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BDG-95
Posts: 67 | Thanks: 9
Joined: Tue Sep 15, 2020 5:05 am
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 28
Motto: Fuck it. I'll do it now and figure it out later.

Tue Sep 15, 2020 5:19 am

Hi everyone,

I'm a 27 year old post-college dude from Southern California. It's been quite a journey to get where I am today but I don't regret a single second spent on it.

My goals for the remainder of 2020:
1. Bulk up to 150 lbs, or 15-17% Bodyfat. Currently at 142-144 lbs
2. Get laid with 10 new girls. Currently @ 7/10.
3. Save up $4,000 for sleeve tattoo. Currently at $750.

I, BDG-95, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
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MILFandCookies
Posts: 1207 | Thanks: 588
Joined: Wed Sep 16, 2020 12:29 am
Name: Joe
Goal: $10k+/month
Age: 31
Motto: Unchain your Passion & Live Life on Your Own Terms
Location: Austin, TX/World
Contact:

Wed Sep 16, 2020 12:58 am

Hey hey hey. Joe here.

I, Joe, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Quick bio... Although it turned out to be longer than I expected.:
I moved around a ton in my childhood and was really good at talking to strangers - I had to fly by myself across the country (USA) at the age of 11 to see family, and got used to trains. So I talked to random people.

But I was (and still am more than I would like) pretty inconsistent with girls... I can be nice guy and people pleasing but sometimes bitter and jaded... I've been on a journey to be assertive and empathetic, but I'm having trouble - a lot of it because I don't know how to get sex when I want and feel in control of my sex life.

I'm pretty short (5'7") and was 215 lbs, and on medication I didn't need (long story behind all that) in 2013. In 2014 I finally got angry enough to get my shit in order, and in that year I ran every day, lost tons of fat, got my Associate's degree with a fucking awesome GPA and started hitting on girls. I kissed my first girl too! And I went on my first solo trip out of the country. I went to university and lost my virginity early the next year.

I went on to have some awesome fucking experiences (~100 girls at this point, traveling in 6 countries outside the USA total, some on my own), started building my content empire, and I'm building my life here in Austin.

But I've been in a rut for a few years. I've been trying to solve my money problems, but having issues with that - decided to put content creating on the back burner and get a Software Development job. $80k+/year starting salary, and either my first job or my second job will be remote- then I can travel all I fucking want, at least 50% of the time and live like a king and not be worried about money.

Creating content on the side right now, but eventually after building a large savings, quit my job and make content creating my focus again, but this time without money getting in the way.

Anyway here are my goals:
1) Start getting laid again. It's been too long. Embarrassingly long. I have been with tons of girls, but I'm not in control of my sex life - I need to figure it out... Probably just talking to more girls will do it, I also started GLL AA bootcamp to put myself out there and build momentum.

2) Once I'm bored of having tons of sex, I want to create a one-sided open relationship and have tons of threesomes, see girls together and apart but no other guys... Kinda like Andy and Imogen. Funny thing was I knew I wanted this for years, and a mentor showed me this blog and I'm like "Fuck yeah!!! Somebody's doing exactly what I want!" Before I heard of Andy I had this in my head and didn't know it was possible so it was a huge relief to see someone else who's done it successfully.

3) Get my iOS Dev job, do a boss ass job and switch to a remote job (if it's not at the start), start traveling 50+% of the time, save up $$$, invest it, and then focus 100% on lifestyle content again.

Here's what I am doing to get there:
1) Following Andy's advice and cutting fat. I'm 154lbs right now (70kg) and about 14% body fat. I'm counting calories every day and working out a lot, training martial arts (Muay Thai and 10p Jiu Jitsu) and other stuff - I should get to 10% by the end of 2020!

2) I joined Andy's 365 challenge and am writing a line of code every single day. I also have been applying to one job every single day and got my first phone screening call this morning!!! Even though she didn't like that I dropped out of college, I was and am so happy that I got a bite at all! I'm building momentum!

