Does Anyone Have Experience Being a Sub?

SIGMA_1234 · Wed Sep 30, 2020 2:30 pm

Does Anyone Have Experience Being a Sub?

Some really cute chick matched with me on Tinder. When we moved on to chat in a different app, she upfront told me she wants a submissive guy, because that's what gives her pussy the tingles. So if anyone has any experience with that, I'd love some insight.

Wed Sep 30, 2020 3:40 pm

Go in with no experience and try it

She will lead for the most part. If you dont like anything you dont have to do it

My experience with the couple of dominant chicks ive had has not been that great though. The sex was fine but its not my thing and the girls were a bit dickish

Wed Sep 30, 2020 4:30 pm

Zero experience but I think Andy had met a few girls like that. However when he boinked them, they loved being submissive and it was a "wtf" moment for him.

Do you really want the lay that much though?

InsaneAndHappyWithIt · Wed Sep 30, 2020 4:45 pm

No experience being a sub, but I do have switch tendencies if I'm with a girl who's into that (now is the time lol). Been fantasizing about being drowned lately. I haven't had sex with a woman who's full into being dominant, though. Seems different.

I'd say just go check it out and play with it, and if you have doubts, read this:

When I was with my ex girlfriend in the beginning, *she* was the one who initiated "beat me the fuck up" motif into our relationship. I was terrified for couple weeks after, I remember like it was yesterday. That was my first BDSM experience (and so was hers), and it was way over the top, but what the hell we were kids really. That event though paved road to other great experiences that maybe would not have happened, and those other experiences shaped how I like and understand sex.

Btw my ex gf was true sub, but I never understood her (or any woman's) drive to be submissive until I've started getting those urges with a girl who is curious about switching it up. So think of it this way: sexuality is fun, go play with it, and the more you play and let go, the more you'll understand not only yourself but also the other person, and help yourself and the other, and you'll have even more fun.

PS.: Can't wait to choke on water for breath. lol
PPS.: I kinda miss the super submissive vibe as well tho. The grass is so vividly green on the other side like someone's turned gamma to 200% it hurts my eyes.

Question: Do women lose attraction towards men who are into being sub? Assuming she's into it as well, will that reduce her attraction to me seeing me as sub sometimes? /unnecessarilyafraid

SIGMA_1234 · Thu Oct 01, 2020 1:33 am

KillYourInnerLoser wrote: ↑
Wed Sep 30, 2020 9:04 pm
A bigger question is: are you at a point where you can handle being submissive? Or is it something best left for when you have stronger boundaries? Are you at a point where you can tell the difference between dominance and abuse? Will being submissive bring out your "nice guy" tendencies (which you have), and lead to you just being a doormat for this woman? Should you be playing with dominance/submission/BDSM when you've only had sex once?

What if I just wanted to try it out, even if I had sex just a few times (not once) so far?

SIGMA_1234 · Thu Oct 01, 2020 2:54 am

Fuck it. I'm going for it then. If she's open to meeting up right away, I'll report back here.

Lema · Mon Aug 30, 2021 5:30 pm

SIGMA_1234 wrote: ↑
Thu Oct 01, 2020 2:54 am
Fuck it. I'm going for it then. If she's open to meeting up right away, I'll report back here.

Please do, I'm eager to know your experience.
Been talking to this girl in fetlife who is a friend of an ex sub of mine and is hot, but she is a switch and told me she would be the the one shibaring my ass lol.

SIGMA_1234 · Mon Aug 30, 2021 6:20 pm

@Lema hey man. This was a long time ago. Back then she was pretty demanding to me that I couldn't meet up with her on my terms. Not to mention, moving around back then was pretty tough, so it was just not meant to be.

Lema · Mon Aug 30, 2021 9:39 pm

SIGMA_1234 wrote: ↑
Mon Aug 30, 2021 6:20 pm
@Lema hey man. This was a long time ago. Back then she was pretty demanding to me that I couldn't meet up with her on my terms. Not to mention, moving around back then was pretty tough, so it was just not meant to be.

Thanks for the answer man, sorry I didn't realize this was some time ago.
Funny, just matched with a girl on Bumble asking me if I was a Dom, she says she is a switch but could play bottom if we have a good chat lol.

SIGMA_1234 · Tue Aug 31, 2021 4:43 pm

Haha go for it. You should make a log & tell us about it!

Lou · Tue Mar 22, 2022 6:01 am

I do but BDSM is something I was attracted to since an early age and the idea of women being powerful and evil fascinated me so it was something that I naturally pursued to experience.

