When to text/pitch a meeting

d00m · Wed Oct 14, 2020 1:44 pm

Things are going pretty well on all the apps, getting tons of matches and a fair bit of numbers but I've only been able to go on 3 dates so far. A lot of the time when I get to texting I get the dreaded "can we wait until next week?" text. Im wondering if my timing is hurting me here. I pretty much send a text right after I get a number (the same day) and try to set up dates on Saturday. so if I get the number on Monday I'm pitching the meeting way in advance. Should I just wait til the day before? Also should I be aiming for the weekend that does seem like the most reasonable time to meet. I just really suck at this logistical stuff/setting things up and this is really tripping me up

SIGMA_1234 · Wed Oct 14, 2020 2:00 pm

I do pretty much the same as you do: match with girls, get them off the app, and pitch a meeting on Saturday on the day itself (sometimes on a Monday, most of the time weeks in advance because of my limited logistics). I've been pretty successful so far.

So I don't think you're doing anything wrong with your strategy so far.

Wed Oct 14, 2020 8:08 pm

d00m wrote: ↑
Wed Oct 14, 2020 1:44 pm
Also should I be aiming for the weekend that does seem like the most reasonable time to meet.

Meet them ASAP - why are you waiting til saturday? Goal is meet them as soon as humanly possible - the same day if possible. I almost never had weekend dates; most of my dates were weekdays, straight after work.

joe_ronimo · Wed Oct 14, 2020 8:34 pm

KillYourInnerLoser wrote: ↑
Wed Oct 14, 2020 8:08 pm

d00m wrote: ↑
Wed Oct 14, 2020 1:44 pm
Also should I be aiming for the weekend that does seem like the most reasonable time to meet.
Meet them ASAP - why are you waiting til saturday? Goal is meet them as soon as humanly possible - the same day if possible. I almost never had weekend dates; most of my dates were weekdays, straight after work.

Seconded. I do 3 days in advance max - only if I have plans in the next two days.
Otherwise same night if I can/next night etc.

And if she seems interested but isn't free for a week (has work etc.) I ask for her off day and text her 2-3 days before to set up a date.

Never plan something over 3 days, 75% of the time I do that she flakes.

d00m · Fri Oct 16, 2020 4:41 am

KillYourInnerLoser wrote: ↑
Wed Oct 14, 2020 8:08 pm
Meet them ASAP - why are you waiting til saturday?

honestly I was probably just too scared and didn't know when/where to go. So you text them right after you get the number and pitch the meeting for the same day if possible?

Fri Oct 16, 2020 5:11 am

Yep absolutely ASAP. The sooner the better. Either the same day, or tomorrow, or the next day. You'll find the longer you leave it, they're FAR less likely to actually meet you (they get bored, or forget you, or talk to one of the 100 other guys on her tinder, etc).

ASAP is best.

Example conversations:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-g ... her-number

If you check all those, you see I pretty much always say "Free tomorrow night?" or "Free tomorrow during the daytime?" I also don't waste any time with conversation - I pitch the meetup after like 1 or 2 messages. You'll have plenty of time for long conversations when you're on the actual date, in person.