Ed's Tinder and Stuff - Reset Tinder, Two Super Boosts, Still No Results

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Ed_
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Goal: Get Laid
Age: 33
Location: TX

Thu Apr 29, 2021 12:48 am

I appreciate all the recognition you guys have given for my recent profile improvements, but unfortunately the past month of Tinder has not been fruitful:

1 month of Tinder Platinum:
  • 13 boosts
  • 1 4-hour super boost
  • 5 super likes per day (always on reasonably attractive women -- not usually out of my league)
  • Total $126 dollars spent
Results:
  • About 5 matches a day
  • ~18 numbers
  • 3 lame dates with weird / unattractive women
  • 1 date with a cute girl that I messed up by not making a move
  • 1 very mediocre sex
I’m getting burned out and frustrated from the time, energy, and financial investment I’m making, and not seeing any results. There are probably tweaks I can make to my profile, messaging, etc. to improve things. I could also focus on other apps (Hinge / Bumble) -- but I don’t have the energy for any of it right now and I’m currently approaching it from a pretty negative mindset.

Staying up late messaging girls has also been messing with my sleep recently.

I’m planning on taking some time off from all dating apps and just focusing on cold approaching. There are still a few more weeks of the college semester here, so it’s my last chance to enjoy the “bountiful sidewalks”, before things get quiet until August. I can probably commit to 2-3 hours a day to going out, and without the online dating option, I’ll really feel the pressure to not make excuses and actually approach.

I have some more photoshoots planning coming up also, so we’ll see what improvements I can make to my profile. This will also help me stay on top of my sleep scheduling and make sure my gym training/diet is 100% on point.
Current Goals:
✅ Lose virginity
✅ Have sex with the same girl a second time
✅ Move to a city with better dating options by the end of 2020
✅ Have sex with the same girl a third time
✅ Overcome AA
⚪ Have ongoing sex (fuck buddy) with a really hot girl (8.5+ / 10)
⚪ Get to 135 lbs with 10% bodyfat

My Tinder photos thread

My 365 Project: Work Towards My Ideal Body
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play_time_is_over
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Name: Simon
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Age: 30
Motto: Doing something badly is better than doing nothing
Location: Australia

Thu Apr 29, 2021 12:53 am

Just so you know, everyone has Tinder passport on for free for the whole month of April. This will affect results negatively.
Goal: 10 / 30 lifetime lays. 63 / 200 Approaches. Complete AA (Day 6).

Stats: 6'5" - 88kg - 30 years old.

Sub Goals: Improve Tinder - Improve Style - Teeth Whitening ✔️ - Lasik Eye Surgery ✔️ - Tattoo - Gym - PE - Skin Care - Voice Training.
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RogerRoger
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Age: 27
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Location: Midwest, USA

Thu Apr 29, 2021 1:16 am

Never a bad idea to take a mental break from Tinder. Especially if it means more approaching. Then there's no catfishing (outside of jacket weather - it snowed last week here).
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Ed_
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Mon May 03, 2021 2:39 am

Andy posted in his thread, but I'll post here too. Our two part interview on my journey so far:





Also Social Animal posted the video he filmed of me approaching and 25 girls and getting 8 numbers within 4 hours:

Current Goals:
✅ Lose virginity
✅ Have sex with the same girl a second time
✅ Move to a city with better dating options by the end of 2020
✅ Have sex with the same girl a third time
✅ Overcome AA
⚪ Have ongoing sex (fuck buddy) with a really hot girl (8.5+ / 10)
⚪ Get to 135 lbs with 10% bodyfat

My Tinder photos thread

My 365 Project: Work Towards My Ideal Body
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Adam
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Name: Adam
Goal: Lose Fat
Age: 33
Motto: Live like someone you'd admire

Tue May 04, 2021 2:55 pm

Great job on those approaches with Social Animal. It's amazing how well being honest and direct can work and it helps take away some of my fear to see girls being nice in response to approaches even if they had a boyfriend or weren't interested.
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BouffeQ
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Goal: 1 date per week
Age: 31

Tue May 04, 2021 6:36 pm

I loved the 'just more number than I expected!'. GG man. Seemed almost too easy to be true.
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southernSavant
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Age: 32
Motto: What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger
Location: Denver, CO

Wed May 05, 2021 2:07 am

This is just seems too easy to be true and at the same time incredibly inspiring. Keep at it man
2021 Goals:
Bulk to 190 lbs while keeping bf <13%
1 lay by 05/31
Improve style/dating profile pics
AA program Days 7 / 55
Get another tattoo
Lasik

Long Term Goals:
Conquer AA
Date women of quality 7+
Improve and retain network friends/colleagues
Start a business in software
Live a stoic life
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RogerRoger
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Wed May 05, 2021 3:50 am

too easy to be true
I can see how it can look that way since Ed has massively improved. But given that Ed looks pretty great now and has been putting in a ton of hard work the past few years, I'd say it's not too easy to be true. More like it's so hard you wonder if you'll make it. But if you put in the work, it all pays off in the end.
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Age: 30
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Location: Australia

Wed May 05, 2021 7:51 am

Damn what an animal. Heard about your progress from the podcast but it's awesome to see you get out there doing approaches.
Goal: 10 / 30 lifetime lays. 63 / 200 Approaches. Complete AA (Day 6).