I had a girlfriend years ago who initially wasn't into BDSM but after watching some videos I showed her she kind of got into it and was a pretty decent dom. I have also been to pro doms in BDSM studios but, if you are not too sure about it I suggest establishing your limits really clearly before trying. Otherwise the pain or domination dynamics might become too much to handle.

BTW, I also like being dominant so enjoy both sides of the game. Establishing clear limits is always super important.

Cheers!

Jesseetc · Tue Jun 14, 2022 4:01 am

Lou wrote: ↑
Tue Mar 22, 2022 6:01 am
I do but BDSM is something I was attracted to since an early age and the idea of women being powerful and evil fascinated me so it was something that I naturally pursued to experience.

I had a girlfriend years ago who initially wasn't into BDSM but after watching some videos I showed her she kind of got into it and was a pretty decent dom. I have also been to pro doms in BDSM studios but, if you are not too sure about it I suggest establishing your limits really clearly before trying. Otherwise the pain or domination dynamics might become too much to handle.

BTW, I also like being dominant so enjoy both sides of the game. Establishing clear limits is always super important.

Cheers!

Bro, I love this. I’m a relatively new sub, but the more I’ve explored my sexuality, the more I realize that’s what I’m into. I can’t top without coming across inauthentic.

If you feel like you’d enjoy it overall and the idea of submitting is sexy to you, I’d highly encourage trying it with someone who knows that you’re new. The litmus test for me was really picturing that dynamic and seeing how that felt. If the idea of submitting feels gross or uncomfortable, then perhaps don’t.

Also Andy’s advice is good. Be aware of your bad attachment habits and watch out for them coming up. Although speaking more to people in general vs OP who posted years ago.

Lou · Sun Jan 08, 2023 1:42 pm

Jesseetc wrote: ↑
Tue Jun 14, 2022 4:01 am

Lou wrote: ↑
Tue Mar 22, 2022 6:01 am
I do but BDSM is something I was attracted to since an early age and the idea of women being powerful and evil fascinated me so it was something that I naturally pursued to experience.

I had a girlfriend years ago who initially wasn't into BDSM but after watching some videos I showed her she kind of got into it and was a pretty decent dom. I have also been to pro doms in BDSM studios but, if you are not too sure about it I suggest establishing your limits really clearly before trying. Otherwise the pain or domination dynamics might become too much to handle.

BTW, I also like being dominant so enjoy both sides of the game. Establishing clear limits is always super important.

Cheers!
Bro, I love this. I’m a relatively new sub, but the more I’ve explored my sexuality, the more I realize that’s what I’m into. I can’t top without coming across inauthentic.

If you feel like you’d enjoy it overall and the idea of submitting is sexy to you, I’d highly encourage trying it with someone who knows that you’re new. The litmus test for me was really picturing that dynamic and seeing how that felt. If the idea of submitting feels gross or uncomfortable, then perhaps don’t.

Also Andy’s advice is good. Be aware of your bad attachment habits and watch out for them coming up. Although speaking more to people in general vs OP who posted years ago.

Hey Buddy! Sorry for the delay but I have just re-started posting in these forums yesterday.

Yep. As long as you are comfortable with what you like it is great.

As I mentioned, I like both roles in BDSM. I enjoy both equally and don't have any issues accepting that. Some men tend to think that male subs are cucks/"beta males", etc but that is not necessarily true. I am not submissive at all in real life, practice Muay Thai 3 times a week and back in my younger days I used to get into street fights for the "fun" of it (something totally stupid I know but I was a bit crazy in my early 20's).

Squilliam · Sun Jan 08, 2023 2:06 pm

I wanna try being a sub. Sounds fun. I bought a BDSM leash recently, if my plate sees me again I think I'll try being a sub and let her be dominant towards me. Seems hot.

tdan187 · Fri Feb 24, 2023 7:08 am

No but I'm constantly tempted to. I'm in the closet about it.

My ex can be pretty mean and I definitely could do it if I wanted to. It would actually low key turn me on when she was mean to me.

She can be pretty abusive and aggressive in fact. I just pretend like I don't like it and dominate her instead. And that turns me on too.

This is something else that is troubling to me. I've never really fully gone with it but I feel a true rush from a girl being dominant with me / cucking me that I don't otherwise and I'm ashamed to admit that.

At the same time it makes me really uncomfortable and I don't want to do it. But I know it's there inside of me.