3) I don't have AA when it comes to talking to any girl, but I do have AA when it comes to escalating, and I want to build momentum and put myself out there so I started the GLL AA Bootcamp thingy. Day 3 tomorrow.

Totally happy to hear constructive feedback from anyone and everyone. I have much work to do.

Internal changes I want:
1) I get too cocky when I start seeing results and end up losing gains by stopping the constructive consistent things I did to get there (it's why I haven't been laid in a while amongst other things) I want to learn to be more humble

2) I want to become even more comfortable being a sexual man. I have sexual shame, feel like I'm a "creep" sometimes and etc. I act in spite of these insecurities, and over time I think they'll go away but I still want to change this

3) I want to learn and get really good at the "You AND Me" mindset with girls. I've been somewhat bitter, but also revert to people pleasing with girls too. Open to suggestions on how to embody this.

My Strengths that have and will continue to help me:
1) Quick action - I have been to tons of seminars and watched Youtube videos where the speaker will suggest some form of action... If I can do it on my phone, I do it immediately. If I can't, I immediately give myself a reminder for the first step.

2) Consistent action - I have a morning, midday, and nightly routine. Small but super achievable things. I've kept up with it for months.

3) Jumping into the unknown - I'm not as good at this as I was before, but I've jumped into lots of new things, like overseas trips with minimal preparation, leadership roles in clubs at university and other stuff. I do need to re-learn this I've been a bit rigid and unexploring recently.

This was super long, thanks for putting in the time and getting to this point in my post. I was pretty vulnerable and I always appreciate when people read vulnerable things I write - even though it's pretty scary to write stuff like this.

I'm excited to join a supportive community! I have a good feeling about this.

Cheers,
~Joe
I've helped > 100 guys get laid on dating apps.
📸🔥 Dating App Photographer - I'll get you laid, click here: https://www.DatingUnchained.com/ 🔥📸

P.S. I don't like MILFs, just the name ;)

Goal 1:
• Build + maintain $10k+ profit/month

Goal 2:
• Cut some fat to get abs again
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Calis
Posts: 64 | Thanks: 12
Joined: Tue Sep 15, 2020 4:32 pm
Name: Axel
Goal: Lose fat, gain muscle
Age: 31
Location: France

Wed Sep 16, 2020 1:22 pm

Hello, I’m Axel, 31 years old, from France.

I always had difficulties to approach other people and it is worse with women. Fortunately, I never had difficulties making friends even with women. But I have never exceeded the status of friend. To improve work on my shyness and meet girls, I started dancing Latino dance (salsa and bachata) 2 years ago. It was one of the best thing I did.

At 30, I had never kissed, never have a date and of course, still had my V-card. My Tinder account was totally useless. Everything change during a trip in Russia. I had my first date (with a very cute Russian girl) thanks to Tinder, I first kiss and lost my virginity. And my Tinder account works very good (but I didn’t stay enough time to enjoy it).

Back in France, I was in a very good mood, full of energy and ready to meet girls. But nothing happen. I did attempts to hit on girls for nothing and nothing on tinder… In 4 months I was back in the same routine and begin a circle to depression, until the covid lockdown.

After losing 3 months just playing video games and watch porn during the lock down, I said to myself “what am I doing with my life?”. I stumbled upon Andy's website by chance 3 months ago when I was looking how to do self-portrait for Tinder. I found here the best advices I could found.
Since then I stop procrastinated. I go to the gym 3 times a week, walk every day at least 30min, begin horse riding, begin to look for an apartment, see my friend more often… I get my life back on track!

My goals:
- have I own apartment (I still live I my parents’ house),
- lose fat about 5kg (11pounds) in 4 months,
- build muscles,
- stop my porn addiction,
- gain 500€ more per month (promotion or investment),
- improve in horse riding,
- begin a martial art (I will test one next week),
- improve my English (specially expression),
- learn Russian,
- and last but not least, improve my online dating profile and get laid.

