Could use some tips

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Jesseetc
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Name: Jake
Goal: A good sex life
Age: 28

Tue Jun 14, 2022 4:06 am

So I’m a submissive guy. I love being tied up and fucked, feeling small, and putting my partners needs above my own.

I’ve found it pretty easy to get into a submissive headspace, but I’d like to also explore my dominant side, or at least discover if I have one. That’s been a lot harder, unfortunately.

Has anyone else here struggled with being a top that can give me some tips? And at what point, if any, should I say “I’m a sub and not a switch” and just deal with that reality? Are there ways I can practice or try to get more into that headspace?

TIA!
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Sin Silver
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Name: Silver
Goal: Build a career
Age: 34
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Location: UK

Wed Jun 22, 2022 8:19 pm

As somone who's been on the scene for five years, the best thing you can do it be open with your partners, and tell them you want to be dominante.

Being dominate requires alot of pro activity, You're going to have to push for what you want, you can't wait for people to ask you to do it for them.

The Sub vs Switch identity isn't that important. You could be 'Switch' with one partner, and 'sub' with another, it's just a matter of how you identify.
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