more than help. This is backed up by my personal experience of raving with a huge crew, where only the few jacked guys we have actually pull at those events.
I'm thinking now I'm better off focusing on a street style maybe with some outdoorsy pics/styles mixed in.
I will definitely book a photographer at some point when I have the extra cash. I'll stick with developing my self-photography skills, as I've got the gear to do so now. I know the process will be slower but the benefits are I'll learn a lot and become more self sufficient that way.
If you want, you can write me a PM. I had a shooting last weekend and I think I know a a bit about self-portraits aswell.