I, Axel, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously

PS, thanks a lot Andy for your website, this is the kick in the ass that I needed.
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Kobeef
Posts: 1 | Thanks: 3
Joined: Thu Sep 17, 2020 11:53 pm
Name: Andy
Goal: Get laid
Age: 20
Motto: Only easy day was yesterday

Fri Sep 18, 2020 12:01 am

I’m currently working on getting in the best shape of my life to make my goal of becoming an army ranger a fucking reality in the meantime I'm working at a mechanic shop where I work with engines and detailing cars but it sucks I can't wait to enlist. I wanna get some action at least 20 girls before the end of November. Oh and I'm a fucking virgin (not for much longer though) I Andy commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
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Crisis_Overcomer
Posts: 1017 | Thanks: 720
Joined: Sat Jul 25, 2020 7:25 pm
Goal: Earn $5,000/month
Age: 33
Motto: Motion beats meditation

Fri Sep 18, 2020 5:57 am

Kobeef wrote:
Fri Sep 18, 2020 12:01 am
I wanna get some action at least 20 girls before the end of November.
You mean have sex with 20 girls in the next 10 weeks? If so, it's not gonna happen unless you:

1) Cold approach all day long (impossible since you're working)
2) Have a wicked online dating profile (doubtful from your pic) and use boosts (possible since you're working)
3) Have some kind of plan you didn't mention

I'm all for setting crazy goals that get you excited. Since you're still a virgin, a better plan for the next 10 weeks would be to focus on a method that allows you to meet girls (cold approach or online dating). This way you can lose your virginity and perhaps score 1-2 extra girls, provided you really put in the time and energy.
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afrojax
Posts: 3 | Thanks: 1
Joined: Sun Sep 20, 2020 3:58 am
Name: Seth
Goal: Get laid
Age: 28
Motto: Creator of circumstance

Sun Sep 20, 2020 4:15 am

I, Seth, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I'm 28 years old, just finished a long term relationship and am ready to get back into meeting and having sex with new women.

Goals:
Have sex with 10 women by the end of 2020
DJ at this specific bar in my city
Meditation every day
Finish at least 26 miles at an Ultra marathon I'm running next month
Finish 6 books by the end of the year
Improve my fashion style
Improve my physique
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MrNiceBoss
Posts: 1 | Thanks: 1
Joined: Thu Sep 24, 2020 8:46 pm
Goal: Better Tinder
Age: 22
Motto: Another Day Another Dollar

Thu Sep 24, 2020 8:56 pm

Hi, I’m MrNiceBoss. I’m early 20’s. 6’0. I mr.niceboss commit to taking myself seriously and working on my goals.

My goal is to have an awesome tinder and make friends with like minded guys.

Please message me. Thanks.
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Brogrammer
Posts: 33 | Thanks: 1
Joined: Thu Sep 24, 2020 10:13 pm
Goal: Beat AA
Age: 23
Motto: Fear is the mind-killer

Thu Sep 24, 2020 11:20 pm

Hi, I'm Brogrammer. Being somewhat shy has been something I've always dealt with, but I've slowly been able to get better at it over the years. I'm still not at the point where I'm able to easily approach girls though. There was a time in high school where I thought I might never lose my virginity because I didn't know how to talk to people. Things started going better for me in college, and I ended up getting into a relationship for 2 years with the first girl I had ever dated. Since that relationship has ended, I've been dealing with long dry spells because I'm still not good at meeting women.

My main goal is to get as far as possible through the AA program. I've already gotten started and done the first two days of drills.

I also want to get lean and get better photos for tinder. I recently achieved my goal of getting a 1000 pound powerlifting total after bulking for a long time. I'm at 17% body fat right now and would like to get down to 11%.

