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endless333
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Fri Mar 05, 2021 2:46 pm

For comparison, this is what I normally wear:
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Radical
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Fri Mar 05, 2021 10:07 pm

Those coats are meant to be worn open

If its too cold I would go for actual warm options like Canada Goose and not worry with these smart looks til it gets warmer

Also please ditch the graphic t shirts man. Theyve not been a thing really since 2015ish

Th emain issue with graphic tees is they look cluttered and especially with colour they add too much noise to the outfit overall

Plain t shirts make the outerwear stand out more
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endless333
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Sat Mar 06, 2021 10:08 am

Thanx for the advice!
I ordered some plain T's

So you think the winter bomber I'm wearing now should also be replaced
(at least when I'm wearing it closed)?
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Fri Mar 12, 2021 10:32 am

So my kinda low stats got to me a little and my approach volume has declined a bit and my approaches also were a bit more insecure overall. I stopped counting them as I don't want to care about statistics. It shouldn't even matter so much if it takes me 100 or 500 or more approaches to get laid, as long as I get there
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Fri Mar 19, 2021 6:54 pm

Had my first date from cold approach yesterday. We had a chill time but when it came to sex I was just too tense and couldn't get hard and enjoy it. The girl was telling me to chill but I just couldn't. This was my first unpaid sexual experience other then kissing. She sat on top of me and rode me, gave me a blowjob but I just couldn't relax enough. Hopefully this goes away with experience. We both slept in my bed after and it was still chill but it's a shame I couldn't give her a good time sexually.
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Fri Mar 19, 2021 10:50 pm

Great, glad to hear that!

A lot of things can contribute to the lack of horniness / boners. How sensitive to dopamine you are based on your habits, the chemistry between you and the girl, the condom fit, how much activity you did that day, how much you drank etc... My first tinder lay was a let-down as well, it's a matter of experimenting!
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Fri Mar 26, 2021 7:31 am

Had a date from cold approach 2 days ago, but it was weird. We were outside my house and I said like 'if you want to get to the tram, you can go this and then this way' because she expressed to be a little lost earlier. But I meant that for later when she would leave my house, but she instantly said 'okay bye!' haha. I didn't mind it so much, as I didn't think we connected that well. I doubt it would have gotten somewhere would she have come inside my house.

The girl I saw last week was away this week. I want to hit her up next week to see if she's down to chill another time. It's been eating at me this week. I liked her quite a lot.
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Sun Mar 28, 2021 6:23 pm

Yeah, I just asked the girl from last week if she wanted to hang out again but she said 'hey, doesn't seem like a good idea, sorry'.
Hurts but yeah, good weather next few days so I'll hit up some more girls.

I lied to her before we tried to have sex that I fucked 4 girls (unpaid, I did tell her about having had escorts). I texted her after she left that she was actually my first and she responded well but yeah, it is what it is, next time I should aim to be totally honest.
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Sun Mar 28, 2021 6:44 pm

endless333 wrote:
Sun Mar 28, 2021 6:23 pm
Yeah, I just asked the girl from last week if she wanted to hang out again but she said 'hey, doesn't seem like a good idea, sorry'.
Hurts but yeah, good weather next few days so I'll hit up some more girls.

I lied to her before we tried to have sex that I fucked 4 girls (unpaid, I did tell her about having had escorts). I texted her after she left that she was actually my first and she responded well but yeah, it is what it is, next time I should aim to be totally honest.
Thanks for being transparent, I took value from your posts above.

When it will come to my first time I will just be 100% honest and say I've never been with anyone before, and was spending time reducing anxiety and becoming a better person.
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Sun Mar 28, 2021 6:50 pm

endless333 wrote:
Fri Mar 19, 2021 6:54 pm
So my kinda low stats got to me a little and my approach volume has declined a bit and my approaches also were a bit more insecure overall. I stopped counting them as I don't want to care about statistics. It shouldn't even matter so much if it takes me 100 or 500 or more approaches to get laid, as long as I get there
I've heard like 1 our of 100 is average.

Either way juat get you're volume up man. If you get 100 approaches in per week. You'll be dominating.

Congrats on the cold approach lay man.
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Sun Mar 28, 2021 7:13 pm

Manganiello wrote:
Sun Mar 28, 2021 6:50 pm

I've heard like 1 our of 100 is average.

Either way juat get you're volume up man. If you get 100 approaches in per week. You'll be dominating.

Congrats on the cold approach lay man.
Yeah, well right now I'm 1 out of 200.
It wasn't really a lay unfortunately, because of performance anxiety/being inexperienced, but it would have been if I could have gotten it up.
MakingAComeback wrote:
Sun Mar 28, 2021 6:44 pm

When it will come to my first time I will just be 100% honest and say I've never been with anyone before, and was spending time reducing anxiety and becoming a better person.
Yeah definitely recommend being honest about it now, it would have probably taken some pressure off of me to perform as well.
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Sun Mar 28, 2021 11:24 pm

Hey man let me know how it goes for your next time.

I also suffered performance anxiety from my very first GLL lay (which is strange because before that I never had any problem) and couldn't get hard.

I've been with 3 other girls since then but it still happens! (Although it's been getting slightly better).

If it happens again I'd recommend Cialis, a subtle PE drug that did definitely help get and stay hard (but not like Viagra, you won't be hard if you don't want to be).

Where you nervous about not performing or just in general?
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Mon Mar 29, 2021 1:50 am

KillYourInnerLoser wrote:
Sun Mar 28, 2021 11:43 pm
Yeah, well right now I'm 1 out of 200.
It wasn't really a lay unfortunately, because of performance anxiety/being inexperienced, but it would have been if I could have gotten it up.
Well I think it's safe to assume you're going to get better at this. So that number should increase.

I could live with 1 out of 200 to be honest. If you get in 100 approaches a week, your fucking 26 girls from cold approach alone each year.
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Wed Mar 31, 2021 6:40 am

play_time_is_over wrote:
Sun Mar 28, 2021 11:24 pm
Hey man let me know how it goes for your next time.

I also suffered performance anxiety from my very first GLL lay (which is strange because before that I never had any problem) and couldn't get hard.

I've been with 3 other girls since then but it still happens! (Although it's been getting slightly better).

If it happens again I'd recommend Cialis, a subtle PE drug that did definitely help get and stay hard (but not like Viagra, you won't be hard if you don't want to be).

Where you nervous about not performing or just in general?
I was nervous about the whole sexual thing, it started already when I walked up to kiss her.
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Thu Apr 01, 2021 3:35 pm

Manganiello wrote:
Mon Mar 29, 2021 1:50 am

Well I think it's safe to assume you're going to get better at this. So that number should increase.

I could live with 1 out of 200 to be honest. If you get in 100 approaches a week, your fucking 26 girls from cold approach alone each year.
Yeah, you're right I could bump it up. It's easy to get some volume in with good weather, but there has been a lot of days I did 0-5 lately. So I hereby set the baseline to 8 a day
KillYourInnerLoser wrote:
Sun Mar 28, 2021 11:43 pm
Yeah agree with honesty and being upfront about it.

Go through this:
https://killyourinnerloser.com/performance-anxiety/

Also agree with Cialis/viagra - I used that a TONNE when I was nervous. Even just half or a quarter of a pill made me feel a bit better about the anxiety. It gives you a bit of confidence.
Yeah I remembered the article and started reading it after the experience with the girl already. Some good stuff to remember.
I will keep cialis/viagra in mind but since my anxiety was about the whole sexual thing (afraid of fucking up, not doing a good job) and not just about getting it up, I don't know how much it'll help
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