Still Freaking Out If I Will Get STDs or Girl Will Get Pregnant Due To One Unprotected Sex Encounter

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Sun Sep 20, 2020 9:24 am

Fuck. Apparently I should have used a condom yesterday. And the thought that I might get an STD still can't escape my mind. What are the odds of getting an STD from one unprotected sex encounter, especially from a stranger?

She said she had one ex, and it was her 1st time to hookup with someone else. Also trained in HIV detection but last HIV test was 2017. But I don't know, can't fully trust a stranger's word. Help your bro out, because I am still freaking out.
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Sun Sep 20, 2020 10:05 am

Can you get a test quickly?

Like a free clinic or something? If so go in the next couple weeks.

Wrap up in future dude. You'll be fine im sure but remember how you feel now next time so you take precautions.

Any STD symptoms you think you have are fake btw - just your paranoia. You had sex way too recently for them to show this quickly.
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Sun Sep 20, 2020 10:12 am

@Radical Is there a time window where it is ideal to get tested? Just worried if I will test too early or too late.
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Sun Sep 20, 2020 10:48 am

I dont know about whats common in your country tbh mate

Our most common is Chlamydia which takes like a week before it shows up on tests

3 weeks to a month for most things

Id go in 3 weeks then go again in 2 months (Hepatitis is like 6 weeks incubation) if you went to be extra sure your clear
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Sun Sep 20, 2020 11:08 am

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Id go in 3 weeks then go again in 2 months (Hepatitis is like 6 weeks incubation) if you went to be extra sure your clear
Thanks a lot Radical. Soonest I will test would be 3 weeks, but I will start calling clinics and ask them for recommended times to wait for this.

Just chatted with her, and she also wanted to verify my sexual activity for the past months, too. Just too scared to ask. That makes us both paranoid, which is a very good sign we both want to be and are most likely safe.
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Sun Sep 20, 2020 1:03 pm

If you're freaking out, just remind yourself that HIV is pretty much the only "common" STD that can kill you. Anything else is annoying and might hurt a bit but won't kill you (edit: obviously only if your vaccinated against hepatitis)

Then research the chances of contracting HIV as a guy who has unprotected sex with an already infected person (I believe it's a 0.08% chance for vaginal intercourse; for women and anal sex it's much higher).

You'll come to the conclusion that it is extremely unlikely to catch HIV. Even if the girl you banged has HIV, it is very unlikely that you got infected.

Having said that, of course it's recommend to always use protection. Unprotected sex is an unnecessary risk. The downside is extremely big (might ruin your life) while the upside is limited (sure sex without condom feels better but if you always use a condom you will just get used to it).
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Thanks for the reassurance @AGF. Good to know odds are low, and next time I will not go bare again.
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Sun Sep 20, 2020 1:23 pm

Obviously do your own research. The last time I looked into this topic was a few years ago.

I might be wrong about the 0.08% (also heard that the chances of contracting it is higher if your sexual partner just recently got HIV themselves).

Don't want to give advice here that might harm other forum members.
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Sun Sep 20, 2020 1:33 pm

Did some reading on it. Seems like the odds are 0.08% to 0.11% for men who are not HIV positive.

If anyone has anything else to add, let me know.

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https://www.poz.com/article/HIV-risk-25 ... cent)%20if
aidsmap.com/about-hiv/estimated-hiv-risk-exposure (this source doesn't separate chances of contracting HIV through sex and using needles)
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Sun Sep 20, 2020 3:09 pm

Wrap it up next time :D

I've always had a fear of getting checked for STD-s myself, because I thought that they stick a q-tip inside your pee-pee hole and wiggle it around XD Apparently, they just take a blood/urine sample nowadays.
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Fuck. Apparently I should have used a condom yesterday. And the thought that I might get an STD still can't escape my mind. What are the odds of getting an STD from one unprotected sex encounter, especially from a stranger?

She said she had one ex, and it was her 1st time to hookup with someone else. Also trained in HIV detection but last HIV test was 2017. But I don't know, can't fully trust a stranger's word. Help your bro out, because I am still freaking out.
If anything you should be much more worried about getting a stranger pregnant than getting any STD (much less HIV, which is very rare for anyone other than homosexual men). Not to mention this girl has allegedly only had sex with 1 other person? Even if she's lying and she's had sex with say 10, the chance of getting any STD is still pretty low.
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Mon Sep 21, 2020 10:08 pm

Why does this thread even exist? Sigma, you sent me a private message on my personal Telegram to which I literally replied with the answer:
https://markmanson.net/std-guide

Why have you started this thread and ignored what I wrote? Politely: Don't PM me and take up my limited time if you're going to literally ignore what advice I give you.
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Tue Sep 22, 2020 4:23 am

Following up on Radical's answer, after the initial test a few weeks out, it's a good idea to get tested every six months to a year in case of syphilis - which is harmless if caught but deadly if not (as Andy's article mentions).
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Tue Sep 22, 2020 3:17 pm

KillYourInnerLoser wrote:
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Politely: Don't PM me and take up my limited time if you're going to literally ignore what advice I give you.
Alright. I am sorry, and I did take your advice, read the article. This was insensitive of me.
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