I, Brogrammer, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
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MILFandCookies
Posts: 1207 | Thanks: 588
Joined: Wed Sep 16, 2020 12:29 am
Name: Joe
Goal: $10k+/month
Age: 31
Motto: Unchain your Passion & Live Life on Your Own Terms
Location: Austin, TX/World
Contact:

Fri Sep 25, 2020 3:33 am

@Brogrammer given your handle I have a feeling you're going to fit in perfectly ;) Welcome.
I've helped > 100 guys get laid on dating apps.
📸🔥 Dating App Photographer - I'll get you laid, click here: https://www.DatingUnchained.com/ 🔥📸

P.S. I don't like MILFs, just the name ;)

Goal 1:
• Build + maintain $10k+ profit/month

Goal 2:
• Cut some fat to get abs again
Giles
Posts: 98 | Thanks: 15
Joined: Tue Sep 29, 2020 4:00 pm
Goal: AA Program
Age: 23

Tue Sep 29, 2020 5:42 pm

Hey all, I'm a Belgian guy, 23 yo, who just moved to the Netherlands. I'm an engineer by study and just got my dream job as a trader. Have been working on self-improvement for a couple of years now and have already had some success. Banged just under 15 girls, had one girlfriend, managed to get a quite social status at university (fraternity president). Have been trying to get laid but had a long dry streak (+- 6 months) which only recently got solved. During the lockdown, I realized I had trouble meeting girls if I didn't have the ability to go to parties... Hence, the reason which brought me back to this self-improvement stuff. Mainly interested in beating AA, but thinking about taking the online stuff a bit more serious


Goals (from short-term to long-term) :
- Get my weight to around 85-90 kg (10-13% body fat), currently approx 95 kg ( 15-20% body fat)
- AA program
- Get laid from online dating
- MFF threesome
- Hot, intelligent girlfriend (quite specific about the type of person I want to invest more time with)


I, Giles, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.
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Massive
Posts: 1 | Thanks: 1
Joined: Sun Sep 27, 2020 10:35 pm
Name: Mickey
Goal: Save myself
Age: 25
Motto: There's no rules

Tue Sep 29, 2020 9:03 pm

Massie here
I, Massive, commit to working on my goals and taking my life seriously.

25, born and living in Eastern Europe
1. Bang as much girls as I can get my hands on - day game and social circle is focus, not online game
2. Making money
3. Gym goals
4. Mental health goals

Current main goals:

1. Daily approaches
2. Studying
3. Sticking with diet
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MaxPred_
Posts: 1 | Thanks: 2
Joined: Thu Oct 01, 2020 12:40 pm
Name: Ainars
Goal: Be mre confident
Age: 30
Motto: Never settle

Thu Oct 01, 2020 12:57 pm

Hey, my name is Max. I am 30 and live in Riga, Latvia.
I want to get more confident, cause I truly believe that is the only reason, being single my count is just 7 and I want to change that.

I, Max, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

My goals:
Be more confident in my own skin (Get more stylish new clothes, work even more or my body etc.)
Get my girl count in double digits this year, despite all the shit what is happening
Start developing my hobby project app
Keep on learning Guitar
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ZoobyLord
Posts: 2 | Thanks: 1
Joined: Sat Oct 03, 2020 7:51 am
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 21
Motto: (1.01)^365 = 37.8

Sat Oct 03, 2020 9:29 am

Hello, name's ZoobyLord, a 21 yr old middle eastern white boy, currently working as a programmer.
I've been working on myself on and off for about a year now and wanna get serious.

I, ZoobyLord, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

Long term goals:
Be confident in public (not only in my own head).
Get toned.
Get laid.

Short term goals:
Lose the stubborn belly fat I have left - Currently at ~17% body fat, aiming for a sustainable 13 at least.
Upgrade my Tinder/OKC with better pics.
Be more professional at my job and meet with decision makers in the company.
Talk to as many girls as I can to increase confidence.
AA if I feel I need it.
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Reservoir
Posts: 311 | Thanks: 48
Joined: Sun Oct 04, 2020 8:02 pm
Name: Dimitri
Goal: Get Laid
Age: 30

Sun Oct 04, 2020 9:50 pm

I, Dimitri, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I was on the GLL forums for a little bit. Had gone up to day 10 on the AA program but then put it on hold in june due to work stress + being a bitch.