Stats: 6'5" - 88kg - 30 years old.

Sub Goals: Improve Tinder - Improve Style - Teeth Whitening ✔️ - Lasik Eye Surgery ✔️ - Tattoo - Gym - PE - Skin Care - Voice Training.
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Ed_
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Thu May 06, 2021 3:52 pm

Thanks for all the acknowledgements guys. I'm glad you found the video inspiring, that was my number one goal when filming it: to show how it's possible to be direct and brief and still have good interactions with women. A lot of the more mainstream content out there is very indirect and filled with (in my opinion) worthless small talk that is doing nothing to help with screening -- just check out some of the other videos on Social Animal's channel.

There's a quote from GLL Chris, something like: "If you fucked her after 6 hours, you probably could have fucked her after 3 hours. If you fucked her after 3 hours, you probably could have fucked her after 1 hour."

Also, if you noticed during the on approach, right when I was asking for her number, a dude overheard and said "good job" or something, and gave a thumbs up
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FYI none of those of numbers panned out. Just reason to go approach 25 more women.
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Current Goals:
✅ Lose virginity
✅ Have sex with the same girl a second time
✅ Move to a city with better dating options by the end of 2020
✅ Have sex with the same girl a third time
✅ Overcome AA
⚪ Have ongoing sex (fuck buddy) with a really hot girl (8.5+ / 10)
⚪ Get to 135 lbs with 10% bodyfat

My Tinder photos thread

My 365 Project: Work Towards My Ideal Body
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Ed_
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Goal: Get Laid
Age: 33
Location: TX

Sun Jun 06, 2021 10:01 pm

After getting burned out on no Tinder results in April, I took the month of May off. Unfortunately, I've been dealing with some pretty major life stresses, and I haven't been able to commit much to online dating.

I reset my Tinder account this week, using mostly older photos that were getting me some results last year and earlier this year. Even with a 4-hour super boost Friday night and a 12-hour super boost all day & evening Saturday, I have no numbers or dates lined up.

I'm feeling pretty discouraged. I haven't gotten laid with an attractive women in over 3 months, and my last genuinely enjoyable sexual experience was over a year ago.

I'm traveling for work for the next month, so I won't be doing much of anything with women online or IRL. Hopefully a mental reset will help, and I'll be able to get really focused and get some real results when I'm back in July.
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Radical
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Sun Jun 06, 2021 10:05 pm

I considered you newer options way better for tinder than these older ones. Like magnitudes better

Why the switch back?
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Ed_
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Sun Jun 06, 2021 10:15 pm

Radical wrote:
Sun Jun 06, 2021 10:05 pm
I considered you newer options way better for tinder than these older ones. Like magnitudes better

Why the switch back?
I used this spread with the newer photos for the whole month of April. 13 boosts, 1 4-hour super boost, and 5 super likes per day -- but I still got essentially no results (only one date with a cute girl).

Maybe something was weird with April with the free passport feature or something... but if I'm not getting results, I'm doubtful that those photos are really "better".

We (us guys looking at things from our perspective) might be missing something when we say these photos are good. Maybe I'm not in good enough shape to pull off these edgy pics, maybe they look too staged, maybe "model" style photos aren't attractive to hot 18-23 year old women on Tinder.
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Current Goals:
✅ Lose virginity
✅ Have sex with the same girl a second time
✅ Move to a city with better dating options by the end of 2020
✅ Have sex with the same girl a third time
✅ Overcome AA
⚪ Have ongoing sex (fuck buddy) with a really hot girl (8.5+ / 10)
⚪ Get to 135 lbs with 10% bodyfat

My Tinder photos thread

My 365 Project: Work Towards My Ideal Body
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Radical
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Sun Jun 06, 2021 10:23 pm

It wont make you feel better maybe but i noticed quite a few of us had poor April/May returns

Including Andy

Tinder has always been in fits and bursts for me, but over the year it evens out
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*I have written a Men's Style Guide for Beginners which you can grab on my website. It will get you looking like a guy that gets laid in one instructed shopping spree
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Sun Jun 06, 2021 11:08 pm

Dude I (temporarily) deleted Tinder and Hinge (so did Immy) because the last 3 months were fucking ASS.

Is your profile verified? Have you also verified your Instagram and Spotify (linked those 2 to your Tinder account so they show up in your bio)? That'll make your profile look way more real - maybe girls think you're a fake bot account with those pics.

In the meantime, use this as motivation to go outside and go HARD with cold approach.
Andy / Australia
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