Firstly, I want to steer the conversation for a moment because we are using a specific terminology (D/S relationships) and I want to make sure we all understand each other.
It is different to be dominant outside and inside the bedroom - In my experience, women that claim to be dominant lack the leadership skills to make things happen, and still want to be seduced and led to the bedroom.
In the bedroom, yes, the chances of her being "Domme" are higher, but when it comes to having sex, how does she mean to be dominant? restraining you? edging you? there are a lot of particular things that need to be address, and I give the same advise to men that I give to women, TEST YOUR DOM/DOMME.
That's a point I wanted to bring up. Like there are idiots who sell themselves as Doms or are just toxic cunts, there is the same equivalent in women. There are low key misandrists that use bait and switch (sex is the bait, being toxic is the switch) to hide their toxicity.
There is nothing wrong with being a sub, and I think if that's what you want, go for it, but I know for men starting out and exploring their sub side, it's hard to understand what to look in a Domme because they never had to experience that part in their normal dating life before.