Since then, I've dropped 7kg of fat, have grown my hair to get a fuckboy haircut, and have upgraded my wardrobe.

Main goal is to get laid. Here's the plan:
-move out of my parents' house and get a studio in Paris
-reach 10% bodyfat (probably 1 or 2kgs to go)
-create tinder profile with good pics
-go on my first date ever
-bring a girl back to my place

I'll go back to approaching at some point, but one step at a time... I've never even been on a date in my whole life. Lost my virginity at 24 with a hooker, then only got laid with one girl because she made the first move.

I'd say I already look better than average; what I'm insecure about are my social skills. I'm introverted, neurotic, awkward, and afraid of the pain of rejection. INTJ in the mbti if that matters.

Btw I thought Radical's pic looked cool so I did a low budget version, with abs :)
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  • Goals:
    • 1 cold approach lay
    • 5 approaches in 1 day
    • 10 approaches in 1 day
    • 20 approaches in 1 day
    • Reach Milestone: 20 lifetime lays [29/20]
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p6867
Posts: 4 | Thanks: 1
Joined: Sun Oct 04, 2020 10:00 pm
Goal: Get laid
Age: 31
Motto: Didn't use to be so hard; it used to be impossible

Sun Oct 04, 2020 10:24 pm

I, Patrick, commit to working on my goals and taking myself seriously.

I've actually never really had trouble with women, but I've always been a boyfriend. Always back to back LTRs with girls who basically made the first move.

I'm making a lot of changes in my life, and I'm realizing that even though I've essentially gotten laid constantly since I was 18, I'm actually pretty dissatisfied with how my sex life has gone. I've never just been able to fuck someone for fun and move on; it's always come with commitment. Sometimes abusive relationships. I want to have sex without commitment, and I want to up my "number" to make up for lost time. Andy's story resonates a lot with me, and if I could get to his level or close to it I would be very happy in life.

My insecurities:
• I'm 30. Almost 31. I know there's examples of guys slaying in their 30s, but I'm still insecure about my age. I don't especially need/want to go for younger (under 25) women, just casually DTF ones. My fear is that women my age or close to it will all be looking to "settle down" and I'll just totally strike out. My hope is if I get hot/fit enough I'll be able to find the ones that are and it'll be no problem, but I'm not confident in that yet. Right now it feels like the window for casual sex has slammed shut for me and it's very demoralizing.

• My hair is thinning pretty badly. It might not be super apparent in photos, but I think in the next few years I'll have to commit to shaving my head. I tried treatments but couldn't handle the side effects.

• I'm kind of financially set for life (thanks bitcoin) but I don't have a career really. I work a chill job at a store, but I'm insecure when people ask me "what do you do?" Eventually I would like to go to grad school to become a therapist, but I have some recovery work of my own to do before I'm ready for that. I estimate I will do that in 2022.

I guess I list these because examples of dudes in my position or with my issues who end up killing it really reassure and inspire me, so if anybody can pile them on that'd be awesome. Bald guys who slay, "older" guys who slay, etc. Real life examples, that I can compare myself to, really do a lot for me.

My goals:
• 30 lifetime lays (13 so far)
• Have at least one ONS with a decently attractive woman
• Shred down to lean enough bodyfat % to see abs and jawline
  • Goals:
    • Come up with a solid bodyweight routine by Monday and do it 3x a week. ✅
    • Cut down to 175lbs or visible abs
    • C25K
    • Apply for internship
    • Network for career advice
    • Contact an old professor for a recommendation letter
    • Write daily
    • Establish a healthier morning routine ASAP
    • Get a psychedelic experience in before the end of the month
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